Dating an older woman
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Well....
We ended up being in a relationship until May last year, moved in together everything.
As many said on here ‘certain aspects’ of the relationship were unbelievable! It was this that probably blinded me of the red flags even early on. She admitted to struggling with issues and she has flitted from relationship to relationship throughout her life, she split up with her husband after just 8 months. To cut a long story short I found out she cheated on me, we split up, a few months go on she starts f
king my/our boss (we work in the same company). My boss has made the last few months a living hell, they being in a relationship and living together after a matter of weeks (he’s recently divorced with kids). This is where I make a massive clanger and am embarrassed to admit that I ended up sleeping with her just before Christmas, which I guess is an affair (he still doesn’t know) It happened a few times and I hugely regret it. Anywayyy she has now left to a new job, I think there was pressure from the company that they couldn’t work together, even though somehow HR ok’d it!?!?
My boss is now really gunning for me, Our working relationship is obviously non existent considering he got into a relationship with my ex and god knows what she told him to make him like he is. What would the consequences legally work wise be if I told him of the affair between me and his now girlfriend?
We ended up being in a relationship until May last year, moved in together everything.
As many said on here ‘certain aspects’ of the relationship were unbelievable! It was this that probably blinded me of the red flags even early on. She admitted to struggling with issues and she has flitted from relationship to relationship throughout her life, she split up with her husband after just 8 months. To cut a long story short I found out she cheated on me, we split up, a few months go on she starts f
king my/our boss (we work in the same company). My boss has made the last few months a living hell, they being in a relationship and living together after a matter of weeks (he’s recently divorced with kids). This is where I make a massive clanger and am embarrassed to admit that I ended up sleeping with her just before Christmas, which I guess is an affair (he still doesn’t know) It happened a few times and I hugely regret it. Anywayyy she has now left to a new job, I think there was pressure from the company that they couldn’t work together, even though somehow HR ok’d it!?!? My boss is now really gunning for me, Our working relationship is obviously non existent considering he got into a relationship with my ex and god knows what she told him to make him like he is. What would the consequences legally work wise be if I told him of the affair between me and his now girlfriend?
Edited by Baz2000 on Monday 20th January 21:36
Edited by Baz2000 on Monday 20th January 21:37
Baz2000 said:
Well....
We ended up being in a relationship until May last year, moved in together everything.
As many said on here ‘certain aspects’ of the relationship were unbelievable! It was this that probably blinded me of the red flags even early on. She admitted to struggling with issues and she has flirted from relationship to relationship throughout her life, she split up with her husband after just 8 months. To cut a long story short I found out she cheated on me, we split up a few months go on she starts fking my/our boss (we work in the same company). My boss has made the last few months a living hell, they in a relationship and living together after a matter of weeks (he’s recently divorced with kids). This is where I make a massive clanger and am embarrassed to admit that I ended up sleeping with her just before Christmas, which I guess is an affair (he still doesn’t know) It happened a few times and I hugely regret it. Anywayyy she has now left to a new job, I think there was pressure from the company that they couldn’t work together, even though somehow HR ok’d it!?!?
My boss is now really gunning for me, I working relationship is obviously non existent considering he got into a relationship with my ex and god knows what she told him to make him like he is. What would the consequences legally work wise if I told him of the affair between me and his now girlfriend?
A threesome might be a possible solution though try to avoid eye contact with your boss or it might feel slightly awkward.We ended up being in a relationship until May last year, moved in together everything.
As many said on here ‘certain aspects’ of the relationship were unbelievable! It was this that probably blinded me of the red flags even early on. She admitted to struggling with issues and she has flirted from relationship to relationship throughout her life, she split up with her husband after just 8 months. To cut a long story short I found out she cheated on me, we split up a few months go on she starts f
king my/our boss (we work in the same company). My boss has made the last few months a living hell, they in a relationship and living together after a matter of weeks (he’s recently divorced with kids). This is where I make a massive clanger and am embarrassed to admit that I ended up sleeping with her just before Christmas, which I guess is an affair (he still doesn’t know) It happened a few times and I hugely regret it. Anywayyy she has now left to a new job, I think there was pressure from the company that they couldn’t work together, even though somehow HR ok’d it!?!? My boss is now really gunning for me, I working relationship is obviously non existent considering he got into a relationship with my ex and god knows what she told him to make him like he is. What would the consequences legally work wise if I told him of the affair between me and his now girlfriend?
Baz2000 said:
Well....
We ended up being in a relationship until May last year, moved in together everything.
As many said on here ‘certain aspects’ of the relationship were unbelievable! It was this that probably blinded me of the red flags even early on. She admitted to struggling with issues and she has flitted from relationship to relationship throughout her life, she split up with her husband after just 8 months. To cut a long story short I found out she cheated on me, we split up, a few months go on she starts fking my/our boss (we work in the same company). My boss has made the last few months a living hell, they being in a relationship and living together after a matter of weeks (he’s recently divorced with kids). This is where I make a massive clanger and am embarrassed to admit that I ended up sleeping with her just before Christmas, which I guess is an affair (he still doesn’t know) It happened a few times and I hugely regret it. Anywayyy she has now left to a new job, I think there was pressure from the company that they couldn’t work together, even though somehow HR ok’d it!?!?
My boss is now really gunning for me, Our working relationship is obviously non existent considering he got into a relationship with my ex and god knows what she told him to make him like he is. What would the consequences legally work wise be if I told him of the affair between me and his now girlfriend?
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This is one for Dear Deirdre. We ended up being in a relationship until May last year, moved in together everything.
As many said on here ‘certain aspects’ of the relationship were unbelievable! It was this that probably blinded me of the red flags even early on. She admitted to struggling with issues and she has flitted from relationship to relationship throughout her life, she split up with her husband after just 8 months. To cut a long story short I found out she cheated on me, we split up, a few months go on she starts f
king my/our boss (we work in the same company). My boss has made the last few months a living hell, they being in a relationship and living together after a matter of weeks (he’s recently divorced with kids). This is where I make a massive clanger and am embarrassed to admit that I ended up sleeping with her just before Christmas, which I guess is an affair (he still doesn’t know) It happened a few times and I hugely regret it. Anywayyy she has now left to a new job, I think there was pressure from the company that they couldn’t work together, even though somehow HR ok’d it!?!? My boss is now really gunning for me, Our working relationship is obviously non existent considering he got into a relationship with my ex and god knows what she told him to make him like he is. What would the consequences legally work wise be if I told him of the affair between me and his now girlfriend?
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SCEtoAUX said:
A threesome might be a possible solution though try to avoid eye contact with your boss or it might feel slightly awkward.
The chance of scrotal contact is too high - and if there is one thing that is going to set this whole tinder box FUBAR it’s that. No. You need to be nuanced. Set up shop with the boss’ ex. Develop a close relationship with his children. ‘Gramme a few picks of you in his old favourite chair. Now you have his attention.
You need to keep this up for a while. 8-10 years should suffice. Then you do the big reveal. In a staff meeting (you will have also been seeing your ex on the side too, I forgot to mention this, and BOOM you drop this bombshell). NB make sure you have another job to go to first. But he will be LIVID. Fuming.
A cold dish of revenge served you can then crack on with your life
Baz2000 said:
Well....
We ended up being in a relationship until May last year, moved in together everything.
As many said on here ‘certain aspects’ of the relationship were unbelievable! It was this that probably blinded me of the red flags even early on. She admitted to struggling with issues and she has flitted from relationship to relationship throughout her life, she split up with her husband after just 8 months. To cut a long story short I found out she cheated on me, we split up, a few months go on she starts fking my/our boss (we work in the same company). My boss has made the last few months a living hell, they being in a relationship and living together after a matter of weeks (he’s recently divorced with kids). This is where I make a massive clanger and am embarrassed to admit that I ended up sleeping with her just before Christmas, which I guess is an affair (he still doesn’t know) It happened a few times and I hugely regret it. Anywayyy she has now left to a new job, I think there was pressure from the company that they couldn’t work together, even though somehow HR ok’d it!?!?
My boss is now really gunning for me, Our working relationship is obviously non existent considering he got into a relationship with my ex and god knows what she told him to make him like he is. What would the consequences legally work wise be if I told him of the affair between me and his now girlfriend?
Just to be serious for a moment. You have an HR department. Talk to them. If your boss is treating you unfairly due to personal issues dating from humping your ex girlfriend then he's the one in trouble.We ended up being in a relationship until May last year, moved in together everything.
As many said on here ‘certain aspects’ of the relationship were unbelievable! It was this that probably blinded me of the red flags even early on. She admitted to struggling with issues and she has flitted from relationship to relationship throughout her life, she split up with her husband after just 8 months. To cut a long story short I found out she cheated on me, we split up, a few months go on she starts f
king my/our boss (we work in the same company). My boss has made the last few months a living hell, they being in a relationship and living together after a matter of weeks (he’s recently divorced with kids). This is where I make a massive clanger and am embarrassed to admit that I ended up sleeping with her just before Christmas, which I guess is an affair (he still doesn’t know) It happened a few times and I hugely regret it. Anywayyy she has now left to a new job, I think there was pressure from the company that they couldn’t work together, even though somehow HR ok’d it!?!? My boss is now really gunning for me, Our working relationship is obviously non existent considering he got into a relationship with my ex and god knows what she told him to make him like he is. What would the consequences legally work wise be if I told him of the affair between me and his now girlfriend?
Edited by Baz2000 on Monday 20th January 21:36
Edited by Baz2000 on Monday 20th January 21:37
CS Garth said:
The chance of scrotal contact is too high - and if there is one thing that is going to set this whole tinder box FUBAR it’s that.
Not necessarily if a portable plasterboard panel could be mounted on wheels and moved to the side of the bed. The woman could partake of a second participant without actual contact between male A and male BThe OP may feel a bit foolish standing behind some plasterboard with his todger wedged through a hole but may also find it exciting
Oldandslow said:
Just to be serious for a moment. You have an HR department. Talk to them. If your boss is treating you unfairly due to personal issues dating from humping your ex girlfriend then he's the one in trouble.
I have been to HR, they have taken his side. Everyone else in the company is dumbfounded that HR have been ok with the relationship and is effectively line managing his girlfriend. He is a very senior manager and very good at manipulating. He has played the I’m the bitter ex card with any concerns I have raised to HR. techiedave said:
CS Garth said:
The chance of scrotal contact is too high - and if there is one thing that is going to set this whole tinder box FUBAR it’s that.
Not necessarily if a portable plasterboard panel could be mounted on wheels and moved to the side of the bed. The woman could partake of a second participant without actual contact between male A and male BThe OP may feel a bit foolish standing behind some plasterboard with his todger wedged through a hole but may also find it exciting
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