Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Well.... people shouldn't be forced into pretending they find someone attractive. It is entirely the choice of the individual.
I once had a bit of a text chat with a girl on a dating site and we got on OK, she was reasonably attractive from her photos. Then after a few messages she sent me a picture and she was very physically disabled from kind of the... well... boobs downwards. No mention of it in the profile or the preliminary chat at all - however admittedly it wasn't like we'd been chatting ages. I felt it was basically the same thing as someone trying hard to pretend they aren't fat, and it did feel like being deceived a bit, so I ended the conversation. Now I know people will jump in with virtue signalling bulls
t like I was disabledist or whatever, but you can't pretend to be attracted to someone and she should have just been up front about it. Anyway I was young at the time but to be honest the only thing i think i would do differently at the age i am now is to tell her why i wasn't interested.
I once had a bit of a text chat with a girl on a dating site and we got on OK, she was reasonably attractive from her photos. Then after a few messages she sent me a picture and she was very physically disabled from kind of the... well... boobs downwards. No mention of it in the profile or the preliminary chat at all - however admittedly it wasn't like we'd been chatting ages. I felt it was basically the same thing as someone trying hard to pretend they aren't fat, and it did feel like being deceived a bit, so I ended the conversation. Now I know people will jump in with virtue signalling bulls
t like I was disabledist or whatever, but you can't pretend to be attracted to someone and she should have just been up front about it. Anyway I was young at the time but to be honest the only thing i think i would do differently at the age i am now is to tell her why i wasn't interested. anonymous said:
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I kind of agree, he could've at least had a quick coffee with her and made an excuse to get out of there, bit cruel 
Trouble is with these girls, they will get 100's of messages no matter what they look like that will falsely inflate their ego (and probably waistline) she will bounce back (thank you) in no time.
Davey S2 said:
You could also ask if she really chased him down an escalator if she had a kid in a pushchair with her.
Amusing story nonetheless.
Really? Amusing story nonetheless.
You've never seen all the PITA mothers with kids perching the back wheels of their contraptions on the step while the front wheels are in mid air? Feckers do it all the time round here.
As for letting her down gently, Meh. Her problem, she shouldn't have told porkies......pardon the pun. I dislike lying bastids & dislike fat lazy bastids. Double lose for her. Besides she'd find some else to roll her in flour & find the wet bit. Its the dating game, with the emphasis on the last word.
anonymous said:
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I understand your point, but I don’t think the advice on here has ever been to misrepresent your self. There is no point catfishing people.
Getting help with your profile, from someone who knows you well and is honest, should reduce the chance you misrepresent your self.
Echo66 said:
Really?
You've never seen all the PITA mothers with kids perching the back wheels of their contraptions on the step while the front wheels are in mid air? Feckers do it all the time round here.
As for letting her down gently, Meh. Her problem, she shouldn't have told porkies......pardon the pun. I dislike lying bastids & dislike fat lazy bastids. Double lose for her. Besides she'd find some else to roll her in flour & find the wet bit. Its the dating game, with the emphasis on the last word.
Look at it this way - you got her some exercise, every little helps!You've never seen all the PITA mothers with kids perching the back wheels of their contraptions on the step while the front wheels are in mid air? Feckers do it all the time round here.
As for letting her down gently, Meh. Her problem, she shouldn't have told porkies......pardon the pun. I dislike lying bastids & dislike fat lazy bastids. Double lose for her. Besides she'd find some else to roll her in flour & find the wet bit. Its the dating game, with the emphasis on the last word.
Toyoda said:
If there's not several body shots then smell a rat. It's been mentioned before on here but these fatties often post several really good pics, with one slightly less good one. That's the tiny admission of honesty on their part, but rest assured they'll look a lot worse than even their worst photo.
I'm a similar age and again I've read on here it's a great place to be. Our target demographic ranges from mid 20's to early 40's. Depends what you're after but we're not over the hill yet! If you're not on Tinder then it's worth signing up. The quality is much better than on POF, but once you've burned through the swipes after the first couple of weeks things can dry up a bit. It's all a numbers game anyway so best of luck.
Always go by their worst photo, and then assume she's probably not even going to look that good in person. Still not happy with my own photos, but had no opportunity or assistance to sort out any better ones.I'm a similar age and again I've read on here it's a great place to be. Our target demographic ranges from mid 20's to early 40's. Depends what you're after but we're not over the hill yet! If you're not on Tinder then it's worth signing up. The quality is much better than on POF, but once you've burned through the swipes after the first couple of weeks things can dry up a bit. It's all a numbers game anyway so best of luck.
I was talking to some friends last night, one of them a similar age to me split up with his long term partner 6 months ago. Went on Tinder for 3 days, scared himself with all the matches and casual offers, hooked up with the first one he met and been in a happy relationship with her since. He's pretty average looking as well, nothing special. So still not sure where I was going wrong there. Been chatting to some older female friends recently, the common thing they all keep telling me is that I need to find myself a 'decent' woman, as though it's something you just order on Amazon! , One of them asked me why I've been single for so long, and do I just prefer it that way! She didn't seem to understand that it wasn't just by choice.
On my POF profile, I've put down my intent as 'looking for a relationship', but not sure if I should change it to 'dating but nothing serious' (which is probably more like what to start with)? Most of the women on there say they're looking for a relationship, but I do wonder if they're just saying that because they don't want to appear easy?
mjb1 said:
On my POF profile, I've put down my intent as 'looking for a relationship', but not sure if I should change it to 'dating but nothing serious' (which is probably more like what to start with)? Most of the women on there say they're looking for a relationship, but I do wonder if they're just saying that because they don't want to appear easy?
I'm sure my profile said looking for a relationship, so I don't think that's causing you a problem. (To be honest, I suspect most women assume that 99.9% of men are going to say "yes" if they're only looking for something casual. I'm pretty sure they don't look at that bit of the profile and think : Nah, he wouldn't be interested in some fun).
mjb1 said:
On my POF profile, I've put down my intent as 'looking for a relationship', but not sure if I should change it to 'dating but nothing serious' (which is probably more like what to start with)? Most of the women on there say they're looking for a relationship, but I do wonder if they're just saying that because they don't want to appear easy?
I agree. Looking for a relationship sounds better than dating but nothing serious which may mark you out as just wanting a shag, which of course we are, and preferably not in a relationship! I'm finding POF woeful. Just hoping the weekends gets more out of them, with them being especially moist. Excuse the dapper laughs reference.
JimmyConwayNW said:
rlg43p said:
How do you think she felt after being treated like that? That's a cruel way to behave. You could a least have the decency to face up to her and explain she's not your type!
She was a nutter he did the right thing. Taking the kid on the first date is mental.Dry your eyes princess, she would get over it, its not like we were fookin engaged. Cruel my arse, she could have just been honest from the word go. She even said in her profile her body type was 'athletic'................she'd missed a P off the front of that & added an L.
It was a game, online dating is a game, so is 'normal' dating. Even if she'd been fit & i'd boned her on the first date I;d have still been seeing & knobbing other women until such a time we'd both felt comfortable with each other to give it a whirl & come off the cattle market.
Echo66 said:
Wot he said,
Dry your eyes princess, she would get over it, its not like we were fookin engaged. Cruel my arse, she could have just been honest from the word go. She even said in her profile her body type was 'athletic'................she'd missed a P off the front of that & added an L.
"..bubbly, athletic (when I spot cake in the distance)..."Dry your eyes princess, she would get over it, its not like we were fookin engaged. Cruel my arse, she could have just been honest from the word go. She even said in her profile her body type was 'athletic'................she'd missed a P off the front of that & added an L.
It wouldn’t surprise me if internet dating popularity, certainly for finding long term relationships plateaus or declines in the next 5 years.
It seems it is largely reliant on manipulated photos and punchy profiles now.
I can however see singles events becoming more popular where people with similar interests meet for activities/holidays (like Flashpack).
It seems it is largely reliant on manipulated photos and punchy profiles now.
I can however see singles events becoming more popular where people with similar interests meet for activities/holidays (like Flashpack).
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