Your worst relationship break up

[sc0tt]

I once got an australian working visa for a year.

"Surprise"...

[Emmapuma]

Nothing really explosive but my husband actually text me to tell me he had been having an affair and wouldn't come home.
9 years together, 5 years married and all I got was that. No explanation, no warning. Didn't have the balls to tell me face to face. Thought that was pretty crap to be honest.

[NBTBRV8]

Emmapuma said:

Nothing really explosive but my husband actually text me to tell me he had been having an affair and wouldn't come home.
9 years together, 5 years married and all I got was that. No explanation, no warning. Didn't have the balls to tell me face to face. Thought that was pretty crap to be honest.

And I think that is why some many women go nuts. Given that they invest so heavily in a relationship and then have it hit them with no talking or explanation they just can't handle it (somewhat understandably). To be fair the guys have probably been thinking about it for a while and not having the deep emotional ties women often get, they can reconcile it quickly and move on.

As tough as it is, I think discussions need to be had before the I'm off commitment is laid down.

[Gargamel]

Emmapuma said:

Nothing really explosive but my husband actually text me to tell me he had been having an affair and wouldn't come home.
9 years together, 5 years married and all I got was that. No explanation, no warning. Didn't have the balls to tell me face to face. Thought that was pretty crap to be honest.

er yeah, that is really crap

Either, he was too caring and sensitive to be able to handle the look on your face when he told you, and so did it to spare himself the hurt.
Or
He wondered whether you might actually bobbitt him there and then and so used the text.

Whichever, it says a lot more about him than you !

[sc0tt]

Await the white knights

[cheddar]

jdw100 said:

Went out with a girl for just under a year ....yes I was a st...

So the now ex let down all four tyres on my lovely white mk1 MR2 - on an E plate, T-bar roof - great car!

Selling a car is like making love to a beautiful lady............

[JimmyConwayNW]

Split up over her continual lies over really minor trivial stuff. Genuinely started to believe she had some form of mental illness.

Told me she had an abortion around some dates when she had been acting weirder than normal. Gave a very convincing story.

To this day I never actually know whether that was true or not despite a history of lies as it was very convincing.

Continues to create fake profiles / stalk me to this point.

[Chris7865677]

The only breakup that was hard for me was the first one. It still affects me 30 years later. Is that normal? I wish I could apologise for all heartbreak I caused.

[bobtail4x4]

I was about 18, we broke up due to the mental, real mental including self harm, one night she was waiting for me in the street with a knife, " If I cant have you" etc, calmed her down and sent her home, early hours of the morning she broke into our 2nd floor flat window with matches and petrol.
thank god my mum found her before she managed,

the police were convinced I had some involvement.

[Jamesgt]

When I broke up with my ex she moved out pretty immediately but she refused to believe it was over for a few months so she left a lot of her stuff over my house. I then met a new girl so i told my ex she MUST remove her stuff from my house. She arranged to do it while I was in work so I didn't need to see her. I returned from work to find my house empty! Curtains, cutlery, I mean almost everything gone. Only her sat there reading an email on my computer where I'd be slagging off her obese mum! I was left with 1 bed, tv, couple of ratty towels she didn't want and she was about to lift the computer until I came home and caught her. She even stole my spare alloy wheels.

To be fair to whole reason I broke up with her was her refusal to get a job and her mum saying if I loved her enough she wouldn't need to work, so her mum deserved it.

[anonymous-user]

Robbo 27 said:

Came home to a note, everything was gone, including my dog.

Wept for weeks.

1. Can understand that, Mine took my dog down to the vets, told them that it had bitten a child and she wanted it PTS.
2. She put a contract out on me to get a good shoeing by an outlaw biker gang.
3. Decided that the tactics she used on me would be just as good on the judge.

Results:

1. Worked a treat, caused me immense pain.
2. After being given 5 mins to justify myself before said shoeing would start, I explained my side resulting in the best weekend of my life.
3. Did not work a treat, Judge tore her numerous new holes, and ordered the sale of the house with full legal costs to me.

[Cotty]

Jamesgt said:

When I broke up with my ex she moved out pretty immediately but she refused to believe it was over for a few months so she left a lot of her stuff over my house. I then met a new girl so i told my ex she MUST remove her stuff from my house. She arranged to do it while I was in work so I didn't need to see her. I returned from work to find my house empty! Curtains, cutlery, I mean almost everything gone. Only her sat there reading an email on my computer where I'd be slagging off her obese mum! I was left with 1 bed, tv, couple of ratty towels she didn't want and she was about to lift the computer until I came home and caught her. She even stole my spare alloy wheels.

Did you call the policy and report the theft?

[theboss]

Emmapuma said:

Nothing really explosive but my husband actually text me to tell me he had been having an affair and wouldn't come home.
9 years together, 5 years married and all I got was that. No explanation, no warning. Didn't have the balls to tell me face to face. Thought that was pretty crap to be honest.

Mine didn't plan to tell me at all. The double life extended all the way to her setting up a new home with her married affair partner and then covertly just jumping ship. I have transcripts of her text conversations with her girl friends saying:

"I'll clear the house out when he's away on business"
"I'm not going to tell him where I've gone (with the kids)... I think I can keep the new address secret for a while"

etc.

I think in her case, the secrecy was more about trying to protect the affair partner, knowing that the st was going to hit the fan from two separate directions the moment I found out what was going on.

(Which it did, to put it mildly )

[Ari]

Vandenberg said:

Robbo 27 said:

Came home to a note, everything was gone, including my dog.

Wept for weeks.

1. Can understand that, Mine took my dog down to the vets, told them that it had bitten a child and she wanted it PTS.
2. She put a contract out on me to get a good shoeing by an outlaw biker gang.
3. Decided that the tactics she used on me would be just as good on the judge.

Results:

1. Worked a treat, caused me immense pain.
2. After being given 5 mins to justify myself before said shoeing would start, I explained my side resulting in the best weekend of my life.
3. Did not work a treat, Judge tore her numerous new holes, and ordered the sale of the house with full legal costs to me.

Confused by '3'. You're suggesting that she had the judge's dog put down and put out a contract on the judge with an outlaw biker gang..?

[eltawater]

theboss said:

Mine didn't plan to tell me at all. The double life extended all the way to her setting up a new home with her married affair partner and then covertly just jumping ship. I have transcripts of her text conversations with her girl friends saying:

"I'll clear the house out when he's away on business"
"I'm not going to tell him where I've gone (with the kids)... I think I can keep the new address secret for a while"

etc.

I think in her case, the secrecy was more about trying to protect the affair partner, knowing that the st was going to hit the fan from two separate directions the moment I found out what was going on.

(Which it did, to put it mildly )

How are things going for you health wise now?

[Levin]

Vandenberg said:

1. Can understand that, Mine took my dog down to the vets, told them that it had bitten a child and she wanted it PTS.
2. She put a contract out on me to get a good shoeing by an outlaw biker gang.
3. Decided that the tactics she used on me would be just as good on the judge.

Results:

1. Worked a treat, caused me immense pain.
2. After being given 5 mins to justify myself before said shoeing would start, I explained my side resulting in the best weekend of my life.
3. Did not work a treat, Judge tore her numerous new holes, and ordered the sale of the house with full legal costs to me.

1 made me sad. 2 sounds like a cracking story in its own right, if you've got the time to tell it.

[xjay1337]

Levin said:

1 made me sad. 2 sounds like a cracking story in its own right, if you've got the time to tell it.

2 sounds a bit like sons of anarchy to me.......

[Vaud]

Levin said:

Vandenberg said:

1. Can understand that, Mine took my dog down to the vets, told them that it had bitten a child and she wanted it PTS.
2. She put a contract out on me to get a good shoeing by an outlaw biker gang.
3. Decided that the tactics she used on me would be just as good on the judge.

Results:

1. Worked a treat, caused me immense pain.
2. After being given 5 mins to justify myself before said shoeing would start, I explained my side resulting in the best weekend of my life.
3. Did not work a treat, Judge tore her numerous new holes, and ordered the sale of the house with full legal costs to me.

1 made me sad. 2 sounds like a cracking story in its own right, if you've got the time to tell it.

Satan's Slaves?

[Jamesgt]

Cotty said:

Did you call the policy and report the theft?

No. I'm a push over and the house was extremely studenty. I think I was only 23 at the time so it was all cheap rubbish. I was just glad she was gone. I lived on a no through road, I caught her mum driving past a few times.

The same day it happened I went out to replace curtain etc, on the way home I bought food to cook. I got home went straight into the kitchen to cook said food, opened the cupboards and it was near empty. No sauce pans etc. It was all cheapest of cheap ikea stuff so god knows why she stole it.

[gmaz]

cootuk said:

Do girls keep a stock collection of baby scans to send, handily cropped to take out the name, dates, and location?

There's loads of positive pregnancy tests on ebay "for joke purposes only" they say.

Some joke eh?