Being told " I don't love you anymore"
Discussion
Steve H said:
zygalski said:
So, things I have learnt from this thread.
1. It's always the woman's fault.
2. There's no such thing to another side to the story.
3. 'They' are all asset grabbing snakes with tits, apart from once you've find a new partner. Then they're the best thing that ever happened to you.
It's not difficult to understand how those of you expressing these sentiments struggle in relationships.
I wonder what it would have been like to have been a fly on the wall in some of these unjustifiably wronged PH'er relationships?
TBF it's mostly blokes posting and they are hardly going to see it from the other side any more than the other side will see it from theirs.1. It's always the woman's fault.
2. There's no such thing to another side to the story.
3. 'They' are all asset grabbing snakes with tits, apart from once you've find a new partner. Then they're the best thing that ever happened to you.
It's not difficult to understand how those of you expressing these sentiments struggle in relationships.
I wonder what it would have been like to have been a fly on the wall in some of these unjustifiably wronged PH'er relationships?
In many cases the asset grabbing etc is just describing the logistics of many relationship break-ups. Look two posts above yours and see that men can/do act in the same way when roles are reversed.
It’s still mostly the woman. I have to remind her that whilst she may be right to think of him as a t
t, she’s the one that has removed his daughter from him (even if she encourages access). Monkeylegend said:
George Smiley said:
It’s still mostly the woman.
For every woman who has an affair or goes off with somebody else there is usually a man helping.Except on the rare occasions they might swing the other way.
s and quite capably make an arse of a marriage which was, at one time, a great thing. Some women are snakes with tits but not all, in the same vein as some blokes are utter fuds but not all. As an earlier poster pointed out, this thread is bound to seem biased due to the demography of the posters; it'd be the polar opposite if you viewed it on the vipers nest, sorry, Mumsnet
Initforthemoney said:
MDMA . said:
Initforthemoney said:
I didn't realise this thread was 'serious'!
Must admit, my woman is always there for me rain or shine, although i did have to go through a few to find her.
Chin up guys!
Can't beat a Thai bride Must admit, my woman is always there for me rain or shine, although i did have to go through a few to find her.
Chin up guys!
Cost me a f
king fortune.
king fortune Well, the nice wife attitude didn't last long. I'm now the bad person because I told our daughter off. 
'Daddy is a nasty man' were the words used by my daughter as her mum cuddled her. What's the point of trying to discipline a child if the other parent doesn't back you up?
I see the game is afoot.
'Daddy is a nasty man' were the words used by my daughter as her mum cuddled her. What's the point of trying to discipline a child if the other parent doesn't back you up?
I see the game is afoot.
I get the "D" word occasionally after something, usually trivial, has escalated. The conversation goes like this
Her: I think we should get divorced
Me: again?
Her I'm serious
Me: OK I'll call the bank tomorrow and get the shared account split
Her: Well don't you think we should try and resolve things?
Her: I think we should get divorced
Me: again?
Her I'm serious
Me: OK I'll call the bank tomorrow and get the shared account split
Her: Well don't you think we should try and resolve things?
funkyrobot said:
Well, the nice wife attitude didn't last long. I'm now the bad person because I told our daughter off.
'Daddy is a nasty man' were the words used by my daughter as her mum cuddled her. What's the point of trying to discipline a child if the other parent doesn't back you up?
I see the game is afoot.
Were you recording?'Daddy is a nasty man' were the words used by my daughter as her mum cuddled her. What's the point of trying to discipline a child if the other parent doesn't back you up?
I see the game is afoot.
As speaking in that manner to a small child about her dad is out of order. The courts take a dim view of a parent who is turning a child against the other parent.
hyphen said:
Oops.
OP- whats going on? My kids wouldn't say that even when i'm threatening them with a cold shower
I try to discipline our daughter when she has been naughty. Her mother doesn't back me up (although she is the first to moan when she has had a tough day with her).OP- whats going on? My kids wouldn't say that even when i'm threatening them with a cold shower
What then happens is my daughter doesn't seem to think me telling her off matters when my wife is around. My daughter said 'it's alright mummy we can ignore daddy' the other day.
I have no idea what little comments are being made when I'm not around. It's all part and parcel of the game though.
In the long run you can have the best of both worlds.
My ex is a poor parent. No discipline, but when she does discipline it’s just shouting at them. They generally get away with murder with their mum because she’s too bone idle to actually interact with them.
My kids (6 & 8) acknowledge that there are different rules in each respective home, but also “You tell us off more Daddy, but we have more fun with you too”.
Let your ex crack on with the stupid games, kids aren’t stupid and are far more perceptive than many give them credit for. As mine grow older I’m confident they’ll look back on their childhood and see their mother for what she is.
My ex is a poor parent. No discipline, but when she does discipline it’s just shouting at them. They generally get away with murder with their mum because she’s too bone idle to actually interact with them.
My kids (6 & 8) acknowledge that there are different rules in each respective home, but also “You tell us off more Daddy, but we have more fun with you too”.
Let your ex crack on with the stupid games, kids aren’t stupid and are far more perceptive than many give them credit for. As mine grow older I’m confident they’ll look back on their childhood and see their mother for what she is.
The kids will always sense the division between you whether it’s responsibly subtle or exacerbated by open hostility, and manipulate to their advantage. It’s natural. My 10 year old who is generally at the “Perfect” end of the behaviour spectrum will always start texting her mother if she’s been told off in my home, and equally I get the same barrage of messages (“I hate it here, mum’s a bh, I’m never coming here again” etc) if her mother puts her in her place.
Responsible parents put up a measure of uniformity and mutual respect for one another. Others will actually capitalise on this division to suit their own agenda which undermines the other parent’s role. It’s manipulative and abusive, and damned right a family court or any professional involved with child welfare would consider it to be also.
You should broach this with the ex. Perhaps meet in a mutual place like a coffee shop and treat it like a business meeting with an annoying client. You’re in a co-parenting relationship with the ex now.
Re the comment above mine - I have the sameness problem with discipline. I take a much firmer but also calm and consistent approach with my kids and they behave better for me.
The biggest problem I have now is the over-indulgent ex who (with the benefit of a non-working lifestyle and £1k/week of free money from me and you) literally invents endless activities, days out, shopping trips every single day of the week in some effort to indulge and treat the children into wanting to head back to hers. I work my backside off, have them every weekend, can barely afford holidays yet on the one working day of the summer hols when I’m off work (BH Monday) she takes the kids and gives them to one of her relatives for the day. Thanks for that!!
h, I’m never coming here again” etc) if her mother puts her in her place.Responsible parents put up a measure of uniformity and mutual respect for one another. Others will actually capitalise on this division to suit their own agenda which undermines the other parent’s role. It’s manipulative and abusive, and damned right a family court or any professional involved with child welfare would consider it to be also.
You should broach this with the ex. Perhaps meet in a mutual place like a coffee shop and treat it like a business meeting with an annoying client. You’re in a co-parenting relationship with the ex now.
Re the comment above mine - I have the sameness problem with discipline. I take a much firmer but also calm and consistent approach with my kids and they behave better for me.
The biggest problem I have now is the over-indulgent ex who (with the benefit of a non-working lifestyle and £1k/week of free money from me and you) literally invents endless activities, days out, shopping trips every single day of the week in some effort to indulge and treat the children into wanting to head back to hers. I work my backside off, have them every weekend, can barely afford holidays yet on the one working day of the summer hols when I’m off work (BH Monday) she takes the kids and gives them to one of her relatives for the day. Thanks for that!!
Edited by theboss on Monday 26th August 13:31
CharlesdeGaulle said:
George Smiley said:
Throw her out, keep your child
Better in the long run or you’re now bankrolling a child who will be poisoned against you
Don't be a Dick. How do facetious comments like this offer sensible advice or add any value?Better in the long run or you’re now bankrolling a child who will be poisoned against you
I’m serious. My daughters suffered from a mum who wanted me to be the devil, the one to be scared of. Simple things such as threats to call your dad when my girl plays up. I can go on but after a few years of counselling and support my daughters now able to finally see through the bulls
t. Turn back the clocks, I should have thrown the cheating w
e out and be done with her. Would have been upsetting for my daughter but better in the long run. Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff