I'm in turmoil over my brothers wedding !
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No, not having to make a speech, im fine with that. I'm best man and the stag do is arranged, no issues, even the fact his intended made a play for me on a previous occasion isn't stressing me at all.
BUT!
It's his second marriage and they already live together so they've decided, rather than have gifts, that people who go to the wedding should give them cash to spend as they wish.
Now, apart from the fact that I actually quite like choosing presents I'm really at a loss as to how much to give and the principle of it doesn't sit comfortably.
Anyway, in summary. If you were best man at your brothers wedding and he wanted money how much would you give. I need some pointers.
Thanks.
BUT!
It's his second marriage and they already live together so they've decided, rather than have gifts, that people who go to the wedding should give them cash to spend as they wish.
Now, apart from the fact that I actually quite like choosing presents I'm really at a loss as to how much to give and the principle of it doesn't sit comfortably.
Anyway, in summary. If you were best man at your brothers wedding and he wanted money how much would you give. I need some pointers.
Thanks.
Edited by Thankyou4calling on Sunday 2nd August 23:59
We asked for cash to spend on trips when on our honeymoon or a donation to the local cats protection rather than gifts when we got wed. There was no point in asking for stuff I already had and most of what we would want, would be too expensive to expect anybody to buy as a wedding gift, so I would just buy it myself. The older you get & the more times you are married the less likely you are to need stuff to furnish your house together I guess.
Excluding the old dears we had gifts/donations between £10-50 from family and friends, a few people gave nothing but to be honest I could not have given a monkeys, for me it was all about getting 140 of my family & friends together and having an awesome day. We got a few quid to go hot air ballooning, Swimming with manatees & a couple of shows & the rescue kitties got a shopping trolly full of grub. Everybody was a winner.
Don't sweat it, give what you want, what you can afford, it will be fine.
h0b0 said:
Not unusual in the U.S. Typically, you estimate how much they are paying for you to be there and give that in cash.
This is how to decide what to spend on a wedding present for normal guests so I'd stick to that. I think it's a tradition that the groom gives the best man a gift, so if he skimps on this, just sneak into the envelop and take a few quid out.;) Cash is fine but they should at least dress it up.
Several of my friends have asked for cash, but with the purpose being their honeymoon, and in theory for buying various specific items, like miles of flight or a visit to a wildlife park or whatever. They then sent back thank you cards with pictures or whatnot relating to that thing.
Several of my friends have asked for cash, but with the purpose being their honeymoon, and in theory for buying various specific items, like miles of flight or a visit to a wildlife park or whatever. They then sent back thank you cards with pictures or whatnot relating to that thing.
I've never had to do it but if if it was a friend asking for money then probably £100 max - maybe not even as much.
For family, £500 max but part of me thinks that's too much - for me, somewhere between £250 and £500.
Bit of a brass neck asking for cash though lol although I suppose they can buy what they want/need and won't end up with stuff they'll never use etc.
For family, £500 max but part of me thinks that's too much - for me, somewhere between £250 and £500.
Bit of a brass neck asking for cash though lol although I suppose they can buy what they want/need and won't end up with stuff they'll never use etc.
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