Match.com (Volume 6)

[Algarve]

johnwilliams77 said:

Falsey said:

Me and my girlfriend have chatted about the whole dating scene and she said that when she was single she tried a few sites. She would line up dates with as many eligibles as she fancied when she was bored and just enjoy the free lunches. Apparently if you are peckish and have an hour to fill then you can do a lot worse than Match.com...

She was lucky. I know quite a few guys who only offer their share on first date to test the waters. Hasn't done them any harm either.

I think if a current girlfriend told me she was doing that she'd quickly become an ex girllfriend...

[johnwilliams77]

Algarve said:

I think if a current girlfriend told me she was doing that she'd quickly become an ex girllfriend...

This
Me thinks falselys story is false.

[davek_964]

johnwilliams77 said:

Falsey said:

Me and my girlfriend have chatted about the whole dating scene and she said that when she was single she tried a few sites. She would line up dates with as many eligibles as she fancied when she was bored and just enjoy the free lunches. Apparently if you are peckish and have an hour to fill then you can do a lot worse than Match.com...

She was lucky. I know quite a few guys who only offer their share on first date to test the waters. Hasn't done them any harm either.

I met my current g/f via POF at the start of June. The first time we met, we met at a pub and had dinner there.

When the bill came, she made absolutely no effort to pay. I'd enjoyed the date, and was intending to pay anyway but was curious that she didn't even offer to pay half. Once I'd paid the bill, I asked her why she assumed I should pay.

Her view was that when you are "dating" - the man pays. And "dating" lasted for about a month with us. She was actually quite offended I even asked, and it was something she discussed with her parents / nan / sisters - who apparently were equally horrified.

Even so, we ended up in a bar in Ascot until 3am that night, and have made it until now so I guess it wasn't too serious. Although she does still mention it occasionally!

[johnwilliams77]

Offended you asked and still mentions it???! Mental !

[RRLover]

davek_964 said:

I met my current g/f via POF at the start of June. The first time we met, we met at a pub and had dinner there.

When the bill came, she made absolutely no effort to pay. I'd enjoyed the date, and was intending to pay anyway but was curious that she didn't even offer to pay half. Once I'd paid the bill, I asked her why she assumed I should pay.

Her view was that when you are "dating" - the man pays. And "dating" lasted for about a month with us. She was actually quite offended I even asked, and it was something she discussed with her parents / nan / sisters - who apparently were equally horrified.

Even so, we ended up in a bar in Ascot until 3am that night, and have made it until now so I guess it wasn't too serious. Although she does still mention it occasionally!

I think your in for a fall. Touch of the crazies !!

[RRLover]

johnwilliams77 said:

She was lucky. I know quite a few guys who only offer their share on first date to test the waters. Hasn't done them any harm either.

The bleat about equality & then dont pay for anything.
Hmmm.

[davek_964]

RRLover said:

davek_964 said:

I met my current g/f via POF at the start of June. The first time we met, we met at a pub and had dinner there.

When the bill came, she made absolutely no effort to pay. I'd enjoyed the date, and was intending to pay anyway but was curious that she didn't even offer to pay half. Once I'd paid the bill, I asked her why she assumed I should pay.

Her view was that when you are "dating" - the man pays. And "dating" lasted for about a month with us. She was actually quite offended I even asked, and it was something she discussed with her parents / nan / sisters - who apparently were equally horrified.

Even so, we ended up in a bar in Ascot until 3am that night, and have made it until now so I guess it wasn't too serious. Although she does still mention it occasionally!

I think your in for a fall. Touch of the crazies !!

She simply has some fairly old fashioned views about some things. I found it a bit odd, but in the grand scheme of things it's no big deal.

ETA : When I say she mentions it occasionally now, it is more as a joke.

[johnwilliams77]

RRLover said:

The bleat about equality & then dont pay for anything.
Hmmm.

Many of them offer half and they end up just taking turns (both working) and has seen a lot of them again.

[anonymous-user]

RRLover said:

The bleat about equality & then dont pay for anything.
Hmmm.

They want all the benefits of equality with none of the downsides. Having a vagina gives you massive benefits, they don't want to give those away.

Going back to online dating, I have come across loads of women who have been on POF for years, usually with the same pictures. One woman I met admitted she had been on there for 7 years. I don't know exactly what they are waiting for, but I don't think the Brad Pitt lookalike with a £500k job, tats, property portfolio and the right blend of bad boy/good guy traits is interested in a 43 year old "full time mum to my princesses", living in a council house, no job and 2 staffies.

They are just pump and dump fodder while waiting to land the big wallet.

[Falsey]

I thought that might prompt some discussion. I didnt meet her in the conventional dating scene so its not an issue I ran into. We have always just taken turns for going out or doing things, splitting is usually a hassle so I get this one she gets the next and so on.

With the Match thing she just recognised she was an in demand commodity, and utilised it. Dont blame her.

[johnwilliams77]

Falsey said:

I thought that might prompt some discussion. I didnt meet her in the conventional dating scene so its not an issue I ran into. We have always just taken turns for going out or doing things, splitting is usually a hassle so I get this one she gets the next and so on.

With the Match thing she just recognised she was an in demand commodity, and utilised it. Dont blame her.

I would blame her for the reaction to your question 'offended' is very strange even after you paid and 'still brings it up sometimes', wtf. She better be hot!

[Falsey]

You've lost me there

[johnwilliams77]

Falsey said:

You've lost me there

Sorry, talking about davek

[davek_964]

johnwilliams77 said:

I would blame her for the reaction to your question 'offended' is very strange even after you paid and 'still brings it up sometimes', wtf. She better be hot!

She is.

[Gary29]

davek_964 said:

The first time we met, we met at a pub and had dinner there.

When the bill came, she made absolutely no effort to pay. I'd enjoyed the date, and was intending to pay anyway but was curious that she didn't even offer to pay half.

I had this exact scenario with a girl I really liked at the time, the bill came and she just looked the other way, no offers to pay or 'I'll get it next time'.

It just didn't even register with her that she should at least offer to pick up half the bill, I would always pay on a first date but that's not the point.

It wasn't even a case of her hating me and thinking 'no way am I going halves with this prick' as she did want to go out again but that was a deal breaker for me, POF in the sea and all that!

[johnwilliams77]

Gary29 said:

I had this exact scenario with a girl I really liked at the time, the bill came and she just looked the other way, no offers to pay or 'I'll get it next time'.

It just didn't even register with her that she should at least offer to pick up half the bill, I would always pay on a first date but that's not the point.

It wasn't even a case of her hating me and thinking 'no way am I going halves with this prick' as she did want to go out again but that was a deal breaker for me, POF in the sea and all that!

If you had no intention of trying to see her again you should have taken the bill and said 'it's £30 each'. Better off in your pocket

[Plate spinner]

johnwilliams77 said:

Gary29 said:

I had this exact scenario with a girl I really liked at the time, the bill came and she just looked the other way, no offers to pay or 'I'll get it next time'.

It just didn't even register with her that she should at least offer to pick up half the bill, I would always pay on a first date but that's not the point.

It wasn't even a case of her hating me and thinking 'no way am I going halves with this prick' as she did want to go out again but that was a deal breaker for me, POF in the sea and all that!

If you had no intention of trying to see her again you should have taken the bill and said 'it's £30 each'. Better off in your pocket

May as well use the pre dinner drinks as a qualifier. You get the first round obvs. When the glasses are empty if she doesn't offer to get the next round, pop your jacket on, stand up, say it was lovely to meet you and leave

[johnwilliams77]

Plate spinner said:

May as well use the pre dinner drinks as a qualifier. You get the first round obvs. When the glasses are empty if she doesn't offer to get the next round, pop your jacket on, stand up, say it was lovely to meet you and leave

Pretty good idea. Usually after 5/10mins you will have a good idea if it is going to be your night or not!

[Algarve]

Falsey said:

With the Match thing she just recognised she was an in demand commodity, and utilised it. Dont blame her.

I wouldn't blame her as such either... but I also wouldn't want to date someone doing something so nasty and manipulative. I'm amazed that she'd admit to it, and you wouldn't care . maybe its just me.

[Ki3r]

So still can't join up to POF...even tried signing up at my brothers house using his WiFi and a throw away email address...god knows whats going on there.

Anyway...matched with someone I've seen on Tinder a few times. She messaged me first. Shes a nurse. Meeting next week when we are both free.