Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
V6Pushfit said:
Yes it is.
Fermit and Sexy Sarah said:
I think you're over-baking it someone. Of course his heart will beat (for now) when he sees her, he fancies her!
PRIOR to him asking her out, yes, sure, perfectly normal to have a few butterflies and heart racing a bit. But AFTER you've been firmly knocked back and been given a clear a message it's never going to happen? Nope, sorry, that's not normal unless you have a severe shortage of MTFU juice in the house. Maybe he could ask her if they sell some on one of his many visits? 
I bet that if she wasn't working there he wouldn't be going there 3 times per day.
Anyway it's done now so let's move on.
Let's cut JASL some slack... he opened up to the forum asking advice which was proffered in bucketloads. He's entertained us over the past days and now we have the result; there's Lidl else for him to do. He Asda see sense, consider Aldi time he's spent thinking about the girl and go and checkout other possibilities. Maybe he should try a bank teller; they open their drawers for cash. When all is said and done, onwards and upwards JASL and thank you for your input over the past week.
yanyan said:
Let's cut JASL some slack... he opened up to the forum asking advice which was proffered in bucketloads. He's entertained us over the past days and now we have the result; there's Lidl else for him to do. He Asda see sense, consider Aldi time he's spent thinking about the girl and go and checkout other possibilities. Maybe he should try a bank teller; they open their drawers for cash. When all is said and done, onwards and upwards JASL and thank you for your input over the past week.
MYOB said:
He's only gone and started a new thread about dealing with the rejection...
I thought you were taking the piss but it's true ! : https://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&...Lemming Train said:
MYOB said:
He's only gone and started a new thread about dealing with the rejection...
I thought you were taking the piss but it's true ! : https://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&...
ker.Salmonofdoubt said:
You read too much into something. It's a lesson we all learn (see my date with miss Alpha loving cock tease).
Next time move more quickly and then forget it. The longer you anticipate something the more you will feel pressure when or if you do something. Being more casual gives an impression of confidence even when you're bricking it.
I know all this, FFS I've just nudged 50, I want to be 27 again, that is where my mind is at.Next time move more quickly and then forget it. The longer you anticipate something the more you will feel pressure when or if you do something. Being more casual gives an impression of confidence even when you're bricking it.
I wasn't actually 'looking' for any thing, it was just a couple of smiles and if you read back through the thread 'I caught a lingering look', which led me down the wrong path.
I completely misunderstood it all.
Anyway, I'll give it a few weeks to settle then maybe ask her again, face to face to go out for a chat. We both know where we stand now but I'd still like to talk to her and learn about how she ended up here.
This story has reached its conclusion, thanks to all of you that gave positive posts.
yanyan said:
Right everyone... let's jump over to this new thread. I've book marked the fker.
I'm calling it now: in light of his new thread and what he's written here I predict he isn't going to let it drop and he's going full-on stalker mode which will end up with her calling the cops and him getting a restraining order. All the signs are there.ker.JustALooseScrew said:
Salmonofdoubt said:
You read too much into something. It's a lesson we all learn (see my date with miss Alpha loving cock tease).
Next time move more quickly and then forget it. The longer you anticipate something the more you will feel pressure when or if you do something. Being more casual gives an impression of confidence even when you're bricking it.
I know all this, FFS I've just nudged 50, I want to be 27 again, that is where my mind is at.Next time move more quickly and then forget it. The longer you anticipate something the more you will feel pressure when or if you do something. Being more casual gives an impression of confidence even when you're bricking it.
I wasn't actually 'looking' for any thing, it was just a couple of smiles and if you read back through the thread 'I caught a lingering look', which led me down the wrong path.
I completely misunderstood it all.
Anyway, I'll give it a few weeks to settle then maybe ask her again, face to face to go out for a chat. We both know where we stand now but I'd still like to talk to her and learn about how she ended up here.
This story has reached its conclusion, thanks to all of you that gave positive posts.
JustALooseScrew said:
Anyway, I'll give it a few weeks to settle then maybe ask her again, face to face to go out for a chat. We both know where we stand now but I'd still like to talk to her and learn about how she ended up here.
Just because you would like to learn more about her, she has made clear she doesn't want to learn anything more about you, so I'd suggest all chat is now instigated by her only.
Look at it from her point of view (which incidentally you can't because you don't even know her)...
She sits there all day, smiling at hundreds of customers as it's her job, you're just some random that tries to catch her eye every time so she always smiles. You pluck up the courage to give her your number, but she's not interested and everyone blushes. The first time is a fumbled chat up line, not the end of the world, happens a hundred times a day. Everyone laughs nervously and the world keeps turning.
But the second time, when you then ask to go for a face to face chat... well that could absolutely be deemed unwanted attention.
And that really would not be good for anyone concerned. Not good at all.
Edited by Plate spinner on Saturday 5th January 19:22
Edited by Plate spinner on Saturday 5th January 19:27
JustALooseScrew said:
know all this, FFS I've just nudged 50, I want to be 27 again, that is where my mind is at.
I wasn't actually 'looking' for any thing, it was just a couple of smiles and if you read back through the thread 'I caught a lingering look', which led me down the wrong path.
I completely misunderstood it all.
Anyway, I'll give it a few weeks to settle then maybe ask her again, face to face to go out for a chat. We both know where we stand now but I'd still like to talk to her and learn about how she ended up here.
This story has reached its conclusion, thanks to all of you that gave positive posts.
Go out with your mates and get pissed. Flirt with some ‘hot’ girls. Buy a ridiculous two seater sports car, or an MX5. Take a couple of weeks off and go to Thailand. But whatever you do please don’t mistake someone in a customer service/patient facing role as ‘the one’ and breach their trust by asking them out then pushing them for an answer. I wasn't actually 'looking' for any thing, it was just a couple of smiles and if you read back through the thread 'I caught a lingering look', which led me down the wrong path.
I completely misunderstood it all.
Anyway, I'll give it a few weeks to settle then maybe ask her again, face to face to go out for a chat. We both know where we stand now but I'd still like to talk to her and learn about how she ended up here.
This story has reached its conclusion, thanks to all of you that gave positive posts.
JustALooseScrew said:
t was very good - made me laugh, so I'm off this thread now - it's a match/dating thread to which I don't qualify/
You tried to get a date. At the end of the day that's what this thread is about. I'm far better than I was at getting to first date stage. I just don't seem to be great at landing a second, at least not with the ones I like.Gretchen said:
Christ. I said I didn’t think this wouldn’t work. Breach of trust type thing. It’s her job to be polite. Mistaken signs etc. It’s almost as bad as dating your neighbour.
Seriously, don’t EVER date your neighbour.
Yeah, this is good advice actually. Seriously, don’t EVER date your neighbour.
No matter how temptingly convenient it may seem - this is really, really good advice.
Don’t EVER date your neighbour.
Edited by Plate spinner on Saturday 5th January 19:30
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