Match.com (Volume 6)

[anonymous-user]

Gretchen said:

/sigh. I love and loath this thread.

‘All women are Unicorn Hunters’ - Not in my case. It’s been said, by a man, that I don’t need a man in my life. And that’s a problem for men. I’m savvy and skilled enough to do things for myself. Obviously there leaves an intimate part, but that been filled for the past five years by a ‘friend with benefits’. So it’s not a unicorn I hunt it’s an equal. And that’s rarer.

You're skilled and can do everything you might need a man for but you sleep with a friemd, and wonder why you can't get a partner?

So look at it the other way, someone is looking for a girl/woman but the one he finds is totally independent and is shagging someone on the side. Why would they bother chasing you?

Serious question, not judging your choices, but if you want a normal relationship a partner needs to feel they can contribute, so in your case what would that be?

[Gretchen]

keirik said:

Gretchen said:

/sigh. I love and loath this thread.

‘All women are Unicorn Hunters’ - Not in my case. It’s been said, by a man, that I don’t need a man in my life. And that’s a problem for men. I’m savvy and skilled enough to do things for myself. Obviously there leaves an intimate part, but that been filled for the past five years by a ‘friend with benefits’. So it’s not a unicorn I hunt it’s an equal. And that’s rarer.

You're skilled and can do everything you might need a man for but you sleep with a friemd, and wonder why you can't get a partner?

So look at it the other way, someone is looking for a girl/woman but the one he finds is totally independent and is shagging someone on the side. Why would they bother chasing you?

Serious question, not judging your choices, but if you want a normal relationship a partner needs to feel they can contribute, so in your case what would that be?

At which point have I said I can’t get a partner? Think you’ve taken that the wrong way. I used the above as an counter example. I’m not looking and my ‘friend’ was someone who filled a gap when there was one to fill. I certainly don’t want to be chased!

Define ‘normal’? One thing I won’t ever do is live a ‘normal’ or conventional life. It isn’t me. Ergo I can’t answer your question.

[Blown2CV]

This thread went weird.

I miss the days when we used to post funny profiles we found.

[FN2TypeR]

hyphen said:

Be careful of out there
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6218075/G...

Times are tough, I'll take my chances

[Charlie1986]

I think I’ll give up after this weekend

Meet up have a lovely evening where it was both enjoyed ( well I think). Yet today no reply to a call or a text.

Problem is we both have engagements with other friends this month! Maybe I could use the sickness excuse and get out of the engagement 😂

[Blown2CV]

Charlie1986 said:

I think I’ll give up after this weekend

Meet up have a lovely evening where it was both enjoyed ( well I think). Yet today no reply to a call or a text.

Problem is we both have engagements with other friends this month! Maybe I could use the sickness excuse and get out of the engagement ??

you're being ghosted.

[Charlie1986]

Blown2CV said:

Charlie1986 said:

I think I’ll give up after this weekend

Meet up have a lovely evening where it was both enjoyed ( well I think). Yet today no reply to a call or a text.

Problem is we both have engagements with other friends this month! Maybe I could use the sickness excuse and get out of the engagement ??

you're being ghosted.

She can crack on. She texted this morning saying she had a hangover as she was out with friends hence not replying. So it’s up to her as I’ve deleted the number so can’t even if I wanted to text her back. Next Friday may be fun but it’s a large group and I’ll be able to avoid her if necessary

[SpeckledJim]

Charlie1986 said:

Blown2CV said:

Charlie1986 said:

I think I’ll give up after this weekend

Meet up have a lovely evening where it was both enjoyed ( well I think). Yet today no reply to a call or a text.

Problem is we both have engagements with other friends this month! Maybe I could use the sickness excuse and get out of the engagement ??

you're being ghosted.

She can crack on. She texted this morning saying she had a hangover as she was out with friends hence not replying. So it’s up to her as I’ve deleted the number so can’t even if I wanted to text her back. Next Friday may be fun but it’s a large group and I’ll be able to avoid her if necessary

Sure you’re not being a bit sensitive? Take the high road. It’s supposed to be lasses who count hours.

[Zoobeef]

Charlie1986 said:

She can crack on. She texted this morning saying she had a hangover as she was out with friends hence not replying. So it’s up to her as I’ve deleted the number so can’t even if I wanted to text her back. Next Friday may be fun but it’s a large group and I’ll be able to avoid her if necessary

She was on another date. Absolute bks that she was with friends so couldn't reply. She's just not that into you.

[Condi]

Charlie1986 said:

She can crack on. She texted this morning saying she had a hangover as she was out with friends hence not replying. So it’s up to her as I’ve deleted the number so can’t even if I wanted to text her back. Next Friday may be fun but it’s a large group and I’ll be able to avoid her if necessary

Huh?

So you liked her, had a good time, yet have deleted her number because she didnt reply quick enough?? That type of behaviour earns women a bad name....

You either care, in which case pursue it and have some patience; or you dont care, in which case dont worry about it, but throwing toys out the pram seems a bit extreme.

[Condi]

Blown2CV said:

This thread went weird.

I miss the days when we used to post funny profiles we found.

Agreed.


We need more dating disasters and less hormonal people getting upset about not getting their end away. At least dress it up like a funny story and move onto the next one .


I would love to contribute, but a move with work to some unGodly part of the world mean my sexual activity is limited to a high speed internet connection and the very occasional friend with benefits when Im nearer home. Although they seem to be getting partners and are less inclined to play like they used to.

[shirt]

Charlie: this is why you’re single

Thread is veering back on track

[Charlie1986]

Just doing my bit to get it back on track

And this wasn’t match.com it was Meetup which is actually better than match as you only see who is going then work from there 😂

[Blown2CV]

we should probably have a separate incel thread!!

[Blown2CV]

Charlie1986 said:

Blown2CV said:

Charlie1986 said:

I think I’ll give up after this weekend

Meet up have a lovely evening where it was both enjoyed ( well I think). Yet today no reply to a call or a text.

Problem is we both have engagements with other friends this month! Maybe I could use the sickness excuse and get out of the engagement ??

you're being ghosted.

She can crack on. She texted this morning saying she had a hangover as she was out with friends hence not replying. So it’s up to her as I’ve deleted the number so can’t even if I wanted to text her back. Next Friday may be fun but it’s a large group and I’ll be able to avoid her if necessary

i'd rather have a girl who gets the raging horn when she's hungover than one who ignores you for 3 days but there we go.

[Blown2CV]

olly22n said:

Zoobeef said:

She was on another date. Absolute bks that she was with friends so couldn't reply. She's just not that into you.

This 100%.

If you've actually met someone and they don't text back for a day or so then they just aren't that into you. Or someone else is actually into them.

yep.

[Condi]

olly22n said:

Zoobeef said:

She was on another date. Absolute bks that she was with friends so couldn't reply. She's just not that into you.

This 100%.

If you've actually met someone and they don't text back for a day or so then they just aren't that into you. Or someone else is actually into them.

Sound to me more like he text her at 8pm at night and she didnt text back til 8am? In which case she could have been on another date or out with her friends.

And even if she is out with someone else, thats just a bit of competition rather than a certain no!

[hyphen]

Condi said:

Sound to me more like he text her at 8pm at night and she didnt text back til 8am? In which case she could have been on another date or out with her friends.

And even if she is out with someone else, thats just a bit of competition rather than a certain no!

OP posted on Saturday, so date was probably Friday. Text reply on Sunday.

Suspect OP is right to trust his instincts and move on.

[Blown2CV]

who gives a st!! If she was interested she would show she was. There would be no doubt. If you're confused as to why they don't reply for days, or if they give you a bullst sounding excuse for cancelling, or if they say weird things and act distant... just fking move on!

[Vaud]

Condi said:

I would love to contribute, but a move with work to some unGodly part of the world mean my sexual activity is limited to a high speed internet connection and the very occasional friend with benefits when Im nearer home.

Your profile says Yorkshire... It's not that bad!