Maintaining friendships.
Discussion
RTB said:
That's about the size of it. I found that when my two were little (up to school age), my circle of friends shrank to essentially zero, whilst my wife's circle of friends grew at an almost exponential rate.
I still don't understand why new mums can form supportive friendship groups whilst new dads can't.
Tell me about it! At least I'm always available to babysit whenever she wants to go out with one of her groups of friends...I still don't understand why new mums can form supportive friendship groups whilst new dads can't.
I'm starting to feel a bit like the OP, I haven't moved, well I have, across town about 7 years ago, but I don't think it's that.
I have a great circle of friends, but we don't meet up as much, if at all.
The core of my circle are friends I've had since we all started school together at 4 years old, it's a hell of a bond but we're all turning 40 this year and I think 'taking stock'.
Really I think we might have drifted apart in our late 20s, when we stopped getting drunk every weekend, but most of us found a shared hobby that's kept us close for the last decade or more, but it seems to be in the decline at the moment, Kids, Work, 'Life' etc - we're all pretty busy and our free time doesn't always align. I think If I decided now, Monday Morning I fancied a beer after work on Friday, I'd struggle to find a mate who could meet me. Really my Social life has been reduced to meeting up with a mate, sometimes two or three for a cycle for a few hours 3 weekends out of 4 and a WhatsApp group that bursts into life for a couple of days every few months.
I thought I should extend my circle of friends, but it seems the oddest thing in the world these days, it's like dating but worse.
I have a great circle of friends, but we don't meet up as much, if at all.
The core of my circle are friends I've had since we all started school together at 4 years old, it's a hell of a bond but we're all turning 40 this year and I think 'taking stock'.
Really I think we might have drifted apart in our late 20s, when we stopped getting drunk every weekend, but most of us found a shared hobby that's kept us close for the last decade or more, but it seems to be in the decline at the moment, Kids, Work, 'Life' etc - we're all pretty busy and our free time doesn't always align. I think If I decided now, Monday Morning I fancied a beer after work on Friday, I'd struggle to find a mate who could meet me. Really my Social life has been reduced to meeting up with a mate, sometimes two or three for a cycle for a few hours 3 weekends out of 4 and a WhatsApp group that bursts into life for a couple of days every few months.
I thought I should extend my circle of friends, but it seems the oddest thing in the world these days, it's like dating but worse.
mike80 said:
Tell me about it! At least I'm always available to babysit whenever she wants to go out with one of her groups of friends...
This minor throwaway comment is one reason why there are not endless groups and gatherings for dads. Men aren't considered to be a caregiver of any significance. You don't babysit your own kids.
stuttgartmetal said:
Good luck with that one.
You don't decide the kids question.
Her hormones do that.
She has a career that that she doesn't want to give up. I have also told her that I do not want kids. We compromised on cats. She can have several cats. Cats I can handle. Maybe train them up to do my bidding You don't decide the kids question.
Her hormones do that.
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