Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
LocoCoco said:
Shnozz said:
coanda said:
Your reality and my reality can be quite far apart, and both can be valid. Again, its a frame of mind thing.
Absolutely my friend. And the wonderful part about frame of mind is that its a changeable, intangible thing that you could change overnight at no cost. D1bram said:
Off topic... but are you making any progress? Worth the money? I have a few friends who swear by it.
Yes, I am. It had been complicated by a very stressful work situation until I recently ended the contract, which has helped this particular part of my life. Is it worth the money? I don't consider that because I know I need to go and do it. I would prefer not to have had to spend the money, but at the same time it has been a good sandbox for learning about me, so, the value is justified.Gretchen said:
Anyone who is still on a dating site can you amuse me this evening and send a few messages out asking ‘Are you today’s date? Because you’re 10/10’. I’m actually curious to see what responses might happen.
There will be no response. It's just awful. I can only see the very innocent/naive type replying, and that's only because anything less is too boring for even her, and anything more she finds intimidating.
You know, the girl who goes to bed in very tidy pyjamas at 10pm each night, who has her room made up of mostly pink fluffy toys and collectibles, who thinks having an extra glass of Rosé at the weekend with the girls is a bit exciting, and most importantly, the girl who never EVER takes it up the bum.
Hell, even then it's a long shot expecting a response. I'll give it a whirl later tomorrow though of you like. I'm recently 'In a relationship' and, as of yesterday 'Single', so need to create a new POF/Tinder account anyway.
Watch this space.
mcdjl said:
Gretchen said:
Anyone who is still on a dating site can you amuse me this evening and send a few messages out asking ‘Are you today’s date? Because you’re 10/10’. I’m actually curious to see what responses might happen.
You try the same...For Grindr.
Pebbles167 said:
Gretchen said:
Anyone who is still on a dating site can you amuse me this evening and send a few messages out asking ‘Are you today’s date? Because you’re 10/10’. I’m actually curious to see what responses might happen.
There will be no response. It's just awful. I can only see the very innocent/naive type replying, and that's only because anything less is too boring for even her, and anything more she finds intimidating.
You know, the girl who goes to bed in very tidy pyjamas at 10pm each night, who has her room made up of mostly pink fluffy toys and collectibles, who thinks having an extra glass of Rosé at the weekend with the girls is a bit exciting, and most importantly, the girl who never EVER takes it up the bum.
Hell, even then it's a long shot expecting a response. I'll give it a whirl later tomorrow though of you like. I'm recently 'In a relationship' and, as of yesterday 'Single', so need to create a new POF/Tinder account anyway.
Watch this space.
Ooh I like your thinking. Turning it up to 11. Bound to get a few hits. Good luck.
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Running is a really good place to meet women, the added bonus that they'll generally be relatively fit and healthy, energetic and you'll have something in common.
Just make sure you can run further and faster than them before you get too involved
Glad to see this thread is still running too
Just make sure you can run further and faster than them before you get too involved
Glad to see this thread is still running too
Gretchen said:
Pebbles167 said:
Gretchen said:
Anyone who is still on a dating site can you amuse me this evening and send a few messages out asking ‘Are you today’s date? Because you’re 10/10’. I’m actually curious to see what responses might happen.
There will be no response. It's just awful. I can only see the very innocent/naive type replying, and that's only because anything less is too boring for even her, and anything more she finds intimidating.
You know, the girl who goes to bed in very tidy pyjamas at 10pm each night, who has her room made up of mostly pink fluffy toys and collectibles, who thinks having an extra glass of Rosé at the weekend with the girls is a bit exciting, and most importantly, the girl who never EVER takes it up the bum.
Hell, even then it's a long shot expecting a response. I'll give it a whirl later tomorrow though of you like. I'm recently 'In a relationship' and, as of yesterday 'Single', so need to create a new POF/Tinder account anyway.
Watch this space.
Ooh I like your thinking. Turning it up to 11. Bound to get a few hits. Good luck.
Although it’s on retention. A bit like me. Plate spinner said:
Get your inner confidence sorted and things will just flow. The women-folk can spot a lack of self confidence a mile off, and I'm told they don't find it attractive in a bloke they don't yet know.
Yes, something I've always struggled with. Tend to just be confident when doing things I'm good at.desolate said:
Until I was sidetracked by the resident bellend poster that is Shore I was going to say - find an interest group that has a healthy mix of sexes. and then interact.
Plus go to every works/industry do you can - loads of people with ready made small talk to get you going.
Work/industry is too risky, professional field. But male dominated anyway.Plus go to every works/industry do you can - loads of people with ready made small talk to get you going.
Gretchen said:
I wouldn’t go that far
I think it passion, everything you’ve written (L555BAT) seems to lack passion.
Whether you’re passionate about running, your car, work or your cat, it doesn’t matter, it’s a talking point and shows you’re committed and interested and, passionate. I haven’t got that so far from you?
I'm not really a passionate person. Still interested in them and enjoy them though.I think it passion, everything you’ve written (L555BAT) seems to lack passion.
Whether you’re passionate about running, your car, work or your cat, it doesn’t matter, it’s a talking point and shows you’re committed and interested and, passionate. I haven’t got that so far from you?
Condi said:
Ok you're going about this all wrong. Do you have many conversations with women, just normal conversations about the weather or whatever? You can talk to a girl without hitting on her first and foremost. Secondly you come across like women are only going to be impressed if you're the fastest runner or biggest lifter, that's simply not true. Women might just like your personality and who you are....
Find a hobby so you have something to talk about. Double points if that is a mixed sex hobby.
Learn to be outgoing and talk to people without nessisarily trying to get into their knickers.
Go to the gym - it will make you feel better if nothing else.
Try not to be so negative - positive people are more fun to be around and that in itself is attractive.
Pretty much never. Don't know any women outside of family, friends' partners, and work. If I happen to meet a friend of one of these, we might have some small talk for a few minutes just to be polite but that's it. About being impressive, there are so many guys around that are better than me in so many ways, I can't see why any woman would be interested or why I should bother competing.Find a hobby so you have something to talk about. Double points if that is a mixed sex hobby.
Learn to be outgoing and talk to people without nessisarily trying to get into their knickers.
Go to the gym - it will make you feel better if nothing else.
Try not to be so negative - positive people are more fun to be around and that in itself is attractive.
Shnozz said:
In my experience entirely the opposite applies. I spent the majority of 18 - 33 in relationships (multiple but very little time playing the field) and found that at 33> you are taking candy off a baby. More confidence, maturity, grown into your looks, money in your pocket, at ease with yourself and others.
To feel you are somehow at a disadvantage is the polar opposite of the reality I suspect.
Interesting. Always thought when I was younger that things would get better as I got older. At 18 I'll have a car, 20 I'll be one of the older guys at uni, 22 I'll have a job, 25 I'll have my own place, 28 I'll be the mature guy that 20s women want.To feel you are somehow at a disadvantage is the polar opposite of the reality I suspect.
Edited by L555BAT on Wednesday 11th October 20:25
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