Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
tomble22 said:
Just some ramblings from experience over the last few months:
We bought some of the Tommee Tippee Anti Colic ones early one and, touch wood, have never had issues with her bringing up wind etc. We have got a Nuby sertiliser that also dries the bottles which is useful.
Bought one of those hygienic bin things for dirty nappies but never used it really, bit of a faff.
One of the feeding cushions is handy.
Unless the baby is really tiny, don't buy too many newborn clothes, Ruby grew out of them within a week or so. Shes now in 3-6 or 6-9 month clothes, we've got loads of 0-3 months stuff that she's never worn.
You can never have too many bibs, the plastic backed cotton faced ones are good.
One of those groegg thermometers is quite handy, to make sure the room is the right temperature.
As i've said, we've tried a few different nappy brands and Aldi are defintely the best, and cheap too.
As much as you try and prepare for every eventuality and how it will affect your life, there is nothing that can prepare you for how much your life changes. I'm still coming to terms with it now after nearly 4 months. And make sure you take loads of photos and videos of them doing things, they grow really, really quick!!
Cheers Tomble, bits of advice like that definitely helps!We bought some of the Tommee Tippee Anti Colic ones early one and, touch wood, have never had issues with her bringing up wind etc. We have got a Nuby sertiliser that also dries the bottles which is useful.
Bought one of those hygienic bin things for dirty nappies but never used it really, bit of a faff.
One of the feeding cushions is handy.
Unless the baby is really tiny, don't buy too many newborn clothes, Ruby grew out of them within a week or so. Shes now in 3-6 or 6-9 month clothes, we've got loads of 0-3 months stuff that she's never worn.
You can never have too many bibs, the plastic backed cotton faced ones are good.
One of those groegg thermometers is quite handy, to make sure the room is the right temperature.
As i've said, we've tried a few different nappy brands and Aldi are defintely the best, and cheap too.
As much as you try and prepare for every eventuality and how it will affect your life, there is nothing that can prepare you for how much your life changes. I'm still coming to terms with it now after nearly 4 months. And make sure you take loads of photos and videos of them doing things, they grow really, really quick!!
We have mainly Tommee Tippee bottles and have the perfect prep machine too.
We got a bin for free which ive read not many people use
Thermometer definitely needs to be bought asap really.
Aldi nappies ive read are brilliant also.
Our baby is apparently weighing over normal and we have to go and see someone on Wednesday in the hospital.
Shakermaker said:
Hey and many congratulations to all the new Dads of late. Welcome to the team, thanks for joining us.
Had a crap weekend of sleep, due to teething and a cold; so lots of snot and plenty of pain to boot. Completely unwilling to let me give her any calpol or bonjela to soothe her, or wipe her nose of all the snot so she could breathe easily. Waking up most hours after midnight is taking its toll!
Side not - even when she doesn't have a cold, has anyone noticed that their baby has the immense ability to create the most enormous bogies you've ever seen? I pulled one out last week that was bigger than a rice krispie!
Definetly, we had one a couple of weeks ago that was around an inch long, i did feel quite proud!! That and the adult style burps they do after guzzling a bottle down.Had a crap weekend of sleep, due to teething and a cold; so lots of snot and plenty of pain to boot. Completely unwilling to let me give her any calpol or bonjela to soothe her, or wipe her nose of all the snot so she could breathe easily. Waking up most hours after midnight is taking its toll!
Side not - even when she doesn't have a cold, has anyone noticed that their baby has the immense ability to create the most enormous bogies you've ever seen? I pulled one out last week that was bigger than a rice krispie!
I am NOT wanting a too and fro, but please remember there is also a natural source of milk in mommy! - I fully understand some wont / don't want to / cannot, but blokes can help in reassuringly them they are OK to feed the little one naturally.
No Tommy T, perfect prep stuff to clean either! Also being the one who gets up at 6 to go to work means you feel slightly less bad about handing a crying little over at 3am for a feed as I cannot do it!
On a completely unrelated note - anyone know of how to stop 18 month olds from cluster feeding through the night.....
No Tommy T, perfect prep stuff to clean either! Also being the one who gets up at 6 to go to work means you feel slightly less bad about handing a crying little over at 3am for a feed as I cannot do it!
On a completely unrelated note - anyone know of how to stop 18 month olds from cluster feeding through the night.....
Peanut Gallery said:
I am NOT wanting a too and fro, but please remember there is also a natural source of milk in mommy! - I fully understand some wont / don't want to / cannot, but blokes can help in reassuringly them they are OK to feed the little one naturally.
No Tommy T, perfect prep stuff to clean either! Also being the one who gets up at 6 to go to work means you feel slightly less bad about handing a crying little over at 3am for a feed as I cannot do it!
On a completely unrelated note - anyone know of how to stop 18 month olds from cluster feeding through the night.....
While this is true I would strongly suggest anyone breastfeeding also do at least one bottle a day (either expressed or formula) from as soon as they reliably breastfeed. No Tommy T, perfect prep stuff to clean either! Also being the one who gets up at 6 to go to work means you feel slightly less bad about handing a crying little over at 3am for a feed as I cannot do it!
On a completely unrelated note - anyone know of how to stop 18 month olds from cluster feeding through the night.....
Your other half will need a break at some point and if you leave it you may find you'll have a 6+week battle trying to train a screaming monster to take a bottle. It is not pleasent.
The breastfeeding nazis do not tell you this.
18 month cluster feeding? Can't help on that one, seems a bit late for that doesn't it? I hope so anyway, mines 16 months.
Well I can finally post in here.
Found out just before Christmas my wife was pregnant with our first. At 9 weeks we went for a private scan, just to be sure and there it was a tiny blip on screen. Then at 12 weeks, I couldn't believe it, fully recognisable arms, legs, nose and everything where it should be.
Now 16 weeks, we are contemplating going for a gender scan. Neither of us like surprises.
Wife is doing well, no morning sickness just a little fatigue in the first few weeks.
You'll be seeing more of me in here. Keep the advice coming.
Found out just before Christmas my wife was pregnant with our first. At 9 weeks we went for a private scan, just to be sure and there it was a tiny blip on screen. Then at 12 weeks, I couldn't believe it, fully recognisable arms, legs, nose and everything where it should be.
Now 16 weeks, we are contemplating going for a gender scan. Neither of us like surprises.
Wife is doing well, no morning sickness just a little fatigue in the first few weeks.
You'll be seeing more of me in here. Keep the advice coming.
Just wait for the 20 week scan, I wouldn't bother paying for an early gender scan, but that's just me.
Ours was born the same week as Tomble's she's doing fine and dandy, growing like a weed, smiling and giggling, no feeling like it. 15 weeks old today.
We have found our Tommee Tippee nappy bin one of the best things ever, I won't have a bad word said against them haha!
Good luck to all the newly expectant dads to be.
Ours was born the same week as Tomble's she's doing fine and dandy, growing like a weed, smiling and giggling, no feeling like it. 15 weeks old today.
We have found our Tommee Tippee nappy bin one of the best things ever, I won't have a bad word said against them haha!
Good luck to all the newly expectant dads to be.
Bowen86 said:
Well I can finally post in here.
Found out just before Christmas my wife was pregnant with our first. At 9 weeks we went for a private scan, just to be sure and there it was a tiny blip on screen. Then at 12 weeks, I couldn't believe it, fully recognisable arms, legs, nose and everything where it should be.
Now 16 weeks, we are contemplating going for a gender scan. Neither of us like surprises.
Wife is doing well, no morning sickness just a little fatigue in the first few weeks.
You'll be seeing more of me in here. Keep the advice coming.
Congrats!Found out just before Christmas my wife was pregnant with our first. At 9 weeks we went for a private scan, just to be sure and there it was a tiny blip on screen. Then at 12 weeks, I couldn't believe it, fully recognisable arms, legs, nose and everything where it should be.
Now 16 weeks, we are contemplating going for a gender scan. Neither of us like surprises.
Wife is doing well, no morning sickness just a little fatigue in the first few weeks.
You'll be seeing more of me in here. Keep the advice coming.
Due around same time as ours then
I'm itching to find out the gender but decided to just wait until the 20 week scan.Had the 20 week scan last week and found out the sex, the missus was absolutely delighted as her side of the family all of the children and grandchildren have had a long line of one sex (19 apparently) and I’ve managed to break the trend (claiming the win as someone told me it is something from the dads side that determines the babies sex.)
The missus has also shown her ingenuity in shopping prep buying a bag of clothes off eBay for £30 which should last us up until 6 months old. Some of the stuff still has tags on one pair of trousers alone was £11 and all good stuff (John Lewis etc) we’re by no means on the breadline but don’t see the point in spending hundreds on stuff they’ll soon grow out of and this eBay stuff has probably only been worn a handful of times max anyway.
Bought pushchair and car seat off family which would have been over £1k brand new for £300 too so can defo recommend shopping around and going second hand.
The missus has also shown her ingenuity in shopping prep buying a bag of clothes off eBay for £30 which should last us up until 6 months old. Some of the stuff still has tags on one pair of trousers alone was £11 and all good stuff (John Lewis etc) we’re by no means on the breadline but don’t see the point in spending hundreds on stuff they’ll soon grow out of and this eBay stuff has probably only been worn a handful of times max anyway.
Bought pushchair and car seat off family which would have been over £1k brand new for £300 too so can defo recommend shopping around and going second hand.
NuckyThompson said:
The missus has also shown her ingenuity in shopping prep buying a bag of clothes off eBay for £30 which should last us up until 6 months old. Some of the stuff still has tags on one pair of trousers alone was £11 and all good stuff (John Lewis etc) we’re by no means on the breadline but don’t see the point in spending hundreds on stuff they’ll soon grow out of and this eBay stuff has probably only been worn a handful of times max anyway.
Facebook local buy/sell and Facebook marketplace are also good sources. Also search for baby/child used sales - often at church halls, etc. Plenty of high grade stuff for next to nothing...Vaud said:
NuckyThompson said:
The missus has also shown her ingenuity in shopping prep buying a bag of clothes off eBay for £30 which should last us up until 6 months old. Some of the stuff still has tags on one pair of trousers alone was £11 and all good stuff (John Lewis etc) we’re by no means on the breadline but don’t see the point in spending hundreds on stuff they’ll soon grow out of and this eBay stuff has probably only been worn a handful of times max anyway.
Facebook local buy/sell and Facebook marketplace are also good sources. Also search for baby/child used sales - often at church halls, etc. Plenty of high grade stuff for next to nothing...My kids always look amazing , my misses treats it as a hobby , scouring ebay and FB for bargains.
NuckyThompson said:
Bought pushchair and car seat off family which would have been over £1k brand new for £300 too so can defo recommend shopping around and going second hand.
Wife's friend bought a double iCandy buggy for £300 costing £1000 new.(like most typical mums, she went spent well over a grand on a travel system for her first child, then realised it was totally OTT). She bought the tandem buggy at the NCT pre-loved sale which are regularly held all over the country. Just type in your postcode in the link below to find your local NCT pre-loved sale.https://www.nct.org.uk/events/nct-nearly-new-sales
Edited by chip* on Tuesday 22 January 14:16
RE thermostats, we now have an ebay cheapy that sits in the corner, and we just keep an eye on it, turning the boiler on when it goes below about 18, off when it goes above about 20, works fine! (Nest is in the post)
What I do recomend is a bath thermostat - I prefer cooler baths / showers, the wife will only consider a shower when the water is melting the copper pipe and you can see the glass shower door going soft with the heat.
https://smile.amazon.co.uk/BABY-BBZ-Thermometer-Fl...
A bath duck thermometer ends all arguments, and now the duck happily gets eaten by the little one.
What I do recomend is a bath thermostat - I prefer cooler baths / showers, the wife will only consider a shower when the water is melting the copper pipe and you can see the glass shower door going soft with the heat.
https://smile.amazon.co.uk/BABY-BBZ-Thermometer-Fl...
A bath duck thermometer ends all arguments, and now the duck happily gets eaten by the little one.
Peanut Gallery said:
I am NOT wanting a too and fro, but please remember there is also a natural source of milk in mommy! - I fully understand some wont / don't want to / cannot, but blokes can help in reassuringly them they are OK to feed the little one naturally.
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Yup, it is also the best for baby (please note this is not a dig at those who cannot etc) and there are many support groups. The downside is for blokes really....
Anyone got any tips to stop grandparents buying toys/games/presents every fecking week, we have a playroom 10*8 and it is full....
Also my top tip - when you can (i.e. before they learn to roll/crawl) make the most of having them sleep on your chest, because it does not last long.
How long did people take off work?
I've took a week off starting the week she is due, 14th March.
I'll then have two weeks off for paternity.
Did anyone add days/ weeks on to that?
I'm off for two weeks the start of May so i'll have time with the baby and to help my wife out then too. The mother in law will no doubt be around ours 24/7 when the baby is here aswell.
I've took a week off starting the week she is due, 14th March.
I'll then have two weeks off for paternity.
Did anyone add days/ weeks on to that?
I'm off for two weeks the start of May so i'll have time with the baby and to help my wife out then too. The mother in law will no doubt be around ours 24/7 when the baby is here aswell.
It depends how flexible your work is with leave, as the expected date is generally an estimate and think its something as low as 10% are actually born on the expected date lol.
First time round, I took 3 weeks, 2 of paternity and one of holiday. Got to remember Pat pay is rubbish so you'll be taking a pay cut for that month if you take it. I think next time ill take the 1 week of pat, and then go back to work for a week or so and then take the week of holiday.
In the first month, you have so many visitors/family around that theres not alot of need for you to be at home. However its when they leave that you being at home is really useful. It also depends on if you have a sunroof delivery or not as mum will need a lot of help.
First time round, I took 3 weeks, 2 of paternity and one of holiday. Got to remember Pat pay is rubbish so you'll be taking a pay cut for that month if you take it. I think next time ill take the 1 week of pat, and then go back to work for a week or so and then take the week of holiday.
In the first month, you have so many visitors/family around that theres not alot of need for you to be at home. However its when they leave that you being at home is really useful. It also depends on if you have a sunroof delivery or not as mum will need a lot of help.
Lazadude said:
In the first month, you have so many visitors/family around that theres not alot of need for you to be at home. However its when they leave that you being at home is really useful. It also depends on if you have a sunroof delivery or not as mum will need a lot of help.
Sunroof makes things much harder for the mum for the first 3-4 weeks.If MIL is around a lot then the other option is to negotiate with your work either a compressed week or take leave to give yourself 2 months of 4 day weeks. 3 day weekends can help!
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