Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
L555BAT said:
desolate said:
Until I was sidetracked by the resident bellend poster that is Shore I was going to say - find an interest group that has a healthy mix of sexes. and then interact.
Plus go to every works/industry do you can - loads of people with ready made small talk to get you going.
Work/industry is too risky, professional field. But male dominated anyway.Plus go to every works/industry do you can - loads of people with ready made small talk to get you going.
Happens in every industry, even the high professions. You should give it a go.
Pebbles167 said:
Gretchen. The line "Are you tonights date? Because you're 10/10" has received only one reply of "LOL".
Partly because it's rubbish, but mainly because it's now the 11th. 11/10 isn't getting many hits either.
I sent it to 3 on POF: 1 view.Partly because it's rubbish, but mainly because it's now the 11th. 11/10 isn't getting many hits either.
Got a match on tinder, turns out she likes bad jokes. Accused her of having the same sense of humour as my 5 yr old nephew. Now setting up a date.
mcdjl said:
Pebbles167 said:
Gretchen. The line "Are you tonights date? Because you're 10/10" has received only one reply of "LOL".
Partly because it's rubbish, but mainly because it's now the 11th. 11/10 isn't getting many hits either.
I sent it to 3 on POF: 1 view.Partly because it's rubbish, but mainly because it's now the 11th. 11/10 isn't getting many hits either.
Got a match on tinder, turns out she likes bad jokes. Accused her of having the same sense of humour as my 5 yr old nephew. Now setting up a date.
Thank you. Good luck with the ‘date’.
Although it’s on retention. A bit like me. 
L555BAT said:
Plate spinner said:
Get your inner confidence sorted and things will just flow. The women-folk can spot a lack of self confidence a mile off, and I'm told they don't find it attractive in a bloke they don't yet know.
Yes, something I've always struggled with. Tend to just be confident when doing things I'm good at.desolate said:
Until I was sidetracked by the resident bellend poster that is Shore I was going to say - find an interest group that has a healthy mix of sexes. and then interact.
Plus go to every works/industry do you can - loads of people with ready made small talk to get you going.
Work/industry is too risky, professional field. But male dominated anyway.Plus go to every works/industry do you can - loads of people with ready made small talk to get you going.
Gretchen said:
I wouldn’t go that far 
I think it passion, everything you’ve written (L555BAT) seems to lack passion.
Whether you’re passionate about running, your car, work or your cat, it doesn’t matter, it’s a talking point and shows you’re committed and interested and, passionate. I haven’t got that so far from you?
I'm not really a passionate person. Still interested in them and enjoy them though.I think it passion, everything you’ve written (L555BAT) seems to lack passion.
Whether you’re passionate about running, your car, work or your cat, it doesn’t matter, it’s a talking point and shows you’re committed and interested and, passionate. I haven’t got that so far from you?
Condi said:
Ok you're going about this all wrong. Do you have many conversations with women, just normal conversations about the weather or whatever? You can talk to a girl without hitting on her first and foremost. Secondly you come across like women are only going to be impressed if you're the fastest runner or biggest lifter, that's simply not true. Women might just like your personality and who you are....
Find a hobby so you have something to talk about. Double points if that is a mixed sex hobby.
Learn to be outgoing and talk to people without nessisarily trying to get into their knickers.
Go to the gym - it will make you feel better if nothing else.
Try not to be so negative - positive people are more fun to be around and that in itself is attractive.
Pretty much never. Don't know any women outside of family, friends' partners, and work. If I happen to meet a friend of one of these, we might have some small talk for a few minutes just to be polite but that's it. About being impressive, there are so many guys around that are better than me in so many ways, I can't see why any woman would be interested or why I should bother competing.Find a hobby so you have something to talk about. Double points if that is a mixed sex hobby.
Learn to be outgoing and talk to people without nessisarily trying to get into their knickers.
Go to the gym - it will make you feel better if nothing else.
Try not to be so negative - positive people are more fun to be around and that in itself is attractive.
Shnozz said:
In my experience entirely the opposite applies. I spent the majority of 18 - 33 in relationships (multiple but very little time playing the field) and found that at 33> you are taking candy off a baby. More confidence, maturity, grown into your looks, money in your pocket, at ease with yourself and others.
To feel you are somehow at a disadvantage is the polar opposite of the reality I suspect.
Interesting. Always thought when I was younger that things would get better as I got older. At 18 I'll have a car, 20 I'll be one of the older guys at uni, 22 I'll have a job, 25 I'll have my own place, 28 I'll be the mature guy that 20s women want.To feel you are somehow at a disadvantage is the polar opposite of the reality I suspect.
Edited by L555BAT on Wednesday 11th October 20:25
you said it, you don’t think you have anything to offer...someone will disagree!It ain’t a competition! You aren’t competing. Or you shouldn’t be. You just do your thing. Be you.
When you encounter a woman, please do not think ‘oooh she probably doesn’t like me anyway’, what you think is, well if she doesn’t like me it wasn’t meant to be. Would you really want a girl so shallow she cares about a tick list of why she should pick you?
This continues till at some point some bird will come along who only sees you, not the rest of the ‘field’ as it were.
When I’m looking for a lovely gentleman to consort with I’m looking for a click, connection, chemistry, not a CV
Legal exception - he must provide extensive credentials before I let him within revving distance of the ST *runs away screaming at the thought*
I shall never, ever invite over the threshold again ‘’Blown2CV said:
it absolutely is a competition because technology has levelled the accessibility playing field - now it is all about how you project yourself, and you will get written off in sub-seconds if you don't make the grade. It is a competition, like it or not.
Agreed, specifically internet dating which is what we're talking about. ChocolateFrog said:
Blown2CV said:
it absolutely is a competition because technology has levelled the accessibility playing field - now it is all about how you project yourself, and you will get written off in sub-seconds if you don't make the grade. It is a competition, like it or not.
Agreed, specifically internet dating which is what we're talking about. mcdjl said:
ChocolateFrog said:
Blown2CV said:
it absolutely is a competition because technology has levelled the accessibility playing field - now it is all about how you project yourself, and you will get written off in sub-seconds if you don't make the grade. It is a competition, like it or not.
Agreed, specifically internet dating which is what we're talking about. Almost everybody on a dating site will be chatting to other people even if they've arranged to meet somebody. Many will continue to chat to other people, even if the meeting went well and another meeting is being arranged. Some will meet many people at the same time, until they decide it's going somewhere - some will only meet one at a time.
When I was on the sites, I simply acknowledged that my rules probably wouldn't be the same as the people I met.
davek_964 said:
But when does the "real world" start?
Almost everybody on a dating site will be chatting to other people even if they've arranged to meet somebody. Many will continue to chat to other people, even if the meeting went well and another meeting is being arranged. Some will meet many people at the same time, until they decide it's going somewhere - some will only meet one at a time.
When I was on the sites, I simply acknowledged that my rules probably wouldn't be the same as the people I met.
Agreed, I've had a couple of first 'dates' lined up at time on occasion. Thats a) rare, and b) unintentional. To my mind if i'm having to choose between two people then neither of them have 'the spark' that i'm looking for. Yes thats optimistic, but to me any question in that respect is no choice. My morals, my choice, i might miss out but so far as far as i'm aware i haven't been overly upset by being that way Almost everybody on a dating site will be chatting to other people even if they've arranged to meet somebody. Many will continue to chat to other people, even if the meeting went well and another meeting is being arranged. Some will meet many people at the same time, until they decide it's going somewhere - some will only meet one at a time.
When I was on the sites, I simply acknowledged that my rules probably wouldn't be the same as the people I met.
. Besides, what does a few weeks/days away from wasting time on internet dating sites cost me?davek_964 said:
But when does the "real world" start?
Almost everybody on a dating site will be chatting to other people even if they've arranged to meet somebody. Many will continue to chat to other people, even if the meeting went well and another meeting is being arranged. Some will meet many people at the same time, until they decide it's going somewhere - some will only meet one at a time.
When I was on the sites, I simply acknowledged that my rules probably wouldn't be the same as the people I met.
Me and my girlfriend have chatted about the whole dating scene and she said that when she was single she tried a few sites. She would line up dates with as many eligibles as she fancied when she was bored and just enjoy the free lunches. Apparently if you are peckish and have an hour to fill then you can do a lot worse than Match.com...Almost everybody on a dating site will be chatting to other people even if they've arranged to meet somebody. Many will continue to chat to other people, even if the meeting went well and another meeting is being arranged. Some will meet many people at the same time, until they decide it's going somewhere - some will only meet one at a time.
When I was on the sites, I simply acknowledged that my rules probably wouldn't be the same as the people I met.
Falsey said:
Me and my girlfriend have chatted about the whole dating scene and she said that when she was single she tried a few sites. She would line up dates with as many eligibles as she fancied when she was bored and just enjoy the free lunches. Apparently if you are peckish and have an hour to fill then you can do a lot worse than Match.com...
She was lucky. I know quite a few guys who only offer their share on first date to test the waters. Hasn't done them any harm either.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff