Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
NEWANON4 said:
johnwilliams77 said:
Yes, you're right. You need to man up and crack on!
hahaaa thanks John!I think I need some time in front of the mirror......
An ex of mine from 20 yrs ago is on POF. I broke her heart and I know that if I messaged her and after being called a w
ker and a bd a few times, she’d leap back in. Had a boob job too !
NEWANON4 said:
Well!
After breaking up with the nutter who lives at my house about a month and half ago.....long story.
I signed up to Bumble.......
The second match after a few days is my "the one that got away" from nearly 10 years ago! First love. A beautiful & intelligent girl.
I really dont know whether to laugh or cry! She has sent the first message before it expired. But I really dont know what to do, I was crazy about her. But I could really do without falling for her all over again and getting the wrong idea about whats on the cards. Also although I'm chuffed to not be with the recent nutter any more, my life is not exactly sorted right now. Living in temporary rented (friends holiday place) and still helping the nutter move out of house before selling it. So still in almost daily contact with said nutter, paying for 2 houses and helping nutter with moving costs.
I suppose I'm worried that right now my life hasn't really got substantially better in the past 10 years and this ex I know has been all over the world working and stuff. When we got together 10 years ago I was the more successful and wordly one. I guess the tables have turned and I dont feel very impressive. It shouldn't matter, but its a confidence thing. I need to man up, but I wish the timing was just a couple of months down the line.
don't meet the old flame. Tell her why. Let it die. You will feel better for it. After breaking up with the nutter who lives at my house about a month and half ago.....long story.
I signed up to Bumble.......
The second match after a few days is my "the one that got away" from nearly 10 years ago! First love. A beautiful & intelligent girl.
I really dont know whether to laugh or cry! She has sent the first message before it expired. But I really dont know what to do, I was crazy about her. But I could really do without falling for her all over again and getting the wrong idea about whats on the cards. Also although I'm chuffed to not be with the recent nutter any more, my life is not exactly sorted right now. Living in temporary rented (friends holiday place) and still helping the nutter move out of house before selling it. So still in almost daily contact with said nutter, paying for 2 houses and helping nutter with moving costs.
I suppose I'm worried that right now my life hasn't really got substantially better in the past 10 years and this ex I know has been all over the world working and stuff. When we got together 10 years ago I was the more successful and wordly one. I guess the tables have turned and I dont feel very impressive. It shouldn't matter, but its a confidence thing. I need to man up, but I wish the timing was just a couple of months down the line.
Edited by NEWANON4 on Friday 2nd November 21:52
Toyoda said:
To those on several different platforms, what's been the most profitable? Or is it a crapshoot?I'm just on tinder at the minute but thinking of branching out to bumble and pof. Cast the net wider although I'm guessing there's a lot of crossover.
Bit hit and miss, with using more then you have more chance of finding new users. If you are looking for someone local there is usually quite a bit of crossover. I can't really be arsed with POF anymore.
I made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
I made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
TroubledSoul said:
I can't really be arsed with POF anymore.
I made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
Just keep ploughing her FFS man up you wet blanketI made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
I probably will as and when but she's a bit nuts. Ah well. Still waiting to meet the blonde hottie off Tinder, that's hopefully Saturday. Actually like that one.
Went out Saturday night on my own for a couple, had a nice kiss with another mad girl who then disappeared after biting me a few times and giving me her number
Went out Saturday night on my own for a couple, had a nice kiss with another mad girl who then disappeared after biting me a few times and giving me her number
xjay1337 said:
TroubledSoul said:
I can't really be arsed with POF anymore.
I made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
Just keep ploughing her FFS man up you wet blanketI made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
Tell her how many times a week she can get it and if this is not suitable find someone else
Remeber, you’re the one with the dick. I hope!
johnwilliams77 said:
xjay1337 said:
TroubledSoul said:
I can't really be arsed with POF anymore.
I made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
Just keep ploughing her FFS man up you wet blanketI made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
Tell her how many times a week she can get it and if this is not suitable find someone else
Remeber, you’re the one with the dick. I hope!
TroubledSoul said:
I can't really be arsed with POF anymore.
I made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
stop asking if you're not going to take the advice given.I made a mistake on Saturday... This girl I used to see about 12-14 years ago added me back on Snapchat recently and I ended up letting her come round and giving her one. I just needed some really and it could have been anyone.
Now she won't stop messaging. What did I do?
I don't mind being friends with her but I think she thinks we're going to start seeing each other fairly often. I have absolutely no intention of this happening! FFS.
Blown2CV said:
stop asking if you're not going to take the advice given.
who says I'm not? Tut.I asked a cheerleader out last night on Instagram. Expected no reply or to be told to do one but she replied "Yeah that sounds fab x". My first reaction was then panic as she's very hot
But nah she is really tidy. Very slim, brunette, athletic obviously. Hopefully it'll actually happen...
I'm going to miss this when I go work in Afghanistan in January. I feel like I'm just starting to get into my stride!
Shnozz said:
I know someone that fits that description in Leeds...I do wonder with so many of the recent posts being in and around Leeds how much overlapping there may have been with some of the ladies of tinder/happn...
Ha, who knows. It's certainly a possibility!Leeds is obviously a PH dating hotspot
I do love this thread. I'm (obviously) not single, but I do enjoy the tales you single guys (and the odd gal) are having on Match and the like.
It's funny, as I've said before, I married Sarah having hooked up with her on Match, and I was genuinely days away from binning it. Seven and a bit years ago I came out of a hateful relationship, she was a 3 year relationship, but a violent narcissistic bh. I'll not share the details, but seriously, did that woman fk me over.
When we split the last thing I wanted was anything permanent, but my god, did Match half serve me well for a year. It's fair to say I filled my boots.
A few tips I can share:
Get a female friend to proof your photos. I can't stress this one enough.
If after 48 hours of nattering, a date, hook up, whatever hasn't been mentioned, forget it. In the early weeks on Match I'd waste too much time pursuing girls, chatting for too long, and inevitably it wouldn't come to anything. 48 hours was, IME the key window.
If it's apparent that she's DTF (Google it, and I know I'm probably to old to be using that phrase, at 41) and that is your only real wish likewise, then don't be afraid to ask her to come over, for a glass of something wine shaped, and a film (they'll say if they prefer a pub meet or similar!) Seriously, the amount of times this was agreed, and got me laid tells me it was an OK move. My excuse was always 'my dog's newly adopted, I can't really leave him alone yet'. Should any 'love interest' not be keen on this a 'neighbour' was always on hand to pop in whilst I was out
It's funny, as I've said before, I married Sarah having hooked up with her on Match, and I was genuinely days away from binning it. Seven and a bit years ago I came out of a hateful relationship, she was a 3 year relationship, but a violent narcissistic b
h. I'll not share the details, but seriously, did that woman fk me over.When we split the last thing I wanted was anything permanent, but my god, did Match half serve me well for a year. It's fair to say I filled my boots.
A few tips I can share:
Get a female friend to proof your photos. I can't stress this one enough.
If after 48 hours of nattering, a date, hook up, whatever hasn't been mentioned, forget it. In the early weeks on Match I'd waste too much time pursuing girls, chatting for too long, and inevitably it wouldn't come to anything. 48 hours was, IME the key window.
If it's apparent that she's DTF (Google it, and I know I'm probably to old to be using that phrase, at 41) and that is your only real wish likewise, then don't be afraid to ask her to come over, for a glass of something wine shaped, and a film (they'll say if they prefer a pub meet or similar!) Seriously, the amount of times this was agreed, and got me laid tells me it was an OK move. My excuse was always 'my dog's newly adopted, I can't really leave him alone yet'. Should any 'love interest' not be keen on this a 'neighbour' was always on hand to pop in whilst I was out
Edited by Fermit and Sarah on Tuesday 6th November 20:51
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