Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
KTF said:
Our 1 year old is still waking up during the night.....So we pick him up and he almost instantly goes back to sleep in your arms followed by screaming when he is goes back in the cot..... multiple nights of 4 hour sleep are not fun.
I know exactly how you feel.. Mine did the same, and still does sometimes. Have to make sure she is completely asleep, but sometimes hit the mattress and instantly wide awake.Ours was teething we think. We have the odd bad night every so often. As for sleeping though, my girl is 19 months old, and we've had less than a dozen nights when shes slept through.
Normally bath/teeth/bed for 830/9 on a good night, (sometimes nearer 10..), and she'll be up for a bottle of milk anywhere between 2 and 4 am. 15 mins of feeding and back down until 0800.
Sometimes she'll sleep for 25mins at a time.
I dont mind the not sleeping through when the feed takes 30 mins or so as some kids just don't seem to want to sleep through and that is how it was until this week...
I think there is an element of teething in the mix as well which probably isn't helping as the back ones are working their way through and he does eventually go back to sleep once the Calpol/Ibuprofen has kicked in.
Still, a few new ideas to try this evening if he does it again based from the replies today. Getting him to self settle will be the main focus I think.
I think there is an element of teething in the mix as well which probably isn't helping as the back ones are working their way through and he does eventually go back to sleep once the Calpol/Ibuprofen has kicked in.
Still, a few new ideas to try this evening if he does it again based from the replies today. Getting him to self settle will be the main focus I think.
KTF said:
I dont mind the not sleeping through when the feed takes 30 mins or so as some kids just don't seem to want to sleep through and that is how it was until this week...
I think there is an element of teething in the mix as well which probably isn't helping as the back ones are working their way through and he does eventually go back to sleep once the Calpol/Ibuprofen has kicked in.
Still, a few new ideas to try this evening if he does it again based from the replies today. Getting him to self settle will be the main focus I think.
I have another solution I’m looking forward to trying.I think there is an element of teething in the mix as well which probably isn't helping as the back ones are working their way through and he does eventually go back to sleep once the Calpol/Ibuprofen has kicked in.
Still, a few new ideas to try this evening if he does it again based from the replies today. Getting him to self settle will be the main focus I think.
A business trip out of town.
Vaud said:
The Moose said:
I have another solution I’m looking forward to trying.
A business trip out of town.
It sometimes works. Then you may find that it is too quiet.A business trip out of town.
You never sleep the same way again as a parent.
Hub said:
KTF said:
Our 1 year old is still waking up during the night. Normally a bottle, change, bottle is all done in 30 minutes and he is back to sleep again.
This week he will fall asleep in your arms like normal after the bottle but, the second you put him back in the cot, its like its electrified as he stands straight back up again and screams.
So we pick him up and he almost instantly goes back to sleep in your arms followed by screaming when he is goes back in the cot.
After 2 or 3 repeats of this we have just left him in the cot. Sometimes he goes to sleep after 10-15 minutes, other times he gets so worked up, he just pukes over the side which resets the process.
During the day he is absolutely fine so we dont think he is ill and goes to sleep in the evenings with no problem, its the settling during the night that is now the problem. We think he is teething as the back teeth are coming through which wont help. Has anyone had anything similar and/or any ideas other than just leave him to it as multiple nights of 4 hour sleep are not fun.
Sounds like separation anxiety, and the fact he is used to being helped back to sleep rather than doing it himself. This week he will fall asleep in your arms like normal after the bottle but, the second you put him back in the cot, its like its electrified as he stands straight back up again and screams.
So we pick him up and he almost instantly goes back to sleep in your arms followed by screaming when he is goes back in the cot.
After 2 or 3 repeats of this we have just left him in the cot. Sometimes he goes to sleep after 10-15 minutes, other times he gets so worked up, he just pukes over the side which resets the process.
During the day he is absolutely fine so we dont think he is ill and goes to sleep in the evenings with no problem, its the settling during the night that is now the problem. We think he is teething as the back teeth are coming through which wont help. Has anyone had anything similar and/or any ideas other than just leave him to it as multiple nights of 4 hour sleep are not fun.
Its easy to get in bad habits - my 16 month old daughter is waking up once or twice a night at the moment and crying unless cuddled/rocked back, and then has to be in a pretty deep sleep for her not to immediately wake up in the cot and cry as you describe. You know that rocking her is a bad habit, but sometimes it's just easier than a battle... but then you create a rod for your own back! Things come and go in phases... for us it's mix of teething and illness lately leading to more wakeups and more comforting. Sometimes things change and settle down without you having to do anything, and sometimes bad habits need intervention.
I would try and kick the night feeds for a start, as that will encourage him to wake up. Offer a sip of water instead! Put him in the cot awake so he can learn to do it himself. Try to be consistent. Things will be difficult before they (hopefully) get better!
The Moose said:
I have another solution I’m looking forward to trying.
A business trip out of town.
I tried that and learned that putting your phone on do not disturb overnight is a winner. Otherwise you will be woken up by your other half at all sorts of odd hours to tell you what a crap night they are having A business trip out of town.
You still don’t sleep like you did before you had kids though...
AB said:
LittleBigPlanet said:
36 weeks and counting here - 23/03 is deadline day!
Top tips from those a few months in?
22nd is official eviction date for us. Top tips from those a few months in?
Are you feeling nervous yet?
Learn from your missus, they seem to have a natural instinct - feeding tips, changing a nappy etc.
Offer as much help as you can, but don't get in the way (or atleast I found this with my wife..) if she's doing something, even if you think you could do it better, don't say you can
Try and split the night shift as much as you can, they look after the small one all day long, we get up and go to work and have adult interaction, they sit at home with a baby crying at them all day.
Get her out of the house at baby classes if she's up for it, my wife felt lonely but this has helped massively and she's met 2 other mums and they now meet up and have a WhatsApp group.
If you're not breast feeding - 100% get a Perfect Prep. Life saver!
LittleBigPlanet said:
36 weeks and counting here - 23/03 is deadline day!
Top tips from those a few months in?
Don't panic, stay calm on the outside even if you're sTop tips from those a few months in?
tting yourself inside, your mrs will appreciate it.Don't try to keep a lid on your emotions after the birth though, it's ok to have a cry, it's a fairly overwhelming experience.
And put your mrs on a pedestal and keep her there, what women go through in all this is nothing short of mind blowing.
And once the dust has settled and they say 'Ok you can go home now' just relax and take each hour/day at a time for those first precious few weeks, it will all feel completely alien but will all sort itself out eventually.
GOOD LUCK!
Gary29 said:
LittleBigPlanet said:
36 weeks and counting here - 23/03 is deadline day!
Top tips from those a few months in?
Don't panic, stay calm on the outside even if you're sTop tips from those a few months in?
tting yourself inside, your mrs will appreciate it.Don't try to keep a lid on your emotions after the birth though, it's ok to have a cry, it's a fairly overwhelming experience.
And put your mrs on a pedestal and keep her there, what women go through in all this is nothing short of mind blowing.
And once the dust has settled and they say 'Ok you can go home now' just relax and take each hour/day at a time for those first precious few weeks, it will all feel completely alien but will all sort itself out eventually.
GOOD LUCK!
There's no manual, do your best, and that'll be more than good enough. After a few weeks, you'll wonder why you ever worried about it, it does come naturally for mums and dads.
Enjoy those first few weeks, they are magical, but they are a complete whirlwind and disappear in a blink. Cherish them.
AB said:
Induction booked for 8pm Sunday 11th March 
Water birth.
Good luck! Are you having a girl or a boy?Water birth.
We are 38 weeks today.
Baby has weighed above the line the past 8 weeks and we have had to have scans every 2 weeks. 'Big baby this, big baby that'
Wife started having pains last Friday. We then went the lake district Monday in which she had the worst pain she's ever had, tears in the car for the hour journey home.
Scan and sweep yesterday. Weight is at 41 weeks apparently and 2cm dilated. The consultant has said another sweep next week and then an induction can be planned on the due date which is 14th March.
CharlieH89 said:
Good luck! Are you having a girl or a boy?
We are 38 weeks today.
Baby has weighed above the line the past 8 weeks and we have had to have scans every 2 weeks. 'Big baby this, big baby that'
Wife started having pains last Friday. We then went the lake district Monday in which she had the worst pain she's ever had, tears in the car for the hour journey home.
Scan and sweep yesterday. Weight is at 41 weeks apparently and 2cm dilated. The consultant has said another sweep next week and then an induction can be planned on the due date which is 14th March.
No idea, complete surprise on the day, not sure I'd have done it that way out of choice but it's how Hannah wanted it.We are 38 weeks today.
Baby has weighed above the line the past 8 weeks and we have had to have scans every 2 weeks. 'Big baby this, big baby that'
Wife started having pains last Friday. We then went the lake district Monday in which she had the worst pain she's ever had, tears in the car for the hour journey home.
Scan and sweep yesterday. Weight is at 41 weeks apparently and 2cm dilated. The consultant has said another sweep next week and then an induction can be planned on the due date which is 14th March.
Baby is weighing slightly above the line but has been consistent over last few scans. She'll be 38+2 when she is induced. They won't let her go full term due to past recurrent miscarriages and because she's been on daily Fragmin (blood thinning) injections since day one.
Weighed 6 lbs 1oz last Saturday so they reckon it'll be a 7.5 lber come eviction day.
Sweep booked in for next Friday.
Good luck with everything!
Blown2CV said:
SunsetZed said:
SpeckledJim said:
Blown2CV said:
however, transferring a sleeping child without waking them is a useful skill to acquire.
But a deeply, deeply unpleasant apprenticeship!With my son (who is now 6) you can still take him out of the car and deposit him in bed, in fact I managed to do this and change him into his PJ's a couple of months ago! Yet my daughter (2) pings awake as soon as the engine is switched off, and leaving the engine running and trying makes no difference. And its not just a little bit awake, it's wide awake!
On the plus side, she's good at going into her cot and going back to sleep on her own so it's not generally a problem.
AB said:
CharlieH89 said:
Good luck! Are you having a girl or a boy?
We are 38 weeks today.
Baby has weighed above the line the past 8 weeks and we have had to have scans every 2 weeks. 'Big baby this, big baby that'
Wife started having pains last Friday. We then went the lake district Monday in which she had the worst pain she's ever had, tears in the car for the hour journey home.
Scan and sweep yesterday. Weight is at 41 weeks apparently and 2cm dilated. The consultant has said another sweep next week and then an induction can be planned on the due date which is 14th March.
No idea, complete surprise on the day, not sure I'd have done it that way out of choice but it's how Hannah wanted it.We are 38 weeks today.
Baby has weighed above the line the past 8 weeks and we have had to have scans every 2 weeks. 'Big baby this, big baby that'
Wife started having pains last Friday. We then went the lake district Monday in which she had the worst pain she's ever had, tears in the car for the hour journey home.
Scan and sweep yesterday. Weight is at 41 weeks apparently and 2cm dilated. The consultant has said another sweep next week and then an induction can be planned on the due date which is 14th March.
Baby is weighing slightly above the line but has been consistent over last few scans. She'll be 38+2 when she is induced. They won't let her go full term due to past recurrent miscarriages and because she's been on daily Fragmin (blood thinning) injections since day one.
Weighed 6 lbs 1oz last Saturday so they reckon it'll be a 7.5 lber come eviction day.
Sweep booked in for next Friday.
Good luck with everything!
The past few weeks have dragged and i'm growing impatient now, especially seeing my wife in pain.I'd love it if she came over this weekend. Wishful thinking.
Apparently our baby is 8.5lbs but they can only do it off of the measurements of legs, head and belly can't they. A google shown me that some predicted 10lb babies have been 7lb.
Very exciting times then coming your way! We are all here to help and support, and welcome you to the world of parenting.
Had our first "scare" on Tuesday night. Emily has been quite clingy recently, which is to be expected, but it got to the point on Tuesday where even trying to put her in the cot was triggering a complete meltdown, and then putting her on my shoulder was instant sleep.
However this, coupled with her recent jabs, a cold, plus a worryingly high temperature, caused her to breathe quite erratically, almost as if she wasn't getting the air all the way to her lungs (she was, but it sounded gaspy) was enough to get the 111 operator to send a paramedic our way, who then decided to take her and my wife to hospital for a check with the paediatric doc. Not a blue light run fortuantely, but worrying none the less when you can't think rationally at 12.30am and they say "These signs could be sepsis..." you ignore the "But it probably isn't" part.
Fortunately, all was "OK" and the doctor was happy once she had calmed down, the difficulty being trying to clear her nose and throat, she hates having her nose wiped so keeps sniffing it all back in which caused the issue we think, or at least made it worse.
But as they all said, it really is better to exercise caution with young babies who can't tell you what's wrong. My parents almost missed a meningitis diagnosis with my brother because as he was the 4th child they kind of thoguht they'd seen it all and he was just a bit more unwell, but luckily sense prevailed and all was caught in time for any serious long term effects.
TLDR - don't be afraid to worry about them and seek professional advice!
Had our first "scare" on Tuesday night. Emily has been quite clingy recently, which is to be expected, but it got to the point on Tuesday where even trying to put her in the cot was triggering a complete meltdown, and then putting her on my shoulder was instant sleep.
However this, coupled with her recent jabs, a cold, plus a worryingly high temperature, caused her to breathe quite erratically, almost as if she wasn't getting the air all the way to her lungs (she was, but it sounded gaspy) was enough to get the 111 operator to send a paramedic our way, who then decided to take her and my wife to hospital for a check with the paediatric doc. Not a blue light run fortuantely, but worrying none the less when you can't think rationally at 12.30am and they say "These signs could be sepsis..." you ignore the "But it probably isn't" part.
Fortunately, all was "OK" and the doctor was happy once she had calmed down, the difficulty being trying to clear her nose and throat, she hates having her nose wiped so keeps sniffing it all back in which caused the issue we think, or at least made it worse.
But as they all said, it really is better to exercise caution with young babies who can't tell you what's wrong. My parents almost missed a meningitis diagnosis with my brother because as he was the 4th child they kind of thoguht they'd seen it all and he was just a bit more unwell, but luckily sense prevailed and all was caught in time for any serious long term effects.
TLDR - don't be afraid to worry about them and seek professional advice!
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