Any other expectant Dads?
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Lazadude said:
Congrats Nammynake. 
Did you do the "spirited" drive to the hospital from work? I still remember my drive, A3/M25 junction to parked up at the Royal Surrey in under 6 minutes.
(Preface this rant with background of mum is a sister in a different hosp, but covers adults. I trust her when she says we need to see a doc/A+E whatever. Generally very logical / doesn't go into A+E for no reason)
Little ones been puking everything she takes up, milk, water, expressed breastmilk, all types of food. Blood droplets in yellow/green bile vomit so A+E we go as blood is bad. Have now been in and out 3 times over yesterday and today, got home at 3am this morning, now in work for 6:30. The joys.
Luckily mums days off so not losing childminder fees, hospital consultants starting to annoy though.
Into A+E at 0100, traiaged straight away and have to wait for the doctor. apparently only one doctor covering all 4 A+E depts (wtf...). First doctor (4 hours later, for a puking bits of blood baby...) says yes, admittance to childs ward - you need to be in 100%. another 3 hours later, waiting in childs ward for a different doctor (who has been crash called away - so some of the delay is ok, I mean Id rather they sort whomever needed the crash call in Maternity or SCBU). Given anti-emetics (puke stoppers) on the ward whilst we wait and then once seen (now gone 7am) they say, "So hasn't thrown up in a couple hours, go home and monitor. As long as she's taking some fluid in, and not constantly vomiting then she's ok.buy some dioralyte and see GP later if fluid intake stays low"
Drugs wear off 8 hours later and vomiting starts all over again (big surprise there..), plus she's slept through the whole day on and off which is wrong. She barely sleeps through the night nevermind the day as well. She's also unable to walk straight (well as straight as normal). See GP and they say keep an eye, if she gets worse back into A+E, shouldn't have been discharged really. (Never mind the fact the discharge paperwork only says "monitored vomiting" and that's it...),
Come midnight this morning, we're back into A+E. Same staff (who were great to be fair to them, nurses generally are though) so all quickly through the admin, and peads consultant is already down in another cubicle so nurse grabs him before we even hit triage to save the future wait. Nurse puts us through as a "failed discharge" which can only be bad on the wards paperwork, consultant comes in and says two options, admittance or home. As shes not overly dehydrated at this stage (The fact she's not drank anything in over 24 hours, and is still vomiting at this point didn't seem to matter), take her home and keep trying fluids little and often, if she doesn't improve come back. Doesn't want to admit to ward again as it would involve canulising little one and that's destressing for her (well it's not, as shes had plenty of bloods taken before due to other issues but what do we know).
Consultant thinks its viral gastro so theres nothing but symptom management, but that doesnt fit at all. Only the one symptom (vomiting), none of the others. and As dehydration is mild (I have no idea how little one does it with zero intake and constant out) we get sent home and told no fluids tonight to prevent more vomit (which is stupid, if the little one is dehydrated and wants to drink, we're not going to refuse her..).
The cynical part of me thinks by not admitting, it means they can stop having the "failed discharge" note on their records/SLAs/Whatever.
So now shes at home, refusing any intake as she doesnt feel well and just getting more dehydrated. We're playing the waiting game now of waiting for her to be dehydrated "enough" that they'll take her in.
/rant
Doesn't sound ideal, what hospital is it? Mrs Jonny recently spent a while (1 week) and a few different appointments at Frimley Park and they've been absolutely brilliant. Did you do the "spirited" drive to the hospital from work? I still remember my drive, A3/M25 junction to parked up at the Royal Surrey in under 6 minutes. (Preface this rant with background of mum is a sister in a different hosp, but covers adults. I trust her when she says we need to see a doc/A+E whatever. Generally very logical / doesn't go into A+E for no reason)
Little ones been puking everything she takes up, milk, water, expressed breastmilk, all types of food. Blood droplets in yellow/green bile vomit so A+E we go as blood is bad. Have now been in and out 3 times over yesterday and today, got home at 3am this morning, now in work for 6:30. The joys.
Luckily mums days off so not losing childminder fees, hospital consultants starting to annoy though.
Into A+E at 0100, traiaged straight away and have to wait for the doctor. apparently only one doctor covering all 4 A+E depts (wtf...). First doctor (4 hours later, for a puking bits of blood baby...) says yes, admittance to childs ward - you need to be in 100%. another 3 hours later, waiting in childs ward for a different doctor (who has been crash called away - so some of the delay is ok, I mean Id rather they sort whomever needed the crash call in Maternity or SCBU). Given anti-emetics (puke stoppers) on the ward whilst we wait and then once seen (now gone 7am) they say, "So hasn't thrown up in a couple hours, go home and monitor. As long as she's taking some fluid in, and not constantly vomiting then she's ok.buy some dioralyte and see GP later if fluid intake stays low"
Drugs wear off 8 hours later and vomiting starts all over again (big surprise there..), plus she's slept through the whole day on and off which is wrong. She barely sleeps through the night nevermind the day as well. She's also unable to walk straight (well as straight as normal). See GP and they say keep an eye, if she gets worse back into A+E, shouldn't have been discharged really. (Never mind the fact the discharge paperwork only says "monitored vomiting" and that's it...),
Come midnight this morning, we're back into A+E. Same staff (who were great to be fair to them, nurses generally are though) so all quickly through the admin, and peads consultant is already down in another cubicle so nurse grabs him before we even hit triage to save the future wait. Nurse puts us through as a "failed discharge" which can only be bad on the wards paperwork, consultant comes in and says two options, admittance or home. As shes not overly dehydrated at this stage (The fact she's not drank anything in over 24 hours, and is still vomiting at this point didn't seem to matter), take her home and keep trying fluids little and often, if she doesn't improve come back. Doesn't want to admit to ward again as it would involve canulising little one and that's destressing for her (well it's not, as shes had plenty of bloods taken before due to other issues but what do we know).
Consultant thinks its viral gastro so theres nothing but symptom management, but that doesnt fit at all. Only the one symptom (vomiting), none of the others. and As dehydration is mild (I have no idea how little one does it with zero intake and constant out) we get sent home and told no fluids tonight to prevent more vomit (which is stupid, if the little one is dehydrated and wants to drink, we're not going to refuse her..).
The cynical part of me thinks by not admitting, it means they can stop having the "failed discharge" note on their records/SLAs/Whatever.
So now shes at home, refusing any intake as she doesnt feel well and just getting more dehydrated. We're playing the waiting game now of waiting for her to be dehydrated "enough" that they'll take her in.
/rant
6 minutes from M25/A3 to RSCH is very good going, assume this was out of rush hour?
Blown2CV said:
thanks for the advice. Yes well absolutely she is getting the surgery but that has plan in place to cope with. The coping plan is me!
It's not that looking after my daughter is alien to me, I can do anything and everything, and regularly have her for whole days on my own - that isn't an issue.
The main thing is how to cope with it all on no sleep, as everyone else can sleep as much as they want!!
It could be very very tough, make no bones about it. If you can put your daughter in for more nursery days then that can help a lot by giving you some hours to recharge in amongst the madness.It's not that looking after my daughter is alien to me, I can do anything and everything, and regularly have her for whole days on my own - that isn't an issue.
The main thing is how to cope with it all on no sleep, as everyone else can sleep as much as they want!!
But there's no need to panic so long as you're ready and willing to accept offers of help wherever possible, even if it's just for an hour at a time.
eltawater said:
It could be very very tough, make no bones about it. If you can put your daughter in for more nursery days then that can help a lot by giving you some hours to recharge in amongst the madness.
But there's no need to panic so long as you're ready and willing to accept offers of help wherever possible, even if it's just for an hour at a time.
And/or trade paying for nursery with paying for a cleaner for a few months.But there's no need to panic so long as you're ready and willing to accept offers of help wherever possible, even if it's just for an hour at a time.
Vaud said:
eltawater said:
It could be very very tough, make no bones about it. If you can put your daughter in for more nursery days then that can help a lot by giving you some hours to recharge in amongst the madness.
But there's no need to panic so long as you're ready and willing to accept offers of help wherever possible, even if it's just for an hour at a time.
And/or trade paying for nursery with paying for a cleaner for a few months.But there's no need to panic so long as you're ready and willing to accept offers of help wherever possible, even if it's just for an hour at a time.
Jonnny said:
Doesn't sound ideal, what hospital is it? Mrs Jonny recently spent a while (1 week) and a few different appointments at Frimley Park and they've been absolutely brilliant.
6 minutes from M25/A3 to RSCH is very good going, assume this was out of rush hour?
We're almost exactly in the middle between RSCH and St Peters, (Send), Daughter was born in RSCH so we decided to take her there. 6 minutes from M25/A3 to RSCH is very good going, assume this was out of rush hour?
In our experience Maternity and out patients has only been amazing. Had several A+E visits for myself and now the little one and they've all been rubbish experiences.
Our other option is Peters, however hear lots of poor things about Peters, especially in the wifes professional circles.
Was 10pm ish, but weirdly clear-ish run. Few sat in the outside lane, including a couple bikes that wouldn't move over. Did most of it in lane 1, as everything was sitting in 3 for some reason. Quick google maps math says average speed of low 80s, which isn't too bad going.
cbmotorsport said:
Forgive me for being lazy, but this thread is quite extensive - What's the general consensus on the best baby monitor to have?
Probably the last thing we need to buy..
Thanks!
Good question.Probably the last thing we need to buy..
Thanks!
I've earmarked the 'iBaby M6S' - https://www.amazon.co.uk/iBaby-M6S-Generation-Dete...
The main reason, seems to have a great camera and good movement.. Few features too.
I read a comment somewhere that was along the lines of, why do you want another screen/unit to watch on, keep charged, not lose - When you usually have your phone or iPad right next to you? So we'll use the iPad as the monitor screen.
My Mrs is due in Spring and this will be #3 adding to our two girls aged 6 and 2. Eek! I was also reflecting that looking at my parenting life, by the time we're done I will essentially have spent a decade wiping s
t off baby's arses!
Was a big decision going from 2 to 3 as obviously the logistics for the rest of life become more complicated (and expensive!)
(Yes, probably getting a multimac) (and a home extension) (and shares in Thomas Cook) (and Bugaboo)
FFS!
Any other dads in here with three? How is it?!
t off baby's arses!Was a big decision going from 2 to 3 as obviously the logistics for the rest of life become more complicated (and expensive!)
(Yes, probably getting a multimac) (and a home extension) (and shares in Thomas Cook) (and Bugaboo)
FFS!
Any other dads in here with three? How is it?!
Gary29 said:
I'm 2 weeks into child number one and I'm thinking about getting the snip no way will I be having three of the little blighters, especially at my age.
in many ways, the bit you're in at the moment is one of the harder bits, but you're entering the easy bit. Try and enjoy it! no way will I be having three of the little blighters, especially at my age.Vaud said:
The only advantage of 3 is the age gap between 6 and 2 - the eldest will be relatively self sufficient and may also want to help. A four year age gap seems quite a good balance.
Our 6y.o. lad is (somewhat) keen to help, is comparatively self-sufficient, and is very understanding of the time/attention change that's been foisted on him....but as above, you're still mad for having a 3rd!
Jonnny said:
Good question.
I've earmarked the 'iBaby M6S' - https://www.amazon.co.uk/iBaby-M6S-Generation-Dete...
The main reason, seems to have a great camera and good movement.. Few features too.
I read a comment somewhere that was along the lines of, why do you want another screen/unit to watch on, keep charged, not lose - When you usually have your phone or iPad right next to you? So we'll use the iPad as the monitor screen.
A camera to watch your child from another room. I've heard it all now I've earmarked the 'iBaby M6S' - https://www.amazon.co.uk/iBaby-M6S-Generation-Dete...
The main reason, seems to have a great camera and good movement.. Few features too.
I read a comment somewhere that was along the lines of, why do you want another screen/unit to watch on, keep charged, not lose - When you usually have your phone or iPad right next to you? So we'll use the iPad as the monitor screen.
Audio monitor and get off your arse when the bairn cries.
DuncB7 said:
A camera to watch your child from another room. I've heard it all now
Audio monitor and get off your arse when the bairn cries.
To be fair, I have read that sometimes actually letting them cry for a minute if they're sleeping still (seen from the camera) they will settle, whereas just audio you'll go marching in there and actually wake them up.Audio monitor and get off your arse when the bairn cries.
DuncB7 said:
Jonnny said:
Good question.
I've earmarked the 'iBaby M6S' - https://www.amazon.co.uk/iBaby-M6S-Generation-Dete...
The main reason, seems to have a great camera and good movement.. Few features too.
I read a comment somewhere that was along the lines of, why do you want another screen/unit to watch on, keep charged, not lose - When you usually have your phone or iPad right next to you? So we'll use the iPad as the monitor screen.
A camera to watch your child from another room. I've heard it all now I've earmarked the 'iBaby M6S' - https://www.amazon.co.uk/iBaby-M6S-Generation-Dete...
The main reason, seems to have a great camera and good movement.. Few features too.
I read a comment somewhere that was along the lines of, why do you want another screen/unit to watch on, keep charged, not lose - When you usually have your phone or iPad right next to you? So we'll use the iPad as the monitor screen.
Audio monitor and get off your arse when the bairn cries.
Trouble is the screen is quite bright so at night the monitor lives on my side of the bed, meaning I’m the one who is kept awake by it! I’ve taped some ND film over it to dim it a bit.
I quite like it actually, means you can see what the little blighter is getting up to without putting any lights on.
havoc said:
Vaud said:
The only advantage of 3 is the age gap between 6 and 2 - the eldest will be relatively self sufficient and may also want to help. A four year age gap seems quite a good balance.
Our 6y.o. lad is (somewhat) keen to help, is comparatively self-sufficient, and is very understanding of the time/attention change that's been foisted on him....but as above, you're still mad for having a 3rd!
But... those nappies again. Yeesh.
Wife is now at 37.5 weeks so we are full term.
Has a minor scare on Friday where she said she hadn’t felt movement for a few hours.
A further few hours of limited movement compared to the usual kicking self, we went to the local hospital.
I can’t emphasise how good the staff at Kingston hospital are, some tests and another scan later, we are all satisfied that the baby and mum are ok, thank god.
Anyway, estimated due date is 2.5 weeks away, although anything could happen.
Wife has elected for a water birth and we are aiming for the birthing centre, let’s see!
I’m very excited and can’t concentrate at work !
Has a minor scare on Friday where she said she hadn’t felt movement for a few hours.
A further few hours of limited movement compared to the usual kicking self, we went to the local hospital.
I can’t emphasise how good the staff at Kingston hospital are, some tests and another scan later, we are all satisfied that the baby and mum are ok, thank god.
Anyway, estimated due date is 2.5 weeks away, although anything could happen.
Wife has elected for a water birth and we are aiming for the birthing centre, let’s see!
I’m very excited and can’t concentrate at work !
Carlton Banks said:
Wife is now at 37.5 weeks so we are full term.
Has a minor scare on Friday where she said she hadn’t felt movement for a few hours.
A further few hours of limited movement compared to the usual kicking self, we went to the local hospital.
I can’t emphasise how good the staff at Kingston hospital are, some tests and another scan later, we are all satisfied that the baby and mum are ok, thank god.
Anyway, estimated due date is 2.5 weeks away, although anything could happen.
Wife has elected for a water birth and we are aiming for the birthing centre, let’s see!
I’m very excited and can’t concentrate at work !
You must be struggling to fit work in around your Strictly Come Dancing commitments at the moment.... Has a minor scare on Friday where she said she hadn’t felt movement for a few hours.
A further few hours of limited movement compared to the usual kicking self, we went to the local hospital.
I can’t emphasise how good the staff at Kingston hospital are, some tests and another scan later, we are all satisfied that the baby and mum are ok, thank god.
Anyway, estimated due date is 2.5 weeks away, although anything could happen.
Wife has elected for a water birth and we are aiming for the birthing centre, let’s see!
I’m very excited and can’t concentrate at work !
Don’t get a baby monitor with video or sensors etc. It will go wrong time and again making you st yourself and then ignore it once it has proven unreliable. Also video isn’t a good way to use your attention as you’ll end up staring at it. The monitor is really to tell you the baby is awake or crying, not that they’re potentially unwell.
t yourself and then ignore it once it has proven unreliable. Also video isn’t a good way to use your attention as you’ll end up staring at it. The monitor is really to tell you the baby is awake or crying, not that they’re potentially unwell. Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff