Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Salmonofdoubt said:
Has anyone done long distance relationships and actually made them work?
My girlfriend is Spanish, living in Spain.We have been together since last October but doing long distance since Feb.
She was my housemate in a shared house in the UK.
Its going ok, but long distance isn't for the long term.
We see each other once a month for a few days and speak on video call every day for 30-90 minutes.
The plan is for her to move here in July when she finishes university but her parents want her to continue to do a teaching masters in Spain.. If she stays in Spain I think it will be the beginning of the end for us. Its hard not seeing each other often and also very costly. Flights as convenient times are £100 - £200 plus parking at air port or me driving to (usually) Stansted to collect her.
Looket said:
Apropos acting a bit of a dick and women lapping it up... albeit by accident.
I recently fired up Tinder again and got talking to a stunning woman right up my alley. Long story short:
1. With the purest of intentions I used a photo with my ex - it's a good photo - and I tried my best to crop her out.
2. Upon enquiring about the woman in said photo, against my better judgement I answered truthfully. Oof!
3. Ruthlessly took the piss during the ensuing rant about all that is wrong with the modern man. Clearly a nutter but what fun this is!
4. Subsequent very sheepish message the day after. Bit surprising but what the hell.
5. Cue two weeks later, we are talking every day and generally getting on like a house on fire. At this point she has volunteered her number and dropped heavy hints but due to commitments I haven't asked her out. So she asks me out; I decline.
6. Turns out it's her first rejection, and f
k me if it doesn't make her all the keener.
Three dates in things are going well indeed, she is a lovely woman.
There is some truth in the adage treat them mean, keep them keen.I recently fired up Tinder again and got talking to a stunning woman right up my alley. Long story short:
1. With the purest of intentions I used a photo with my ex - it's a good photo - and I tried my best to crop her out.
2. Upon enquiring about the woman in said photo, against my better judgement I answered truthfully. Oof!
3. Ruthlessly took the piss during the ensuing rant about all that is wrong with the modern man. Clearly a nutter but what fun this is!
4. Subsequent very sheepish message the day after. Bit surprising but what the hell.
5. Cue two weeks later, we are talking every day and generally getting on like a house on fire. At this point she has volunteered her number and dropped heavy hints but due to commitments I haven't asked her out. So she asks me out; I decline.
6. Turns out it's her first rejection, and f
k me if it doesn't make her all the keener. Three dates in things are going well indeed, she is a lovely woman.
Fermit and Sarah said:
There is some truth in the adage treat them mean, keep them keen.
Tricky though. If you genuinely like them, it's very hard to treat them mean - becomes a 'game'and takes will power.
But if you are slow to reply, ignore them, demonstrate disinterest, it's because you'd genuinely rather watch match of the day on a Saturday night and never speak to them again
Lemming Train said:
Looket said:
Apropos acting a bit of a dick and women lapping it up... albeit by accident.
I recently fired up Tinder again and got talking to a stunning woman right up my alley. Long story short:
1. With the purest of intentions I used a photo with my ex - it's a good photo - and I tried my best to crop her out.
2. Upon enquiring about the woman in said photo, against my better judgement I answered truthfully. Oof!
3. Ruthlessly took the piss during the ensuing rant about all that is wrong with the modern man. Clearly a nutter but what fun this is!
4. Subsequent very sheepish message the day after. Bit surprising but what the hell.
5. Cue two weeks later, we are talking every day and generally getting on like a house on fire. At this point she has volunteered her number and dropped heavy hints but due to commitments I haven't asked her out. So she asks me out; I decline.
6. Turns out it's her first rejection, and fk me if it doesn't make her all the keener.
Three dates in things are going well indeed, she is a lovely woman.
I recently fired up Tinder again and got talking to a stunning woman right up my alley. Long story short:
1. With the purest of intentions I used a photo with my ex - it's a good photo - and I tried my best to crop her out.
2. Upon enquiring about the woman in said photo, against my better judgement I answered truthfully. Oof!
3. Ruthlessly took the piss during the ensuing rant about all that is wrong with the modern man. Clearly a nutter but what fun this is!
4. Subsequent very sheepish message the day after. Bit surprising but what the hell.
5. Cue two weeks later, we are talking every day and generally getting on like a house on fire. At this point she has volunteered her number and dropped heavy hints but due to commitments I haven't asked her out. So she asks me out; I decline.
6. Turns out it's her first rejection, and f
k me if it doesn't make her all the keener. Three dates in things are going well indeed, she is a lovely woman.
slipstream 1985 said:
"I know you said about your friends and even if it was a date not my business unless you make it mine xx at least you will get a few days off though x practice your poker face ?? how’s your day been?".
This is the stage I need to ask her to meet right?
i think you need to ask her to punctuate first.This is the stage I need to ask her to meet right?
slipstream 1985 said:
"I know you said about your friends and even if it was a date not my business unless you make it mine xx at least you will get a few days off though x practice your poker face ?? how’s your day been?".
This is the stage I need to ask her to meet right?
I think this is the stage you ask her if she has sobered up / to translate that waffle into English. Unless she is hot ignore all the tripe and say: 'Good thanks, fancy some drinks next Fri?' This is the stage I need to ask her to meet right?
Plate spinner said:
Fermit and Sarah said:
There is some truth in the adage treat them mean, keep them keen.
Tricky though. If you genuinely like them, it's very hard to treat them mean - becomes a 'game'and takes will power.
But if you are slow to reply, ignore them, demonstrate disinterest, it's because you'd genuinely rather watch match of the day on a Saturday night and never speak to them again
I also found that if you are up front about seeing other women at the same time then most women are actually OK about this. It is when you lie about it and they find out that they tend to get annoyed.
I found the ones where I genuinely didn't care about them, the worse my behavior the more they wanted to see me. I have cancelled on them at the last minute and admitted I had another date and they have literally begged me to come over and "see" them. These are the women that will pay for dinner, these are the woman that will offer to cook you anything you want when you are at their place.
I have had women I have seen a few times moaning at me over Whatsapp about my behavior so I have just blocked them. After a few weeks they will message you through the dating site saying how sorry they are and asking if they can "see" you again.
Of course the ones you actually like and spend the time to reply to and actually message first after a date will soon ghost you!
Joey Deacon said:
When I was online dating I found this was definitely the case. I found that after a few months I was plate spinning without even realising it,and the less I cared the easier it got. Women want to be with men that other women want, if you clearly have plenty of options then it is clear you are valuable and they want to be with you too.
I also found that if you are up front about seeing other women at the same time then most women are actually OK about this. It is when you lie about it and they find out that they tend to get annoyed.
I found the ones where I genuinely didn't care about them, the worse my behavior the more they wanted to see me. I have cancelled on them at the last minute and admitted I had another date and they have literally begged me to come over and "see" them. These are the women that will pay for dinner, these are the woman that will offer to cook you anything you want when you are at their place.
I have had women I have seen a few times moaning at me over Whatsapp about my behavior so I have just blocked them. After a few weeks they will message you through the dating site saying how sorry they are and asking if they can "see" you again.
Of course the ones you actually like and spend the time to reply to and actually message first after a date will soon ghost you!
Mirrors my experience 100%. Even down to the last paragraph; I’d enjoyed tinder and happn in the multiples for 18 months or so and at times had 3/4 regular FB’s - all in knowledge of the other women and all then trying even harder to be my preference. I also found that if you are up front about seeing other women at the same time then most women are actually OK about this. It is when you lie about it and they find out that they tend to get annoyed.
I found the ones where I genuinely didn't care about them, the worse my behavior the more they wanted to see me. I have cancelled on them at the last minute and admitted I had another date and they have literally begged me to come over and "see" them. These are the women that will pay for dinner, these are the woman that will offer to cook you anything you want when you are at their place.
I have had women I have seen a few times moaning at me over Whatsapp about my behavior so I have just blocked them. After a few weeks they will message you through the dating site saying how sorry they are and asking if they can "see" you again.
Of course the ones you actually like and spend the time to reply to and actually message first after a date will soon ghost you!
Along came one I liked, my disinterest/arrogance was put on hold. 2 months later she called time on it.
NRS said:
Sadly it will a boring proper 4x4. The MX-5 does fine most of the time for the 6 month winters, but I need something for the deep snow when skiing now. Still, the MX-5 will be the daily and it can be fun to do some offroading. Would love to get the road in the picture below done, but think it's going to be too late in the year:
Where is that!!!!!dsgrnmcm said:
NRS said:
Sadly it will a boring proper 4x4. The MX-5 does fine most of the time for the 6 month winters, but I need something for the deep snow when skiing now. Still, the MX-5 will be the daily and it can be fun to do some offroading. Would love to get the road in the picture below done, but think it's going to be too late in the year:
Where is that!!!!!dsgrnmcm said:
NRS said:
Sadly it will a boring proper 4x4. The MX-5 does fine most of the time for the 6 month winters, but I need something for the deep snow when skiing now. Still, the MX-5 will be the daily and it can be fun to do some offroading. Would love to get the road in the picture below done, but think it's going to be too late in the year:
Where is that!!!!!
PDP76 said:
So after some messaging and a phonecall, tomorrow I’m meeting up with a girl I was going out with and last saw when I was 19 yrs old.
I’m 42 now.
Split up when I joined the Army and started shagging anything that moved.
I’m her first love too so this could be interesting !
hmmI’m 42 now.
Split up when I joined the Army and started shagging anything that moved.
I’m her first love too so this could be interesting !
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