Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
PDP76 said:
My last two dates have been both awful and duped.
Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with [b{zero personality[/b]. Awful, absolutely f
king awful. Very long hour 
How was the chemistry working well with zero personality? Not making excuses for her but maybe nerves? The photos I can’t excuse. Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with [b{zero personality[/b]. Awful, absolutely f
king awful. Very long hour The way I see it, is that these dating apps can make the whole ‘game’ a lot more convenient, if you’re the sort of person who can do it the conventional way, that is, go out, meet people, talk with them, and form relationships. If you’re not like that, dating sites / apps aren’t some sort of magic wand, that will result in a socially awkward person who doesn’t find forming relationships natural at all, suddenly finding themselves in a meaningful relationship. You can’t make a silk purse out of a sows ear, no matter how much the marketeers employed by these types of sites try to make you believe it.
GOATever said:
The way I see it, is that these dating apps can make the whole ‘game’ a lot more convenient, if you’re the sort of person who can do it the conventional way, that is, go out, meet people, talk with them, and form relationships. If you’re not like that, dating sites / apps aren’t some sort of magic wand, that will result in a socially awkward person who doesn’t find forming relationships natural at all, suddenly finding themselves in a meaningful relationship. You can’t make a silk purse out of a sows ear, no matter how much the marketeers employed by these types of sites try to make you believe it.
I think Eden Blackman (founder of Would Like To Meet and Celebs Go Dating) is working on an app at the moment. Would Like To Meet was picture verified but no amount of true honest photos will replace physical contact. From precious experience you can click in text, conversation, fancy the photos but until you meet there’s nothing that conveys mannerisms, smell, noisy eaters... and those boring in bed. mhurley said:
Does anyone think the ratio of males to females on dating sites is skewed in favour of the ladies?
Or is it roughly 50:50 but the ladies are really picky?
Dunno.Or is it roughly 50:50 but the ladies are really picky?
But I remember readng recently that with more women than men going to university now, women are finding it harder to find a partner at the same educational level.
Gretchen said:
How was the chemistry working well with zero personality? Not making excuses for her but maybe nerves? The photos I can’t excuse.
Messaging and phone calls were non stop, called me all the time, couldn’t shut her up lol. Date time, she had nothing to say and it was bloody hard work.
hyphen said:
mhurley said:
Does anyone think the ratio of males to females on dating sites is skewed in favour of the ladies?
Or is it roughly 50:50 but the ladies are really picky?
Dunno.Or is it roughly 50:50 but the ladies are really picky?
But I remember readng recently that with more women than men going to university now, women are finding it harder to find a partner at the same educational level.
Blown2CV said:
Ha yea nice one. I get the impression however that it is not unfulfilled geniuses filling the female accounts of dating sites... far more plentiful are the 8 kids by 9 dads me mam's me gran types.
Not sure I agree. A lot of teachers, nurses, lawyers etc are on tinder, especially in the big cities - London, Manc, Brum, Edinburgh etc.
Small town, you're probably right.
Blown2CV said:
Ha yea nice one. I get the impression however that it is not unfulfilled geniuses filling the female accounts of dating sites... far more plentiful are the 8 kids by 9 dads me mam's me gran types.
I can see why you would get that impression reading comments on here - but far from the truth IME. The thing with online dating for the not-just-divorced generation is that, as I have said before, it is treated for what it is; a means to an end. People from all kinds of backgrounds use it.
Think I’ll be able to write a book of my match dates.
Girl 1 - Lovely woman got on really well except she was married and was open about it all and how her husband knew - Not for me
Girl 2 - bit older (12 years difference) great body and looks but due to her past and her words “ I need two bottles of wine to sleep properly and I get very needy”
Girl 3 - Seems ok so far so I’ll update this in a few weeks as if it follows my pattern something will happen.
Meetup dates. - So far only one but we have a 2nd booked and talk daily morning and evening whilst commuting and text during the day.
So far Meet-up seems the best place as you actually have to be a human to meet them and talk to them in a pub or what ever the activities are!
Al
Girl 1 - Lovely woman got on really well except she was married and was open about it all and how her husband knew - Not for me
Girl 2 - bit older (12 years difference) great body and looks but due to her past and her words “ I need two bottles of wine to sleep properly and I get very needy”
Girl 3 - Seems ok so far so I’ll update this in a few weeks as if it follows my pattern something will happen.
Meetup dates. - So far only one but we have a 2nd booked and talk daily morning and evening whilst commuting and text during the day.
So far Meet-up seems the best place as you actually have to be a human to meet them and talk to them in a pub or what ever the activities are!
Al
gregs656 said:
Blown2CV said:
Ha yea nice one. I get the impression however that it is not unfulfilled geniuses filling the female accounts of dating sites... far more plentiful are the 8 kids by 9 dads me mam's me gran types.
I can see why you would get that impression reading comments on here - but far from the truth IME. The thing with online dating for the not-just-divorced generation is that, as I have said before, it is treated for what it is; a means to an end. People from all kinds of backgrounds use it.
Paddy_N_Murphy said:
Blown2CV said:
i am talking about proportions of those left on the shelf. Educated, attractive divorcees who are unmental will not be left on the shelf, regardless of the platform. Other types of people are more likely to, and it is those people who will be present in numbers on the sites. It won't be a perfectly representative group when compared to the overall population.
sweeping statements I would say and not true .....
Blown2CV said:
so you're saying at any one point, dating site users represent a perfect cross-section of the population? That's clearly wrong. Single people are not a cross-section of the population. Some just happen to be single, but many are single for a good reason.
+1 
Tread carefully with any attractive girl over 30 who is single - a high risk of being a mental.hyphen said:
Blown2CV said:
so you're saying at any one point, dating site users represent a perfect cross-section of the population? That's clearly wrong. Single people are not a cross-section of the population. Some just happen to be single, but many are single for a good reason.
+1 Tread carefully with any attractive girl over 30 who is single - a high risk of being a mental.Lots and lots of intelligent, career driven younger women who either dont meet people through work, or just find it easier to use tinder to open up a wider range of people than they'd normally meet.
Paddy_N_Murphy said:
ahh- well perhaps we are all fishing at different places around the river bank ?
I'm steering clear of sub-40's as (other than knowing my limits...) there is a strong likelihood of a ticking clock still...
in the 40's to 47's there is love to be found...
(don't forget ALL women have a certain quantity of The Mental, whether on a dating site or not!)
Ticking clock you say, congrats to Prince Harry on his whirlwind romance, marriage and latest good news I'm steering clear of sub-40's as (other than knowing my limits...) there is a strong likelihood of a ticking clock still...
in the 40's to 47's there is love to be found...
(don't forget ALL women have a certain quantity of The Mental, whether on a dating site or not!)
Condi said:
Not everyone on here is over 30, and not everyone on here is fishing in the over 30's pool.
Lots and lots of intelligent, career driven younger women who either dont meet people through work, or just find it easier to use tinder to open up a wider range of people than they'd normally meet.
A lot of normal women don't want to put their photos all over the internet publicly. Especially if they are these career driven ones who know half the office will also be on there.Lots and lots of intelligent, career driven younger women who either dont meet people through work, or just find it easier to use tinder to open up a wider range of people than they'd normally meet.
These apps will also be full of women who are also overactive on Facebook or pouting on Instagram.
Yes a percentage are normal on there, but not a cross section of society.
hyphen said:
Condi said:
Not everyone on here is over 30, and not everyone on here is fishing in the over 30's pool.
Lots and lots of intelligent, career driven younger women who either dont meet people through work, or just find it easier to use tinder to open up a wider range of people than they'd normally meet.
A lot of normal women don't want to put their photos all over the internet publicly. Especially if they are these career driven ones who know half the office will also be on there.Lots and lots of intelligent, career driven younger women who either dont meet people through work, or just find it easier to use tinder to open up a wider range of people than they'd normally meet.
These apps will also be full of women who are also overactive on Facebook or pouting on Instagram.
Yes a percentage are normal on there, but not a cross section of society.
It would seem there is probably a split between age groups, for older people in senior positions there ie probably less appetite to have their face on tinder. For the younger generation its perfectly common.
Paddy_N_Murphy said:
Blown2CV said:
so you're saying at any one point, dating site users represent a perfect cross-section of the population? That's clearly wrong. Single people are not a cross-section of the population. Some just happen to be single, but many are single for a good reason.
I'm saying that seems to be a sweeping generalisation that - bearing in mind the 'picks' are matched to you and your profile - seems a little unfair. Your logic would apply in reverse surely that all of the men fall in to your 'categories' too ?
New joiners are inherently in the minority. If you are lucky you can bag a hot new joiner, and if you are really high quality meat then you can bag a unicorn hunter. If not... then you're stuck with the slags and the munters, if you are even attractive and interesting enough to bag them. Of those, only the munters represent a long term proposition!
This applies to women AND men.
The assertion that the dating sites are clogged up with university degree educated women who simply cannot find similarly qualified men (despite the fact university degrees are not that hard to achieve)... it's just complete and utter bulls
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