Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
Glade said:
What's the magic 13lbs?
Once a baby hits 13lbs it has, theoretically, enough body mass to see it through the night (10pm-6am) without feeding - meaning it's a good time to start getting them into a sleep routine. Obviously there are loads of variables, babies are all different etc etc and there's a fair bit of conflicting research on this as with most things baby related so do your own research 
However it worked beautifully for the twins who were sleeping like heroes from about 4 months old and have done ever since. If they wake up in the night now it's for a reason - sleep regression, illness, can't find their cuddly dinousars etc
, otherwise they go from 7pm-6:30am every night. Aim is to get #3 onto this schedule as soon as humanly possible so we can have some of our evenings back. Whether it works or not is anyone's guess...ooid said:
I salute you from here. 
Twins + New Born... Blimey, please send me whatever the energy drink/food you having! :
Well, it's 9:15, I've been up since 3:30 and I'm currently munching through a packet of Aldi wasabi peas. Not sure what that tells you!Twins + New Born... Blimey, please send me whatever the energy drink/food you having! :
Jambo85 said:
It does sound pretty full on!! However, Seiben, can you confirm that one newborn is a piece of piss!?
Congrats to all the new dads (For a first or additional time!) and good luck to those who've hit struggling times with sleep etc!
Well, tomorrow marks 6 months since we lost our first pregnancy. Had hoped to be back in the thread by now, but the mrs body just isn't playing ball. Not sure whether it's because she's a little older at 34 or what, but her cycle has been all over the shop. This month is the first time it's been roughly the same date 2 months in a row, but she used ovulation tests every 2 days during the correct timeframe last month without a positive, so we're not really sure what's going on there.
Well, tomorrow marks 6 months since we lost our first pregnancy. Had hoped to be back in the thread by now, but the mrs body just isn't playing ball. Not sure whether it's because she's a little older at 34 or what, but her cycle has been all over the shop. This month is the first time it's been roughly the same date 2 months in a row, but she used ovulation tests every 2 days during the correct timeframe last month without a positive, so we're not really sure what's going on there.
filthypig said:
richatnort said:
I thought it might be fitting to say I’m getting the snip in 2 weeks time. Had two kids now and have no desire for anymore. Even thought what if my circumstances change but I still believe I won’t want more kids.
Hope it doesn’t hurt too much!!!
It doesn't. Just an awkward 30 mins chatting to the nurse whilst the doc does his thing.Hope it doesn’t hurt too much!!!
k tubes. seiben said:
Ha! I really hoped so tbh - the reality is that one is certainly different, but not necessarily easy. #3 is being particularly clingy as he hits his first growth spurt & starts being more alert, so we've been juggling him between us for a few hours now. Something I don't think I appreciated was how much the twins comforted each other at this stage - they were small enough to both fit in one moses basket for the first few weeks. Some parts are definitely easier though - I still vividly remember the sheer panic when both of them were screaming the house down in the middle of the night, knowing I could only fix one at a time but not sure which one to fix first. I sure as hell don't miss that. It does feel a bit like parenting in easy mode during the week when the twins are at nursery though
It really is wild when they both kick off and you’re alone! Good to know that they are comforting each other even now though!
ChocolateFrog said:
ooid said:
Glade said:
vaud said:
TeaNoSugar said:
I do think what we might lack in fitness and stamina compared to our younger selves, we’re probably going to gain in maturity and being able to handle situations a lot better at 43 than at 23 or even 33.
This (dad at 39 and then 44)... certainly less stamina but also a lot of life experience and more patient!When he's 20 I'll be 60! That seems a bit crazy.
I'm 10 years behind my parents who had me at 29.
TBH, I'm ok so far. In the last perhaps 20 years(University + Work), I got quite used to working late nights and adjust my sleep accordingly. All those years of burning midnight-oils came handy finally, who knew!
Dad was 25 when he had me and I think I feel it when I think how old I'll be when my eldest is 20 or 30.
ooid said:
Gents, thanks for the suggestions. We've probably like 3 different types of slings but he hates all of them. There is no way I can keep more than 5 minutes in them, massive drama. It is gonna be officially 4 weeks old, but looking at our notes, he only slept more than 8 or 9 hours only one day so far.. Wants to be fed once every 2 or 3 hours, and inbetween he does not sleep. We do keep him holding upright, maybe a bit sleepy mode but does not go to sleep. We do the shifts as well, but it still gets tiring really.
It will get better. As others have said unless you're lucky proper routine doesn't seem to kick in until 10-12 weeks. That said if your gut feeling is that something is wrong don't be fobbed off, which is what tends to happen.
My partner has been right more times than the doctors when our second was properly poorly. It took her driving straight to Sheffield children's hospital bypassing our local hospital before she was taken seriously.
They genuinely fobbed sepsis and a week in hospital off as post natal depression.
Was listening to Parenting Hell podcast by Rob Beckett and Josh Widdecombe.
If you haven't listened I recommend it, very funny in places. Very sweary though so not one to have on when the kids are in the car.
Was listening to the episode with Katherine Ryan recently (the second one she's done) and she said she potty trained her kids from 4 months and was done by 8 months.
Not entirely sure I believe her but she was adamant, saying nappies are generally a western convenience device and her method is more common in areas where nappies would be unavailable or expensive.
Apparently she gets lots of hate on Mumsnet because she advocates it.
If you haven't listened I recommend it, very funny in places. Very sweary though so not one to have on when the kids are in the car.
Was listening to the episode with Katherine Ryan recently (the second one she's done) and she said she potty trained her kids from 4 months and was done by 8 months.
Not entirely sure I believe her but she was adamant, saying nappies are generally a western convenience device and her method is more common in areas where nappies would be unavailable or expensive.
Apparently she gets lots of hate on Mumsnet because she advocates it.
ChocolateFrog said:
Was listening to Parenting Hell podcast by Rob Beckett and Josh Widdecombe.
If you haven't listened I recommend it, very funny in places. Very sweary though so not one to have on when the kids are in the car.
Was listening to the episode with Katherine Ryan recently (the second one she's done) and she said she potty trained her kids from 4 months and was done by 8 months.
Not entirely sure I believe her but she was adamant, saying nappies are generally a western convenience device and her method is more common in areas where nappies would be unavailable or expensive.
Apparently she gets lots of hate on Mumsnet because she advocates it.
I've heard of this on her own podcast (Telling Everybody Everything) that my wife often plays in the car. If you haven't listened I recommend it, very funny in places. Very sweary though so not one to have on when the kids are in the car.
Was listening to the episode with Katherine Ryan recently (the second one she's done) and she said she potty trained her kids from 4 months and was done by 8 months.
Not entirely sure I believe her but she was adamant, saying nappies are generally a western convenience device and her method is more common in areas where nappies would be unavailable or expensive.
Apparently she gets lots of hate on Mumsnet because she advocates it.
We did debate exploring this early approach but haven't followed through (pun intended), for a couple of reasons - firstly, there's very little/no clue from litle one when its about to happen, only that it is happening, or has happenened, even post 8 months. Although we tried signing we've not been consistent or explored it deep enough. Secondly, nurseries would have a challenge on their hands as they can't take themselves to the bathroom yet would need use of one. We're having enough fun and games with nurseries' approach to reusable nappies, nevermind the conundrum of a potty-trained non-walker. Hate to say it but sometimes it feels as if you're better off not rocking the boat.
RenesisEvo said:
ChocolateFrog said:
Was listening to Parenting Hell podcast by Rob Beckett and Josh Widdecombe.
If you haven't listened I recommend it, very funny in places. Very sweary though so not one to have on when the kids are in the car.
Was listening to the episode with Katherine Ryan recently (the second one she's done) and she said she potty trained her kids from 4 months and was done by 8 months.
Not entirely sure I believe her but she was adamant, saying nappies are generally a western convenience device and her method is more common in areas where nappies would be unavailable or expensive.
Apparently she gets lots of hate on Mumsnet because she advocates it.
I've heard of this on her own podcast (Telling Everybody Everything) that my wife often plays in the car. If you haven't listened I recommend it, very funny in places. Very sweary though so not one to have on when the kids are in the car.
Was listening to the episode with Katherine Ryan recently (the second one she's done) and she said she potty trained her kids from 4 months and was done by 8 months.
Not entirely sure I believe her but she was adamant, saying nappies are generally a western convenience device and her method is more common in areas where nappies would be unavailable or expensive.
Apparently she gets lots of hate on Mumsnet because she advocates it.
We did debate exploring this early approach but haven't followed through (pun intended), for a couple of reasons - firstly, there's very little/no clue from litle one when its about to happen, only that it is happening, or has happenened, even post 8 months. Although we tried signing we've not been consistent or explored it deep enough. Secondly, nurseries would have a challenge on their hands as they can't take themselves to the bathroom yet would need use of one. We're having enough fun and games with nurseries' approach to reusable nappies, nevermind the conundrum of a potty-trained non-walker. Hate to say it but sometimes it feels as if you're better off not rocking the boat.
11 weeks in... Finished work, changed the nappy, and baby in the carrier for a little walk while the Mrs snoozes.
Managed to find a local brewery pub and sat at the bar sampling a few thirds with the boy snoozing. Sun coming in, all the doors open, bit of gentle hip hop.
Feels quite peaceful!
Better not get in the habit of walking past here every day!!
Managed to find a local brewery pub and sat at the bar sampling a few thirds with the boy snoozing. Sun coming in, all the doors open, bit of gentle hip hop.
Feels quite peaceful!
Better not get in the habit of walking past here every day!!
ChocolateFrog said:
vaud said:
The Moose said:
Here I am again getting to join this thread for a third time 
You are crazy 
I genuinely don't know how people do it if they're all under say 5.
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