Any other expectant Dads?

[Gallons Per Mile]

richatnort said:

She's 7 months, funnily since she's had her throw up stage & a few runny poo's she seems to be back to normal now but the wife on the other hand is in a rough shape bless her so she's gone to bed.

Hopefully it's only a 24 hour thing. I've felt better since the day has gone on thankfully so i must have had a mild version of it.

Hope all is getting better for you! I think I've had the same thing at home too. Luckily I've been virtually unaffected but poor Mrs GPM seems to be feeling ill quite a bit. Mini GPM has been sick a couple of times, filled a few nappies but apart from that her usually happy smiley self!

[richatnort]

Gallons Per Mile said:

Hope all is getting better for you! I think I've had the same thing at home too. Luckily I've been virtually unaffected but poor Mrs GPM seems to be feeling ill quite a bit. Mini GPM has been sick a couple of times, filled a few nappies but apart from that her usually happy smiley self!

Thanks we've definitely put it down to norovirus now as we have every symptom on the list. I caught it last night, I've never been so sick in my life it was grim. All I could think about was making sure Harriet was ok rather than myself.

[Merry]

So, at the risk of turning this into another one of those threads..

Wife is 8 weeks pregnant - what are people doing in light of the new government guidelines with regards the virus?

I'll be ensuring she's minimising social contact, but she's a teacher and we have a 2 year old. It's going to be pretty rough.

Impeccable timing as always!

[Stu-nph26]

Merry said:

So, at the risk of turning this into another one of those threads..

Wife is 8 weeks pregnant - what are people doing in light of the new government guidelines with regards the virus?

I'll be ensuring she's minimising social contact, but she's a teacher and we have a 2 year old. It's going to be pretty rough.

Impeccable timing as always!

Wife is 28 weeks pregnant we’re taking no risks. We can both work from home so we’re self isolating. Not going to lie this is getting terrifying now but I need to hold it together for the Mrs

[vaud]

Merry said:

So, at the risk of turning this into another one of those threads..

Wife is 8 weeks pregnant - what are people doing in light of the new government guidelines with regards the virus?

I'll be ensuring she's minimising social contact, but she's a teacher and we have a 2 year old. It's going to be pretty rough.

Impeccable timing as always!

The problem with pregnancy is that there are two issues:

1) lack of data given how new the virus is
2) it's unethical to test drugs on pregnant wormen

... so advice tends to be conservative.

I understand that it can't be passed directly from mother to child pre-birth, so if she is healthy without underlying issues then I'd suggest carrying on.. maybe asking school for distancing measures where possible (avoid staff room, etc)?

(I am not a medic)

[ChocolateFrog]

Stu-nph26 said:

Anyone else have a baby due in the coming months slightly concerned about Corona Virus? My Mrs is due 5th June which is bang in the middle of the peak.

Due Apr 7th.

Not worried but can see the likely possibility that midwives and doctors will be thin on the ground.

It's in the birth plan that I want to deliver him anyway, but that won't count for much if something goes wrong.

[Stu-nph26]

ChocolateFrog said:

Stu-nph26 said:

Anyone else have a baby due in the coming months slightly concerned about Corona Virus? My Mrs is due 5th June which is bang in the middle of the peak.

Due Apr 7th.

Not worried but can see the likely possibility that midwives and doctors will be thin on the ground.

It's in the birth plan that I want to deliver him anyway, but that won't count for much if something goes wrong.

Wow that’s awesome didn’t even know that was an option, not that I’m brave enough to do that anyway. Might be worth doing a bit research Incase I have to driver her depending on what happens in the next couple of months

[Nemophilist]

vaud said:

Merry said:

So, at the risk of turning this into another one of those threads..

Wife is 8 weeks pregnant - what are people doing in light of the new government guidelines with regards the virus?

I'll be ensuring she's minimising social contact, but she's a teacher and we have a 2 year old. It's going to be pretty rough.

Impeccable timing as always!

The problem with pregnancy is that there are two issues:

1) lack of data given how new the virus is
2) it's unethical to test drugs on pregnant wormen

... so advice tends to be conservative.

I understand that it can't be passed directly from mother to child pre-birth, so if she is healthy without underlying issues then I'd suggest carrying on.. maybe asking school for distancing measures where possible (avoid staff room, etc)?

(I am not a medic)

I guess also affecting pregnant women is in third trimester they have less lung capacity due to space being taken up by baby so more dangerous to have a respiratory issue.

I can imagine the burden on the NHS would be greater should a pregnant women about to give birth gets it as we have seen with the recent case where mother and baby have both had to be isolated separately and much of the government advise is to prevent unnecessary strain on the NHS

I’m 30 weeks and not due into work for a few days but I can’t imagine my work to be that bothered about the new guidelines despite being a London border company where Boris has said to take the most precautions

I had an email through tonight just to remind everyone to stay hygienic and wipe down their keyboards each day

[ChocolateFrog]

Stu-nph26 said:

ChocolateFrog said:

Stu-nph26 said:

Anyone else have a baby due in the coming months slightly concerned about Corona Virus? My Mrs is due 5th June which is bang in the middle of the peak.

Due Apr 7th.

Not worried but can see the likely possibility that midwives and doctors will be thin on the ground.

It's in the birth plan that I want to deliver him anyway, but that won't count for much if something goes wrong.

Wow that’s awesome didn’t even know that was an option, not that I’m brave enough to do that anyway. Might be worth doing a bit research Incase I have to driver her depending on what happens in the next couple of months

The OH took some convincing, but when it came to sitting down with the midwife it was her that brought it up.

I just think I'd rather be doing what I can with a midwife over my shoulder rather than the other way round and feeling like a spare part.

My rather naive notion is that cave men managed, infant mortality rates aside.

[FamousPheasant]

The little one's due date is today and no signs of it happening any time soon.

I have also just seen on the news that the advice from the deputy CMO regarding pregnant women - and particularly those in the third trimester - as being at a higher risk. Not clear what the specific concern is, but I can imagine they don't want women giving birth while shedding the virus.

My mum is getting a little hysterical (first grandchild), which doesn't help. Either way it looks like lockdown until it arrives.

[The jiffle king]

I've held off this thread for a long time, but my wife is 27 weeks and it's our first child. I'm 45 so a little late in starting but very excited about the prospect of being a parent and a little bit of trepidation about the unknown but mainly excitement.

I've been reading for a while and done the John Lewis appointment (very good tip) and have the room ready for when they are ready to move in. Like many others, we're clearly concerned by the advice yesterday on social distancing and will do what we can as my wife has a work from home business and I am now pushed to be at home. We also have our horse at home with a few of his friends, so I've been mucking out every day for a while and expect I will have to continue for a while to come

Anyone have an answer on the following?
- Can we still go to hospital appointments as usual? We have appointments every 2 weeks but heard nothing so far about whether we can still attend?
- Anyone else in the 3rd trimester social distancing? (want to reassure The Jiffle Queen)
- Anyone asking families and friends not to visit?
- Anyone else not bought anything yet

We have our answers but just looking to see if others are doing similar

[vaud]

There was a Q&A on Womans Hour about 20 mins ago on this topic - worth a listen...

[Nemophilist]

The jiffle king said:

I've held off this thread for a long time, but my wife is 27 weeks and it's our first child. I'm 45 so a little late in starting but very excited about the prospect of being a parent and a little bit of trepidation about the unknown but mainly excitement.

I've been reading for a while and done the John Lewis appointment (very good tip) and have the room ready for when they are ready to move in. Like many others, we're clearly concerned by the advice yesterday on social distancing and will do what we can as my wife has a work from home business and I am now pushed to be at home. We also have our horse at home with a few of his friends, so I've been mucking out every day for a while and expect I will have to continue for a while to come

Anyone have an answer on the following?
- Can we still go to hospital appointments as usual? We have appointments every 2 weeks but heard nothing so far about whether we can still attend?
- Anyone else in the 3rd trimester social distancing? (want to reassure The Jiffle Queen)
- Anyone asking families and friends not to visit?
- Anyone else not bought anything yet

We have our answers but just looking to see if others are doing similar

I’m
In 3rd trimester and social distancing as much as possible. Have set up milk and more for top ups of fresh goods to limit supermarket trips.
Cancelled afternoon teas with friends and visits from friends for now.

I am still attending appointments as recommended.
I am classed as high risk so have regular scans and appointments with consultant at my local hospital. I was there yesterday and I’ve never see it so quiet.
We have a 2.5 year old and glad he’s not in childcare or nursery.
I’m most sad about the potential of not seeing elderly parents for a while.
I had t bought anything (got rid of most after last child) but did an online order of any necessities last night so feel a bit calmer there.
Previously my advise had always been wait until you need it and then use prime!
I stocked up today on wool and will make a blanket, and husband is stocking up on air fix.
We also went to Waterstones and stocked up on books.

[Stu-nph26]

The jiffle king said:

I've held off this thread for a long time, but my wife is 27 weeks and it's our first child. I'm 45 so a little late in starting but very excited about the prospect of being a parent and a little bit of trepidation about the unknown but mainly excitement.

I've been reading for a while and done the John Lewis appointment (very good tip) and have the room ready for when they are ready to move in. Like many others, we're clearly concerned by the advice yesterday on social distancing and will do what we can as my wife has a work from home business and I am now pushed to be at home. We also have our horse at home with a few of his friends, so I've been mucking out every day for a while and expect I will have to continue for a while to come

Anyone have an answer on the following?
- Can we still go to hospital appointments as usual? We have appointments every 2 weeks but heard nothing so far about whether we can still attend?
- Anyone else in the 3rd trimester social distancing? (want to reassure The Jiffle Queen)
- Anyone asking families and friends not to visit?
- Anyone else not bought anything yet

We have our answers but just looking to see if others are doing similar

No expert but can share what we are doing, my wife is 29 weeks tomorrow:

-We will still be going to hospital appointment until told otherwise I think they are every 3 weeks with the midwife.
- We are social distancing now full speed ahead with both work from home, parents and friends are not visiting
- We've bought most things now

[The jiffle king]

Thankyou for the responses. I think we need to get on and buy some things but have stopped family and friends visiting.

[Nemophilist]

All my midwife appointments were cancelled yesterday, but no alternative of phone appointments or if they will take place in some other way given.

I havent been able to contact them to find out if I just carry on and wait now

[Blown2CV]

Nemophilist said:

All my midwife appointments were cancelled yesterday, but no alternative of phone appointments or if they will take place in some other way given.

I havent been able to contact them to find out if I just carry on and wait now

weird really considering it's not like midwives are really doing anything else than baby things. Maybe they have been placed on call to be moved across to general nursing if needed when the numbers really peak, but that would be a dangerous game as no one else can deliver babies!

[ukbabz]

We had 34 week checkup with our midwife yesterday, my wife ended up having a cry when asking about the stress and the midwife was clearly upset too. Can't be easy to have to comfort countless worried families when you're unsure too.

We're looking at switching from planned hospital birth to a local maternity unit based on this, it was a fairly close call before hand but we'd rather be away from the JR in Oxford as it's the main hospital for quite a large area and will likely be a hub for CV

[Peanut Gallery]

ukbabz said:

We had 34 week checkup with our midwife yesterday, my wife ended up having a cry when asking about the stress and the midwife was clearly upset too. Can't be easy to have to comfort countless worried families when you're unsure too.

We're looking at switching from planned hospital birth to a local maternity unit based on this, it was a fairly close call before hand but we'd rather be away from the JR in Oxford as it's the main hospital for quite a large area and will likely be a hub for CV

Just to say we went for a local birthing unit (10min drive) as opposed to the big hospital (40 min drive).

Highly highly recommend the smaller local birthing place, quiet, relaxed, just you and your baby to worry about, we had the benefit of it being 15 min under blues and twos to the hospital if needed. The hospital was really busy, lots of babys arriving, some say stressful.

I would say though the pain treatment available is limited, gas and air or morphine. If you want an epidural then you need to go into the big hospital. The small place also had birthing pools, if you want a pool!

At the end, we went to the small mat ward at about 11am, and left at about 11pm, driving gentler than I ever thought possible with a 3 hour old baby in the car.

[dirtbiker]

Anyone else working from home due to CV and struggling? My wife is on maternity leave and finding it quite hard because all of the baby classes are cancelled and she feels guilty about wanting to go out to meet friends. I'm trying to do my bit working remotely but finding that she's quite resentful that I'm not doing more with the baby - not easy at all!

I'm also meant to be doing a month of shared parental leave in April (my wife was planning to go back to work but she's working for an Engineering Consultancy which will probably have very little for her to do because all of the Oil & Gas operators have scaled things back) - really not sure how that's going to work out!

Our little one is nine months and is meant to be starting nursery in May, who knows whether that's going to go ahead!

Not looking for answers, just intrigued as to whether anyone else is having a tricky work/life balance! Guess it's going to get even harder for some once the schools close to most kids!