Match.com (Volume 6)

[Monkeylegend]

interstellar said:

Salmonofdoubt said:

Last night's date was fab. But has utterly baffled me. I'm still not quite sure how to digest it.

Spill the beans matey!!

Sounds like he did, the coffee beans.

[Toyoda]

It's a classic you ok hun?

[JustALooseScrew]

Do any of you think there is anything that can be read into the situation where you've been shopping in Aldi for the last few years, often with my young fella and fallen for a gorgeous check out girl?

Just before Christmas I was in the 'wrong' isle and we caught each other's eye, the linger and the look and smile went on just a little too long.

This evening I nipped in for a bottle and as I walked through the door I was looking over to see if she was on the tills, and sure enough there she was (my heart raced) and she lifted her hand to wave at me. I waved back.

At the check out she asked about my son (to be fair all of the staff in Aldi ask about him) and I asked her how her Christmas had been and she said 'It was no fun without young kids', I asked her how old is your eldest and she told me he is nineteen.

I was floored by that, and the queue was backing up so I just had to leave.

I'm fantasizing too much, but she is delicious, first time in a decade where I'm feeling a vibe.

[johnwilliams77]

JustALooseScrew said:

Do any of you think there is anything that can be read into the situation where you've been shopping in Aldi for the last few years, often with my young fella and fallen for a gorgeous check out girl?

Just before Christmas I was in the 'wrong' isle and we caught each other's eye, the linger and the look and smile went on just a little too long.

This evening I nipped in for a bottle and as I walked through the door I was looking over to see if she was on the tills, and sure enough there she was (my heart raced) and she lifted her hand to wave at me. I waved back.

At the check out she asked about my son (to be fair all of the staff in Aldi ask about him) and I asked her how her Christmas had been and she said 'It was no fun without young kids', I asked her how old is your eldest and she told me he is nineteen.

I was floored by that, and the queue was backing up so I just had to leave.

I'm fantasizing too much, but she is delicious, first time in a decade where I'm feeling a vibe.

Apt username.

[hyphen]

Don't drag it out is my advice. Man up and next time you see her, just ask her out. Or decide not to and so choose another till.

If she says no then you know you were imagining her being more than friendly.

[Blown2CV]

JustALooseScrew said:

Do any of you think there is anything that can be read into the situation where you've been shopping in Aldi for the last few years, often with my young fella and fallen for a gorgeous check out girl?

Just before Christmas I was in the 'wrong' isle and we caught each other's eye, the linger and the look and smile went on just a little too long.

This evening I nipped in for a bottle and as I walked through the door I was looking over to see if she was on the tills, and sure enough there she was (my heart raced) and she lifted her hand to wave at me. I waved back.

At the check out she asked about my son (to be fair all of the staff in Aldi ask about him) and I asked her how her Christmas had been and she said 'It was no fun without young kids', I asked her how old is your eldest and she told me he is nineteen.

I was floored by that, and the queue was backing up so I just had to leave.

I'm fantasizing too much, but she is delicious, first time in a decade where I'm feeling a vibe.

there is absolutely zero possibility that her side of this exists only in your head. I say go for it. I mean, what was it you were planning to go for, exactly?

When you say floored by the age of her son... does she look like 30 or something?

[johnwilliams77]

hyphen said:

Don't drag it out is my advice. Man up and next time you see her, just ask her out. Or decide not to and so choose another till.

If she says no then you know you were imagining her being more than friendly.

Do not do this. She is working and it is unfair to make her feel uncomfortable.

[Blown2CV]

johnwilliams77 said:

hyphen said:

Don't drag it out is my advice. Man up and next time you see her, just ask her out. Or decide not to and so choose another till.

If she says no then you know you were imagining her being more than friendly.

Do not do this. She is working and it is unfair to make her feel uncomfortable.

but but but.... it is TRUE LOVE, you monster

[Toyoda]

johnwilliams77 said:

Do not do this. She is working and it is unfair to make her feel uncomfortable.

The situation could quickly descend into creepiness (if it hasn't already). I say without further ado he should just ask her out while she's scanning his microwave meals for one. Worst she can say is thanks but no thanks and he then becomes a Lidl customer.

[hyphen]

johnwilliams77 said:

hyphen said:

Don't drag it out is my advice. Man up and next time you see her, just ask her out. Or decide not to and so choose another till.

If she says no then you know you were imagining her being more than friendly.

Do not do this. She is working and it is unfair to make her feel uncomfortable.

You can ask a girl on a date whilst she is working...

Subtly asking if she is free one evening (doing anything for NYE for example), is hardly making someone feel uncomfortable.

If he keeps doing small talk, he is at risk of 'losing the moment' and being friend zoned.

[poing]

JustALooseScrew said:

Do any of you think there is anything that can be read into the situation where you've been shopping in Aldi for the last few years, often with my young fella and fallen for a gorgeous check out girl?

Just before Christmas I was in the 'wrong' isle and we caught each other's eye, the linger and the look and smile went on just a little too long.

This evening I nipped in for a bottle and as I walked through the door I was looking over to see if she was on the tills, and sure enough there she was (my heart raced) and she lifted her hand to wave at me. I waved back.

At the check out she asked about my son (to be fair all of the staff in Aldi ask about him) and I asked her how her Christmas had been and she said 'It was no fun without young kids', I asked her how old is your eldest and she told me he is nineteen.

I was floored by that, and the queue was backing up so I just had to leave.

I'm fantasizing too much, but she is delicious, first time in a decade where I'm feeling a vibe.

Leave her your number, if she doesn't call just shop at Lidl.

[Blown2CV]

hyphen said:

johnwilliams77 said:

hyphen said:

Don't drag it out is my advice. Man up and next time you see her, just ask her out. Or decide not to and so choose another till.

If she says no then you know you were imagining her being more than friendly.

Do not do this. She is working and it is unfair to make her feel uncomfortable.

You can ask a girl on a date whilst she is working...

Subtly asking if she is free one evening (doing anything for NYE for example), is hardly making someone feel uncomfortable.

If he keeps doing small talk, he is at risk of 'losing the moment' and being friend zoned.

ask her what time she finishes and what door she exits from

[JustALooseScrew]

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Blown2CV said:

When you say floored by the age of her son... does she look like 30 or something?

She looks so much younger to be honest. I've been trying to do the maths and trying to figure out why I felt the 'vibe' and if it is a genuine attraction.

I'm pushing 50, but look 40, act 27, I'd love to ask her out for a drink - but how?

May be she's sitting at home perfectly happy, with no further thought about me, she could be happily married and fully content with everything.

Or may be she is sat there wondering and dreaming about all the splutteringly unspeakable sex we could have together.

I've been single now for the last 6 years and I've been perfectly happy - but the vibe - the fking vibe with her, the looks we give each other.

I'm worried I've got it all wrong or perhaps I've got it all right.

I'm verging on the point of at least asking her out for a beer but the worst thing I could do would be to embarrass her.

I'm also verging on the point of thinking 'It's best not to'.

So confused, it's like being a teenager again.

[JustALooseScrew]

johnwilliams77 said:

Do not do this. She is working and it is unfair to make her feel uncomfortable.

That's my thinking too.

[johnwilliams77]

JustALooseScrew said:

johnwilliams77 said:

Do not do this. She is working and it is unfair to make her feel uncomfortable.

That's my thinking too.

Go with your gut. Stick with this until you can get a little more info...

[Toyoda]

Crikey fella just MTFU ask her out ASAP. All this angst! The worst she'll say is no. You've already broken the ice so it's not as if you're going in cold. She might be thinking I wish this bd would get a move on and ask me out.

This is a dating thread FFS!

[V8covin]

Buy some condoms and when she scans them say I don't know why I'm buying these it's not like I've got a girlfriend or anything

[Plate spinner]

Toyoda said:

Crikey fella just MTFU ask her out ASAP. All this angst! The worst she'll say is no. You've already broken the ice so it's not as if you're going in cold. She might be thinking I wish this bd would get a move on and ask me out.

This is a dating thread FFS!

Exactly this.

If you feel uncomfortable asking her in her workplace, just tell her you’d like to ask her out but not whilst she’s working and give her a card with your number on.

If she gets in contact that evening, ask her out.
If she doesn’t, just carry on having polite small talk whilst buying your groceries.

[Salmonofdoubt]

Monkeylegend said:

interstellar said:

Salmonofdoubt said:

Last night's date was fab. But has utterly baffled me. I'm still not quite sure how to digest it.

Spill the beans matey!!

Sounds like he did, the coffee beans.

Righto. Really good date, far hotter than her pictures indicated. Great chemistry between us, couldn’t have invented someone who was more my type if I’d had that computer from Weird Science.

Meal, drinks, cosy bar with lots of physical contact drinks, some seriously good kissing, more drinks and finally a very long slightly handsy kiss goodnight. Message when she got home, thanks for tonight will do it again soon.

This morning sorry you’re not the sort of Alpha male wker I’m usually attracted to. As I said never had a date go well to be bombed so bluntly. But she was at least honest with me. I’m going to get more baskets to keep my eggs in.

[Salmonofdoubt]

olly22n said:

johnwilliams77 said:

JustALooseScrew said:

johnwilliams77 said:

Do not do this. She is working and it is unfair to make her feel uncomfortable.

That's my thinking too.

Go with your gut. Stick with this until you can get a little more info...

My mate now lives with the girl he met on the checkout.

He asked her out whilst she was at work

I had a couple of dates with someone from my local bank. She was very friendly, one day I paid some cash in and she suggested I should keep it and take her to the pub. So the next time I was in handed her my number. It’s only creepy and awkward if you make it that way. I didn’t put her on the spot just handed her the number when I’d done my banking and left.