Match.com (Volume 6)

[technodup]

moanthebairns said:

What was her username on here.....

Search for kilmacolmgirl, you never know

[Greenmantle]

technodup said:

stay in one of the (now) trendy bits of Glasgow and work from home. I just don't need (or want) a car.

Yes understood - just a bit of leg pulling. I'm too familiar with the trendy and not so trendy parts of Glasgow and the surrounding area. The ex is from the beautiful east side of the city. Further than "The Fort" just past Airdrie near a category A prison!

[Gretchen]

davek_964 said:

Vyse said:

Whats the max distance people are willing to travel to meet someone? I may have set my distance too far and so some of my matches are pointless even if the girl is hawt!

Don't think I'd go further than 20, and I'd prefer to keep it under 10.

Have you ever experienced rural village life?

[davek_964]

Gretchen said:

Have you ever experienced rural village life?

Nope.

Obviously it depends on people's circumstances, but I had no reason to believe the OP lived in the middle of nowhere, and my circumstances mean I don't have to travel further.

[mcdjl]

Gretchen said:

davek_964 said:

Vyse said:

Whats the max distance people are willing to travel to meet someone? I may have set my distance too far and so some of my matches are pointless even if the girl is hawt!

Don't think I'd go further than 20, and I'd prefer to keep it under 10.

Have you ever experienced rural village life?

Definitely a city thing. I lived 13 miles from 3 cities. That was too far for some women who lived in any of them to travel out with direct bus/train links for those that didn't drive- doing all the travelling does wear. On the other hand i did end up in a relationship which was 20miles each way

[davek_964]

mcdjl said:

Gretchen said:

davek_964 said:

Vyse said:

Whats the max distance people are willing to travel to meet someone? I may have set my distance too far and so some of my matches are pointless even if the girl is hawt!

Don't think I'd go further than 20, and I'd prefer to keep it under 10.

Have you ever experienced rural village life?

Definitely a city thing. I lived 13 miles from 3 cities. That was too far for some women who lived in any of them to travel out with direct bus/train links for those that didn't drive- doing all the travelling does wear. On the other hand i did end up in a relationship which was 20miles each way

To be fair - I did once start chatting to a French girl who lived in Cannes on the dating sites many years ago - and it ended up with her moving to the UK.
So I guess my distance limit used to be greater!

By coincidence - I'm having coffee with her on Sunday - will be the first time I've seen her in quite a few years.

[Lemming Train]

anonymous said:

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[Greenmantle]

Lemming Train said:

anonymous said:

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yeah she should know since she never misses strictly and always matches scores with CRH.

[EL11SEG]

technodup said:

And btw, I'd prefer a 35yo to a 45yo

And here I am heading to Glasgow next week but I'm too old

Vyse said:

Whats the max distance people are willing to travel to meet someone? I may have set my distance too far and so some of my matches are pointless even if the girl is hawt!

I would prefer to find someone closer to home so 20 mile max. I spend the day driving so don't want to cover extra miles when I am not working. One guy who drove but did not have a car asked if I would come for a coffee. He was going to take the ferry over from Orkney and have 90 mins before taking the next one back. 5 hours driving for 90 mins is not high on my list of fun things to do.

[EL11SEG]

Gretchen said:

Ergo we (well I) have very little in common with the average woman.
(And I have two cars)

Genuine question Gretchen, in the dating world do you find some men are intimidated by your interests? I've been told to 'dumb down' my interest in cars/bikes etc. Not an easy thing to do and really why should I.

[antspants]

Well today's lunch date showed what a great photo some people can take
To be fair she was lovely and I had a nice lunch but won't be seeing her again.

[shirt]

anonymous said:

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Shhhhh, you’re spoiling it.

This thread changes with the phases of the moon. At the moment we’re at waxing cringe. Better just to watch than engage.

[shirt]

EL11SEG said:

Genuine question Gretchen, in the dating world do you find some men are intimidated by your interests? I've been told to 'dumb down' my interest in cars/bikes etc. Not an easy thing to do and really why should I.

I’m sure some men would be, ergo they aren’t the men for you.

[magooagain]

shirt said:

EL11SEG said:

Genuine question Gretchen, in the dating world do you find some men are intimidated by your interests? I've been told to 'dumb down' my interest in cars/bikes etc. Not an easy thing to do and really why should I.

And yet! That's what I Allways wanted and found her eventually in Mrs Magoo.
She's good on the cement mixer,can drive the track car,has a full bike license,drives a bus for a living ,a wonder in the kitchen and a xxxxx in the bedroom.
Happy days.

[anonymous-user]

davek_964 said:

mcdjl said:

Gretchen said:

davek_964 said:

Vyse said:

Whats the max distance people are willing to travel to meet someone? I may have set my distance too far and so some of my matches are pointless even if the girl is hawt!

Don't think I'd go further than 20, and I'd prefer to keep it under 10.

Have you ever experienced rural village life?

Definitely a city thing. I lived 13 miles from 3 cities. That was too far for some women who lived in any of them to travel out with direct bus/train links for those that didn't drive- doing all the travelling does wear. On the other hand i did end up in a relationship which was 20miles each way

To be fair - I did once start chatting to a French girl who lived in Cannes on the dating sites many years ago - and it ended up with her moving to the UK.
So I guess my distance limit used to be greater!

By coincidence - I'm having coffee with her on Sunday - will be the first time I've seen her in quite a few years.

Myself I found it's a travel time thing more than distance.

I live in North Hampshire and very close to an motorway junction so 20 miles up or down the M3 is say 20mins travel, but 20 miles via single lane A roads or B roads well that could be 40 mins.

Also kind of dependent on how willing the other person is too travel to see me too. The last ex didn't drive, lived about 20 miles away, but did make the effort to use public transport to come to see me. The ex before that drove, lived about 30 miles away, and only made the effort about once in the 6 months I was seeing her.

[technodup]

It'll probably amuse some here that my luck ran out last night, to the point where I was ghosted in person.

Was at the bar at 7 with a drink ready for her, she rolls in at 5 past, all good. She buys the next round and before she'd drunk any of it got a message, supposedly from her son. She went out to phone him, and never came back. As she was taking a while I checked my phone and saw she'd blocked me on Whatsapp, so I finished both our drinks and left.

Utterly inexplicable. I'd met her for lunch earlier in the week so it couldn't have been a case of my face not matching my pics. We'd only had one drink so hadn't the chance to do or say anything outrageous. The night, location and time was all her idea.

I can only assume she had a better offer. I did quite like her (to that point anyway!) so I wondered if there was an real emergency and she was embarrassed at having to leave, hence the block but I think that's giving too much benefit of the doubt.

Fortunately I was only 3mins from my front door and I have a previous one lined up for Monday but I must admit it rankles that there was nothing by way of explanation. Even a text saying it's not happening, you're a prick or whatever before the block would have been something.

[elanfan]

OK - you’re a prick!

Feel a bit better now?

[technodup]

elanfan said:

OK - you’re a prick!

Feel a bit better now?

I'd understand it if I'd said or done something to warrant being called a prick, but I was on best behaviour.

Fortunately I see the whole thing as a bit of a game, but I can see how some might be quite put off by the experience.

[EL11SEG]

technodup said:

It'll probably amuse some here that my luck ran out last night, to the point where I was ghosted in person.

Was at the bar at 7 with a drink ready for her, she rolls in at 5 past, all good. She buys the next round and before she'd drunk any of it got a message, supposedly from her son. She went out to phone him, and never came back. As she was taking a while I checked my phone and saw she'd blocked me on Whatsapp, so I finished both our drinks and left.

Utterly inexplicable. I'd met her for lunch earlier in the week so it couldn't have been a case of my face not matching my pics. We'd only had one drink so hadn't the chance to do or say anything outrageous. The night, location and time was all her idea.

I can only assume she had a better offer. I did quite like her (to that point anyway!) so I wondered if there was an real emergency and she was embarrassed at having to leave, hence the block but I think that's giving too much benefit of the doubt.

Fortunately I was only 3mins from my front door and I have a previous one lined up for Monday but I must admit it rankles that there was nothing by way of explanation. Even a text saying it's not happening, you're a prick or whatever before the block would have been something.

She could have popped back in and said sorry I have to go. That's a really stty thing to do to someone, and if that's how she treats men you have dodged a bullet.

[GTI16V]

technodup said:

It'll probably amuse some here that my luck ran out last night, to the point where I was ghosted in person.

Was at the bar at 7 with a drink ready for her, she rolls in at 5 past, all good. She buys the next round and before she'd drunk any of it got a message, supposedly from her son. She went out to phone him, and never came back. As she was taking a while I checked my phone and saw she'd blocked me on Whatsapp, so I finished both our drinks and left.

Utterly inexplicable. I'd met her for lunch earlier in the week so it couldn't have been a case of my face not matching my pics. We'd only had one drink so hadn't the chance to do or say anything outrageous. The night, location and time was all her idea.

I can only assume she had a better offer. I did quite like her (to that point anyway!) so I wondered if there was an real emergency and she was embarrassed at having to leave, hence the block but I think that's giving too much benefit of the doubt.

Fortunately I was only 3mins from my front door and I have a previous one lined up for Monday but I must admit it rankles that there was nothing by way of explanation. Even a text saying it's not happening, you're a prick or whatever before the block would have been something.

That's