Being told " I don't love you anymore"
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Good luck SR
I will place this months salary on the other man getting cold feet, then ignoring her and ending it
She will then feel lost lonely and rejected, just as you have accepted it and are moving on, she will then beg you back....Dont go there (I have in past)
Good luck again tis a tough situation
I will place this months salary on the other man getting cold feet, then ignoring her and ending it
She will then feel lost lonely and rejected, just as you have accepted it and are moving on, she will then beg you back....Dont go there (I have in past)
Good luck again tis a tough situation
dumab said:
Nice assumptions.
I don't pay child maintenance because I have agreed 50/50 custody, and on the balance of the year have my child more than my ex wife. She wants for nothing, especially my time.
I don't pay my ex wife maintenance as she got half the house, and earns parity with me.
Good for you.I don't pay child maintenance because I have agreed 50/50 custody, and on the balance of the year have my child more than my ex wife. She wants for nothing, especially my time.
I don't pay my ex wife maintenance as she got half the house, and earns parity with me.
I read when I was going for 50/50 shared care of my own kids, that in legal jurisdictions where 50/50 is now automatically assumed by the courts, [predominantly female-initiated] divorce rates have plummeted. I know my ex was a total wreck over 'missing the kids' when I had them most of the time. They are all too happy to trash a family and leave the father having every other weekend, but 'only' having the kids half the time sends many of them into despair.
I know its the Wail, but this is interesting
dumab said:
N-TY4C said:
Not paying maintenance for your children is nothing to be proud of. I remember that my dad was a very wealthy man owning his own accountancy firm, pay very little to my mum. We struggled when he could clearly have done more. His explanation was that if she was struggling she should have given us up. I just remember thinking that he really did not care about us at all. To make things worse he decided to put us in posh schools but would not buy us the uniforms and eventually stopped paying the fees. So we had everything second hand, it was awful. We had a great education but I just remember as a child not understanding my dad.
Nice assumptions. I don't pay child maintenance because I have agreed 50/50 custody, and on the balance of the year have my child more than my ex wife. She wants for nothing, especially my time.
I don't pay my ex wife maintenance as she got half the house, and earns parity with me.
Cut up her credit cards
Get hold of the finances, especially bank accounts
Get all your financial records together
Get a brief
Don't believe a word out of her mouth
She's moved on
Read up on wikivorce.com
I'd bet the house she's met this guy several times
Mediation is good
It would save you a fortune.
Good luck
Get hold of the finances, especially bank accounts
Get all your financial records together
Get a brief
Don't believe a word out of her mouth
She's moved on
Read up on wikivorce.com
I'd bet the house she's met this guy several times
Mediation is good
It would save you a fortune.
Good luck
Not read a lot of the posts in this thread but just wanted to comment and say I hope everyone who is going through a tough time comes out the other side. Its not a nice place to be i know.
I got divorced last year, my (now ex) husband had an affair with someone he worked with and felt it appropriate to text me to tell me! He left, left me to deal with sorting the house and finances out etc. Just very lucky we had no children (just the 2 cats that I kept) and the house was rented!
Really feel for you with families, makes it so much harder.
I got divorced last year, my (now ex) husband had an affair with someone he worked with and felt it appropriate to text me to tell me! He left, left me to deal with sorting the house and finances out etc. Just very lucky we had no children (just the 2 cats that I kept) and the house was rented!
Really feel for you with families, makes it so much harder.
Emmapuma said:
I got divorced last year, my (now ex) husband had an affair with someone he worked with and felt it appropriate to text me to tell me! He left, left me to deal with sorting the house and finances out etc. Just very lucky we had no children (just the 2 cats that I kept) and the house was rented!
Result!!!Complete turn around today
Long story short, I'm having issues getting housing through work, so I told the ex, asked her to move out and I'll take full custody, parental responsibility, and financial responsibility for the household. She agreed!!
It's not a permanent solution, but in the short to medium term, it works.
It gives me the breathing space to get back on track and move forward. She will need to find somewhere in the local area to be near the kids, but by me staying in the house, It changes my eligibility criteria for housing through work. If I can then get a new place then we can look at either her moving back in and taking over the mortgage, selling up, or just letting the place out as a shared asset.
In a much better place in my head now, I think a bit of attention from POF and tinder might be helping
Long story short, I'm having issues getting housing through work, so I told the ex, asked her to move out and I'll take full custody, parental responsibility, and financial responsibility for the household. She agreed!!
It's not a permanent solution, but in the short to medium term, it works.
It gives me the breathing space to get back on track and move forward. She will need to find somewhere in the local area to be near the kids, but by me staying in the house, It changes my eligibility criteria for housing through work. If I can then get a new place then we can look at either her moving back in and taking over the mortgage, selling up, or just letting the place out as a shared asset.
In a much better place in my head now, I think a bit of attention from POF and tinder might be helping
frodo_monkey said:
Are you military mate? If so, go see your local HIVE/SSAFA rep ASAP... you sound like you're getting to grips with the situation very well, but definitely let those guys/girls help.
I've got contact details for my local AFF and AWS reps, not needed them yet but they are there just incase. Whattodonow said:
Complete turn around today
Long story short, I'm having issues getting housing through work, so I told the ex, asked her to move out and I'll take full custody, parental responsibility, and financial responsibility for the household. She agreed!!
It's not a permanent solution, but in the short to medium term, it works.
It gives me the breathing space to get back on track and move forward. She will need to find somewhere in the local area to be near the kids, but by me staying in the house, It changes my eligibility criteria for housing through work. If I can then get a new place then we can look at either her moving back in and taking over the mortgage, selling up, or just letting the place out as a shared asset.
In a much better place in my head now, I think a bit of attention from POF and tinder might be helping
Very well played - as I said before - mine lapped up the opprtunity for all this wonderful new childfree time with hew exciting lover. Meanwhile I was strengthening my bonds with our children, giving them stability, and also setting a precedent for shared care that invalidated any claim she may have for maintenance.Long story short, I'm having issues getting housing through work, so I told the ex, asked her to move out and I'll take full custody, parental responsibility, and financial responsibility for the household. She agreed!!
It's not a permanent solution, but in the short to medium term, it works.
It gives me the breathing space to get back on track and move forward. She will need to find somewhere in the local area to be near the kids, but by me staying in the house, It changes my eligibility criteria for housing through work. If I can then get a new place then we can look at either her moving back in and taking over the mortgage, selling up, or just letting the place out as a shared asset.
In a much better place in my head now, I think a bit of attention from POF and tinder might be helping
Keep this arrangement going for as long as possible - do not do anything that might rock the boat. Keep your detailed records of where they stay and with who. Most of all, enjoy spending the extra time with them and beinf close to them at a time when they need reassurance and consistency more than ever.
Personally I was not domesticated in the slighest and it was a daunting prospect keeping up with the household stuff single-handedly, but its surprising how quickly it became second nature. Now I keep a tidier house than the ex ever did!
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