Match.com (Volume 6)

Match.com (Volume 6)

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CharlesdeGaulle

11,572 posts

130 months

Tuesday 12th March 2019
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Flibble said:
CharlesdeGaulle said:
Bulgarian. Middle-aged. Divorced. On the scale: (1) could be a laugh/what could possibly go wrong, to (10) about to have your organs harvested. Where?
I'll have a 9 please Bob.
In the interest of thread disclosure, it's only fair to mention that although I shared your anticipation of a higher number, the reality was closer to a 5 based on the time it takes to consume one drink.

V8covin

2,473 posts

143 months

Tuesday 12th March 2019
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feef said:
I've just set a reminder on my phone to cancel my subscription to match, as it can only be done 48 hrs before and 24hrs after :/
No later than 48 hours before it says on my email confirmation

Flibble

5,176 posts

131 months

Wednesday 13th March 2019
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CharlesdeGaulle said:
Flibble said:
CharlesdeGaulle said:
Bulgarian. Middle-aged. Divorced. On the scale: (1) could be a laugh/what could possibly go wrong, to (10) about to have your organs harvested. Where?
I'll have a 9 please Bob.
In the interest of thread disclosure, it's only fair to mention that although I shared your anticipation of a higher number, the reality was closer to a 5 based on the time it takes to consume one drink.
That's pretty quick for a 5. Normally they can conceal the mental for a bit longer than that.

CharlesdeGaulle

11,572 posts

130 months

Wednesday 13th March 2019
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Flibble said:
That's pretty quick for a 5. Normally they can conceal the mental for a bit longer than that.
I was seeing it through the lens of 5 being normal to be honest, especially for an eastern European. However, I'm rusty, really rusty, so perhaps I've made judgement too hastily.

feef

4,721 posts

133 months

Wednesday 13th March 2019
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Bluesgirl said:
If you cancel your direct debit anyway, what can they do about it?
I foolishly used a creditcard.

Bluesgirl

300 posts

41 months

Wednesday 13th March 2019
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Extract from MoneySavingExpert website:

"Ask your bank or credit card provider to cancel it

The Financial Conduct Authority has stated banks MUST cancel a continuous payment authority when asked. It also added that if further payments are taken in error after a customer asks for a cancellation, the bank must refund them."

This will stop the payment, but you must also cancel the contract you have with them ie within the stated timescale.

Blown2CV

22,935 posts

153 months

Wednesday 13th March 2019
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Bluesgirl said:
Extract from MoneySavingExpert website:

"Ask your bank or credit card provider to cancel it

The Financial Conduct Authority has stated banks MUST cancel a continuous payment authority when asked. It also added that if further payments are taken in error after a customer asks for a cancellation, the bank must refund them."

This will stop the payment, but you must also cancel the contract you have with them ie within the stated timescale.
except where you have committed to a contract and the payment you are cancelling is due according to that. Then all you are doing is not paying a bill you owe.

shirt

19,372 posts

151 months

Wednesday 13th March 2019
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CharlesdeGaulle said:
I was seeing it through the lens of 5 being normal to be honest, especially for an eastern European.
agreed. Less than 5 is boring.

PAUL500

1,591 posts

196 months

Wednesday 13th March 2019
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With match, as soon as you subscribe you can then go into your account details online and cancel the auto renew straight away. I do that every time otherwise I forget.

Then wait for a day or so after the paid period has expired and they will email you a £5 for a month deal, rinse and repeat :-) don't fall for their half price offer a day or two before the expiry period.

As said though, match has gone the way of pof, when I first tried net dating it was where the sensible people went, had many a great date, now its just full of window shoppers.

poing

8,664 posts

150 months

Wednesday 13th March 2019
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feef said:
That's what's stopped me subbing to tinder or bumble premium stuff, I've got my location requirements and I've swiped enough that I have no-one left in my area, so anyone that's swiped right on me is going to be too far away (and I've already got my distance limits set further than I would normally travel)
I think the lack of choice is just the way it is for those us that live a bit rural. It's another reason not to waste money on paid sites unless you live somewhere with a lot of people. I'm pretty sure Tinder has the same 100 women on a rolling rota over about a month.

Vyse

1,185 posts

74 months

Friday 15th March 2019
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When using these online dating sites, is it typically always the guys that initiate? Do girls ever make contact with the guy or is this rare?

Blown2CV

22,935 posts

153 months

Friday 15th March 2019
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Vyse said:
When using these online dating sites, is it typically always the guys that initiate? Do girls ever make contact with the guy or is this rare?
if you are attractive and interesting sounding enough then women do make the first move.

technodup

6,204 posts

80 months

Friday 15th March 2019
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Vyse said:
When using these online dating sites, is it typically always the guys that initiate? Do girls ever make contact with the guy or is this rare?
Bumble forces women to message first, although there is a way to sort of get round it.

Blown2CV

22,935 posts

153 months

Friday 15th March 2019
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technodup said:
Vyse said:
When using these online dating sites, is it typically always the guys that initiate? Do girls ever make contact with the guy or is this rare?
Bumble forces women to message first, although there is a way to sort of get round it.
register as a woman and become gay?

Joey Deacon

1,949 posts

126 months

Friday 15th March 2019
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Blown2CV said:
if you are attractive and interesting sounding enough then women do make the first move.
When I used POF and Tinder about five years ago I found I had most success with the women who messaged me first. If I messaged a woman first the majority would not reply, and if they did it would only be for a few messages.

I had most success where I got flirty soon after we started chatting. I used to do this because I used to get bored of small talk quickly, but a larger percentage of women than you would think are filth and will quickly reciprocate.

If they didn't then I would soon get bored and move on. I quickly learned that dates with women who didn't send filthy messages before you met them were always boring and a waste of time.

Oh and virtually every woman wants to know how tall you are before they will meet you. If I was chatting to someone on Tinder and it was going really well and they asked me how tall I was I would say 5ft 6. You could literally hear them thinking up an excuse not to meet before I replied "only joking, I am 6ft" to which you would get the standard "phew, I like to wear heels" nonsence.

Dress well, most women I met who would tell me that guys turned up in trainers and it was an instant put off. I used to always wear smart fitted jeans, nice fitted casual shirt and brown leather shoes and it was clear from their reaction that most men have no idea.

I am a 7/10 non alpha type and I found it was like shooting fish in a barrel. I was 40 at the time and looked young for my age and my realisation was "lots of competition, but very little of it serious"

However, I would say don't waste your time on the hottest women unless you are a 9/10 minimum alpha as you will get nowhere.





technodup

6,204 posts

80 months

Friday 15th March 2019
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Blown2CV said:
register as a woman and become gay?
Use the 24hr extend thing. It notifies them you are interested beyond just a quick (or accidental) swipe, and can help instigate an initial message.

Joey Deacon said:
I had most success where I got flirty soon after we started chatting. I used to do this because I used to get bored of small talk quickly, but a larger percentage of women than you would think are filth and will quickly reciprocate.
Lemming Train will be along any second to tell you you're talking ste. hehe

Ilovejapcrap

2,763 posts

62 months

Saturday 16th March 2019
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I used match last time I was on one had a couple of good dates from it.

Something I found odd was amount of women having issues with me not being on Facebook ?

Lemming Train

4,225 posts

22 months

Saturday 16th March 2019
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Joey Deacon said:
However, I would say don't waste your time on the hottest women unless you are a 9/10 minimum alpha as you will get nowhere.
Correct and that's exactly what I said a few weeks ago and got a barrage of abuse because "you've been with someone for 20 years so WTF do you know, idiot!". Get your flak jacket ready. hehe

shirt

19,372 posts

151 months

Saturday 16th March 2019
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Ilovejapcrap said:
I used match last time I was on one had a couple of good dates from it.

Something I found odd was amount of women having issues with me not being on Facebook ?
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GEWnXmDfVZg

Flibble

5,176 posts

131 months

Saturday 16th March 2019
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Ilovejapcrap said:
I used match last time I was on one had a couple of good dates from it.

Something I found odd was amount of women having issues with me not being on Facebook ?
They can't Facebook stalk you...
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