Any other expectant Dads?

[ChocolateFrog]

dirtbiker said:

malks222 said:

However i have just bought the joei spin 360 for my car. it’s £200 but seems to cover from birth to 4yrs. it’s a big old seat, but seems to be pretty comfy (codie falls asleep in 5/10mins every time!) ive been very impressed with it so far.

We've also got a Joie Spin 360 in our SQ5 and I'm pretty taken with it. Does take up a lot of space but it's really easy to get the little one in and she seems comfy!

We've got one too. A godsend in a small car where you're bending down with limited room.

[Mr Whippy]

dirtbiker said:

malks222 said:

However i have just bought the joei spin 360 for my car. it’s £200 but seems to cover from birth to 4yrs. it’s a big old seat, but seems to be pretty comfy (codie falls asleep in 5/10mins every time!) ive been very impressed with it so far.

We've also got a Joie Spin 360 in our SQ5 and I'm pretty taken with it. Does take up a lot of space but it's really easy to get the little one in and she seems comfy!

I found it a bit iffy under 1yr, sizing just not right depending on baby.

But our 3.5yr old enjoyed his till his 1yr sister has taken it over now and loves it.

Very good seat, we’ll have had a good 5-6yrs use and it’s not had a single hiccup.


Just bought a Maxi Cosi kore pro I size for eldest but not so impressed.
Back is floppy. Not sure how good that would be in a crash if he’s leaning forward and it slaps him in back.


Amazing how some seats are so good and others just feel so crap. Hard to gauge till you’ve used them a few times.

[Gallons Per Mile]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts on car seats. We're still thinking about which one to get currently but I'll check out the pros and cons of each one mentioned! I'm not sure either of us wants to spend a lot of money on one but if there are clear advantages I wouldn't have any problems buying something expensive. There was one seat we saw that looked reasonable and was only £120 ish from memory.
Currently got a Mee-Go system, the car seat comes off the ISOfix base and straight on to the buggy chassis, but we're not worried about doing that in future as the seat will just stay in the car and mini GPM can use her new trike or a cheapy foldable pushchair we bought.

[fourstardan]

I've gone for Joie stuff and it seems pretty robust and easy to click/put in.

Although we went for a mytrax, and when setting it up yesterday we needed two bits of bleeding plastic to get the car seat on it (and pram bed thats coming tomorrow).

Why not just put it in there ffs, it was 15 quid.

[seiben]

This seems like a good time to check in properly! We're currently at 21-ish weeks with twin boys due early March

It seems to have brought out the inner bargain-hunter in us both, with eBay getting a bit of a hammering recently. Twin-suitable prams are all a bit unwieldy, but we managed to pick up a complete Mountain Buggy Duet setup for about 10% of its original purchase price.

I mention this because it also came with clip-in adapters and a couple of Maxi-Cosi Cabrio baby seats. Now I know second-hand car seats are a no-no, but they've been a useful practice tool to see how easy they are to get in and out of the car etc (and we'll likely hang onto them for emergencies, I guess)

Bearing in mind we're going to need to buy four of the blimmin' things (as we'll likely be sharing pick-up/drop-off in different cars once nursery comes around), does anyone have any other suggestions for seats which are both Isofix and seat-belt compatible?

[dirtbiker]

seiben said:

Bearing in mind we're going to need to buy four of the blimmin' things (as we'll likely be sharing pick-up/drop-off in different cars once nursery comes around), does anyone have any other suggestions for seats which are both Isofix and seat-belt compatible?

We used a MaxiCosi Cabriofix before getting the Joie Spin 360 and it always did the trick. Slightly older design now (no i-Size) but feels sturdy and is very light which makes getting it in and out easy. Did a month in Australia with it strapping it in using the seatbelt and while it's less convenient than the ISOfix base it also takes up a lot less space!

[The Moose]

Taking the mood down a notch, our friends unfortunately just miscarried. We're watching their kids and helping like that, but how is it best to support them once their home? Any pointers would be helpful - thank God nothing we've had to experience ourselves.

Edited by The Moose on Tuesday 27th October 14:19

[Mr Whippy]

The Moose said:

Taking the mood down a notch, our friends unfortunately just miscarried. We're watching their kids and helping like that, but how is it best to support them once their home? Any pointers would be helpful - thank God nothing we've had to experience ourselves.

Genuinely helping would probably best just listening... literally just that.
Nothing you can say or do will make it better, so just lend an ear and let them talk and get it out to someone they feel they can talk to.

[ChocolateFrog]

A friend of my OH miscarried recently too. She said it was the little things that got to her most.

Being moved back onto the maternity ward from the delivery suite and being the only one without a baby.

One of those things you can't imagine going through.

Beyond being careful with what you say to not inadvertently put your foot in it I don't know what you can do other than be supportive.

[Mr Whippy]

ChocolateFrog said:

A friend of my OH miscarried recently too. She said it was the little things that got to her most.

Being moved back onto the maternity ward from the delivery suite and being the only one without a baby.

One of those things you can't imagine going through.

Beyond being careful with what you say to not inadvertently put your foot in it I don't know what you can do other than be supportive.

That sounds more like a still born or birth.

Pretty horrible, especially for the mum.

[fourstardan]

When missus was in post natal a woman was in a few rows down and clearly had lost one before. She sounded literally suicidal and she even had a midwife in there listening.

Stillborn was my fear all along it must be awful.

[fourstardan]

Has anyone got any tips for getting baby down in the cot after a night feed?

He doesn't seem to be settling well at the moment. I've had a decent amount of kip while missus got him down last night, he wakes up stirs a bit and a feed seems to wake the bugger up more lol At the moment I've brought him downstairs in a Moses basket in the dark to try and get him used to settling.

Is there any method were not getting maybe?

[thebraketester]

fourstardan said:

Has anyone got any tips for getting baby down in the cot after a night feed?

He doesn't seem to be settling well at the moment. I've had a decent amount of kip while missus got him down last night, he wakes up stirs a bit and a feed seems to wake the bugger up more lol At the moment I've brought him downstairs in a Moses basket in the dark to try and get him used to settling.

Is there any method were not getting maybe?

Hahaha

.*checks time stamp.



We have just accepted that our little princess is going to be a knob 'somewhat challenging' at night. So the past 3 nights have involved 2 shifts. Wife does the first leg and I take over about 5.

The thing we find weird about this is that during the day she feeds and instantly falls asleep, yet like yours dan... feeding her at night it like stoking the fire of awake-ness

We reluctantly tried a dummy last night which worked for a bit but was far from the 'game changer' that people had spoken of.


Yours tiredly.....

Edited by thebraketester on Wednesday 28th October 07:03

[okgo]

White noise
Swaddle
Sleepy head type thing
Bouncer
Rocking in arms
burping
cycle legs to help with wind the other end

All of the above have worked in varying degree at varying times.

Bear in mind your child has no idea its night at the minute, so that doesn't help, it will do in a few weeks which makes the night thing somewhat easier as they're 'designed' to be tired then, whereas now it might as well be mid morning for your kid.

[Carl_Manchester]

fourstardan said:

Has anyone got any tips for getting baby down in the cot after a night feed?

He doesn't seem to be settling well at the moment. I've had a decent amount of kip while missus got him down last night, he wakes up stirs a bit and a feed seems to wake the bugger up more lol At the moment I've brought him downstairs in a Moses basket in the dark to try and get him used to settling.

Is there any method were not getting maybe?

Luck plays a part. I was very lucky with the first, i just used to repeat the exact same routine, pickup, downstairs, microwave bottle, upstairs, feed, burp, change.

never make eye contact.

babies learn real quick about what goes in and out of that light box that beeps.

i did try bedside bottle warmer but they were more dangerous and slower than walking downstairs to do the microwave. In a flat this time so gonna stick with the microwave tactic.

i doubt that helps but i send my best wishes to you.

[The Moose]

Thank you

[JackCT]

I feel this is important, if nothing else for awareness:

The weekend, I rushed my 3.5 month old son to hospital being rather quite ill.

He had his 2nd round of vaccines a few days earlier and 111, the GP etc. had all said the same thing, his fever etc. were due to this and would subside. Even had this line recited to be at 11am Sunday morning.

By 14:30 the same day, I had rushed him to A&E with a raging fever, mottled blue/purple skin and hyperventilating.

It turns out he had sepsis, well, urosepsis caused by a completely undetected urinary tract infection, which, in babies has almost no symptoms (the UTI).

A few of the scariest days of my life followed, dropping everything to do whatever I needed to be with him, but I can thankfully report that after a few days of intravenous antibiotics, more tests than you can shake a stick at and the most amazing doctors/nurses I've ever encountered, he's back home and well.

His fever had increased over a degree in the 15min car journey and i've been told that any higher, risked seizures and irreparable damage. Given the rate of increase, another hour or so could have been, well, you get the picture.

If nothing else, I hope this post makes people think twice when their kids are sick: "could it be sepsis?".

Not to scare the life out of people, but it wasn't even something that crossed my mind at the time.

[okgo]

I think that is actually quite common with sepsis in adults too, it escapes most people's attention from what I remember reading.

Sounds horrific for you, glad everything is ok now and that you were so close to the hospital, also.

[ChocolateFrog]

thebraketester said:

fourstardan said:

Has anyone got any tips for getting baby down in the cot after a night feed?

He doesn't seem to be settling well at the moment. I've had a decent amount of kip while missus got him down last night, he wakes up stirs a bit and a feed seems to wake the bugger up more lol At the moment I've brought him downstairs in a Moses basket in the dark to try and get him used to settling.

Is there any method were not getting maybe?

Hahaha

.*checks time stamp.



We have just accepted that our little princess is going to be a knob 'somewhat challenging' at night. So the past 3 nights have involved 2 shifts. Wife does the first leg and I take over about 5.

The thing we find weird about this is that during the day she feeds and instantly falls asleep, yet like yours dan... feeding her at night it like stoking the fire of awake-ness

We reluctantly tried a dummy last night which worked for a bit but was far from the 'game changer' that people had spoken of.


Yours tiredly.....

Edited by thebraketester on Wednesday 28th October 07:03

I don't know how people cope without a dummy.

Maybe it helps if they've had one from the start.

I'd say our 6 months old cries for at most a cumulative 2-3 mins a day, if that. In fact most days it's probably no more than 30 seconds.

Unless he's ill a boob or dummy shuts him up immediately.

I was hesitant about introducing a dummy but the missus was pretty adamant and in hindsight I can't imagine not using one.

[ChocolateFrog]

Mr Whippy said:

ChocolateFrog said:

A friend of my OH miscarried recently too. She said it was the little things that got to her most.

Being moved back onto the maternity ward from the delivery suite and being the only one without a baby.

One of those things you can't imagine going through.

Beyond being careful with what you say to not inadvertently put your foot in it I don't know what you can do other than be supportive.

That sounds more like a still born or birth.

Pretty horrible, especially for the mum.

You're probably right, a still birth makes more sense.