Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
zubzob said:
Mark-C said:
If you are looking for a long term partner then it never struck me as clever to pretend to be anything other than I am. I get that it’s different if that’s not what you’re looking for
CaptainSlow said:
You need to work more on emphasising the truncheon between your legs. Your target market are the late 30's/ early 40's desperates that looking for some half decent baby batter... it should be like shooting fish in a barrel.
From my experience on POF, this isn't actually that far from the truth. However, beware the ones who say they are on the pill or "better than that, I can't get pregnant" as there are a lot of women this age who are desperate for a baby.Pebbles167 said:
On an interesting note, I once set my tinder search for men and women, and at least half, maybe more of the messages were from guys. Perhaps men are less shy/have lower standards?
Did you just randomly swipe right on guys?In my admittedly limited experience I think there is less expectation from men that we will be chased. Less social expectation about who does what first, so it is much more of a mixed bag in terms of who makes moves first.
Paddy_N_Murphy said:
Joey Deacon said:
From my experience on POF, this isn't actually that far from the truth. However, beware the ones who say they are on the pill or "better than that, I can't get pregnant" as there are a lot of women this age who are desperate for a baby.
WTF ? We are shooting fish in different barrels ...... never seen or read ANYTHING like that in a profile.
gregs656 said:
Did you just randomly swipe right on guys?
In my admittedly limited experience I think there is less expectation from men that we will be chased. Less social expectation about who does what first, so it is much more of a mixed bag in terms of who makes moves first.
Much like I did with women, ie: 'hot or not based on a single picture. You're right that I received a lot more first messages.In my admittedly limited experience I think there is less expectation from men that we will be chased. Less social expectation about who does what first, so it is much more of a mixed bag in terms of who makes moves first.
In the past I've used tinder and basically swiped right on everyone and filtered through responses from the ones I like. As I got more confident i allowed myself to be more picky. Its been a while since I was on there though, left a mid length relationship and fell straight back into another.
I kind off miss the online dating, I've grown to look forward to it each time a girl breaks up with me
Edited by Pebbles167 on Tuesday 21st August 23:03
Pebbles167 said:
Much like I did with women, ie: 'hot or not based on a single picture. You're right that I received a lot more first messages.
Fair enough I must have missed that you were bi also. One of my friends was curious so put women on hers but it didn't last very long, none of them messaged her - she's used to feeling wanted.RE messages I'm sure it's because there is less expectation around it all.
anonymous said:
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I am fitter than most my age, do a lot of cycling and swimming, I am probably the fittest I have ever been in my life. There is nothing I couldn't do now that I could 30 years ago.This is where things differ online, I know of attractive women going out with blokes in the real world where the blokes are anything but fit. I would run rings around them for fitness. I would probably find it difficult to bulk up though.
This is where internet dating has bought us, the women appear to be far more visual in what they would expect online, than they are if meeting face to face.
anonymous said:
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As I told my mate in a similar position to you just now, its simple, women may write on their profile that they are fed up of hi or just your fit etc, they lust after someone reading their profile or opening a joke or some pish. Crap, you could write the most thought provoking first message ever and if they think you look like a munter they won't reply. You said you spend 30 mins on the first message for some, 5 mins for a reply..... b
ks to that I read some of your messages and I know you meant well but they are a little creepy for a fist message.Open with something similar to this.
Hey, how's you today, I just wondered if you fancied a wee chat, hardly original I know but I couldn't think of anything original to open with.
Now, you could think of lots of things we both know that, but its a copy and paste to spread the net out without investing loads of time that turns out to be wasted. It's not rude, its polite and a little cheeky.
Try it for a night and see.
Even the howlers on pof will be getting 50 messages a day as they have tits, you don't want to burden them writing a mills and boons novel so they have to reply in a similar fashion.
Edited by moanthebairns on Wednesday 22 August 12:03
moanthebairns said:
As I told my mate in a similar position to you just now, its simple, women may write on their profile that they are fed up of hi or just your fit etc, they lust after someone reading their profile or opening a joke or some pish. Crap, you could write the most thought provoking first message ever and if they think you look like a munter they won't reply.
You said you spend 30 mins on the first message for some, 5 mins for a reply..... bks to that I read some of your messages and I know you meant well but they are a little creepy for a fist message.
Open with something similar to this.
Hey, how's you today, I just wondered if you fancied a wee chat, hardly original I know but I couldn't think of anything original to open with.
Now, you could think of lots of things we both know that, but its a copy and paste to spread the net out without investing loads of time that turns out to be wasted. It's not rude, its polite and a little cheeky.
Try it for a night and see.
Even the howlers on pof will be getting 50 messages a day as they have tits, you don't want to burden them writing a mills and boons novel so they have to reply in a similar fashion.
This post is pretty accurate and the way I always go about things. Girls will respond if they like the way you look, and won't if they don't. Doesn't really matter what is said, as long as it's not some completely rapey chat up line. You said you spend 30 mins on the first message for some, 5 mins for a reply..... b
ks to that I read some of your messages and I know you meant well but they are a little creepy for a fist message.Open with something similar to this.
Hey, how's you today, I just wondered if you fancied a wee chat, hardly original I know but I couldn't think of anything original to open with.
Now, you could think of lots of things we both know that, but its a copy and paste to spread the net out without investing loads of time that turns out to be wasted. It's not rude, its polite and a little cheeky.
Try it for a night and see.
Even the howlers on pof will be getting 50 messages a day as they have tits, you don't want to burden them writing a mills and boons novel so they have to reply in a similar fashion.
anonymous said:
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1) I want to hear this joke.2) How can you joke about being in a prison... on a first message, basically I've had a right good f
king look at your pictures and I mean a right good look and your clearly no average, your wk bank material. 3) Your well fit for an auld bird
4) Who the f
k doesn't like chocolate, unless it has raisins in it, yuck. I dunno, i just dunno how you can get fear of heights into an opening first message, I dunno what shard is unless its prison slang. Your prison daft. They mention taking about their interests in opening messages, to provoke a response, so that was what I was doing. I had worded them in a lighthearted way, and in the way I would speak with my work colleagues and friends (male & female). They say don’t just go for the “Hi how are you approach.”
It is not really relevant now as I have cancelled my profile.
At least it has opened my eyes to how it works.
Thanks for all the advice and those that have taken the time to respond.
I will now bow quietly out of this thread
It is not really relevant now as I have cancelled my profile.
At least it has opened my eyes to how it works.
Thanks for all the advice and those that have taken the time to respond.
I will now bow quietly out of this thread
CaptainSlow said:
anonymous said:
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Don't give upSending tinder/pof matches messages in the same vein as you'd speak to a colleague won't work. Yes, don't go with the vanilla 'hi how are you' approach, but there's millions of ways you can construct an opener. Take advice, read up, change your approach. Or do the same thing and wonder why the results don't change.
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