Match.com (Volume 6)
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George Smiley said:
Yup, some gents still left
Just finally ended a relationship that had lurched on life support since our 1st anniversary last year
Took her to the pub we met in, booked same table, presents hidden behind bar brought out with food. I was really pleased with myself
30 minutes later she’s laying into me saying I’m thoughtless amongst other traits, because I’m still friends with my daughters mums family I’m still in love with that ex (of 12 years). I knew then but for whatever excuse it continued
Ritual belittling and undermining until I reacted then I’m called angry, I blame her and then I’m an abuser as abusers always blame the victim (f
king logic bomb)
Give it a few months and I’ll dust down the tinder account
Women!
you seem to be confusing 'gentleman' with 'doormat'Just finally ended a relationship that had lurched on life support since our 1st anniversary last year
Took her to the pub we met in, booked same table, presents hidden behind bar brought out with food. I was really pleased with myself
30 minutes later she’s laying into me saying I’m thoughtless amongst other traits, because I’m still friends with my daughters mums family I’m still in love with that ex (of 12 years). I knew then but for whatever excuse it continued
Ritual belittling and undermining until I reacted then I’m called angry, I blame her and then I’m an abuser as abusers always blame the victim (f
king logic bomb)Give it a few months and I’ll dust down the tinder account
Women!
shirt said:
George Smiley said:
Yup, some gents still left
Just finally ended a relationship that had lurched on life support since our 1st anniversary last year
Took her to the pub we met in, booked same table, presents hidden behind bar brought out with food. I was really pleased with myself
30 minutes later she’s laying into me saying I’m thoughtless amongst other traits, because I’m still friends with my daughters mums family I’m still in love with that ex (of 12 years). I knew then but for whatever excuse it continued
Ritual belittling and undermining until I reacted then I’m called angry, I blame her and then I’m an abuser as abusers always blame the victim (fking logic bomb)
Give it a few months and I’ll dust down the tinder account
Women!
you seem to be confusing 'gentleman' with 'doormat'Just finally ended a relationship that had lurched on life support since our 1st anniversary last year
Took her to the pub we met in, booked same table, presents hidden behind bar brought out with food. I was really pleased with myself
30 minutes later she’s laying into me saying I’m thoughtless amongst other traits, because I’m still friends with my daughters mums family I’m still in love with that ex (of 12 years). I knew then but for whatever excuse it continued
Ritual belittling and undermining until I reacted then I’m called angry, I blame her and then I’m an abuser as abusers always blame the victim (f
king logic bomb)Give it a few months and I’ll dust down the tinder account
Women!
There’s a difference between being a gent/doormat and sex for the sake of it. My lesson from the past is it’s better to have a w
k than just fk a girl If it was offered on the first date she’s not a keeper, probably throws it out, and I’m not after that I’m after the more sensual side not just a f
k We just have different views
porn, and particular Internet porn removes many of the complexities that are bundled with meat sex (not sure what the term is!), even for some partnered/married people. In future it will either be seen as a massive problem, or of course we may just give up trying to fk each other.
Women for example, they all moan that Men don't understand how to fk them properly, but they don't realise that they literally all want something different. Men are really fking simple.
k each other. Women for example, they all moan that Men don't understand how to f
k them properly, but they don't realise that they literally all want something different. Men are really fking simple. Blown2CV said:
Women for example, they all moan that Men don't understand how to fk them properly, but they don't realise that they literally all want something different. Men are really fking simple.
This is so true. Recent dates of mine have the usual stuff in their profiles but when you actually talk to them they were all different and the one area where the difference was so stark was around sex. For me I’m pretty open and clear about what I want. They are all over 40 so it’s not like sex is new to them and it is liberating for me to talk in this way since it sifts out the b*llsh*tters very quickly. Nothing worse than to be dragged along in a conversation with no possibility of a date. k them properly, but they don't realise that they literally all want something different. Men are really fking simple. Blown2CV said:
porn, and particular Internet porn removes many of the complexities that are bundled with meat sex (not sure what the term is!), even for some partnered/married people. In future it will either be seen as a massive problem, or of course we may just give up trying to fk each other.
Women for example, they all moan that Men don't understand how to fk them properly, but they don't realise that they literally all want something different. Men are really fking simple.
This comes from experience sleeping with men too, I take it?k each other. Women for example, they all moan that Men don't understand how to f
k them properly, but they don't realise that they literally all want something different. Men are really fking simple. I think there is a balance between not having sex with someone you don't want to be in a relationship with, and not being forward enough so they start to think you are not interested at all. Likewise I think if you go too quickly and it's all about sex then you risk not giving the impression you are interested in anything else. I guess that's where the old '3 date' rule works as a happy medium.
Greenmantle said:
This is so true. Recent dates of mine have the usual stuff in their profiles but when you actually talk to them they were all different and the one area where the difference was so stark was around sex. For me I’m pretty open and clear about what I want. They are all over 40 so it’s not like sex is new to them and it is liberating for me to talk in this way since it sifts out the b*llsh*tters very quickly. Nothing worse than to be dragged along in a conversation with no possibility of a date.
This is where the online thing is excellent. In my parents day you'd meet at the school dance or whatever, start 'courting' and it would be a while (sometimes even be married) before you had sex. And presumably if it was st you just had to lump it. Now I can be pretty sure before I even meet someone what they are going to be like. It's still strange though, I'm meeting one from POF tomorrow and I already know for certain I will have a great time on date 2 or 3, as she's been quite explicit about what will happen. I'm meeting one from a swingers site on Tues and she's as shy and coy as f
k. As the yanks say, go figure.The number of messages I receive suddenly increased, mostly from women in their fifties. So I logged on to see what had happened.
My profile had been hacked. The photo was of a 50ish sort of David Gandy. He'd been messaging the women and some had replied, mostly positively.
So there's the answer to getting replies to your messages. Just put up a photo of some "hunk", send some messages and wait for the replies.
My profile had been hacked. The photo was of a 50ish sort of David Gandy. He'd been messaging the women and some had replied, mostly positively.
So there's the answer to getting replies to your messages. Just put up a photo of some "hunk", send some messages and wait for the replies.
Thankyou4calling said:
Fermit and Sexy Sarah said:
Some girls do just like older men though. At 36 I was seeing a 20 year old, and at 31 i was seeing a 19 y/o. It does happen. Just keep your guard up, and if it turns out to be legit then fill your boots!
52 here and my girlfriend is 31. The difference is absolutely no issue to us st all. We get on fantastically well and have plenty in common. 
Ari said:
Thankyou4calling said:
Fermit and Sexy Sarah said:
Some girls do just like older men though. At 36 I was seeing a 20 year old, and at 31 i was seeing a 19 y/o. It does happen. Just keep your guard up, and if it turns out to be legit then fill your boots!
52 here and my girlfriend is 31. The difference is absolutely no issue to us st all. We get on fantastically well and have plenty in common. If I were 94 I'd be smitten
Blown2CV said:
porn, and particular Internet porn removes many of the complexities that are bundled with meat sex (not sure what the term is!), even for some partnered/married people. In future it will either be seen as a massive problem
It already is a big problem, albeit not really discussed. There is an almost limitless supply of different boobs to look at and porn is simply like a shopping list of what you like; our brains simply are not evolved to deal with an over stimulation of sex. Ari said:
So presumably you'd have 'no issue' dating a 73 year old woman, provided you got on 'fantastically well' and had 'plenty in common'?
There’s no way I’d date a woman older than me.Women get old physically at a phenomenal rate once they pass 40 so I don’t find them attractive at all.
I know there are the vordermans and Hurleys of the world but on the whole a 50 year old man will have a lot more about him than a 50 year old woman.
Speaking for myself, as noted earlier in this thread I’ve dated women in excess of 30 years younger than me, the opposite ain’t gonna happen.
Thankyou4calling said:
There’s no way I’d date a woman older than me.
Women get old physically at a phenomenal rate once they pass 40 so I don’t find them attractive at all.
I know there are the vordermans and Hurleys of the world but on the whole a 50 year old man will have a lot more about him than a 50 year old woman.
Speaking for myself, as noted earlier in this thread I’ve dated women in excess of 30 years younger than me, the opposite ain’t gonna happen.
Do you read what you write? You sound like some predatory grandad! Women get old physically at a phenomenal rate once they pass 40 so I don’t find them attractive at all.
I know there are the vordermans and Hurleys of the world but on the whole a 50 year old man will have a lot more about him than a 50 year old woman.
Speaking for myself, as noted earlier in this thread I’ve dated women in excess of 30 years younger than me, the opposite ain’t gonna happen.
wormus said:
Thankyou4calling said:
There’s no way I’d date a woman older than me.
Women get old physically at a phenomenal rate once they pass 40 so I don’t find them attractive at all.
I know there are the vordermans and Hurleys of the world but on the whole a 50 year old man will have a lot more about him than a 50 year old woman.
Speaking for myself, as noted earlier in this thread I’ve dated women in excess of 30 years younger than me, the opposite ain’t gonna happen.
Do you read what you write? You sound like some predatory grandad! Women get old physically at a phenomenal rate once they pass 40 so I don’t find them attractive at all.
I know there are the vordermans and Hurleys of the world but on the whole a 50 year old man will have a lot more about him than a 50 year old woman.
Speaking for myself, as noted earlier in this thread I’ve dated women in excess of 30 years younger than me, the opposite ain’t gonna happen.
Thankyou4calling said:
Fermit and Sexy Sarah said:
Some girls do just like older men though. At 36 I was seeing a 20 year old, and at 31 i was seeing a 19 y/o. It does happen. Just keep your guard up, and if it turns out to be legit then fill your boots!
52 here and my girlfriend is 31. The difference is absolutely no issue to us st all. We get on fantastically well and have plenty in common. I read somewhere(maybe here) that the ideal equation for a partner is half the man's age plus 7 years.
As a 50something there seem to be very few early thirties women on dating sites who will look for or accept a 50something man.
wormus said:
Do you read what you write? You sound like some predatory grandad!
I’m not a grandad nd I’m not predatory. A 20 year gap is pretty common I’d say. I went to Dubai with a 22 year old as I referred previously
There’s clearly a broad range of 50 year olds, men and women.
Some are signing up for Saga magazine others are looking at GQ.
I’m the latter.
Which are you!
Edited by Thankyou4calling on Friday 26th April 05:40
Jagmanv12 said:
I read somewhere(maybe here) that the ideal equation for a partner is half the man's age plus 7 years.
That's meant to be the minimum iirc, i.e. don't go any lower than that or it starts to look bad, not good.I'd pity a 50yo with a 20yo. The guy will believe everyone think's he's alpha af, but really everyone is thinking it's a bit tragic and is assuming he's paying her.
technodup said:
hat's meant to be the minimum iirc, i.e. don't go any lower than that or it starts to look bad, not good.
I'd pity a 50yo with a 20yo. The guy will believe everyone think's he's alpha af, but really everyone is thinking it's a bit tragic and is assuming he's paying her.
And if he is not, who is winning? Him with a fresh body 20yr old or the alternative....I'd pity a 50yo with a 20yo. The guy will believe everyone think's he's alpha af, but really everyone is thinking it's a bit tragic and is assuming he's paying her.
technodup said:
hat's meant to be the minimum iirc, i.e. don't go any lower than that or it starts to look bad, not good.
I'd pity a 50yo with a 20yo. The guy will believe everyone think's he's alpha af, but really everyone is thinking it's a bit tragic and is assuming he's paying her.
The lady’s I see are not going to Harvester or be treated to a Trip to Next.I'd pity a 50yo with a 20yo. The guy will believe everyone think's he's alpha af, but really everyone is thinking it's a bit tragic and is assuming he's paying her.
Am I paying? There’s no cash given but of course like us all there is a transaction an that involves handbags, shoes and nights out at fancy bars.
It’d be the same if I were 50 or 25.
The type of woman that appeals to me is glamorous and that takes effort.
I’m under no illusions that if I drove a 53 reg Corsa and shopped at Matalan I wouldn’t be punching above my weight.
But I don’t so I do .
If people look at me as tragic ( and I’d say most are too bothered about themselves to worry about me) that’s there issue.
I enjoy being with a beautiful woman and there aren’t many of those who are my age.
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