Playful slaps with OH - Is it on?
Discussion
KrazyIvan said:
If you dump every girl because of some annoying habbit, your gonna be wking into a sock for a long time. Good luck.
An annoying habit is leaving the toilet seat down, or not leaving the teabag in long enough. Getting repeatedly hit in a relationship when you've said you don't like it is a bit more than an annoying habit.sc0tt said:
If i got slapped in the face i'd probably laugh because I'm not a massive baby.
If you are prepared to tolerate that within your relationship that's entirely your business. But I guess that there are some things you wouldn't tolerate that others would. What does that make you?StuntmanMike said:
Baryonyx said:
StottyEvo said:
I'd appreciate it if you didn't indulge me with your smart arse comments neither, especially when you know precisely what I'm getting at.
I take it you don't ride a motorbike as I don't think it'd be long before you'd be stuck in a wheel arch.
Remember that time you got chinned at a party when some lad insulted your car? WTF was that all about? I take it you don't ride a motorbike as I don't think it'd be long before you'd be stuck in a wheel arch.
mikerons88 said:
philthy said:
Had this happen to me.
Drunk and emotional, she slapped me.
I stopped dead, and told her in no uncertain terms that if she ever did it again, I would slap her back.
She did, so I did.
It's never happened since.
Beyond that, I would have bailed the following day.
You are all that is man.Drunk and emotional, she slapped me.
I stopped dead, and told her in no uncertain terms that if she ever did it again, I would slap her back.
She did, so I did.
It's never happened since.
Beyond that, I would have bailed the following day.
NateWM said:
I think a lot of you have misunderstood just how this went about, probably from the "playful" part in the title I admit.
It's simple really, she has done it a few times and each time she has done it, I made it very clear that I did NOT like it and that it would be preferable that she didn't do it again. If you didn't like your partner pinching your arm, or using too much teeth during a blowwy (sorry :hehe) then surely you would say something? I did not for one second think of this as domestic violence or myself as a victim of such, it was just an incredibly annoying situation that I wanted insight on. Thanks to advice here and having a good think, I have then decided to end the relationship. The slapping wasn't the only reason (i won't go into the others), but it was a big bloody part of it frankly, as having to tell her to stop multiple times already beforehand just made me think that she will probably never stop it.
My phone has been inundated with texts/calls from herself and friends/family ranging from utter rage and "Ohhh how could you, what a nasty piece of work you are" etc up to literal congratulations and invites for piss ups, and frankly I find it hilarious how a majority of people she has told seem to think I am the bad guy for not taking her back and trying to work it out. Well I'm sorry, but multiple attempts were made beforehand and none of them worked. No matter what though, the final fact is that I feel like I deserve to be happy in life, and that's not something I was getting from the relationship, at least not in a majority sense, as the stressful and rough times that naturally occur, far outweighed the good times.
Good move and for the right reasons. Ignore the macho bks on here. It's simple really, she has done it a few times and each time she has done it, I made it very clear that I did NOT like it and that it would be preferable that she didn't do it again. If you didn't like your partner pinching your arm, or using too much teeth during a blowwy (sorry :hehe) then surely you would say something? I did not for one second think of this as domestic violence or myself as a victim of such, it was just an incredibly annoying situation that I wanted insight on. Thanks to advice here and having a good think, I have then decided to end the relationship. The slapping wasn't the only reason (i won't go into the others), but it was a big bloody part of it frankly, as having to tell her to stop multiple times already beforehand just made me think that she will probably never stop it.
My phone has been inundated with texts/calls from herself and friends/family ranging from utter rage and "Ohhh how could you, what a nasty piece of work you are" etc up to literal congratulations and invites for piss ups, and frankly I find it hilarious how a majority of people she has told seem to think I am the bad guy for not taking her back and trying to work it out. Well I'm sorry, but multiple attempts were made beforehand and none of them worked. No matter what though, the final fact is that I feel like I deserve to be happy in life, and that's not something I was getting from the relationship, at least not in a majority sense, as the stressful and rough times that naturally occur, far outweighed the good times.
People can bang on about definitions as much as they like. The fact is that it has happened multiple times despite the op telling her it's unacceptable. We are all capable of one off mistakes but here we have a pattern that shows no sign of stopping. The op has to balance the unacceptable behaviour against everything else in the relationship and it's clear it isn't worth carrying on. Good luck op. You seem to have been very patient. I can't see how non-consensual violence has any place in an adult loving and healthy relationship.
trashbat said:
A hit from a 0.5 Barrett sniper rifle from 50mtrs wouldn't leave anyone in a fit state to do anything, glass window in the way or not. British snipers in Afghanistan were taking out the Taliban at 1.5 MILES distance.
As annoying and abusive as being slapped may be, I cant help but feel this might be a slight overreaction...(or in the wrong thread )
trashbat said:
A hit from a 0.5 Barrett sniper rifle from 50mtrs wouldn't leave anyone in a fit state to do anything, glass window in the way or not. British snipers in Afghanistan were taking out the Taliban at 1.5 MILES distance.
The rifle
The bullet
He's already said that they've split up, no need to shoot her.The rifle
The bullet
pork911 said:
hman said:
pork911 said:
hman said:
A long time ago a girl slapped me in the face pretty hard for a comment I made that at best that warranted a raised eyebrow.
My older sister and I used to fight quite a lot (and she fought like a man) so I instinctively and extremely quickly slapped the girl in the face.
The ststorm that followed from her friends, her and my own friends was enormous, " you cant do that" "you cant hit a girl" I said sorry, and told her that if you go around hitting people you have to expect that one of them is going to hit you back and you might not like it.
interestingMy older sister and I used to fight quite a lot (and she fought like a man) so I instinctively and extremely quickly slapped the girl in the face.
The ststorm that followed from her friends, her and my own friends was enormous, " you cant do that" "you cant hit a girl" I said sorry, and told her that if you go around hitting people you have to expect that one of them is going to hit you back and you might not like it.
were you surprised by the ststorm?
Newsflash: If you hit someone, then retaliation is a very distinct possibility.
I never saw her again, but I hope she might think twice about assaulting people in future.
Bring it.
Ari said:
Good move and for the right reasons. Ignore the macho bks on here.
Too right - she's showing early signs of the mental, it's just a warning of worse to come in the future. Too many partners (men and women) put up with things like this because they want to believe it'll get better, but it's more likely to get worse.And forget the break up sex, that could go wrong so many ways - she'll think you're trying to get back together, try and get up the duff, or beat you to a pulp!
TonyHetherington said:
NateWM said:
Truth be told, no. Lots of tears, frustration and confusion, followed lately by lots of calls and texts begging to give her another chance, she'll never do it again etc. If I'm honest, I have wondered whether it was a mistake, but I think I'll get over that, and all I have to do in think of the stress she has caused and it fades away.
Don't get me wrong, she's not a BAD person. Beautiful, funny, (mostly) caring...I just think something changed, as she really wasn't the same person that I fell in love with. I will always love her, I just think it had ran it's course.
You'll be sad for a week, then have the best time of your life Don't get me wrong, she's not a BAD person. Beautiful, funny, (mostly) caring...I just think something changed, as she really wasn't the same person that I fell in love with. I will always love her, I just think it had ran it's course.
dfen5 said:
TonyHetherington said:
NateWM said:
Truth be told, no. Lots of tears, frustration and confusion, followed lately by lots of calls and texts begging to give her another chance, she'll never do it again etc. If I'm honest, I have wondered whether it was a mistake, but I think I'll get over that, and all I have to do in think of the stress she has caused and it fades away.
Don't get me wrong, she's not a BAD person. Beautiful, funny, (mostly) caring...I just think something changed, as she really wasn't the same person that I fell in love with. I will always love her, I just think it had ran it's course.
You'll be sad for a week, then have the best time of your life Don't get me wrong, she's not a BAD person. Beautiful, funny, (mostly) caring...I just think something changed, as she really wasn't the same person that I fell in love with. I will always love her, I just think it had ran it's course.
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