Match.com (Volume 6)

[anonymous-user]

why not try meetup, make some new friends, see what that brings. online dating for a lot is a hobby to pass time looking at their phone, satisfy a sense of needing and wanting, but is just perpetual.
I've been online dating on and off 15 years, its definitely not what it was, more superficial nowadays.

There too much focus on relationship, short or long, good old connections is a better start.

Edited by Thesprucegoose on Friday 22 March 20:07

[CountZero23]

Well, my first date with the cute blonde lass from London didn't turn into a second; would have been fantastic if I'd only had to deal with online dating for a few weeks!

I've got some new pics and updated my profile. Reckon they are OK, my cousins gf turned into my personal photographer on a recent trip to Oxford.

The difficulty level on Tinder appears have gone up a notch or two since I was last on there - was getting dates every week. Looking for a more serious relationship so could be me being pickier or the fact I'm not 35 anymore (35 seems to be the cutoff for the 20 something crowd).

Got a date with a girl who sounds pretty cool on Sunday, 30, a decent job and looks pretty in her pics. Meeting up in a local pub she mentioned she liked and happens to be 5 mins away from my place.

Still, I appear to have run out of victims on Tinder and live in a fairly big city (Brighton). Was never this tough before.

Any tips on the updated profile chaps and ladies?

https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=14...

[CharlesdeGaulle]

CountZero23 said:

Any tips on the updated profile chaps and ladies?

https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=14...

Typos on profile.
Too many pictures wearing the same stuff.
The photo with your hands in your pockets and fingers pointing down your leg is cringe.
Too many skydive pictures - potential victims can't see your face.
Enjoying 'mates' and 'booze' might put off the classier chicks.

Meant in a constructive way.

[GTI16V]

CharlesdeGaulle said:

CountZero23 said:

Any tips on the updated profile chaps and ladies?

https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=14...

Typos on profile.
Too many pictures wearing the same stuff.
The photo with your hands in your pockets and fingers pointing down your leg is cringe.
Too many skydive pictures - potential victims can't see your face.
Enjoying 'mates' and 'booze' might put off the classier chicks.

Meant in a constructive way.

Cringe? This whole thread is cringe.

[poing]

GTI16V said:

CharlesdeGaulle said:

CountZero23 said:

Any tips on the updated profile chaps and ladies?

https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=14...

Typos on profile.
Too many pictures wearing the same stuff.
The photo with your hands in your pockets and fingers pointing down your leg is cringe.
Too many skydive pictures - potential victims can't see your face.
Enjoying 'mates' and 'booze' might put off the classier chicks.

Meant in a constructive way.

Cringe? This whole thread is cringe.

Literally no clue what your job is.

[CountZero23]

CharlesdeGaulle said:

Typos on profile.
Too many pictures wearing the same stuff.
The photo with your hands in your pockets and fingers pointing down your leg is cringe.
Too many skydive pictures - potential victims can't see your face.
Enjoying 'mates' and 'booze' might put off the classier chicks.

Meant in a constructive way.

Cheers, some honest feedback is what I'm after.

Typos on profile. - Think I've fixed them - let me know if I've missed any.

Too many pictures wearing the same stuff - Yea, hate having my picture taken so have virtually no good ones from last couple of year. Mixed things up a bit and will get some more done.

The photo with your hands in your pockets and fingers pointing down your leg is cringe. - Haha, yea - my cousins gf thought it was great. I'm with you, Removed.

Enjoying 'mates' and 'booze' might put off the classier chicks. - Toned it down a bit. Will try and inject some more humor in there, getting a bit dry!

Thanks again

[LosingGrip]

I don't think it's a problem with the sky diving photos. It's not the only one and its something different. They can see your face in others.

[hyphen]

chunder27 said:

Just deleted my pof account, sometimes you just have to realise that you are not in the right place to date someone and they all want perfection, and the majority of women simply want an easy life and a boring man, they perceive men who have any issues as a bad thing, no matter if it is as simple as work, or anything they might be dealing with too.

Sometimes you have to just admit you are better off being single.

I am not interested in sex as most men seem to be, never have been, it has always been a rather disappointing activity with every woman I have ever been with, so that obviously tends to put an end to relationships anyway after time.

And despite feeling a longing for something, I have finally realised it is simply a form of loneliness, nothing more.

I have been unhappy for quite a few years, and this does not translate to a positive attitude when trying to date people, you can try all you like, but being unhappy comes out eventually.

Time to just forget about, like a lot of things in my life, it will NEVER happen, so just forget it and move on.

You sound like you could do with some counciiling?

[Ilovejapcrap]

chunder27 said:

Just deleted my pof account, sometimes you just have to realise that you are not in the right place to date someone and they all want perfection, and the majority of women simply want an easy life and a boring man, they perceive men who have any issues as a bad thing, no matter if it is as simple as work, or anything they might be dealing with too.

Sometimes you have to just admit you are better off being single.

I am not interested in sex as most men seem to be, never have been, it has always been a rather disappointing activity with every woman I have ever been with, so that obviously tends to put an end to relationships anyway after time.

And despite feeling a longing for something, I have finally realised it is simply a form of loneliness, nothing more.

I have been unhappy for quite a few years, and this does not translate to a positive attitude when trying to date people, you can try all you like, but being unhappy comes out eventually.

Time to just forget about, like a lot of things in my life, it will NEVER happen, so just forget it and move on.

Mate not everyone is having a bed of roses in life I’m 39 this year no kids still not settled. All pals are end up spending a bit of time alone.

But c’mon at least have a go. Just leave a profile out and if something happens it happens if not then you’ve lost nothing really . I guess I’m just saying chin up fella 👍

[Slagathore]

CountZero23 said:

Well, my first date with the cute blonde lass from London didn't turn into a second; would have been fantastic if I'd only had to deal with online dating for a few weeks!

I've got some new pics and updated my profile. Reckon they are OK, my cousins gf turned into my personal photographer on a recent trip to Oxford.

The difficulty level on Tinder appears have gone up a notch or two since I was last on there - was getting dates every week. Looking for a more serious relationship so could be me being pickier or the fact I'm not 35 anymore (35 seems to be the cutoff for the 20 something crowd).

Got a date with a girl who sounds pretty cool on Sunday, 30, a decent job and looks pretty in her pics. Meeting up in a local pub she mentioned she liked and happens to be 5 mins away from my place.

Still, I appear to have run out of victims on Tinder and live in a fairly big city (Brighton). Was never this tough before.

Any tips on the updated profile chaps and ladies?

https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=14...

Get rid of the picture of a cat. Or better yet, get rid of the cat and get a dog.

Grown man with a pet cat - lonely psychopath

Grown man with a pet dog - decent human

[CaptainSlow]

Typo on

"Passion for cars, especially classics and am have spent the last year getting one back on the road."

Also, there's nothing in the whole profile that is offering anything to a potential date.

[jakesmith]

chunder27 said:

Just deleted my pof account, sometimes you just have to realise that you are not in the right place to date someone and they all want perfection, and the majority of women simply want an easy life and a boring man, they perceive men who have any issues as a bad thing, no matter if it is as simple as work, or anything they might be dealing with too.

Sometimes you have to just admit you are better off being single.

I am not interested in sex as most men seem to be, never have been, it has always been a rather disappointing activity with every woman I have ever been with, so that obviously tends to put an end to relationships anyway after time.

And despite feeling a longing for something, I have finally realised it is simply a form of loneliness, nothing more.

I have been unhappy for quite a few years, and this does not translate to a positive attitude when trying to date people, you can try all you like, but being unhappy comes out eventually.

Time to just forget about, like a lot of things in my life, it will NEVER happen, so just forget it and move on.

Dude if you think like that it will become a self fulfilling prophecy

It’s your life but if you close yourself off deliberately you’re guaranteeing you’ll be alone. Suggest if OLD isn’t working that you have a good think about some activities or hobbies that you like / would like that will bring you into contact with others and go from there. And hit up your friends to see if anyone has and single friends etc

You do sound like you could do with someone to talk to

[Plate spinner]

jakesmith said:

chunder27 said:

Just deleted my pof account, sometimes you just have to realise that you are not in the right place to date someone and they all want perfection, and the majority of women simply want an easy life and a boring man, they perceive men who have any issues as a bad thing, no matter if it is as simple as work, or anything they might be dealing with too.

Sometimes you have to just admit you are better off being single.

I am not interested in sex as most men seem to be, never have been, it has always been a rather disappointing activity with every woman I have ever been with, so that obviously tends to put an end to relationships anyway after time.

And despite feeling a longing for something, I have finally realised it is simply a form of loneliness, nothing more.

I have been unhappy for quite a few years, and this does not translate to a positive attitude when trying to date people, you can try all you like, but being unhappy comes out eventually.

Time to just forget about, like a lot of things in my life, it will NEVER happen, so just forget it and move on.

Dude if you think like that it will become a self fulfilling prophecy

It’s your life but if you close yourself off deliberately you’re guaranteeing you’ll be alone. Suggest if OLD isn’t working that you have a good think about some activities or hobbies that you like / would like that will bring you into contact with others and go from there. And hit up your friends to see if anyone has and single friends etc

You do sound like you could do with someone to talk to

Also, being happy when single is a good step to being happy in a relationship. If you are not happy now, it's unlikely being in a relationship with solve whatever is bugging you below the surface.

Without sounding too "oprah", suggest you work out things with yourself first.

[Vyse]

Such as (takes out notepad)?

CaptainSlow said:

Typo on

"Passion for cars, especially classics and am have spent the last year getting one back on the road."

Also, there's nothing in the whole profile that is offering anything to a potential date.

[Plate spinner]

Vyse said:

Such as (takes out notepad)?

CaptainSlow said:

Typo on

"Passion for cars, especially classics and am have spent the last year getting one back on the road."

Also, there's nothing in the whole profile that is offering anything to a potential date.

[Gretchen]

CaptainSlow said:

Typo on

"Passion for cars, especially classics and am have spent the last year getting one back on the road."

Also, there's nothing in the whole profile that is offering anything to a potential date.

Another in

“Like exploring new places and am off to Norway for a skydiving holiday the summer, planning European road trip once we get the sun back!”


Cat is cute. Should be a pic of you both. Not keen on the posed adjusting cuff photo - aggressive/arrogant stance and too contrived.

I thought your previous wrote up was softer. I find myself persistently rolling my eyes at ‘enjoys a night out as well as in with a good box set’. You might as well write something along the lines of ‘I breathe and eat’.

[Vyse]

I was talking about the what he can offer, not the typo.

Plate spinner said:

[CaptainSlow]

Vyse said:

I was talking about the what he can offer, not the typo.

Plate spinner said:

From a female perspective why should she date him? The only slim indication is to travel...not much detail on that either..does he need a bag carrier?

eta

also lose the cat, iFly, and "cuffs outside the Radcliffe Camera" photos..replace with better ones

Edited by CaptainSlow on Saturday 23 March 10:25

[Jagmanv12]

CaptainSlow said:

Also, there's nothing in the whole profile that is offering anything to a potential date.

You mean like a bag of money.

[CharlesdeGaulle]

CaptainSlow said:

Vyse said:

I was talking about the what he can offer, not the typo.

Plate spinner said:

From a female perspective why should she date him? The only slim indication is to travel...not much detail on that either..does he need a bag carrier?

eta

also lose the cat, iFly, and "cuffs outside the Radcliffe Camera" photos..replace with better ones

Edited by CaptainSlow on Saturday 23 March 10:25

It amuses me that the word cocktails either gets censored or has been edited, especially in view of the nature of the 'transactions'!