Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
Stevil said:
As already mentioned KTF, must be incredibly tough and you're a better man than I to have pulled together for your little boy. Thoughts are with you and your boy and if you want to vent or simply go through anything with a complete stranger then feel free to PM me.
This. I honestly don't think I could have managed. Lazadude said:
This. I honestly don't think I could have managed.
Ultimately I have no choice. Being a single parent from the get go is different to being a parent as part of a couple then suddenly being not.I am also good at putting things in boxes in my head and not opening the lid to peek at the contents.
I was always hands on so doing all the various things is fine and his routine has been tweaked so he goes to bed earlier and is more regimented. You find your spare time is non existent until he goes to bed although he is slowly getting to the point where he can amuse himself whilst I am having a shower, etc.
I am on permanent night shift though which is less fun when he is ill but most nights he does sleep through.
massive respect ktf. i get that you have to just ‘get on with it’ a bit, but make sure you take time for yourself at some point. maybe not right now, maybe in a while, but i’m sure you’ll do a great job.
to lighten the mood a little bit, i had a text from mrs malks saying- something happened with the microwave steriliser. think her mum had been messing with the microwave settings and this had happened........
i asked if she remembered to add water......... oops. at least the contents aren’t ruined like the previous poster! anyway a new one ordeed, delivery for tomorrow. bloody love amazon
to lighten the mood a little bit, i had a text from mrs malks saying- something happened with the microwave steriliser. think her mum had been messing with the microwave settings and this had happened........
i asked if she remembered to add water......... oops. at least the contents aren’t ruined like the previous poster! anyway a new one ordeed, delivery for tomorrow. bloody love amazon
anonymous said:
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How old is the little one? I *really* need to start doing this with my daughter. Mrs GPM doesn't want mini GPM crying too much on her own... I think 5 or 10 mins would be acceptable though as per your previous posts... Currently reading the book recommended further up this thread and then I'll see what we're going to do. We're not getting any time to be a couple at the moment, but we did manage a walk by the river and a quick pint with mini GPM in tow today. It was even quite relaxed, she slept a bit in the car and the buggy and then was awake but very interested in everything rather than settling back to sleep.Gallons Per Mile said:
How old is the little one? I *really* need to start doing this with my daughter. Mrs GPM doesn't want mini GPM crying too much on her own... I think 5 or 10 mins would be acceptable though as per your previous posts... Currently reading the book recommended further up this thread and then I'll see what we're going to do. We're not getting any time to be a couple at the moment, but we did manage a walk by the river and a quick pint with mini GPM in tow today. It was even quite relaxed, she slept a bit in the car and the buggy and then was awake but very interested in everything rather than settling back to sleep.
That's normal for a day nap dude ours has 30 minutes in the pram in the afternoon then bolts up right and looks around. Hope the book reading is going well? It really does work after a while I know she's down now until 6ish with the odd movement and wake up but I think we're not helping her self soothing by giving her dummy in the night. Also she cries at least once a night we think is dreaming but unsure!
t just as quickly. Good luck. 
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Ok, apparently they are quite good at being trained for sleep after around 6 months so that may be why yours is so successful. I'm happy being ruthless and leaving her to cry but Mrs GPM isn't keen on it. Five or ten minutes should be acceptable to her though so we may well try what you've been doing. Only problem is our has never really slept in the moses basket or bedside cot on her own. Mrs GPM has always given in as soon as mini started to cry. Hope your training continues as successfully as the first couple of nights, I'm really looking forward to reading this book and trying out a few ideas.
It is hard to do the sleep training, as there screams really get to you- as they are designed to, I guess.
But if you don't, good Lord are you making a rod for your own back. Luckily my other half was just as keen as me to get the first one on-board.
Second was easier as she just slotted in to the regular routine.
But if you don't, good Lord are you making a rod for your own back. Luckily my other half was just as keen as me to get the first one on-board.
Second was easier as she just slotted in to the regular routine.
lowdrag said:
I know it's silly, but I just have to smile every time I see the thread title.
I do what I can 
KTF, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your little boy is near enough the same age as my daughter and yeah, I just can't imagine suddenly having to do everything on my own like that. Honestly, we are here for you, if you need us, it's mainly what the thread is doing for people, I hope.
How do babies have this sense that Oh mummy and daddy are going out tonight I'll royally kick off!
MIL is up for a few days so thought we'd take advantage and go to the local ale house for a bit of us time. Walked there and as we got in the car park phone rang, MIL saying Harriet won't stop crying can you come back and help!
So close and yet so far. It took us 3 attempts to go out for our 1 year anniversary meal!
MIL is up for a few days so thought we'd take advantage and go to the local ale house for a bit of us time. Walked there and as we got in the car park phone rang, MIL saying Harriet won't stop crying can you come back and help!
So close and yet so far. It took us 3 attempts to go out for our 1 year anniversary meal!
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