Any other expectant Dads?

[vonuber]

Budflicker said:

I thought I'd accidentally ended up on Mumsnet for a moment there....

There is some testosterone deficiency going on in this thread.

Have you covered daddy paposes yet?

Sod off and confront your masculinity issues somewhere else.

[Squishey]

Re. car seats. We went for the Maxi-Cosi Pebble with a Family Fix base in each car, then once he'd grown out of the Pebble we got the Pearl for my car (as he's only in it occasionally) and got an Axiss-Fix Air for the wife's car.

The Maxi-Cosi stuff is really good quality and easy to use, they come apart easily for washing too. I've still got a Pebble and Family Fix base which I will sell if anyone is interested, PM me. I'm in Ipswich but work in Lowestoft so can arrange to drop it off along the A12 somewhere.

[Japveesix]

Blown2CV said:

lowdrag said:

An interesting statistic on Radio 4 the other day. In my day about 50% of fathers were there at the birth. Astoundingly, that is now 98%. Do you youngsters concur? Is it so today?

i mean it's difficult to disagree if that's what the verified statistics say, but to be honest i am not sure why someone would choose to miss it.

This. It seems bizarre and quite unthinkable to me that anyone would even consider missing it by choice. And the many new(ish) dads I know have all been there and done everything they could, quite obviously really, to help their partners.

I guess there night be the odd bellend like Buddlicker who just waits at home with a beer and some porn until his wife has produced the offspring but hopefully he's in the minority.

[vaud]

Japveesix said:

This. It seems bizarre and quite unthinkable to me that anyone would even consider missing it by choice. And the many new(ish) dads I know have all been there and done everything they could, quite obviously really, to help their partners.

I guess there night be the odd bellend like Buddlicker who just waits at home with a beer and some porn until his wife has produced the offspring but hopefully he's in the minority.

We collect a lot more data these days, so comparisons should be treated with caution. Also what does "present" mean - at her side or in the hospital? For some generations the father paced about outside the room and it was very much a midwife/nurses/mother birth?

[Lazadude]

I'm surprised that its only 2% who aren't at the bedside then.

Military / Late or traffic / Don't want to be in the room / Single mums / Dads in prison etc etc - all I thought would take up more than 2%.

[Feirny]

anonymous said:

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Change the bottles you’re using, we struggled with some but bought some Mam ones and they’re great now.

[vaud]

What's in the bottle? Breast milk or formula?

Both of ours breast fed exclusively and went to nursery at 8 months. Both fine, they were on solid-ish food by then and just had breast milk at the start of day and after pick up, no bottles at nursery.

[Burwood]

anonymous said:

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Have you tried NUK bottles. We struggled with our daughter. NUK worked when others failed.

[malks222]

i’m typing this from the maternity ward as my new daughter sleeps on my chest and my wife sleeps in the bed next to me.

codie arrived at lunch time on hogmanay. we had a c section booked for 7th but got brought forward due to high blood pressure. due date was 8th, so they felt she was plenty cooked and brought her early.

everything was really relaxed and calm and an amazing experience. just feels so surreal to suddenly have this tiny human that you’ve dreamed about for 9 months. it feels weird but perfectly normal at the same time.

been given a reality check/ huge boost in confidence when we see the 17yr old couple in the bed opposite. the lad keeps going out coming back in stinking of smoke, pretty sure she’s out smoking too, midwives having to take the baby when they wander off. they opened the windows in the ward when the family arrived because the 4 bed room was stinking of smoke. they’ve been arguing with staff why the lad can’t sleep in the room overnight, why have they not been given a private room, “but there’s loads empty, we can see all the empty room”. it’s horrible as the staff have to treat them the same as everyone but getting treated like shi!t. it makes us realise how lucky we have it, and that some others aren’t so lucky.

[Peanut Gallery]

Randomly ours drank from an open glass but would not touch a bottle, maybe try some formula in an open glass / plastic cup?

[vaud]

anonymous said:

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They were both full time at nursery (9-5 x 5 days) and were/are both very good eaters. They seem to copy from peers at nursery for eating habits and an extra 6 months is a massive difference in eating styles; by 12 months they will be eating all sorts (messily ) At the end of the day the connection to mum or dad to breast/bottle is as much about reconnection as nutrition.

[Lazadude]

Mine would only use mam bottles. I like them though as they were sterilisation via microwave. Made traveling alot easier!

[jdw100]

lowdrag said:

An interesting statistic on Radio 4 the other day. In my day about 50% of fathers were there at the birth. Astoundingly, that is now 98%. Do you youngsters concur? Is it so today?

I was there for mine two years ago and I was 49 at the time.

I can't think of many of my friends who missed theirs..? (male friends obviously, female friends had to be there..thats how it works.)

My dad missed mine as it was over very quickly but was there for my brothers.


In fact I did another one this year. One of my best mates was giving birth and the knob-head father of the child - despite being an 'entrepreneur' didn't have the money to fly from SA to Bali. Knob.

I did the dad bit. Quite funny as the staff couldn't get the idea that I wasn't the dad. Sign here please dad, here is your baby boy dad, do you want to cut the cord, dad? etc etc.

It was the same doctor that my wife and I had used throughout the pregnancy and for our birth - he is a cool guy; singing songs to the mother, little bit of a dance on delivery...

He looked a bit bemused to see me lined up for this one and I had to quickly explain this wasn't mine!

Not as much fun as for the birth of our daughter, we had five of us in there for the birth, as just me. But great to see another little baby come in to the world!

[lowdrag]

vaud said:

We collect a lot more data these days, so comparisons should be treated with caution. Also what does "present" mean - at her side or in the hospital? For some generations the father paced about outside the room and it was very much a midwife/nurses/mother birth?

Which is how it was in my day. The sister came and told me that it was going to be a long night and to go home and get some rest. When I got home the phone was ringing and I had a daughter.

[Blown2CV]

anonymous said:

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Change the bottles you’re using, we struggled with some but bought some Mam ones and they’re great now.

Will give em a go. Cheers for the suggestion. That'll be the 4th bottle variant then

vaud said:

What's in the bottle? Breast milk or formula?

Have tried both in the past. Will give breast another go as we've been trying formula most recently.

vaud said:

Both of ours breast fed exclusively and went to nursery at 8 months. Both fine, they were on solid-ish food by then and just had breast milk at the start of day and after pick up, no bottles at nursery.

That sounds hopeful. Cheers

something we found is that if you express and freeze breast milk and then thaw it out then it can taste absolutely rank. It's due to the presence of an enzyme which is there is some women and not others, and can even change for the same Mum over different babies they've had (this is what happened to us). We just thought he hated bottle feeding, turns out it was the milk. As it stands he was less and less interested in the boob and against the Mrs' plans we moved him onto formula as a test and he seemed to massively prefer it. At 6.5 months they should be having a bit of food now so maybe yours has just decided they prefer that? Difficult though as milk should still be primary source of nutrition until like nearly a year i thought.

[Martin_Hx]

Car seat (clip in and out carrier + isofix) was fitted to the car yesterday, to stay permanently, its getting real! Due 20th Jan

We also have a Jolie 360 to use when he (hopefully still a he when he arrives) is around 3-6 months old.

[Lazadude]

Martin_Hx said:

Car seat (clip in and out carrier + isofix) was fitted to the car yesterday, to stay permanently, its getting real! Due 20th Jan

We also have a Jolie 360 to use when he (hopefully still a he when he arrives) is around 3-6 months old.

We used a Maxi-Cosi Pebble + isofix base (and pushchair adapters) when mine was small, being able to just unclip a sleeping baby and carry upstairs or quickly around shops was a god send. - Only for 2 hours in the chair at time!

We have since moved up to a Joie Spin, and although bulkier it actually takes up less room in the back of the car when clipped in etc.

[Martin_Hx]

Lazadude said:

Martin_Hx said:

Car seat (clip in and out carrier + isofix) was fitted to the car yesterday, to stay permanently, its getting real! Due 20th Jan

We also have a Jolie 360 to use when he (hopefully still a he when he arrives) is around 3-6 months old.

Only for 2 hours in the chair at time!

This is what my Mrs said, we will see how we get on but like you said it will be brill just clipping and moving the baby from the car to the whatever without unclipping them.

Unpacking the 360 tonight so will have a quick nosey and get it registered!

[Peanut Gallery]

Martin_Hx said:

Lazadude said:

Martin_Hx said:

Car seat (clip in and out carrier + isofix) was fitted to the car yesterday, to stay permanently, its getting real! Due 20th Jan

We also have a Jolie 360 to use when he (hopefully still a he when he arrives) is around 3-6 months old.

Only for 2 hours in the chair at time!

This is what my Mrs said, we will see how we get on but like you said it will be brill just clipping and moving the baby from the car to the whatever without unclipping them.

Unpacking the 360 tonight so will have a quick nosey and get it registered!

Err, you're supposed to register it? Oops!

We used the car seat plus seperatebase for a year or thereabout, then onto the 360.

I should probably try find the first seat again, due the 28th!

[CharlieH89]

malks222 said:

i’m typing this from the maternity ward as my new daughter sleeps on my chest and my wife sleeps in the bed next to me.

been given a reality check/ huge boost in confidence when we see the 17yr old couple in the bed opposite. the lad keeps going out coming back in stinking of smoke, pretty sure she’s out smoking too, midwives having to take the baby when they wander off. they opened the windows in the ward when the family arrived because the 4 bed room was stinking of smoke. they’ve been arguing with staff why the lad can’t sleep in the room overnight, why have they not been given a private room, “but there’s loads empty, we can see all the empty room”. it’s horrible as the staff have to treat them the same as everyone but getting treated like shi!t. it makes us realise how lucky we have it, and that some others aren’t so lucky.

Congrats first of all!

We were quite lucky in that we had our own room and I could stay overnight. It was amazing just lying with my hours old daughter in a little tub next to my head snoring.
I feel sorry for the baby seeing 17 year olds. Especially when they won’t have money but I’ve known people who haven’t had the maturity to be able to offer the love too, then the 35 year old ‘nan’ is kind of the parent.
The 17 year old misses out on so much in life. I’ve filled a lot of my life being 30 and I still want to do more.