Any other expectant Dads?
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richatnort said:
No first hand experience but our close friends son was both with this. He's 16 months now and walking around no problem. Depending on severity the little mans legs will most likely go into casts a few weeks after he's born and have his feet slowly adjust back in shape, once this step is done he'll have to wear special boots with a bar across it when he naps up to i think 4/6 not sure which. Their son has been absolutely fine with it all as he doesn't know any different and he's 16 months now and walking around no problem. you'll probably be in touch with the consultant soon who can explain options and what will happen but this was their experience. Just means more frequent trips to the hospital at the start to get his cast re-set.
Feel free to PM me and i'll try get some more info or can put you in touch with them if you like!
Thank you very much, I may take you up on that offer! From what I've been reading there's a high success rate with treatment so that's put our minds at ease for now! Hopefully they'll be able to give us an idea how it's looking at the next scan in 4 weeks time - We're already having more scans than usual as our first was born really tiny so getting used to frequent hospital visits!Feel free to PM me and i'll try get some more info or can put you in touch with them if you like!
No_Idea said:
Thank you very much, I may take you up on that offer! From what I've been reading there's a high success rate with treatment so that's put our minds at ease for now! Hopefully they'll be able to give us an idea how it's looking at the next scan in 4 weeks time - We're already having more scans than usual as our first was born really tiny so getting used to frequent hospital visits!
Yeh no problem mate just pm me at any time 
. I mean Yeh our friends lad had it and now 16 months on he's walking like the rest of them. Hopefully the scans can pick up how bad but like you say it's a very high success rate just be more frequent visits like you say. Blown2CV said:
i don't think most places would invite you for interview to see if your face fits.... that sounds highly unusual. Each to their own but i think if we'd been asked that it wouldn't have proceeded past my brief response.
Something else that sounds unusual is £1800pcm for one kid for 4 days a week... i think ours is £55 a day per child. Maybe some hefty regional variations in there!
I would certainly think so. Something else that sounds unusual is £1800pcm for one kid for 4 days a week... i think ours is £55 a day per child. Maybe some hefty regional variations in there!
£1800pm is more than most peoples take home pay around my way.
No_Idea said:
Well our scan confirmed our 2nd child is a boy so really happy to be having one of each Not so good news is they've confirmed he's got talipes in both his feet 
Apparently boys are at higher risk and there's around 1 in 1000 born with it.
Does anyone here have any experience with this?
Our lad has a mild form of it...but no-one bloody noticed until he was +/-3 y.o. So he's just got on with it...he still walks with the foot pointing inwards sometimes...not entirely sure whether we should do something about it or not, but it doesn't seem to affect him. Not so good news is they've confirmed he's got talipes in both his feet Apparently boys are at higher risk and there's around 1 in 1000 born with it.
Does anyone here have any experience with this?
A nursery (& then school-) friend of his (girl) also has/had it...had special shoes for a while, seems OK now.
Surprised it's only 1/1000...
You need to consider the nursery opening hours too in the day fee.
Our nursery baby room cost £84.50 a day (extra for nappies etc..), and toddlers upward £80 a day with opening hours 7am - 7pm. Few doors away, the other nursery charge high £60's a day, but opening hours are 8am - 6pm. As a result, despite the higher day fee, the working parents based in the City/Central London favour the 7am - 7pm nursery with the convenience of early drop off/later pick up (not the case for the past months as everyone are WFH!! ).
Edit to add: our nursery is part of the Bright Horizon group
Our nursery baby room cost £84.50 a day (extra for nappies etc..), and toddlers upward £80 a day with opening hours 7am - 7pm. Few doors away, the other nursery charge high £60's a day, but opening hours are 8am - 6pm. As a result, despite the higher day fee, the working parents based in the City/Central London favour the 7am - 7pm nursery with the convenience of early drop off/later pick up (not the case for the past months as everyone are WFH!! ).
Edit to add: our nursery is part of the Bright Horizon group
Edited by chip* on Tuesday 8th December 20:48
I think we've cracked having our bed to ourselves.. Mummy came up with an idea of daughter (just 3) taking a random teddy to bed to cuddle and we're now on day 4 of her own bed all night!
Feels great not being kicked/punched/headbutted to death in the night.
We still need to get up at midnight-ish and do a "dream-wee" until her bladders bigger but I can live with that for dry and in her own bed.
Feels great not being kicked/punched/headbutted to death in the night.
We still need to get up at midnight-ish and do a "dream-wee" until her bladders bigger but I can live with that for dry and in her own bed.
Blown2CV said:
if you're eligible for child benefit (and don't get it all taken it back off you in tax) then i think approximately you are likely to also be eligible for the tax free childcare scheme. It's around the same salary bands, i think.
Thanks, I didn't really look in much details, but seems broadly speaking if you earn over 60k and have savings etc then best keeping your gob shut as you'll end up worse off?okgo said:
It is very much a thing, because obviously you can become reliant on it, which is an issue in itself if you believe the books. Mine won't take a dummy for more than perhaps 2 or 3 minutes, it's quite irritating, but probably a good thing in the long run.
It's weird because both ours didn't use a dummy, and just breast fed to about 1yr, but coming off most feeds at 6 months with solids.Yes it's hard initially, maybe, because you have to comfort them rather than pacify them with a bit of rubber.
Psychologically it makes you wonder what the impact is that rather than warm mothering comfort they got a fake nipple to calm themselves with.
And of course once they don't use the pacifier any more, how that impacts being reassured and comforted as they get older.
Not having a dig at anyone here. Having kids is hard and we all make lots of small compromises and probably do lots of things 'wrong'. Just it's nice to go as natural as possible in my view.
Good book.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0241216567
okgo said:
Blown2CV said:
if you're eligible for child benefit (and don't get it all taken it back off you in tax) then i think approximately you are likely to also be eligible for the tax free childcare scheme. It's around the same salary bands, i think.
Thanks, I didn't really look in much details, but seems broadly speaking if you earn over 60k and have savings etc then best keeping your gob shut as you'll end up worse off?Finding it pretty hard to get a proper feel of nurseries at the moment some wont let us visit and offer virtual tour or come in and look at the cctv.
How am i supposed to make a decision based on that.
My hopes are set on one we are going to look at on Friday. Problem is you want to visit a nursery like people say during the day not once they have all gone home.
As we are pushed for time to get him settled in before the 11th of Jan i dont want to make the wrong decision.
How am i supposed to make a decision based on that.
My hopes are set on one we are going to look at on Friday. Problem is you want to visit a nursery like people say during the day not once they have all gone home.
As we are pushed for time to get him settled in before the 11th of Jan i dont want to make the wrong decision.
okgo said:
Thanks, I didn't really look in much details, but seems broadly speaking if you earn over 60k and have savings etc then best keeping your gob shut as you'll end up worse off?
Let's take the two extremes:You or partner earn £50,000 = keep your all your CB
You or partner earn £60,000 = you lose all your CB
Rather re-type the same stuffs, it's all explained in this link below.
https://www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/en/articles/...
However, you could reduce your salary down to £50,000 via pension contribution, and continue to receive full CB if you can accept a slight lifestyle tweak from the net salary drop. You do reap the rewards in later years with a bigger pension pot though.
Edit to add: Claiming CB (you can also tick the "no payment" option if you earn well over £60,000) will ensure the claimant receive full NI credit towards their State pension until the child hits 12. If your wife gave up work to look after your kid, claiming CB (including the no payment option) ensures she receive full NIC for the next 12 years, so don't ignore it!
Edited by chip* on Wednesday 9th December 16:36
Edited by chip* on Wednesday 9th December 16:38
chip* said:
Let's take the two extremes:
You or partner earn £50,000 = keep your all your CB
You or partner earn £60,000 = you lose all your CB
Rather re-type the same stuffs, it's all explained in this link below.
https://www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/en/articles/...
However, you could reduce your salary down to £50,000 via pension contribution, and continue to receive full CB if you can accept a slight lifestyle tweak from the net salary drop. You do reap the rewards in later years with a bigger pension pot though.
Thanks, not for me then, but at least it makes it more clear. Not bad really is it, that you still get state help on 2x the national average salary!You or partner earn £50,000 = keep your all your CB
You or partner earn £60,000 = you lose all your CB
Rather re-type the same stuffs, it's all explained in this link below.
https://www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/en/articles/...
However, you could reduce your salary down to £50,000 via pension contribution, and continue to receive full CB if you can accept a slight lifestyle tweak from the net salary drop. You do reap the rewards in later years with a bigger pension pot though.
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