Too selfish for a girlfriend?
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HuntD said:
There is a massive misconception here about my finances, while the contents of all my posts are correct they are obviously only a synopsis of the whole situation. I don't want to post the specifics on here for obvious reasons not to mention talking about money is a little crass, but at the same time I feel like the custard test might calm a few of you down, although perhaps not.
For the record I did take her to Vegas on a separate trip and yes we did go premium economy…
Just stop posting. You're digging a big, big hole for yourself. For the record I did take her to Vegas on a separate trip and yes we did go premium economy…
GT03ROB said:
No no keep posting.... threads like this get better & better the more the OP digs......
You sure the OP won't pay for someone else to dig the hole for them? Sounds like they've got a fairly hefty disposable income. I'm good at digging and could do with some extra pocket money...Some polar opposite views on here!
My GF wants to get a place together, to pool our combined equity and buy one big place for us. She works part time, wednesday PM & Thursday/Friday.
I work full time.
If we get a place together can I reasonably expect her to find a full time job? She does gym and coffee mornings with other mums on her 2.5 days off. Or does it mean I can go PT and sit on my arse for 2.5 days of the week?
PH consensus please.
My GF wants to get a place together, to pool our combined equity and buy one big place for us. She works part time, wednesday PM & Thursday/Friday.
I work full time.
If we get a place together can I reasonably expect her to find a full time job? She does gym and coffee mornings with other mums on her 2.5 days off. Or does it mean I can go PT and sit on my arse for 2.5 days of the week?
PH consensus please.
WestyCarl said:
I can confirm this doesn't work. Went to Rome for a "Romantic" weekend with the wife last summer, as per usual I refused to pay for a specific seat on Easyjet so we ended up at opposite ends of the aircraft.
The pleasure of saving 6 quid soon disappeared when I had to fork out for overpriced champagne at the hotel to recover the situation.
Only had this once. Me upstairs in Club her downstairs with her kids in economy. Crew were good & understanding kept nipping back with champagne for her. It was unplanned though as I was on a last minute business trip & ended up on the same flight!! The pleasure of saving 6 quid soon disappeared when I had to fork out for overpriced champagne at the hotel to recover the situation.
HuntD said:
There is a massive misconception here about my finances, while the contents of all my posts are correct they are obviously only a synopsis of the whole situation.
<shrug> We can only go on what you've told us...HuntD said:
I don't want to post the specifics on here for obvious reasons not to mention talking about money is a little crass
<re-reads thread> uh-huh...HuntD said:
but at the same time I feel like the custard test might calm a few of you down, although perhaps not.
Fill yer boots, mate.Edited by TooMany2cvs on Thursday 25th May 14:39
jonah35 said:
I find it difficult to believe that, all else being equal, some people are saying theyd not prefer a trainee doctor as a partner to someone that works in a sandwich shop serving customers
I don't think anyone else has suggested that "all else was equal" was an option. You see when I met my girlfriend (who worked in retail, at the bottom) I didn't have the option of meeting an identical-in-every-way clone of hers who happened to be a hedge fund manager. It was her or someone else completely different and i wanted her. I think that's what everyone else has been saying.Whereas you appear to have been suggesting that you'd either not date, or even happily dump, the sandwich shop worker you love being with, find ridiculously attractive and have everything in common with (except for earnings) for someone else who happens to earn the same as you and so can share your love of fancy holidays and well-specced BMWs...
HuntD said:
....... not to mention talking about money is a little crass....
Is this a serious comment!?!? Your OP:
HuntD said:
I have been with my current girlfriend for 2 years but she only earns minimum wage and only ever will , this doesn't affect how much I love her or how special a person she is but what it does mean is if I want to do something that she can't afford I either have to pay for her, not do it at all, or do it on my own which will put her in a mood which will consequently put me in a mood.
The problem is I can't afford/don't want to pay for everything I want twice and when I tell her this she gets in a mood with me and her argument is always a moronic one "you have <insert expensive possession> but you won't pay for me".
For example a week long holiday with first class tickets in a nice hotel and activities every day is affordable when you go with friends everyone pays for themselves, but the price doubles when you have to pay for your girlfriend and it gets to a point where I'd rather not bother.
I know when there is a pay imbalance things will never be equal but she pays nothing to the mortgage or household bills, so what she earns is 100% disposal.
Am I being unreasonable or selfish? I'm still in my twenties so maybe I should stay single until later in life when I'm less bothered about having fun and new experiences.
I have illustrated all points related to 'money' above. Now tell me who is being crass!!The problem is I can't afford/don't want to pay for everything I want twice and when I tell her this she gets in a mood with me and her argument is always a moronic one "you have <insert expensive possession> but you won't pay for me".
For example a week long holiday with first class tickets in a nice hotel and activities every day is affordable when you go with friends everyone pays for themselves, but the price doubles when you have to pay for your girlfriend and it gets to a point where I'd rather not bother.
I know when there is a pay imbalance things will never be equal but she pays nothing to the mortgage or household bills, so what she earns is 100% disposal.
Am I being unreasonable or selfish? I'm still in my twenties so maybe I should stay single until later in life when I'm less bothered about having fun and new experiences.
You need to have a very long and good look at yourself. Your lack of support for your partner "she only earns minimum wage and only ever will", is shameful. I feel very sorry for her, as if she read this thread she would be heartbroken. As many have said before, she is far too good for you.
Perhaps the compromise is for you to be single (until you grow up) and just spend what you'd otherwise spend on your partner on hookers.
z4RRSchris said:
sc0tt said:
Go on then, i'll call custard rich boy...
maybe he just has rich parents? His other posts in J&E read that he got IT support job out of uni and the 2-4% pay rise every year and he's not happy with it.
I mean it could be anything, OP could have got compensation for something and is burning through it on upper-class tickets to Vegas?
Who knows, but it doesnt sound like its the job supporting his lifestyle.
Du1point8 said:
I mean it could be anything, OP could have got compensation for something and is burning through it on upper-class tickets to Vegas?
To be fair - 2.2k on a return flight is half decent value.I reckon I could drink about 600 quid's worth, each way. Would be tough, but I am serious when it comes to getting value for money.
HuntD said:
I recently paid £2200 return per person for upper class with Virgin Atlantic to go Vegas
Im calling Birds right here ... upto the beginning of the this year we have gone to Vegas 6-8 times a year for the passed 6years and havent seen UC Virgin prices at that level for quite some time, and definitely not in recent times even in their flight salesGassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff