Any other expectant Dads?
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Lazadude said:
Yeah, it's also crazy that if you and your partner are good earners (both £50k) then you get full whack. But if only one of you earns more than £60k you get nothing...
All the benefits are daft.For instance you can be ok earners saving for a house deposit, so have savings, dip even lower earnings while you have kids for a short time and mum stays at home, but because of savings you get no benefits under universal credit.
Yet those out of universal credit can be helped out loads in a similar situation.
I’m not even sure why the child benefit has that cut off as it can’t ‘save’ that much, but it costs couples with kids and a single good earning parent a lot!
In my view married couples with kids under 6yo should be able to fully share tax allowances so you can more easily justify having a stay at home mum/dad for those early years.
Or going abroad (the Joys before covid), especially somewhere like Africa. Have to put a couple in each arm... They think its over with 1 or 2 with the normal jabs.
Practice nurses always been good with mine though, they get a sticker and a little certificate of bravery. My daughter was showing everyone she could her tificut.
Practice nurses always been good with mine though, they get a sticker and a little certificate of bravery. My daughter was showing everyone she could her tificut.
thebraketester said:
Holy crap. Had her 8 week jabs today. That’s a cry we won’t forget in a hurry. Poor little mite.
My lad had his 1 year jabs yesterday. 4 of the buggers and really knocked him about yesterday. My ears were ringing after the uncontrollable crying for 2 hours as we went through his tea & bath / bedtime routine. Couldn't get the Calpol in him quick enough to help him settle for bed.
mrs malks decided she wanted no part in the injections as she’d be worse than codie. so i’ve had to take her for them all. will have the 1yr jabs soon..........
we managed to give codie some calpol before the 1 and then second round of jags and she now won’t take the stuff. i swear she worked out that calpol= bad stuff happening and now refuses it. we’ve tried it on her a few times since, 3rd round of jags, teething....., nope- straight up rejected, won’t take a drop!
we managed to give codie some calpol before the 1 and then second round of jags and she now won’t take the stuff. i swear she worked out that calpol= bad stuff happening and now refuses it. we’ve tried it on her a few times since, 3rd round of jags, teething....., nope- straight up rejected, won’t take a drop!
Kids are different - eldest, to get any calpol (or whatever the non-branded stuff is) into her, you put it in a syringe, one person pins her down, one holds her mouth open, one dribbles some slowly into the back of her mouth, one rubs her neck gently to encourage her to swallow, then catches all that is spat out and tries again. (slight exaggeration, but you get the idea).
Youngest, pour it onto a spoon, hold somewhere near mouth, he devours it, and then chews the spoon. Grab a second spoon to get the rest of the dose into him as you cannot get the first spoon back.
Youngest, pour it onto a spoon, hold somewhere near mouth, he devours it, and then chews the spoon. Grab a second spoon to get the rest of the dose into him as you cannot get the first spoon back.
filthypig said:
My lad had his 1 year jabs yesterday. 4 of the buggers and really knocked him about yesterday. My ears were ringing after the uncontrollable crying for 2 hours as we went through his tea & bath / bedtime routine. Couldn't get the Calpol in him quick enough to help him settle for bed.
Some parents choose to give pre-emptive calpol an hour before the jabs.vaud said:
Some parents choose to give pre-emptive calpol an hour before the jabs.
Yeah did that. We were fooled that 4 hours later he was bright as a button after waking from his nap and showing zero signs of discomfort. Forward a couple more hours and he was so grouchy. Missed a trick in not giving the 2nd dose. Lesson learnt!Lazadude said:
Yeah, it's also crazy that if you and your partner are good earners (both £50k) then you get full whack. But if only one of you earns more than £60k you get nothing...
What doesn’t make sense is how it’s not a household income for married couples IMHO and people play these silly buggers.
We have just signed up to a similarly priced nursery, it is almost as expensive as our mortgage all utilities/bills and food for the month combined.
Now partner has the potential to be furloughed with the current lockdowns and then we may have to drop a couple of days at nursery instead of fulltime. Hopefully they are understanding with this.
Once question i have to other dads with little boys, my son is an absolute hooligan at 6 months old, he has been for the past 2 months. He is so full of energy and noise he wont sit still ( maybe 5-10 mins max a day we watch simpsons and have a cuddle ) apart from that he is boisterous 24/7. Do any other dads have young lads like this ?
I really dont think i was like that at his age, my dad cant remember... is this normal behaviour ? he is happy chatty and if you can gain his attention with something he will persevere but it just feels like he is a bit of a fruitcake.
Dont get me wrong i love him and his personality to bits but sometimes i am finding my patience wearing thin when he constantly wiggles/squirms to get away during bottle/nappy changes.
Now partner has the potential to be furloughed with the current lockdowns and then we may have to drop a couple of days at nursery instead of fulltime. Hopefully they are understanding with this.
Once question i have to other dads with little boys, my son is an absolute hooligan at 6 months old, he has been for the past 2 months. He is so full of energy and noise he wont sit still ( maybe 5-10 mins max a day we watch simpsons and have a cuddle ) apart from that he is boisterous 24/7. Do any other dads have young lads like this ?
I really dont think i was like that at his age, my dad cant remember... is this normal behaviour ? he is happy chatty and if you can gain his attention with something he will persevere but it just feels like he is a bit of a fruitcake.
Dont get me wrong i love him and his personality to bits but sometimes i am finding my patience wearing thin when he constantly wiggles/squirms to get away during bottle/nappy changes.
No_Idea said:
Well our scan confirmed our 2nd child is a boy so really happy to be having one of each 
Not so good news is they've confirmed he's got talipes in both his feet 
they can't confirm how severe it is but they are confident there's no other underlying issues but can't say 100% for certain. They've offered a amniocentesis test which we have decided not to do due to risk of miscarriage.
Apparently boys are at higher risk and there's around 1 in 1000 born with it.
Does anyone here have any experience with this?
Hi, I'm in a similar boat - our first (Due March, gender purposefully left a surprise) has been diagnosed with this, so I know - roughly - how you are feeling. A very kind PH'er who suffered from this as a child has exchanged DMs with me, and put my mind at ease. Not so good news is they've confirmed he's got talipes in both his feet they can't confirm how severe it is but they are confident there's no other underlying issues but can't say 100% for certain. They've offered a amniocentesis test which we have decided not to do due to risk of miscarriage. Apparently boys are at higher risk and there's around 1 in 1000 born with it.
Does anyone here have any experience with this?
Edited by No_Idea on Monday 7th December 18:44
I would also say that the Clubfoot and Talipes UK Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/275980992562325 - seems to be a very supportive community, and a great source of information. Certainly my wife has found it useful both for answering questions, but also finding recommended suppliers for various bits.
Good luck with it all, and if you want to chat feel free to PM.
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