Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
SunsetZed said:
Harry Flashman said:
I don't have a car with Isofix. Is this a must-have?
I'd say not until you get to the point that they need to use the seatbelt to strap them in (as opposed to straps built into the seat.At this point I'd say it becomes a must have unless you want to be either taking a seat in and out constantly or trying to strap it in place using just a seatbelt (and not the weight of the child as well).
Either way you're good until they reach maybe 5
If I found another cheap base unit, I'd probably get it as it does make things nice and quick, but it really is only a few seconds using a normal 3-point seatbelt to get her in and out.
Fermit - Many congratulations!
Anyway, we've been having some trouble the last couple of weeks because still, now at 6 weeks old, daughter wasn't feeding properly, and only really taking in enough to keep going, but not grow properly Supplemented with some formula, and expressed milk, but to little avail.
took her to a baby group on Monday and finally, after all the time asking every health visitor and midwife we've seen, they pointed out she had about an 80% tongue tie. They never checked for this when we asked, because apparently she wouldn't have it as my wife's nipples didn't hurt during feeding. This was bulls
t, because there are more symptoms, chief amongst which was the fact that baby wasn't feeding properly!All sorted now, popped up to a private clinic in Sutton, £160 later and she's got it snipped. A restless night last night though as she adapts but think this ought to make things rather better overall in the long run!
DuncB7 said:
Planning for nuclear apocalypse?
Ridiculous.
Read the whole thing? Thought not.Ridiculous.
Currently produces 2-3 times what little one consumes a day, what should we do with that, just throw it down the sink as it only lasts a day or so when fridged? She can't just not pump it out, that's how you get mastitis, blocked ducks, infections etc.
Harry Flashman said:
+1 Everyone's situation and preferences are different!
Quite pleased about lack of need for Isofix. Rather hoping that putting child in front seat of sports car and buzzing (slowly) home to my mother in Surrey and giving wife the odd weekend night off alone at home to go out with friends seems more possible.
Someone is about to tell me it's not happening, aren't they.
Just make sure you disable the airbag. Quite pleased about lack of need for Isofix. Rather hoping that putting child in front seat of sports car and buzzing (slowly) home to my mother in Surrey and giving wife the odd weekend night off alone at home to go out with friends seems more possible.
Someone is about to tell me it's not happening, aren't they.
Super Slo Mo said:
Harry Flashman said:
+1 Everyone's situation and preferences are different!
Quite pleased about lack of need for Isofix. Rather hoping that putting child in front seat of sports car and buzzing (slowly) home to my mother in Surrey and giving wife the odd weekend night off alone at home to go out with friends seems more possible.
Someone is about to tell me it's not happening, aren't they.
Just make sure you disable the airbag. Quite pleased about lack of need for Isofix. Rather hoping that putting child in front seat of sports car and buzzing (slowly) home to my mother in Surrey and giving wife the odd weekend night off alone at home to go out with friends seems more possible.
Someone is about to tell me it's not happening, aren't they.
As for ISOFix, We have the base in the main car (Saab estate), so we just click her car seat in and out without faffing around which is nice. We use belts on granny's focus as its Pre-ISOfix, and its just a bit more effort plus doesn't feel as secure. Saying that, when I was little they used to just belt the Moses basket to the car seat and be done with it!
Harry Flashman said:
I don't have a car with Isofix. Is this a must-have?
I would not say it is a must have, however it is very useful. Junior PG is 7 months old now, and it is very nice to strap her into the car seat indoors, wrap up etc, and then just carry out to the car and drop the seat onto the isofix base. Click, and it is in, no leaning over with rain dripping down your back etc.My car did not come with the isofix loops, I went along to Ford and bought the loops that just screw on - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ford-1357238-Fix-Mounting... - Yes, that is for a focus, not your car. (unless you have bought a Mk2 Focus during your house work!)
I have sometimes left the seat in the car and just pulled Junior PG out, carried her around the shops or whatever, and then whacked my head / her head on the car when trying to get her back into the seat. We have started to look into the next car seat, and have mostly decided on a swivel seat.
Most of all, CONGRATS! - Enjoy your house in its nice tidy current state - once the little ones toys arrive, there is no such thing as a tidy house!
And congrats to Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah! - yip, those 2 blue lines are one gulp, the heartbeat on the monitor are another major gulp! - CONGRATS!
Editing to add, if you do use bottles as opposed to the real deal, by all means you can go on nights out, etc. Some really good sleeping is done by them when in the car, and grannies love them! (probably because they can hand them back when they smell) Agree about the not using the front seat if there is no turn off airbag switch - also having them in the back makes it harder to stare at them while driving. Surprisingly this is not a good thing, looking where you are going is more important.
Lazadude, have you thought of donating milk? - Only if you want to, just some moms do not produce enough.
Shakermaker, congrats on getting the tongue tied fixed, having it done early is a lot easier than when they are older, and have to go in for general etc.
Harry Flashman said:
Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah said:
And thank you too Harry. Best get saving for that swimming pool build which shall be needed when they turn 15 
On a side note, am I right in thinking you're not a million miles away from us? I'm Southwell born and bred.
Thanks Fermit! No swimming pools - saving for the baby's education if we can. Local state schools are a bit stabby...On a side note, am I right in thinking you're not a million miles away from us? I'm Southwell born and bred.
I'm not near you - Londoner by choice, soft Surrey boy by breeding
Our kid will be half American too. Poor thing.
Harry Flashman said:
+1 Everyone's situation and preferences are different!
Quite pleased about lack of need for Isofix. Rather hoping that putting child in front seat of sports car and buzzing (slowly) home to my mother in Surrey and giving wife the odd weekend night off alone at home to go out with friends seems more possible.
Someone is about to tell me it's not happening, aren't they.
If you do go for isofix can recommend this one seat highly ...Quite pleased about lack of need for Isofix. Rather hoping that putting child in front seat of sports car and buzzing (slowly) home to my mother in Surrey and giving wife the odd weekend night off alone at home to go out with friends seems more possible.
Someone is about to tell me it's not happening, aren't they.
https://www.mothercare.com/baby-car-seats-group-0/...
Yes expensive- but swivels so real help with getting Baby in and out and technically should last us from birth to 3-4 years
So far 6 weeks in our little one seems very comfortable in it ...
Things have been going well for us and feel for you guys where baby is struggling to feed..
Ours took to breast straight away and seems he can’t get enough of it...
O/h had to cut back on her dairy as he would get really uncomfortable with wind and if he didn’t burp couldn’t sleep properly ..
Tried infacol which I don’t think did anything - more a placebo... after 6 weeks we have given him gripe water and seems a lot more settled...
But overall been amazing so far and love when the little one falls asleep on my chest and happily stays there for next 3 hours...
Edited by fizz47 on Friday 23 February 10:45
Edited by fizz47 on Friday 23 February 10:45
We had a harder time choosing buggy/prams then we did on car seats.
Finding one which folds nicely / isn't too heavy/ has a decent size carry/ and "drives" well was hard. Plus look on facebay etc for bargains as some of them cost a stupendous amount of money for what is bent aluminium.
We are at the moment using a Silver cross pioneer and have just moved from the basket to a sitting upright seat. This should have been the best part of a grand but we got one used for a day (perfect wheels etc, still with box and the sit up seat was still sealed) on Facebook for £300.
The car seat is a Maxi cosi pebble, with a maxi cosi iosfix base to clip onto, but can be belted in if needed.
Car seat bases also need checking as an ISO standard isn't the same across the different spec of same cars never mind across manufacturers. Mothercare do free trial fitting so you know what will fit, even when you buy elsewhere...
The maxi cosi car seat will just click straight onto the silver cross frame too, so if little one is asleep and its just a 5 mins around the shop, she unclips from car with a button and clips straight onto the buggy. (and vice versa).
Finding one which folds nicely / isn't too heavy/ has a decent size carry/ and "drives" well was hard. Plus look on facebay etc for bargains as some of them cost a stupendous amount of money for what is bent aluminium.
We are at the moment using a Silver cross pioneer and have just moved from the basket to a sitting upright seat. This should have been the best part of a grand but we got one used for a day (perfect wheels etc, still with box and the sit up seat was still sealed) on Facebook for £300.
The car seat is a Maxi cosi pebble, with a maxi cosi iosfix base to clip onto, but can be belted in if needed.
Car seat bases also need checking as an ISO standard isn't the same across the different spec of same cars never mind across manufacturers. Mothercare do free trial fitting so you know what will fit, even when you buy elsewhere...
The maxi cosi car seat will just click straight onto the silver cross frame too, so if little one is asleep and its just a 5 mins around the shop, she unclips from car with a button and clips straight onto the buggy. (and vice versa).
Lazadude said:
The car seat is a Maxi cosi pebble, with a maxi cosi iosfix base to clip onto, but can be belted in if needed.
This is what we have, my wife leaves the seat in the car permanently and just takes the baby directly from the seat even though the seat also fits the pushchair, i'm so glad we bought it! 
Nearly time for the next seat now, hopefully the base will get a bit more use!
Signed up just for this post (long term lurker)
Our first is due late March, early April, after like some others a crappy 2016. excited and scared in equal measure.
I do have a baby/car interface related question - has anyone got any experience of car seat covers or will I just admit that the alcantara will never be the same again.
Cheers,
Our first is due late March, early April, after like some others a crappy 2016. excited and scared in equal measure.
I do have a baby/car interface related question - has anyone got any experience of car seat covers or will I just admit that the alcantara will never be the same again.
Cheers,
Lazadude said:
Read the whole thing? Thought not.
Currently produces 2-3 times what little one consumes a day, what should we do with that, just throw it down the sink as it only lasts a day or so when fridged? She can't just not pump it out, that's how you get mastitis, blocked ducks, infections etc.
Have you considered donating your milk, if you've got spare milk it all goes to such an amazing cause. Currently produces 2-3 times what little one consumes a day, what should we do with that, just throw it down the sink as it only lasts a day or so when fridged? She can't just not pump it out, that's how you get mastitis, blocked ducks, infections etc.
Have a google, plenty places out there.
Bikesalot said:
Have you considered donating your milk, if you've got spare milk it all goes to such an amazing cause.
Have a google, plenty places out there.
It is a brilliant suggestion and we (well i say we... I have no part hah) already donate ~60ozs a week! Have a google, plenty places out there.
Part of it is you can't just "give" it away. Only certain hospitals take it, and then only if you meet specific guidelines. The hospital we gave birth in don't take donations and the next nearest wont take it as the OH is on anti-depressants due to baby blues.
The giving it to another mum depends on the other mum, and what they think of what your diet is. Mothers in the wild are mental!
Blown2CV said:
Isofix is a bizarre one. People assume it is safer, but it only exists to make it easier to fit the seat properly / harder to get wrong. In fact there is evidence to suggest that a correctly fitted belted seat is slightly safer than a correctly fitted isofix seat.
That and it's bolted directly to the Chassis, but if you look at it, its held on by such small bolts. Edited by Lazadude on Friday 23 February 12:39
Bikesalot said:
Lazadude said:
Read the whole thing? Thought not.
Currently produces 2-3 times what little one consumes a day, what should we do with that, just throw it down the sink as it only lasts a day or so when fridged? She can't just not pump it out, that's how you get mastitis, blocked ducks, infections etc.
Have you considered donating your milk, if you've got spare milk it all goes to such an amazing cause. Currently produces 2-3 times what little one consumes a day, what should we do with that, just throw it down the sink as it only lasts a day or so when fridged? She can't just not pump it out, that's how you get mastitis, blocked ducks, infections etc.
Have a google, plenty places out there.
Shakermaker said:
SunsetZed said:
Harry Flashman said:
I don't have a car with Isofix. Is this a must-have?
I'd say not until you get to the point that they need to use the seatbelt to strap them in (as opposed to straps built into the seat.At this point I'd say it becomes a must have unless you want to be either taking a seat in and out constantly or trying to strap it in place using just a seatbelt (and not the weight of the child as well).
Either way you're good until they reach maybe 5
If I found another cheap base unit, I'd probably get it as it does make things nice and quick, but it really is only a few seconds using a normal 3-point seatbelt to get her in and out.
Fermit - Many congratulations!
Anyway, we've been having some trouble the last couple of weeks because still, now at 6 weeks old, daughter wasn't feeding properly, and only really taking in enough to keep going, but not grow properly Supplemented with some formula, and expressed milk, but to little avail.
took her to a baby group on Monday and finally, after all the time asking every health visitor and midwife we've seen, they pointed out she had about an 80% tongue tie. They never checked for this when we asked, because apparently she wouldn't have it as my wife's nipples didn't hurt during feeding. This was bulls
t, because there are more symptoms, chief amongst which was the fact that baby wasn't feeding properly!All sorted now, popped up to a private clinic in Sutton, £160 later and she's got it snipped. A restless night last night though as she adapts but think this ought to make things rather better overall in the long run!
I don't know what base you need or where in the country you are so it's a massive longshot but I'm in Berkshire and I'll be sticking a couple of Maxi Cosi Easyfix bases on Facebay soon, if you want it (or anyone else on here!) let me know. Our smallest is almost out of the Cabriofix so that will be going too!
I always struggled with confidence with our first. Like a member above, she had tongue tie (undiagnosed for 8 weeks) which led to round the clock breast feeding. As a result of this, I could never settle her and it was just pass to Mum. I'm sure a few months of this fed the lack of confidence, and frankly the first 3 years I dreaded being alone with the nipper! Glad to say as she grew and I could relate to her more and more, things got better and at 4.5 she's my little mate.
Son born 6 weeks ago, apart from getting him home, then straight back to hospital for a week with sepsis, it's been much easier. I'm sure it being the second, and my knowing everything will work out, makes me much more relaxed about everything.
Hard to do so, but everything will get much easier if you can just relax a bit. I too feel the guilt when Mrs has him 90% of the time, then I fail to wake in the night (sleeping like a baby!) so she deals with that too.
Things will work out. Despite the facebook posts from women pretending their life/baby/partner is perfect, it's tough for everyone. You'll get there!
Son born 6 weeks ago, apart from getting him home, then straight back to hospital for a week with sepsis, it's been much easier. I'm sure it being the second, and my knowing everything will work out, makes me much more relaxed about everything.
Hard to do so, but everything will get much easier if you can just relax a bit. I too feel the guilt when Mrs has him 90% of the time, then I fail to wake in the night (sleeping like a baby!) so she deals with that too.
Things will work out. Despite the facebook posts from women pretending their life/baby/partner is perfect, it's tough for everyone. You'll get there!
Shakermaker said:
Anyway, we've been having some trouble the last couple of weeks because still, now at 6 weeks old, daughter wasn't feeding properly, and only really taking in enough to keep going, but not grow properly Supplemented with some formula, and expressed milk, but to little avail.
took her to a baby group on Monday and finally, after all the time asking every health visitor and midwife we've seen, they pointed out she had about an 80% tongue tie. They never checked for this when we asked, because apparently she wouldn't have it as my wife's nipples didn't hurt during feeding. This was bullst, because there are more symptoms, chief amongst which was the fact that baby wasn't feeding properly!
All sorted now, popped up to a private clinic in Sutton, £160 later and she's got it snipped. A restless night last night though as she adapts but think this ought to make things rather better overall in the long run!
We’ve had similar problems leading to our now 12-week-old daughter being underweight. My OH was told by the midwife yesterday that a tongue tie may be the problem so we’re on the case right now and will get it sorted privately as my OH has cover and we want her catch up weight wise. Also we’d like to have an easier time feeding her with less winding required!took her to a baby group on Monday and finally, after all the time asking every health visitor and midwife we've seen, they pointed out she had about an 80% tongue tie. They never checked for this when we asked, because apparently she wouldn't have it as my wife's nipples didn't hurt during feeding. This was bulls
t, because there are more symptoms, chief amongst which was the fact that baby wasn't feeding properly!All sorted now, popped up to a private clinic in Sutton, £160 later and she's got it snipped. A restless night last night though as she adapts but think this ought to make things rather better overall in the long run!
SunsetZed said:
Glad to hear you got the tongue tie sorted, that's brilliant.
I don't know what base you need or where in the country you are so it's a massive longshot but I'm in Berkshire and I'll be sticking a couple of Maxi Cosi Easyfix bases on Facebay soon, if you want it (or anyone else on here!) let me know. Our smallest is almost out of the Cabriofix so that will be going too!
That would be the right base for us, I think, we've got the "FamilyFix" base. I don't know what base you need or where in the country you are so it's a massive longshot but I'm in Berkshire and I'll be sticking a couple of Maxi Cosi Easyfix bases on Facebay soon, if you want it (or anyone else on here!) let me know. Our smallest is almost out of the Cabriofix so that will be going too!
However, I'm Sussex and whilst not a million miles from Berkshire, probably further than I'll be going in the near future. The offer is much appreciated though
Unexpected Item In The Bagging Area said:
Shakermaker said:
Anyway, we've been having some trouble the last couple of weeks because still, now at 6 weeks old, daughter wasn't feeding properly, and only really taking in enough to keep going, but not grow properly Supplemented with some formula, and expressed milk, but to little avail.
took her to a baby group on Monday and finally, after all the time asking every health visitor and midwife we've seen, they pointed out she had about an 80% tongue tie. They never checked for this when we asked, because apparently she wouldn't have it as my wife's nipples didn't hurt during feeding. This was bullst, because there are more symptoms, chief amongst which was the fact that baby wasn't feeding properly!
All sorted now, popped up to a private clinic in Sutton, £160 later and she's got it snipped. A restless night last night though as she adapts but think this ought to make things rather better overall in the long run!
We’ve had similar problems leading to our now 12-week-old daughter being underweight. My OH was told by the midwife yesterday that a tongue tie may be the problem so we’re on the case right now and will get it sorted privately as my OH has cover and we want her catch up weight wise. Also we’d like to have an easier time feeding her with less winding required!took her to a baby group on Monday and finally, after all the time asking every health visitor and midwife we've seen, they pointed out she had about an 80% tongue tie. They never checked for this when we asked, because apparently she wouldn't have it as my wife's nipples didn't hurt during feeding. This was bulls
t, because there are more symptoms, chief amongst which was the fact that baby wasn't feeding properly!All sorted now, popped up to a private clinic in Sutton, £160 later and she's got it snipped. A restless night last night though as she adapts but think this ought to make things rather better overall in the long run!
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