Any other expectant Dads?
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snotrag said:
Congratulations!
Baby Harry is 7 weeks old now, while I've been back at work for a month, today his Mum has gone for a well deserved massage, leaving Harry with Grandma (My Mum) alone for the first time, quite a milestone!.
Thi past week or two is when he has really started to 'come alive', he is smiling, holds his head up, looks round to where we are etc, it's brilliant.
I know there's a few Dad's on here from September, August etc - hang in there through those tough first weeks as it's becoming so wonderful now ??
Its get easier then harder again Baby Harry is 7 weeks old now, while I've been back at work for a month, today his Mum has gone for a well deserved massage, leaving Harry with Grandma (My Mum) alone for the first time, quite a milestone!.
Thi past week or two is when he has really started to 'come alive', he is smiling, holds his head up, looks round to where we are etc, it's brilliant.
I know there's a few Dad's on here from September, August etc - hang in there through those tough first weeks as it's becoming so wonderful now ??
my experience with a son was,-new born to 6/7 months : looking back now probably the easiest time as though they woke a lot they were predictable.
-6/7 months - 20months : Probably toughest time they start teething and lose the immunity they are born with so can get ill a lot, and if bad teethers nights are long with lots of crying . The first time I had my son overnight on my own while misses away he came down with hand-foot and mouth. He his 9 months around Oct and started nursery at the same time, was ill every other week, worse was a fever of 2 weeks.
-20-24months plus : Starting to get a bit easier on the sleeping front, they are sleeping through but now they are entering the terrible 2's
-24months plus : Sleeping well but the little dude now likes to say 'No' all the time and will pick the most public place he can find to have a temper tantrum lol. Yesterdays was on my local high street he ended up on the pavement kicking and screaming, everyone looking, misses walked off left me with him
For me anyway I've found it really, really hard work, may be my son is just not a chilled baby, but the last 30 months have pushed me and my misses to our limits mentally / physically and we are not weak people. I love the dude but its not what we expected and I have big respect for anyone with a few kids.
Edited by PostHeads123 on Friday 5th October 13:54
Jonnny said:
Congratulations Jamgy and family.
Sounds hard work, did you have a birth plan you were trying to stick to?
We did, and managed to for the most part. It was definitely worth having because it minimised the questions from the midwife, and allowed me to deal with most of them, so my wife could just do her thing. Only thing was, the midwives who came in at the end following the shift change obviously hadn't read it and didn't have time to, but at that point we just kind of had to go with what was happening anywaySounds hard work, did you have a birth plan you were trying to stick to?
Eta, thanks for all the congrats!
Edited by jamgy on Friday 5th October 13:52
PostHeads123 said:
-new born to 6/7 months : looking back now probably the easiest time as though they woke a lot they were predictable.
-6/7 months - 20months : Probably toughest time they start teething and lose the immunity they are born with so can get ill a lot, and if bad teethers nights are long with lots of crying . The first time I had my son overnight on my own while misses away he came down with hand-foot and mouth.
-20-24months plus : Starting to get a bit easier on the sleeping front, they are sleeping through but now they are entering the terrible 2's
-24months plus : Sleeping well but the little dude now likes to say 'No' all the time and will pick the most public place he can find to have a temper tantrum lol
For me anyway I've found it really, really hard work, may be my son is just not a chilled baby, but in last 30 months its pushed me and my misses to our limits mentally.
Aside from the tantrums, this mirrors my experience. Oh, but she didn't sleep through until 3. And then we had a 2nd... DOH!-6/7 months - 20months : Probably toughest time they start teething and lose the immunity they are born with so can get ill a lot, and if bad teethers nights are long with lots of crying . The first time I had my son overnight on my own while misses away he came down with hand-foot and mouth.
-20-24months plus : Starting to get a bit easier on the sleeping front, they are sleeping through but now they are entering the terrible 2's
-24months plus : Sleeping well but the little dude now likes to say 'No' all the time and will pick the most public place he can find to have a temper tantrum lol
For me anyway I've found it really, really hard work, may be my son is just not a chilled baby, but in last 30 months its pushed me and my misses to our limits mentally.
Blown2CV said:
Equilibrium25 said:
Jonnny said:
Any products Dads on here would recommend for a Newborn/First Dad?
Coffee 
My wife did what many do and we've probably bought so many different things that weren't used or a complete waste of time.
Get the BabyFeedTimer app. You can share it across your phones and it is really handy to record feeds/expressing/nappy changes/sleep etc.
You sort of need to know when they are feeding/pooping etc and when you're tired you won't remember so tracking that is really handy.
Of the big things i'd say don't bother with a moses basket. Mine grew out of it before he was big enough to go to his own room and big cot so we had to buy a middle version for next to the bed.
Great news and congratulations to all the new and newly-expectant Dads. We're all here to help you as so many helped me from when I started up.
Been having real issues with sleep lately. Nearly 9 months old and she isn't sleeping through the night, and often wakes up 2-3 times. Sometimes won't go back to sleep unless she is attached to mum or being cuddled by one of us, so its a major attachment phase that is difficult to break. Trying to tentatively put her down in the cot without her waking up is very tricky
what has generally worked for us has been having a hot water bottle on standby, filled up in the evening and then when she does wake up for a feed or a cuddle, put it in the cot to warm it up a bit and then swap it with the baby, the warmth seems to be enough to convince her she's still with one of us.
And for those who haven't discovered it, the "Baby Relax Channel" on YouTube is fantastic. Forget about the video but just have the music playing on your phone in your pocket. I don't know why, but these soft, glockenspiel versions of Mozart music seem to really calm a baby down!
Been having real issues with sleep lately. Nearly 9 months old and she isn't sleeping through the night, and often wakes up 2-3 times. Sometimes won't go back to sleep unless she is attached to mum or being cuddled by one of us, so its a major attachment phase that is difficult to break. Trying to tentatively put her down in the cot without her waking up is very tricky
what has generally worked for us has been having a hot water bottle on standby, filled up in the evening and then when she does wake up for a feed or a cuddle, put it in the cot to warm it up a bit and then swap it with the baby, the warmth seems to be enough to convince her she's still with one of us.
And for those who haven't discovered it, the "Baby Relax Channel" on YouTube is fantastic. Forget about the video but just have the music playing on your phone in your pocket. I don't know why, but these soft, glockenspiel versions of Mozart music seem to really calm a baby down!
havoc said:
Blown2CV said:
Equilibrium25 said:
Jonnny said:
Any products Dads on here would recommend for a Newborn/First Dad?
Coffee 
I was going to post that but thought it a bit rude.
Clearly I've overestimated the tone on here!
I was going to say sleep in separate rooms if you can. No point in you both being up.
And get mum to express some milk so you can do some night feeds. Helps no end with bonding and mums enjoy the extra sleep.
Agree with the above. 0-6 is the magic, ooh ah, so cute. I'm Currently at 14 months, she's slept through the night a max of three nights in a row since birth. Teething and snot is par for the course.
And get mum to express some milk so you can do some night feeds. Helps no end with bonding and mums enjoy the extra sleep.
Agree with the above. 0-6 is the magic, ooh ah, so cute. I'm Currently at 14 months, she's slept through the night a max of three nights in a row since birth. Teething and snot is par for the course.
At what point have your partners received their medical exemption cards?
I've tried to request one for my wife over the past few weeks and it seems my my wifes Drs is useless. Reception can never seem to get a hold of the midwife.
Midwife told my wife that she would receive the card at 20 weeksa while back but when Ive googled it it says from when pregnancy is confirmed.
If my wife needed the dentist I'd prefer to be not stung with the bill knowing fully well that she could receive the treatment for free when other women are.
I've tried to request one for my wife over the past few weeks and it seems my my wifes Drs is useless. Reception can never seem to get a hold of the midwife.
Midwife told my wife that she would receive the card at 20 weeksa while back but when Ive googled it it says from when pregnancy is confirmed.
If my wife needed the dentist I'd prefer to be not stung with the bill knowing fully well that she could receive the treatment for free when other women are.
CharlieH89 said:
At what point have your partners received their medical exemption cards?
I've tried to request one for my wife over the past few weeks and it seems my my wifes Drs is useless. Reception can never seem to get a hold of the midwife.
Midwife told my wife that she would receive the card at 20 weeksa while back but when Ive googled it it says from when pregnancy is confirmed.
If my wife needed the dentist I'd prefer to be not stung with the bill knowing fully well that she could receive the treatment for free when other women are.
You should get a certificate thing on your first midwife meeting. This is what gets your exemption. We got ours after the 12 week scan/MW appointment.I've tried to request one for my wife over the past few weeks and it seems my my wifes Drs is useless. Reception can never seem to get a hold of the midwife.
Midwife told my wife that she would receive the card at 20 weeksa while back but when Ive googled it it says from when pregnancy is confirmed.
If my wife needed the dentist I'd prefer to be not stung with the bill knowing fully well that she could receive the treatment for free when other women are.
cbmotorsport said:
33 weeks this week. Things are starting to get very real.
Midwife all happy, baby is head down, and wriggling lots.
Mum is doing well, but starting to feel really quite heavy and there's lots of sighing and groaning going on whenever movement is required.
Can't wait now! :-)
Wait until you get to a day left.....I am absolutely cacking it!! Midwife all happy, baby is head down, and wriggling lots.
Mum is doing well, but starting to feel really quite heavy and there's lots of sighing and groaning going on whenever movement is required.
Can't wait now! :-)
We're in tomorrow morning @ 9:30am, likely that by this time tomorrow she'll be here and i'll be a Dad!!
This last 9 months has absolutely flown by!!
cbmotorsport said:
33 weeks this week. Things are starting to get very real.
Midwife all happy, baby is head down, and wriggling lots.
Mum is doing well, but starting to feel really quite heavy and there's lots of sighing and groaning going on whenever movement is required.
Can't wait now! :-)
We're 32 weeks, so just behind you.. Have you managed to 'see' the kicks/movement yet? Weirdest thing, missus bump moving around Midwife all happy, baby is head down, and wriggling lots.
Mum is doing well, but starting to feel really quite heavy and there's lots of sighing and groaning going on whenever movement is required.
Can't wait now! :-)
Mrs Jonny has been having nosebleeds, after 2 GA operations and 2 units of blood transfused.. Then managed to get a sinus infection a week after hospital. Has been off work for 2 weeks, is back for 1 week and then off on MAT Leave.
Have you got everything bought, nursery done?
Jonnny said:
cbmotorsport said:
33 weeks this week. Things are starting to get very real.
Midwife all happy, baby is head down, and wriggling lots.
Mum is doing well, but starting to feel really quite heavy and there's lots of sighing and groaning going on whenever movement is required.
Can't wait now! :-)
We're 32 weeks, so just behind you.. Have you managed to 'see' the kicks/movement yet? Weirdest thing, missus bump moving around Midwife all happy, baby is head down, and wriggling lots.
Mum is doing well, but starting to feel really quite heavy and there's lots of sighing and groaning going on whenever movement is required.
Can't wait now! :-)
Mrs Jonny has been having nosebleeds, after 2 GA operations and 2 units of blood transfused.. Then managed to get a sinus infection a week after hospital. Has been off work for 2 weeks, is back for 1 week and then off on MAT Leave.
Have you got everything bought, nursery done?
Nursery is full of kit, the advice on here has been great, stopped us buying things we don't need.
I think we're as ready as we'll ever be!
Sorry that Mrs Jonny has not had an easy run of it.
Haha, I'm glad someone gets the same.. I always go to feel the kicks and he stops, little terror.
It's pretty amazing what the Mrs go through for us, the emotions/mood swings, tastes and smells changing, body changes, actual birth.. Other than putting up with the moods, we do have it pretty damn easy.
It's pretty amazing what the Mrs go through for us, the emotions/mood swings, tastes and smells changing, body changes, actual birth.. Other than putting up with the moods, we do have it pretty damn easy.
Lazadude said:
CharlieH89 said:
At what point have your partners received their medical exemption cards?
I've tried to request one for my wife over the past few weeks and it seems my my wifes Drs is useless. Reception can never seem to get a hold of the midwife.
Midwife told my wife that she would receive the card at 20 weeksa while back but when Ive googled it it says from when pregnancy is confirmed.
If my wife needed the dentist I'd prefer to be not stung with the bill knowing fully well that she could receive the treatment for free when other women are.
You should get a certificate thing on your first midwife meeting. This is what gets your exemption. We got ours after the 12 week scan/MW appointment.I've tried to request one for my wife over the past few weeks and it seems my my wifes Drs is useless. Reception can never seem to get a hold of the midwife.
Midwife told my wife that she would receive the card at 20 weeksa while back but when Ive googled it it says from when pregnancy is confirmed.
If my wife needed the dentist I'd prefer to be not stung with the bill knowing fully well that she could receive the treatment for free when other women are.
For those whose partners are having c-sections remember that it is significant operation and mum will be doubly wiped out for months (op + baby)... mums often try to "over do it" feeling a responsibility as a new mum to do more BUT it is very very easy to be set back in recovery just by twisting the wrong way or picking something up.
Jonnny said:
Any products Dads on here would recommend for a Newborn/First Dad?
Nespresso machine. Seriously. Wish I'd bought one when we had our daughter.Our little boy (second and last!) is nearly months now and is fantastic.
We had him in one of those 'next to me' cots that goes right next to your bed which has a cut away section so they're pretty much lying right next to you.
For the last few weeks he's been in his big cot in his own room and is sleeping so much better. He never settled in the next to me cot when we weren't there and would wake up after about 20 mins so until we went to bed he was generally up with us.
Now we feed him then he has a bath with his big sister and we put him in his cot around 7 and he sleeps through until about midnight then has a feed and a change and back to sleep until around 5-6.
Having them sleep during the evening is a massive help. You suddenly get some proper adult time when you can watch TV without holding a baby and no toys, nursery rhymes, songs etc. Makes a big difference.
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