Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
Watched the bbc documentary ‘Help! We’re having a baby’ last night (May only bbc wales) and got us a little twitchy about multiple births now as there was a young couple there who had triplet girls. No history of multiple births in their family either.
Apparently more likely for us due to the missus age (39) although we’d be happy with mixed twins as we’ve already got names lined up for a boy and a girl, triplets would be a teeth drier though haha
Apparently more likely for us due to the missus age (39) although we’d be happy with mixed twins as we’ve already got names lined up for a boy and a girl, triplets would be a teeth drier though haha
Lazadude said:
The other thing to consider if you can't breast feed due to baby latching issues etc is exclusive pumping. Means baby gets breast milk (although via a bottle).
My little one refused to latch so was on EBM (expressed breast milk). It's really common in the states but so little known about it over here, Id avoid the Medela pumps for continual pumping as they are only designed for the one offs, "hospital grade" things like a Spectra S1/2/3 or a lactaline are much better.
Its a huge learning curve if you are going that way, so if its something of interest for you/your other half- fire me a PM. The wife seems to be a huge font of knowledge on it, especially a she was an over supplier and has been feeding 4 other babies.
My wife doesn't want to breast feed, but is open to the idea of expressing and feeding by bottle, combined with formula.My little one refused to latch so was on EBM (expressed breast milk). It's really common in the states but so little known about it over here, Id avoid the Medela pumps for continual pumping as they are only designed for the one offs, "hospital grade" things like a Spectra S1/2/3 or a lactaline are much better.
Its a huge learning curve if you are going that way, so if its something of interest for you/your other half- fire me a PM. The wife seems to be a huge font of knowledge on it, especially a she was an over supplier and has been feeding 4 other babies.
We've got a double pump so we'll see how it goes - Honestly though I can see us just formula feeding, but have left it open to her to decide.
DuncB7 said:
Lazadude said:
Id avoid the Medela pumps
We have a Medela pump in use every day in our house and it has been for about 3 months now. Not sure why you'd need to avoid. Perfectly capable piece of kit.Lots of evidence in pumping mums circles of Medelas burning out when used for full exclusive pumping (6 hours a day every day). Plus the check valves are rubbish in comparison (duckbills and physical backflow protectors win), the suction isn't as good, and it isn't as effective when on batteries.
The problem is, there isn't the market for pumps etc in this country. Its just not mentioned by MW's as viable and is only reported for encase you are going out, or want to pump and dump (which is stupid medically too, as you'd be dead from alcohol poisoning before it got into the milk in any noticable quantity).
Having bought best part of a dozen different pumps, I can tell you the best ones "we've" used have been the Spectra S1's and the Lactaline if you want a small discreet one. Yes the Medelas work, they are in no way the best and you'd be better off spending the money differently in my experience.
Nevermind paying to ship Freemies over from the states because no one in the UK wants to stock them (there just isn't the market here).
The problem is, there isn't the market for pumps etc in this country. Its just not mentioned by MW's as viable and is only reported for encase you are going out, or want to pump and dump (which is stupid medically too, as you'd be dead from alcohol poisoning before it got into the milk in any noticable quantity).
Having bought best part of a dozen different pumps, I can tell you the best ones "we've" used have been the Spectra S1's and the Lactaline if you want a small discreet one. Yes the Medelas work, they are in no way the best and you'd be better off spending the money differently in my experience.
Nevermind paying to ship Freemies over from the states because no one in the UK wants to stock them (there just isn't the market here).
Peanut Gallery said:
Mrs PG insisted on buying a Medula swing pump for her return to work.
Junior PG does not want anything out of a bottle.
The pump now sits in its box having been used twice.
My little one didn't initially go for a bottle too. It took much perseverance. Properly got wound up with the breast feeding Nazis on this one as they were against introducing a bottle for the first month, by which point it is too late. If its been multiple months I'd assume its exponentially harder. Junior PG does not want anything out of a bottle.
The pump now sits in its box having been used twice.
On the expressing front, don't assume it's something the other half will just be happy doing, my wife tried it and swiftly gave up as it made her feel like a human dairy cow. It's one of the only times I saw her upset with baby stuff.
In the end he got formula during the day feeds and a feed from mum in the morning, evening and his one night feed. Eventually the morning feed went and he lost interest in being fed by mum for the other two so went exclusively to formula at about 8 months old.
As ever though your milage may vary!
AB said:
We have the non Aston Martin version of that, I suggested I could find a local trim shop and have the handle done in alcantara as the 'RS' edition. It was a stupid idea, apparently, who knew! Merry said:
My little one didn't initially go for a bottle too. It took much perseverance. Properly got wound up with the breast feeding Nazis on this one as they were against introducing a bottle for the first month, by which point it is too late. If its been multiple months I'd assume its exponentially harder.
On the expressing front, don't assume it's something the other half will just be happy doing, my wife tried it and swiftly gave up as it made her feel like a human dairy cow. It's one of the only times I saw her upset with baby stuff.
In the end he got formula during the day feeds and a feed from mum in the morning, evening and his one night feed. Eventually the morning feed went and he lost interest in being fed by mum for the other two so went exclusively to formula at about 8 months old.
As ever though your milage may vary!
Spot on.On the expressing front, don't assume it's something the other half will just be happy doing, my wife tried it and swiftly gave up as it made her feel like a human dairy cow. It's one of the only times I saw her upset with baby stuff.
In the end he got formula during the day feeds and a feed from mum in the morning, evening and his one night feed. Eventually the morning feed went and he lost interest in being fed by mum for the other two so went exclusively to formula at about 8 months old.
As ever though your milage may vary!
Ours had a mix right from the start which actually made feeding much easier throughout. If they never know any different then they don't fight it!
Just gone through the worst experience of parenting so far..
Having your wife be really ill. your baby be a bit ill, and then you also get really ill before your wife has recovered fully but when your baby is wanting to be back at full speed.
Really not something I want to go through again. Honestly it was the most ill I have been in over 10 years, possibly in 20. My wife had it first, so I got about 2 hours sleep on Friday night in between her illness and looking after our daughter, who must have had a minor variant of it which lasted about 2 dirty nappies and full outfit and bedding changes from being sick, but then completely recovered.
I thought all was well until Sunday lunchtime when wife had gone out of the house for the first time to get some proper fresh air, until I got it and then only really got over it Tuesday night.
Having your wife be really ill. your baby be a bit ill, and then you also get really ill before your wife has recovered fully but when your baby is wanting to be back at full speed.
Really not something I want to go through again. Honestly it was the most ill I have been in over 10 years, possibly in 20. My wife had it first, so I got about 2 hours sleep on Friday night in between her illness and looking after our daughter, who must have had a minor variant of it which lasted about 2 dirty nappies and full outfit and bedding changes from being sick, but then completely recovered.
I thought all was well until Sunday lunchtime when wife had gone out of the house for the first time to get some proper fresh air, until I got it and then only really got over it Tuesday night.
Shakermaker said:
Just gone through the worst experience of parenting so far..
Having your wife be really ill. your baby be a bit ill, and then you also get really ill before your wife has recovered fully but when your baby is wanting to be back at full speed.
Really not something I want to go through again. Honestly it was the most ill I have been in over 10 years, possibly in 20. My wife had it first, so I got about 2 hours sleep on Friday night in between her illness and looking after our daughter, who must have had a minor variant of it which lasted about 2 dirty nappies and full outfit and bedding changes from being sick, but then completely recovered.
I thought all was well until Sunday lunchtime when wife had gone out of the house for the first time to get some proper fresh air, until I got it and then only really got over it Tuesday night.
haha same hereHaving your wife be really ill. your baby be a bit ill, and then you also get really ill before your wife has recovered fully but when your baby is wanting to be back at full speed.
Really not something I want to go through again. Honestly it was the most ill I have been in over 10 years, possibly in 20. My wife had it first, so I got about 2 hours sleep on Friday night in between her illness and looking after our daughter, who must have had a minor variant of it which lasted about 2 dirty nappies and full outfit and bedding changes from being sick, but then completely recovered.
I thought all was well until Sunday lunchtime when wife had gone out of the house for the first time to get some proper fresh air, until I got it and then only really got over it Tuesday night.
Im not normally ill and my partner is quite tough....We both got the man flu at the same time, with a poorly toddler and 8 month old
Blimey both of us were bed bound, we have also both never been ill at the same time!!
Was hard work that day
Well, our little monster turns 1 next week. The last year has gone by unbelievably quickly.
He's walking now, and basically causing havoc
; started nursery 4 days a week last week and is already bringing disease back home for us to suffer from!
He's currently going through a phase of not wanting his food, from reading around it seems it's not uncommon, but it's causing the wife some stress.
Anyway, just thought I'd give the thread a bit of a bump.
He's walking now, and basically causing havoc
; started nursery 4 days a week last week and is already bringing disease back home for us to suffer from!He's currently going through a phase of not wanting his food, from reading around it seems it's not uncommon, but it's causing the wife some stress.
Anyway, just thought I'd give the thread a bit of a bump.
First Year flies by.
Weird one, I've just gone from beard to clean shaven for movember and the little one can't stand me. Screams at the top of her voice, death grip on mummy. Won't even talk or look at me..
Hoping this doesn't go on for too long! Wonder how long it takes to realise I'm me...
Weird one, I've just gone from beard to clean shaven for movember and the little one can't stand me. Screams at the top of her voice, death grip on mummy. Won't even talk or look at me..
Hoping this doesn't go on for too long! Wonder how long it takes to realise I'm me...
Lazadude said:
First Year flies by.
Weird one, I've just gone from beard to clean shaven for movember and the little one can't stand me. Screams at the top of her voice, death grip on mummy. Won't even talk or look at me..
Hoping this doesn't go on for too long! Wonder how long it takes to realise I'm me...
Try very low light in her room, just sit on the floor talking and playing with toys and let her come to you?Weird one, I've just gone from beard to clean shaven for movember and the little one can't stand me. Screams at the top of her voice, death grip on mummy. Won't even talk or look at me..
Hoping this doesn't go on for too long! Wonder how long it takes to realise I'm me...
Seeing as we're bumping....our little one was 3 weeks old yesterday, time has flown by!!
Wife is settling into it all a bit now which is good. Ruby managd to pick up thrush in her mouth last week which was causing her a bit of discomfort but some drops from the Doc seem to have cleared it up nicely.
Sleep is coming along too, common routine is sleep in the evening until 10/11, then feed etc and back to sleep until 3/4, feed and then through to 7/half 7. Amazing what difference a bit of extra sleep makes.
Another amazing thing is how quick they grow. I come home from work every day and i'm sure she's grown from the morning. Can see features developing already, legs kicking all over the place, rolling around on her changing mat, focussing on our faces etc.
Will soon be Christmas and she'll be nearly 3 months old......time flies!!
Wife is settling into it all a bit now which is good. Ruby managd to pick up thrush in her mouth last week which was causing her a bit of discomfort but some drops from the Doc seem to have cleared it up nicely.
Sleep is coming along too, common routine is sleep in the evening until 10/11, then feed etc and back to sleep until 3/4, feed and then through to 7/half 7. Amazing what difference a bit of extra sleep makes.
Another amazing thing is how quick they grow. I come home from work every day and i'm sure she's grown from the morning. Can see features developing already, legs kicking all over the place, rolling around on her changing mat, focussing on our faces etc.
Will soon be Christmas and she'll be nearly 3 months old......time flies!!
Congratulations to all the recent new dads!
I've got #2 coming along on Dec 3rd and so I'm starting to get properly excited now
My wife's off on Maternity Leave as off yesterday, making the whole thing seem much closer all of a sudden! #2 is going to be a boy, #1 was a girl, so I'm looking forward to seeing the differences in development between the two and just finding out what kind of character the little man has.
I'm less excited about the piss-arch that will no doubt come firing up at every nappy change!
Child #1 is nearly 2.5 and is well and truly into the terrible twos - we had an hour's meltdown yesterday because she took her own sock off. OK. Breathe.
The main piece of advice I seem to keep hearing is sort out the elder child first and the younger child will stay more relaxed - any other tips? Congratulations again chaps.
I'd also like to offer my commiserations to anyone who sadly didn't quite get to be a dad - it is a sad reality that not every pregnancy goes full term; yet it doesn't seem to be spoken about that much.
Now what on earth do I do about the impending sleep deprivation?!
I've got #2 coming along on Dec 3rd and so I'm starting to get properly excited now
My wife's off on Maternity Leave as off yesterday, making the whole thing seem much closer all of a sudden! #2 is going to be a boy, #1 was a girl, so I'm looking forward to seeing the differences in development between the two and just finding out what kind of character the little man has.
I'm less excited about the piss-arch that will no doubt come firing up at every nappy change!
Child #1 is nearly 2.5 and is well and truly into the terrible twos - we had an hour's meltdown yesterday because she took her own sock off. OK. Breathe.
The main piece of advice I seem to keep hearing is sort out the elder child first and the younger child will stay more relaxed - any other tips? Congratulations again chaps.
I'd also like to offer my commiserations to anyone who sadly didn't quite get to be a dad - it is a sad reality that not every pregnancy goes full term; yet it doesn't seem to be spoken about that much.
Now what on earth do I do about the impending sleep deprivation?!
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