Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
SpeckledJim said:
Blown2CV said:
however, transferring a sleeping child without waking them is a useful skill to acquire.
But a deeply, deeply unpleasant apprenticeship!They're all different and you just have to do what you need to do and what works.
When really small my lad always slept better after a bit of time lying curled up in my groin area, as he got older (6-12 months) I'd put his head nearer my heart and just really slow my breathing down.
With a new borne You have to remember all they've known is mother's heart beat, breathing, digestive noises and darkness.
Next get your tiny little infant (and they are tiny) 'pushing feet'. Sit on the sofa with your child between your knees (or legs) and just push their feet back ---- and just giggle at them and laugh.
It's all about motor neuron development in the early days.
P.S. Any new Dad's got a faceful of urine when changing a nappy?
JustALooseScrew said:
P.S. Any new Dad's got a faceful of urine when changing a nappy?
Sorry, but 
Mine perfected the art of "remove nappy, pee" - however being a girl, it always hid until too late, and was all up her back, into her top, etc etc etc....
Now I stand her in the bath, then remove nappy!
JustALooseScrew said:
P.S. Any new Dad's got a faceful of urine when changing a nappy?
I've had it all over my chest once, and also a squirt of poo right up my arm (and in a very artistic arc up the bedroom wall).I have however had a substantial fart directly in the eye from about an inch away, that was fun.
JackThrust said:
JustALooseScrew said:
P.S. Any new Dad's got a faceful of urine when changing a nappy?
I've had it all over my chest once, and also a squirt of poo right up my arm (and in a very artistic arc up the bedroom wall).I have however had a substantial fart directly in the eye from about an inch away, that was fun.
Mine seems to have moved away from weeing when the nappy is off, he now thinks it's fun when being bathed to make his own fountain.
It's pretty funny though
21 weeks today.
We're sorted for the pram, furniture and prep machine etc but one thing we don't have is a car seat. There seems to be lots to choose and because it features the word "car" the Wife has handed me responsibility (almost).
Am I correct in saying that a 0-6 months car seat cannot be fixed to a turning seat base? If I am right that means potentially two seats and two seat bases? The idea of a turning seat base for a toddler seems ideal.
Cheer Dadsnet.
We're sorted for the pram, furniture and prep machine etc but one thing we don't have is a car seat. There seems to be lots to choose and because it features the word "car" the Wife has handed me responsibility (almost).
Am I correct in saying that a 0-6 months car seat cannot be fixed to a turning seat base? If I am right that means potentially two seats and two seat bases? The idea of a turning seat base for a toddler seems ideal.
Cheer Dadsnet.
Our 1 year old is still waking up during the night. Normally a bottle, change, bottle is all done in 30 minutes and he is back to sleep again.
This week he will fall asleep in your arms like normal after the bottle but, the second you put him back in the cot, its like its electrified as he stands straight back up again and screams.
So we pick him up and he almost instantly goes back to sleep in your arms followed by screaming when he is goes back in the cot.
After 2 or 3 repeats of this we have just left him in the cot. Sometimes he goes to sleep after 10-15 minutes, other times he gets so worked up, he just pukes over the side which resets the process.
During the day he is absolutely fine so we dont think he is ill and goes to sleep in the evenings with no problem, its the settling during the night that is now the problem. We think he is teething as the back teeth are coming through which wont help. Has anyone had anything similar and/or any ideas other than just leave him to it as multiple nights of 4 hour sleep are not fun.
This week he will fall asleep in your arms like normal after the bottle but, the second you put him back in the cot, its like its electrified as he stands straight back up again and screams.
So we pick him up and he almost instantly goes back to sleep in your arms followed by screaming when he is goes back in the cot.
After 2 or 3 repeats of this we have just left him in the cot. Sometimes he goes to sleep after 10-15 minutes, other times he gets so worked up, he just pukes over the side which resets the process.
During the day he is absolutely fine so we dont think he is ill and goes to sleep in the evenings with no problem, its the settling during the night that is now the problem. We think he is teething as the back teeth are coming through which wont help. Has anyone had anything similar and/or any ideas other than just leave him to it as multiple nights of 4 hour sleep are not fun.
36.5 weeks now, consultant appointment tomorrow to discuss c-section vs induction and to give us a date. Our boy/girl will be coming early due to managing a blood condition and the consultant will make decision on delivery method due to location of placenta.
We had a midwife appointment yesterday and at the end she said "I'll provisionally book you in to see me again in 2 weeks but the consultant may ask you to come in next week so you may not need it" - I was NOT mentally prepared for that. I had in mind around 14th March and had prepared myself for that.
Serious reality check!!!!!!!
We're all sorted in terms of what we need to buy etc but just looking at my watch, the second hand appears to be going in double time.
I'm not normally an anxious/nervous person but my stomach is all over the place!!!!
We had a midwife appointment yesterday and at the end she said "I'll provisionally book you in to see me again in 2 weeks but the consultant may ask you to come in next week so you may not need it" - I was NOT mentally prepared for that. I had in mind around 14th March and had prepared myself for that.
Serious reality check!!!!!!!
We're all sorted in terms of what we need to buy etc but just looking at my watch, the second hand appears to be going in double time.
I'm not normally an anxious/nervous person but my stomach is all over the place!!!!
Bowen86 said:
21 weeks today.
We're sorted for the pram, furniture and prep machine etc but one thing we don't have is a car seat. There seems to be lots to choose and because it features the word "car" the Wife has handed me responsibility (almost).
Am I correct in saying that a 0-6 months car seat cannot be fixed to a turning seat base? If I am right that means potentially two seats and two seat bases? The idea of a turning seat base for a toddler seems ideal.
Cheer Dadsnet.
I suggest dropping a quick call to Britax for clarification.We're sorted for the pram, furniture and prep machine etc but one thing we don't have is a car seat. There seems to be lots to choose and because it features the word "car" the Wife has handed me responsibility (almost).
Am I correct in saying that a 0-6 months car seat cannot be fixed to a turning seat base? If I am right that means potentially two seats and two seat bases? The idea of a turning seat base for a toddler seems ideal.
Cheer Dadsnet.
Email: service.uk@britax.com
Phone: 01264 386034
The Britax manager was really helpful to me when I inquired on car seats compatible with rear airbag seat belts.
Bowen86 said:
21 weeks today.
We're sorted for the pram, furniture and prep machine etc but one thing we don't have is a car seat. There seems to be lots to choose and because it features the word "car" the Wife has handed me responsibility (almost).
Am I correct in saying that a 0-6 months car seat cannot be fixed to a turning seat base? If I am right that means potentially two seats and two seat bases? The idea of a turning seat base for a toddler seems ideal.
Cheer Dadsnet.
Not sure, we changed seats after about 9 months when she outgrew the first one. We're sorted for the pram, furniture and prep machine etc but one thing we don't have is a car seat. There seems to be lots to choose and because it features the word "car" the Wife has handed me responsibility (almost).
Am I correct in saying that a 0-6 months car seat cannot be fixed to a turning seat base? If I am right that means potentially two seats and two seat bases? The idea of a turning seat base for a toddler seems ideal.
Cheer Dadsnet.
We had one base, non turning, fitted to my wife's car most of the time and the Maxi Cosi Cabriofix seat. No need for it to be turning, as the seat came out of the car and you took the baby with you.
Now she's outgrown that, we've moved on to a completely new seat in my wife's car, the Joie Spin 360, which is fixed in the car via isofix but then spins around - very useful in the more compact space of my wife's Corsa.
I've got the Joie Every Stage which is attached with the seatbelts and doesn't move, but there's more space in my car to access it and she doesn't travel with me as frequently.
Just to add I am the same as Shakermaker - baby seat for the newborn, take the seat into the house, install baby in the seat, drop the seat into the base, done.
Outgrew that one, now have a Joie Spin 360, easy to load junior in facing you, then spin to face the back, spin to face the front in how many years time!
She finds it comfy enough to climb into on her own and fall asleep while we work on the allotment.
Outgrew that one, now have a Joie Spin 360, easy to load junior in facing you, then spin to face the back, spin to face the front in how many years time!
She finds it comfy enough to climb into on her own and fall asleep while we work on the allotment.
Bowen86 said:
21 weeks today.
We're sorted for the pram, furniture and prep machine etc but one thing we don't have is a car seat. There seems to be lots to choose and because it features the word "car" the Wife has handed me responsibility (almost).
Am I correct in saying that a 0-6 months car seat cannot be fixed to a turning seat base? If I am right that means potentially two seats and two seat bases? The idea of a turning seat base for a toddler seems ideal.
Cheer Dadsnet.
you don't need a turning one, it doesn't make that much difference. My parents have one for when they occasionally have our daughter in the back and it's irritating to use. If you are entirely detaching the seat from the base then it doesn't matter if it swivels or not as you just take them in and out the seat when the seat isn't in the car.We're sorted for the pram, furniture and prep machine etc but one thing we don't have is a car seat. There seems to be lots to choose and because it features the word "car" the Wife has handed me responsibility (almost).
Am I correct in saying that a 0-6 months car seat cannot be fixed to a turning seat base? If I am right that means potentially two seats and two seat bases? The idea of a turning seat base for a toddler seems ideal.
Cheer Dadsnet.
KTF said:
Our 1 year old is still waking up during the night. Normally a bottle, change, bottle is all done in 30 minutes and he is back to sleep again.
This week he will fall asleep in your arms like normal after the bottle but, the second you put him back in the cot, its like its electrified as he stands straight back up again and screams.
So we pick him up and he almost instantly goes back to sleep in your arms followed by screaming when he is goes back in the cot.
After 2 or 3 repeats of this we have just left him in the cot. Sometimes he goes to sleep after 10-15 minutes, other times he gets so worked up, he just pukes over the side which resets the process.
During the day he is absolutely fine so we dont think he is ill and goes to sleep in the evenings with no problem, its the settling during the night that is now the problem. We think he is teething as the back teeth are coming through which wont help. Has anyone had anything similar and/or any ideas other than just leave him to it as multiple nights of 4 hour sleep are not fun.
try not picking him up, but do go in and put hand on back and try to soothe etc. It happened to us and we did have a couple of nights of it being a total nightmare but they get into these weird habits and they can be surprisingly easy (if daunting) to break. Not the same as leaving them to scream however, we've always found that a bit harsh but each to their own. This week he will fall asleep in your arms like normal after the bottle but, the second you put him back in the cot, its like its electrified as he stands straight back up again and screams.
So we pick him up and he almost instantly goes back to sleep in your arms followed by screaming when he is goes back in the cot.
After 2 or 3 repeats of this we have just left him in the cot. Sometimes he goes to sleep after 10-15 minutes, other times he gets so worked up, he just pukes over the side which resets the process.
During the day he is absolutely fine so we dont think he is ill and goes to sleep in the evenings with no problem, its the settling during the night that is now the problem. We think he is teething as the back teeth are coming through which wont help. Has anyone had anything similar and/or any ideas other than just leave him to it as multiple nights of 4 hour sleep are not fun.
Blown2CV said:
try not picking him up, but do go in and put hand on back and try to soothe etc. It happened to us and we did have a couple of nights of it being a total nightmare but they get into these weird habits and they can be surprisingly easy (if daunting) to break. Not the same as leaving them to scream however, we've always found that a bit harsh but each to their own.
The leaving him to scream is the last resort as after multiple times of him being put in the cot, screaming, being put in the cot, screaming at stupid o'clock in the morning your patience wears thin. We don't like it either but we cant sit up with him in our arms all night and then deal with work, etc. the next day.We have a webcam in the room and use that to see what he is doing every 5 minutes or so. We know that when he is standing up and doing it then he wont go back to sleep but, if he is on his front and doing it, then after a period of time he does go back to sleep.
Tonight we will give the 'rubbing the back' approach a go as a means of showing him that we are there but he isn't doing to get picked up for a cuddle like he wants.
Peanut Gallery said:
JustALooseScrew said:
P.S. Any new Dad's got a faceful of urine when changing a nappy?
Sorry, but Mine perfected the art of "remove nappy, pee" - however being a girl, it always hid until too late, and was all up her back, into her top, etc etc etc....
Now I stand her in the bath, then remove nappy!
SpeckledJim said:
Blown2CV said:
however, transferring a sleeping child without waking them is a useful skill to acquire.
But a deeply, deeply unpleasant apprenticeship!With my son (who is now 6) you can still take him out of the car and deposit him in bed, in fact I managed to do this and change him into his PJ's a couple of months ago! Yet my daughter (2) pings awake as soon as the engine is switched off, and leaving the engine running and trying makes no difference. And its not just a little bit awake, it's wide awake!
SunsetZed said:
SpeckledJim said:
Blown2CV said:
however, transferring a sleeping child without waking them is a useful skill to acquire.
But a deeply, deeply unpleasant apprenticeship!With my son (who is now 6) you can still take him out of the car and deposit him in bed, in fact I managed to do this and change him into his PJ's a couple of months ago! Yet my daughter (2) pings awake as soon as the engine is switched off, and leaving the engine running and trying makes no difference. And its not just a little bit awake, it's wide awake!
KTF said:
Our 1 year old is still waking up during the night. Normally a bottle, change, bottle is all done in 30 minutes and he is back to sleep again.
This week he will fall asleep in your arms like normal after the bottle but, the second you put him back in the cot, its like its electrified as he stands straight back up again and screams.
So we pick him up and he almost instantly goes back to sleep in your arms followed by screaming when he is goes back in the cot.
After 2 or 3 repeats of this we have just left him in the cot. Sometimes he goes to sleep after 10-15 minutes, other times he gets so worked up, he just pukes over the side which resets the process.
During the day he is absolutely fine so we dont think he is ill and goes to sleep in the evenings with no problem, its the settling during the night that is now the problem. We think he is teething as the back teeth are coming through which wont help. Has anyone had anything similar and/or any ideas other than just leave him to it as multiple nights of 4 hour sleep are not fun.
Sounds like separation anxiety, and the fact he is used to being helped back to sleep rather than doing it himself. This week he will fall asleep in your arms like normal after the bottle but, the second you put him back in the cot, its like its electrified as he stands straight back up again and screams.
So we pick him up and he almost instantly goes back to sleep in your arms followed by screaming when he is goes back in the cot.
After 2 or 3 repeats of this we have just left him in the cot. Sometimes he goes to sleep after 10-15 minutes, other times he gets so worked up, he just pukes over the side which resets the process.
During the day he is absolutely fine so we dont think he is ill and goes to sleep in the evenings with no problem, its the settling during the night that is now the problem. We think he is teething as the back teeth are coming through which wont help. Has anyone had anything similar and/or any ideas other than just leave him to it as multiple nights of 4 hour sleep are not fun.
Its easy to get in bad habits - my 16 month old daughter is waking up once or twice a night at the moment and crying unless cuddled/rocked back, and then has to be in a pretty deep sleep for her not to immediately wake up in the cot and cry as you describe. You know that rocking her is a bad habit, but sometimes it's just easier than a battle... but then you create a rod for your own back! Things come and go in phases... for us it's mix of teething and illness lately leading to more wakeups and more comforting. Sometimes things change and settle down without you having to do anything, and sometimes bad habits need intervention.
I would try and kick the night feeds for a start, as that will encourage him to wake up. Offer a sip of water instead! Put him in the cot awake so he can learn to do it himself. Try to be consistent. Things will be difficult before they (hopefully) get better!
I agree that there is a degree of separation anxiety as he is at that age now where he is much more aware.
We have been giving him the night feed only when he wakes up crying (generally between half 1 and half 3 if he does down about half 7) and he does generally drain the bottle we offer him. It would be great if he went through the night so we are not actively waking him up
Switching to water would be interesting as that would see if he is actually hungry or just wanting attention. Putting him in the cot after he has finished the bottle rather than waiting for him to go to sleep in your arms first is another thing I will try tonight so he gets more used to settling himself. He can do it as he has demonstrated when we leave him but only after he has exhausted all other options to get 'attention' it seems...
Up until this week it has been absolutely fine so may also be a phase or something else that simply isn't worth bothering to try to work out as next week he will move the goal posts again...
We have been giving him the night feed only when he wakes up crying (generally between half 1 and half 3 if he does down about half 7) and he does generally drain the bottle we offer him. It would be great if he went through the night so we are not actively waking him up
Switching to water would be interesting as that would see if he is actually hungry or just wanting attention. Putting him in the cot after he has finished the bottle rather than waiting for him to go to sleep in your arms first is another thing I will try tonight so he gets more used to settling himself. He can do it as he has demonstrated when we leave him but only after he has exhausted all other options to get 'attention' it seems...
Up until this week it has been absolutely fine so may also be a phase or something else that simply isn't worth bothering to try to work out as next week he will move the goal posts again...
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