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we have a second hand wooden rocking chair in the nursery. some cushions (and some pipe insulation round the arms!) and a throw over it and my mrs seems happy enough.
we probably would have bought a proper nursing chair, but we didn’t have room for it in the flat/ nursery. my wife loves the john lewis nursing chair, the have them in the baby changing room, she says she’d have had that in a heart beat!
but also my wife says she wouldn’t actually have known what would be good/ comfortable/ worked until she actually got feeding with the baby. in the early days she when it’s literally eat/ sleep/ nappy...... she was much happier on the sofa with pillows/ cushion. not sure she’d have even considered the chair in another room for about 3 months!! i’m a great sleeper, so mrs malks just went night feeds in the bed from about 3/4months. saved so much faff, took codie out the next to me sleeping thing, quick feed then back into her cot.
we probably would have bought a proper nursing chair, but we didn’t have room for it in the flat/ nursery. my wife loves the john lewis nursing chair, the have them in the baby changing room, she says she’d have had that in a heart beat!
but also my wife says she wouldn’t actually have known what would be good/ comfortable/ worked until she actually got feeding with the baby. in the early days she when it’s literally eat/ sleep/ nappy...... she was much happier on the sofa with pillows/ cushion. not sure she’d have even considered the chair in another room for about 3 months!! i’m a great sleeper, so mrs malks just went night feeds in the bed from about 3/4months. saved so much faff, took codie out the next to me sleeping thing, quick feed then back into her cot.
thatsprettyshady said:
Has anyone here got experience of nursing chairs? My other half is keen to get one but so many options so if anyone has one they can suggest?
Depends on where/how the baby will sleep and feed really.We had one for our first, all the time he was in our room it didn't get used. Once we moved him to his own room my wife used it all the time.
You might get more use out of it early on if you're bottle feeding and taking it in turns though.
Hello folks and congrats to all the new fathers on here.
We're due our first on the 20th of August and it's been a little bit of an emotional roller coaster recently.
We've been having additional growth scans as we were in Mexico right at the beginning of the pregnancy, prior to us knowing my wife was pregnant and these were advised as a precaution due to the Zika virus.
Everything had been plain sailing up until week 30. While checking his brain they noticed that his lateral ventricals were measuring 10.7mm, a condition known as Ventriculomegaly which is classed as mild at 10-12 mm, moderate 12-15 mm or severe >15 mm. As far as they could tell this was isolated Ventriculomegaly with no other concerns elsewhere. The "normal" range is around 4-10 mm and adverse outcomes tend to increase with increase in vent size. To say this knocked the wind out of our sails is putting it mildly, and of course I was working offshore at the time on a 21 day trip and couldn't be there for my wife. Listening to her on the phone breaking her heart was truly awful.
We were told not to google the condition and not to worry but at the same time they were telling us of all the awful things this could mean for our unborn child: from developmental delays to autism, downs, various disabilities, hydrocephalus and from what I could gather, advise of termination in severe cases.
The next step was to come back in two weeks and reassess. From there we might have to go for an MRI to get a more accurate picture, or it may have resolved itself or show signs of improvement. Those were two very difficult weeks, I would lie in my cabin at night looking at the little fellas scan pictures in tears, willing him to get better and that we won't give up on him. I'll be honest, I really didn't realise how much love I had for him until this happened.
Of course I had to google it. I did nothing else for those two long weeks. While I found countless stories of very poor outcomes and terminations I found a study that there was evidence to suggest that the 10 mm upper limit in isolated VM should be increased to 12 mm as 97% of cases with <12 mm had normal outcomes. I took a lot of confidence from that but the main worry during that two weeks was "Are they still growing?", "Are they going to be 20 mm in two weeks?".
Fast forward two weeks (i'm still offshore but have a compassionate seat on the next available chopper lined up if it's bad news) and a doctor carries out the scan. My wife phones me after the scan while waiting to see the consultant and tells me they measured 9.4 mm "He's ok, he's going to be ok!" she says through tears.
The doctor advised that she's very happy with the results and that she has no further concerns. She went as far to apologise for what we must have went through in that two weeks but they were only reporting what they observed; doing their job. They have said that they don't require any further follow ups but for our peace of mind they can carry out another scan in four weeks time (around two weeks from now) which we are going to go ahead with.
We've gone back to enjoying the pregnancy and nursery preparations are just about complete. I just want the little guy here now. An awful experience but it's looking like everything is going to work out.
I'm not one for sharing too much personal stuff online but I thought it may be helpful for someone who is going through the same. The good outcome stories helped me a lot during that two week wait.
We're due our first on the 20th of August and it's been a little bit of an emotional roller coaster recently.
We've been having additional growth scans as we were in Mexico right at the beginning of the pregnancy, prior to us knowing my wife was pregnant and these were advised as a precaution due to the Zika virus.
Everything had been plain sailing up until week 30. While checking his brain they noticed that his lateral ventricals were measuring 10.7mm, a condition known as Ventriculomegaly which is classed as mild at 10-12 mm, moderate 12-15 mm or severe >15 mm. As far as they could tell this was isolated Ventriculomegaly with no other concerns elsewhere. The "normal" range is around 4-10 mm and adverse outcomes tend to increase with increase in vent size. To say this knocked the wind out of our sails is putting it mildly, and of course I was working offshore at the time on a 21 day trip and couldn't be there for my wife. Listening to her on the phone breaking her heart was truly awful.
We were told not to google the condition and not to worry but at the same time they were telling us of all the awful things this could mean for our unborn child: from developmental delays to autism, downs, various disabilities, hydrocephalus and from what I could gather, advise of termination in severe cases.
The next step was to come back in two weeks and reassess. From there we might have to go for an MRI to get a more accurate picture, or it may have resolved itself or show signs of improvement. Those were two very difficult weeks, I would lie in my cabin at night looking at the little fellas scan pictures in tears, willing him to get better and that we won't give up on him. I'll be honest, I really didn't realise how much love I had for him until this happened.
Of course I had to google it. I did nothing else for those two long weeks. While I found countless stories of very poor outcomes and terminations I found a study that there was evidence to suggest that the 10 mm upper limit in isolated VM should be increased to 12 mm as 97% of cases with <12 mm had normal outcomes. I took a lot of confidence from that but the main worry during that two weeks was "Are they still growing?", "Are they going to be 20 mm in two weeks?".
Fast forward two weeks (i'm still offshore but have a compassionate seat on the next available chopper lined up if it's bad news) and a doctor carries out the scan. My wife phones me after the scan while waiting to see the consultant and tells me they measured 9.4 mm "He's ok, he's going to be ok!" she says through tears.
The doctor advised that she's very happy with the results and that she has no further concerns. She went as far to apologise for what we must have went through in that two weeks but they were only reporting what they observed; doing their job. They have said that they don't require any further follow ups but for our peace of mind they can carry out another scan in four weeks time (around two weeks from now) which we are going to go ahead with.
We've gone back to enjoying the pregnancy and nursery preparations are just about complete. I just want the little guy here now. An awful experience but it's looking like everything is going to work out.
I'm not one for sharing too much personal stuff online but I thought it may be helpful for someone who is going through the same. The good outcome stories helped me a lot during that two week wait.
Laplace said:
Hello folks and congrats to all the new fathers on here.
We're due our first on the 20th of August and it's been a little bit of an emotional roller coaster recently.
We've been having additional growth scans as we were in Mexico right at the beginning of the pregnancy, prior to us knowing my wife was pregnant and these were advised as a precaution due to the Zika virus.
Everything had been plain sailing up until week 30. While checking his brain they noticed that his lateral ventricals were measuring 10.7mm, a condition known as Ventriculomegaly which is classed as mild at 10-12 mm, moderate 12-15 mm or severe >15 mm. As far as they could tell this was isolated Ventriculomegaly with no other concerns elsewhere. The "normal" range is around 4-10 mm and adverse outcomes tend to increase with increase in vent size. To say this knocked the wind out of our sails is putting it mildly, and of course I was working offshore at the time on a 21 day trip and couldn't be there for my wife. Listening to her on the phone breaking her heart was truly awful.
We were told not to google the condition and not to worry but at the same time they were telling us of all the awful things this could mean for our unborn child: from developmental delays to autism, downs, various disabilities, hydrocephalus and from what I could gather, advise of termination in severe cases.
The next step was to come back in two weeks and reassess. From there we might have to go for an MRI to get a more accurate picture, or it may have resolved itself or show signs of improvement. Those were two very difficult weeks, I would lie in my cabin at night looking at the little fellas scan pictures in tears, willing him to get better and that we won't give up on him. I'll be honest, I really didn't realise how much love I had for him until this happened.
Of course I had to google it. I did nothing else for those two long weeks. While I found countless stories of very poor outcomes and terminations I found a study that there was evidence to suggest that the 10 mm upper limit in isolated VM should be increased to 12 mm as 97% of cases with <12 mm had normal outcomes. I took a lot of confidence from that but the main worry during that two weeks was "Are they still growing?", "Are they going to be 20 mm in two weeks?".
Fast forward two weeks (i'm still offshore but have a compassionate seat on the next available chopper lined up if it's bad news) and a doctor carries out the scan. My wife phones me after the scan while waiting to see the consultant and tells me they measured 9.4 mm "He's ok, he's going to be ok!" she says through tears.
The doctor advised that she's very happy with the results and that she has no further concerns. She went as far to apologise for what we must have went through in that two weeks but they were only reporting what they observed; doing their job. They have said that they don't require any further follow ups but for our peace of mind they can carry out another scan in four weeks time (around two weeks from now) which we are going to go ahead with.
We've gone back to enjoying the pregnancy and nursery preparations are just about complete. I just want the little guy here now. An awful experience but it's looking like everything is going to work out.
I'm not one for sharing too much personal stuff online but I thought it may be helpful for someone who is going through the same. The good outcome stories helped me a lot during that two week wait.
Aw mate that's fantastic news I can't imagine what must have been going through yours and the Mrs minds during these weeks. I hope it's smooth sailing from here. We're due our first on the 20th of August and it's been a little bit of an emotional roller coaster recently.
We've been having additional growth scans as we were in Mexico right at the beginning of the pregnancy, prior to us knowing my wife was pregnant and these were advised as a precaution due to the Zika virus.
Everything had been plain sailing up until week 30. While checking his brain they noticed that his lateral ventricals were measuring 10.7mm, a condition known as Ventriculomegaly which is classed as mild at 10-12 mm, moderate 12-15 mm or severe >15 mm. As far as they could tell this was isolated Ventriculomegaly with no other concerns elsewhere. The "normal" range is around 4-10 mm and adverse outcomes tend to increase with increase in vent size. To say this knocked the wind out of our sails is putting it mildly, and of course I was working offshore at the time on a 21 day trip and couldn't be there for my wife. Listening to her on the phone breaking her heart was truly awful.
We were told not to google the condition and not to worry but at the same time they were telling us of all the awful things this could mean for our unborn child: from developmental delays to autism, downs, various disabilities, hydrocephalus and from what I could gather, advise of termination in severe cases.
The next step was to come back in two weeks and reassess. From there we might have to go for an MRI to get a more accurate picture, or it may have resolved itself or show signs of improvement. Those were two very difficult weeks, I would lie in my cabin at night looking at the little fellas scan pictures in tears, willing him to get better and that we won't give up on him. I'll be honest, I really didn't realise how much love I had for him until this happened.
Of course I had to google it. I did nothing else for those two long weeks. While I found countless stories of very poor outcomes and terminations I found a study that there was evidence to suggest that the 10 mm upper limit in isolated VM should be increased to 12 mm as 97% of cases with <12 mm had normal outcomes. I took a lot of confidence from that but the main worry during that two weeks was "Are they still growing?", "Are they going to be 20 mm in two weeks?".
Fast forward two weeks (i'm still offshore but have a compassionate seat on the next available chopper lined up if it's bad news) and a doctor carries out the scan. My wife phones me after the scan while waiting to see the consultant and tells me they measured 9.4 mm "He's ok, he's going to be ok!" she says through tears.
The doctor advised that she's very happy with the results and that she has no further concerns. She went as far to apologise for what we must have went through in that two weeks but they were only reporting what they observed; doing their job. They have said that they don't require any further follow ups but for our peace of mind they can carry out another scan in four weeks time (around two weeks from now) which we are going to go ahead with.
We've gone back to enjoying the pregnancy and nursery preparations are just about complete. I just want the little guy here now. An awful experience but it's looking like everything is going to work out.
I'm not one for sharing too much personal stuff online but I thought it may be helpful for someone who is going through the same. The good outcome stories helped me a lot during that two week wait.
thatsprettyshady said:
7 weeks to go for us, got most of our stuff ready for the arrival, thanks to many on here!
We have got a 4d scan booked in privately as I still haven’t been able to be present for any scan past 12 weeks, at £99 including printed pictures and a video it made sense.
Has anyone here got experience of nursing chairs? My other half is keen to get one but so many options so if anyone has one they can suggest?
The wife highly recomends the Ikea Poang chair - https://www.ikea.com/gb/en/p/poaeng-armchair-white...We have got a 4d scan booked in privately as I still haven’t been able to be present for any scan past 12 weeks, at £99 including printed pictures and a video it made sense.
Has anyone here got experience of nursing chairs? My other half is keen to get one but so many options so if anyone has one they can suggest?
--I confess I do not remember spending £160 on it, I think ours was about £50--. Plenty available on Gumtree etc. May I also suggest getting a "leather" chair - putting baby over should to burp often (ok, in my case not often, but every time) - results in a a bit of spew. - Leather just wipes off, fabric does not.
Edit - I am now informed that it was indeed £165 - Although in asking, she has once again gone on about how good she finds the chair. There is space for them to stick out sideways when the little ones are not so little, it is supportive in a reclined position, and being "leather" it does clean easily. They used to have these very chairs in the baby changing areas in Union Square shopping center, so they are known!
Edited by Peanut Gallery on Wednesday 15th July 14:46
Daughters 16 months now.
Only ever been out with grandparents on her own but my brother who is 27 has asked to be able to take her out on his own/ with his fiancée.
I usually meet up with him and my other brother but I’m not sure what the fascination of taking her out on his own is.
Anyone else had this situation?
I still don’t feel right someone other than grandparents taking her out and tbh my wife doesn’t neither.
Only ever been out with grandparents on her own but my brother who is 27 has asked to be able to take her out on his own/ with his fiancée.
I usually meet up with him and my other brother but I’m not sure what the fascination of taking her out on his own is.
Anyone else had this situation?
I still don’t feel right someone other than grandparents taking her out and tbh my wife doesn’t neither.
Nursing chair has been a nice clothes hanger in my daughters room. We had it retrimmed pink too and whilst it looks nice, it hasn’t been touched.
We have an iCandy peach which is a sturdy pram. Fits in a Fiesta boot however when we took a £40 Joie pram on holiday, we began to use the cheaper pram when nipping out the house.
iCandy no longer walks.
We have an iCandy peach which is a sturdy pram. Fits in a Fiesta boot however when we took a £40 Joie pram on holiday, we began to use the cheaper pram when nipping out the house.
iCandy no longer walks.
thatsprettyshady said:
7 weeks to go for us, got most of our stuff ready for the arrival, thanks to many on here!
We have got a 4d scan booked in privately as I still haven’t been able to be present for any scan past 12 weeks, at £99 including printed pictures and a video it made sense.
Has anyone here got experience of nursing chairs? My other half is keen to get one but so many options so if anyone has one they can suggest?
This is what you need:We have got a 4d scan booked in privately as I still haven’t been able to be present for any scan past 12 weeks, at £99 including printed pictures and a video it made sense.
Has anyone here got experience of nursing chairs? My other half is keen to get one but so many options so if anyone has one they can suggest?
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CharlieH89 said:
Daughters 16 months now.
Only ever been out with grandparents on her own but my brother who is 27 has asked to be able to take her out on his own/ with his fiancée.
I usually meet up with him and my other brother but I’m not sure what the fascination of taking her out on his own is.
Anyone else had this situation?
I still don’t feel right someone other than grandparents taking her out and tbh my wife doesn’t neither.
. Only ever been out with grandparents on her own but my brother who is 27 has asked to be able to take her out on his own/ with his fiancée.
I usually meet up with him and my other brother but I’m not sure what the fascination of taking her out on his own is.
Anyone else had this situation?
I still don’t feel right someone other than grandparents taking her out and tbh my wife doesn’t neither.
Unless they’ve had previous baby experience I’d agree. It’s one thing asking them to watch the baby for a couple of hours while you are nearby but taking it out without a few decent dry runs first doesn’t seem like s good idea for anyone.
Peanut Gallery said:
thatsprettyshady said:
7 weeks to go for us, got most of our stuff ready for the arrival, thanks to many on here!
We have got a 4d scan booked in privately as I still haven’t been able to be present for any scan past 12 weeks, at £99 including printed pictures and a video it made sense.
Has anyone here got experience of nursing chairs? My other half is keen to get one but so many options so if anyone has one they can suggest?
The wife highly recomends the Ikea Poang chair - https://www.ikea.com/gb/en/p/poaeng-armchair-white...We have got a 4d scan booked in privately as I still haven’t been able to be present for any scan past 12 weeks, at £99 including printed pictures and a video it made sense.
Has anyone here got experience of nursing chairs? My other half is keen to get one but so many options so if anyone has one they can suggest?
--I confess I do not remember spending £160 on it, I think ours was about £50--. Plenty available on Gumtree etc. May I also suggest getting a "leather" chair - putting baby over should to burp often (ok, in my case not often, but every time) - results in a a bit of spew. - Leather just wipes off, fabric does not.
Edit - I am now informed that it was indeed £165 - Although in asking, she has once again gone on about how good she finds the chair. There is space for them to stick out sideways when the little ones are not so little, it is supportive in a reclined position, and being "leather" it does clean easily. They used to have these very chairs in the baby changing areas in Union Square shopping center, so they are known!
Edited by Peanut Gallery on Wednesday 15th July 14:46
No_Idea said:
Partner back to work today after a year off. I've got to look after our 12 month old daughter for 10 hours. 1 hour in, so far so good apart from a minor tantrum. Wish me luck lol
Looooong walk in the pushchair was always my tactic in those early days to pass the hours away.5 and a half weeks in and not sure where the time went or what life was like before the little fella arrived. How can 1 tiny person create so much stuff and take so much time? Whats more I don't care that he's taking up the time, I love it!!
Our lad gets gassy and uncomfortable. We burp him and do cycling of legs, patting the back, rubbing up his back but anyone got anything else we can try?
Our lad gets gassy and uncomfortable. We burp him and do cycling of legs, patting the back, rubbing up his back but anyone got anything else we can try?
Gary29 said:
Looooong walk in the pushchair was always my tactic in those early days to pass the hours away.
Trouble is she only torelates the pushchair for about 30 mins then all hell can break lose, not much fun miles away from home as I recently found out! A short walk is on the schedule this afternoon though.SpeckledJim said:
Just a tip: don't let the baby witness the tantrums. Traumatises them.
So far, so good. Luckily she's been entertaining herself so far.
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