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Parents would never take a penny off my sister or myself when we were living at home and working (both earning decent money for early 20s adults too) ... they just said they had no use for the cash and we should enjoy it while we could
Have to admit, I'll probably do the same with my daughter when she gets to the same situation (granted she is only 2 lol)
Have to admit, I'll probably do the same with my daughter when she gets to the same situation (granted she is only 2 lol)
I didn't pay my parents when I lived at home after uni. The deal was that I would save an amount equivalent to what I would have paid in rent (had I not been living at home), towards a house deposit.
We settled on a figure of ~£1,000 per month IIRC, but they never checked.
Essentially their attitude was "there's no point us taking money off you if we don't need it. However we're not giving you free accommodation so you can splurge it all."
I think they trusted me to be financially responsible - would have been a very different story if they hadn't.
We settled on a figure of ~£1,000 per month IIRC, but they never checked.
Essentially their attitude was "there's no point us taking money off you if we don't need it. However we're not giving you free accommodation so you can splurge it all."
I think they trusted me to be financially responsible - would have been a very different story if they hadn't.
Didn't pay anything towards board and lodging. Lived at my mum and dad's until I was 28, married, and with 2 kids 
. My two youngest siblings still live at home.
To be fair we normally paid random bills and the weekly shop but I think my mum and dad would have felt ashamed to charge us a formal rent. My eldest still lives with me and I wouldn't dream of charging her rent. In fact I'm dreading the day she moves out.
. My two youngest siblings still live at home.To be fair we normally paid random bills and the weekly shop but I think my mum and dad would have felt ashamed to charge us a formal rent. My eldest still lives with me and I wouldn't dream of charging her rent. In fact I'm dreading the day she moves out.
When I was 17 dad said he was going to start charging rent but never really followed up with it as he knew I was earning sod all.
Fast forward 11 years and I'm still here and still not paying rent. The situation has rather changed (we lost dad 10 years ago and I now own half the property) and I pay some of the bills as well as sort my own food/laundry/etc but I think mum is just happy with someone else in the house.
The girlfriend and I have raised the idea of getting a house together but both mum and her dad seem in denial about us moving out of the respective family homes
Fast forward 11 years and I'm still here and still not paying rent. The situation has rather changed (we lost dad 10 years ago and I now own half the property) and I pay some of the bills as well as sort my own food/laundry/etc but I think mum is just happy with someone else in the house.
The girlfriend and I have raised the idea of getting a house together but both mum and her dad seem in denial about us moving out of the respective family homes
I don't recall paying anything when I first started my apprenticeship but after I'd moved out then moved back in a year later (she turned out not to be 'the one') the agreement was that I paid the council tax which I though was very fair. It was a low band anyway, I think something like £90/month and only 10 months a year too ;-)
My mum was a single parent, 2 boys and earning two shakes above f
k all when we were at home. Wouldn't take a penny from us whenever we were still in education.
After I got back from uni I spent one summer there before I bought a house with my Mrs, tried to pay rent but she wouldn't take it on account it was only 3 months and I was off.
Conversely, my brother was living with her from 18-20 and working full time. She made him pay rent to cover the extra council tax and contribute towards food etc. When he moved out with his girlfriend she gave him about 80% of it back for furniture etc
She has since admitted that she felt I had my head screwed on with regards money, always saved a portion of my part time jobs wages for a rainy day, where as my brother spent every penny he earnt as a kid. So, she taught my brother the value of money by making him pay his way.
On the flip side, before I went to uni I was useless around the house and she forced me to cook family meals for 3 months so I would learn how to cook, my brother used to get up and voluntarily cook breakfast at weekends and the occasional dinner, so she didn't lecture him on food preparation.
Astute woman as it turned out as she adjusted the situation to suit the vastly different people we both are
k all when we were at home. Wouldn't take a penny from us whenever we were still in education. After I got back from uni I spent one summer there before I bought a house with my Mrs, tried to pay rent but she wouldn't take it on account it was only 3 months and I was off.
Conversely, my brother was living with her from 18-20 and working full time. She made him pay rent to cover the extra council tax and contribute towards food etc. When he moved out with his girlfriend she gave him about 80% of it back for furniture etc
She has since admitted that she felt I had my head screwed on with regards money, always saved a portion of my part time jobs wages for a rainy day, where as my brother spent every penny he earnt as a kid. So, she taught my brother the value of money by making him pay his way.
On the flip side, before I went to uni I was useless around the house and she forced me to cook family meals for 3 months so I would learn how to cook, my brother used to get up and voluntarily cook breakfast at weekends and the occasional dinner, so she didn't lecture him on food preparation.
Astute woman as it turned out as she adjusted the situation to suit the vastly different people we both are
1995 I was earning £300 a month working part-time after school and at the weekend.
Mum took £100 for board which I wasn't over the moon about, but accepted as fair.
I was spitting feathers 18 months later when my younger brother started doing the same and when my Mum asked for board he just said "no" he lived at home until he was 28 I think, never once paid a penny. Even now I've no idea how he pulled it off.
Mum took £100 for board which I wasn't over the moon about, but accepted as fair.
I was spitting feathers 18 months later when my younger brother started doing the same and when my Mum asked for board he just said "no" he lived at home until he was 28 I think, never once paid a penny. Even now I've no idea how he pulled it off.
Front bottom said:
Back in 1985, my first job was on the Youth Training Scheme.
It paid £27.30 a week, of which I volunteered to give my dad £7 each week as he was out of work at the time.
That left me just enough for bus fares to and from work and sandwiches for lunch. I had nothing left over. Pretty grim really.
I was doing the same thing at the same age. I moved into my own house at the age of 19.It paid £27.30 a week, of which I volunteered to give my dad £7 each week as he was out of work at the time.
That left me just enough for bus fares to and from work and sandwiches for lunch. I had nothing left over. Pretty grim really.
My brother had his kids pay rent whilst they were living with him. It caused quite a lot of grief and was a nightmare to get them to pay. However as they moved out he presented each one of them with a nice little cheque which represented the money they had paid in rent.
It was a good way of showing them that you can survive without spending every last penny every month and gave them a bit of spare cash when they did set out on their own.
It was a good way of showing them that you can survive without spending every last penny every month and gave them a bit of spare cash when they did set out on their own.
I paid 1/3 of my income to my Mum when I started work in 1986, then aged 16.
I found out it was cheaper to live in a shared flat with a mate, so I moved out in 1988 and never went back!
I've 2 teenage daughtersnow, and when they start work I will charge them for their keep, but I'll put the money aside for them as savings for their future. I don't need it.
I found out it was cheaper to live in a shared flat with a mate, so I moved out in 1988 and never went back!
I've 2 teenage daughtersnow, and when they start work I will charge them for their keep, but I'll put the money aside for them as savings for their future. I don't need it.
Recently sold the house so they're putting me up while I look for another....I pay no rent, I pay no utilities, I pay nothing for food and I even get my washing done. I'm very clean and tidy and they have a very big house so I'm not in the way.
All my mum asks is to help my Dad with gardening and throw in a meal out every now and then.
Missus will be joining me shortly...They won't want any money so we'll likely send them off somewhere nice as a thank you when we leave.....Which may be some time. I'm enjoying the easy life.
Mr Roper said:
Recently sold the house so they're putting me up while I look for another....I pay no rent, I pay no utilities, I pay nothing for food and I even get my washing done. I'm very clean and tidy and they have a very big house so I'm not in the way.
All my mum asks is to help my Dad with gardening and throw in a meal out every now and then.
Missus will be joining me shortly...They won't want any money so we'll likely send them off somewhere nice as a thank you when we leave.....Which may be some time. I'm enjoying the easy life.
I did this when I split with wife #1 ... lived back at home for about 4 years, its a slippery slop as I only intended to stay for 3-6mths lolAll my mum asks is to help my Dad with gardening and throw in a meal out every now and then.
Missus will be joining me shortly...They won't want any money so we'll likely send them off somewhere nice as a thank you when we leave.....Which may be some time. I'm enjoying the easy life.
alorotom said:
Mr Roper said:
Recently sold the house so they're putting me up while I look for another....I pay no rent, I pay no utilities, I pay nothing for food and I even get my washing done. I'm very clean and tidy and they have a very big house so I'm not in the way.
All my mum asks is to help my Dad with gardening and throw in a meal out every now and then.
Missus will be joining me shortly...They won't want any money so we'll likely send them off somewhere nice as a thank you when we leave.....Which may be some time. I'm enjoying the easy life.
I did this when I split with wife #1 ... lived back at home for about 4 years, its a slippery slop as I only intended to stay for 3-6mths lolAll my mum asks is to help my Dad with gardening and throw in a meal out every now and then.
Missus will be joining me shortly...They won't want any money so we'll likely send them off somewhere nice as a thank you when we leave.....Which may be some time. I'm enjoying the easy life.
I had a part time job when I was 18 (2002) and on a gapyah. Paid my parents 20 quid a week, which I initially thought was outrageous!
It was good for me though. Even paying a token amount (which it was, looking back) teaches you that you don't just get to spend your salary on things you want, sometimes you have to spend it on things you NEED first.
It was good for me though. Even paying a token amount (which it was, looking back) teaches you that you don't just get to spend your salary on things you want, sometimes you have to spend it on things you NEED first.
RTB said:
My brother had his kids pay rent whilst they were living with him. It caused quite a lot of grief and was a nightmare to get them to pay. However as they moved out he presented each one of them with a nice little cheque which represented the money they had paid in rent.
It was a good way of showing them that you can survive without spending every last penny every month and gave them a bit of spare cash when they did set out on their own.
I think that's a very good idea. My parents didn't, but I didn't need the money and they've helped me out far more since then. And would again, if I needed it.It was a good way of showing them that you can survive without spending every last penny every month and gave them a bit of spare cash when they did set out on their own.
My parents never asked for any money from me still live at home all though do chip in for food bill and pay for work needed on my parents cars service mot etc etc. Same with my sister who has now bought her first house after moving back home 12months ago to save for a house.
I'm enjoying my racing now while I can and while my dad is still fit and able to attend with me but am saving for a house of my own hopefully by end of next year once I get my racing bug out of me.
Don't think there is a right or wrong way up to parents to decided and don't think its fair for one to critise the other for the choice to or mot charge or rent etc.
I'm enjoying my racing now while I can and while my dad is still fit and able to attend with me but am saving for a house of my own hopefully by end of next year once I get my racing bug out of me.
Don't think there is a right or wrong way up to parents to decided and don't think its fair for one to critise the other for the choice to or mot charge or rent etc.
The OH's boy is 18/19. finished school in July. She is selling her house to move in with me. Told him tonight that come July he will be homeless as she can't support him with no benefits/alimony/increased council tax= £350/month.
He went and got an application for for a job at the pub we were in! Obviously not keen on being homeless.
He went and got an application for for a job at the pub we were in! Obviously not keen on being homeless.
Hogg jnr is 19 and on an apprenticeship, he picks up nearly £900 after stoppages. He gives his mam £200 a month, but doesn't realise it gets it nearly all back in packed lunches for the month. I'll give him his due, he's saving £300 a month towards a car as he doesn't want to buy one on finance. 
BossHogg said:
Hogg jnr is 19 and on an apprenticeship, he picks up nearly £900 after stoppages. He gives his mam £200 a month, but doesn't realise it gets it nearly all back in packed lunches for the month. I'll give him his due, he's saving £300 a month towards a car as he doesn't want to buy one on finance.
£200 a month on packed lunches?? What's in them? fking lobster?Edited by toastybase on Thursday 27th April 00:05
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