Any other expectant Dads?
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congrats on the approval for adopting!
as for veg, what we’ve found to help is we both eat the same veg, ours just loves to copy. so if mum and dad eat this, i guess i’ll eat it too. some days she eats lots, some days she’s not fussed (kinda like the rest of her food) we try not make a big deal or force her to eat anything, but at 2.5 she definitely likes veg. although the sooner she’s out of nappies the better, because asparagus pee doesn’t smell any better in the nappy!!
as for veg, what we’ve found to help is we both eat the same veg, ours just loves to copy. so if mum and dad eat this, i guess i’ll eat it too. some days she eats lots, some days she’s not fussed (kinda like the rest of her food) we try not make a big deal or force her to eat anything, but at 2.5 she definitely likes veg. although the sooner she’s out of nappies the better, because asparagus pee doesn’t smell any better in the nappy!!
Speed addicted said:
Well I’m coming at this from a slightly different angle, got final approval to adopt an 18 month old boy today. All being well we’ll start to transition him to our care in about three weeks.
Due to lockdowns it’s been over two years getting this far!
Im happy, excited and absolutely s
tting it.
Bedroom is built and decorated, many brightly coloured toys bought. Two car seats and a buggy await his use.
One of my nieces is 6 weeks younger so we have a fair bit of experience with the age group. Many more sleepless nights to come though.
That's great news. Due to lockdowns it’s been over two years getting this far!
Im happy, excited and absolutely s
tting it. Bedroom is built and decorated, many brightly coloured toys bought. Two car seats and a buggy await his use.
One of my nieces is 6 weeks younger so we have a fair bit of experience with the age group. Many more sleepless nights to come though.
18 month until the proper tantrums started at just over 2 was probably my favourite age so far.
ChocolateFrog said:
Speed addicted said:
Well I’m coming at this from a slightly different angle, got final approval to adopt an 18 month old boy today. All being well we’ll start to transition him to our care in about three weeks.
Due to lockdowns it’s been over two years getting this far!
Im happy, excited and absolutely stting it.
Bedroom is built and decorated, many brightly coloured toys bought. Two car seats and a buggy await his use.
One of my nieces is 6 weeks younger so we have a fair bit of experience with the age group. Many more sleepless nights to come though.
That's great news. Due to lockdowns it’s been over two years getting this far!
Im happy, excited and absolutely s
tting it. Bedroom is built and decorated, many brightly coloured toys bought. Two car seats and a buggy await his use.
One of my nieces is 6 weeks younger so we have a fair bit of experience with the age group. Many more sleepless nights to come though.
18 month until the proper tantrums started at just over 2 was probably my favourite age so far.
Terrible twos…
8bit said:
vaud said:
Not all have terrible twos. My eldest didn't. My youngest had terrible 2s, 3s and 4s.
This, and then some. Our youngest is currently onto the terrible 6's...All of the families with girls though have had them, including my niece (and they are quite something)! I'm wondering if it's nature rather than nurture...
Congratulations!
Our wee man is 17 days old today. He arrived on the peak day of the heatwave, it was 38c here! Not great air-con in the hospital, but we all survived.
First few days are really tough, but I think we're starting to adjust to lack of sleep. Wee man is doing great.
It is useful in the trying times to remember the impermanence of life. Everything passes. Enjoy every moment, even the "bad" ones.
Our wee man is 17 days old today. He arrived on the peak day of the heatwave, it was 38c here! Not great air-con in the hospital, but we all survived.
First few days are really tough, but I think we're starting to adjust to lack of sleep. Wee man is doing great.
It is useful in the trying times to remember the impermanence of life. Everything passes. Enjoy every moment, even the "bad" ones.
Drew106 said:
It is useful in the trying times to remember the impermanence of life. Everything passes. Enjoy every moment, even the "bad" ones.
+1 My first is about to reach 1 year - of which the first 9 months felt like 3 years; by contrast the last 3 months have vanished. Looking back already, I partly wish I could have 'enjoyed' those early months more, but it really was a case of surviving at the time, especially for my wife with mastitis and lots of fun and games with the missed tongue-tie. I certainly am really grateful to have a really cheerful, happy person now and I really enjoy my time with them - whilst nursery does offer some peace and quiet its strange how fast you miss the chaos!RenesisEvo said:
Drew106 said:
It is useful in the trying times to remember the impermanence of life. Everything passes. Enjoy every moment, even the "bad" ones.
+1 My first is about to reach 1 year - of which the first 9 months felt like 3 years; by contrast the last 3 months have vanished. Looking back already, I partly wish I could have 'enjoyed' those early months more, but it really was a case of surviving at the time, especially for my wife with mastitis and lots of fun and games with the missed tongue-tie. I certainly am really grateful to have a really cheerful, happy person now and I really enjoy my time with them - whilst nursery does offer some peace and quiet its strange how fast you miss the chaos!I'm in the same position with #3 now at about 2-and-a-half months. The difference this time is that I was expecting it and I know from experience it will pass, but I still have a certain amount of residual guilt that I should be enjoying this time. I think we're so conditioned to think that you'll just automatically bond with your baby from day 1 whereas the reality is it doesn't work like that for everyone. Conversely, the twins are being properly awesome at the moment - I've got a week away with work coming up in September and I'm genuinely sad that I'm not going to see them for a full week!
Drew106 said:
Congratulations!
Our wee man is 17 days old today. He arrived on the peak day of the heatwave, it was 38c here! Not great air-con in the hospital, but we all survived.
First few days are really tough, but I think we're starting to adjust to lack of sleep. Wee man is doing great.
It is useful in the trying times to remember the impermanence of life. Everything passes. Enjoy every moment, even the "bad" ones.
Were a little in front of you, 40 days old today. Our wee man is 17 days old today. He arrived on the peak day of the heatwave, it was 38c here! Not great air-con in the hospital, but we all survived.
First few days are really tough, but I think we're starting to adjust to lack of sleep. Wee man is doing great.
It is useful in the trying times to remember the impermanence of life. Everything passes. Enjoy every moment, even the "bad" ones.
Sleep has got a little better for us.
Our little lad is coming up to 2.5 years now, hes getting a right character and loves his tractors/trains/planes, its brilliant..... we are all big kids at heart aren't we gents 
He was born just before Covid and it was furloughed for 8 months, so was in a very privileged position.
We are still on the fence about having another, he sleeps well and is pretty good if im honest... we don't want to spoil it
We are both only children but could see where a sibling would be a great thing
He was born just before Covid and it was furloughed for 8 months, so was in a very privileged position.
We are still on the fence about having another, he sleeps well and is pretty good if im honest... we don't want to spoil it
We are both only children but could see where a sibling would be a great thingMartin_Hx said:
We are still on the fence about having another, he sleeps well and is pretty good if im honest... we don't want to spoil it We are both only children but could see where a sibling would be a great thing
Or you could have a house full of arguments and two kids that don’t really talk as adults! We are both only children but could see where a sibling would be a great thingI really don’t get on with my sister. I was really quite glad to be adopting one child instead of two.
Martin_Hx said:
We are still on the fence about having another, he sleeps well and is pretty good if im honest... we don't want to spoil it We are both only children but could see where a sibling would be a great thing
Two is a whole different ballgame to one. Someone told me before we had our second and I didn't believe them. I certainly do now (Ours are 1 and a half and 4). We are both only children but could see where a sibling would be a great thingThere's nothing guaranteeing that number 2 will be anything like the 1st either.
I suspect it changes once they start getting older and becomes a bit easier, hope so anyway.
But yeah have a good think about that one, before committing.
Edited by Merry on Monday 8th August 11:05
Merry said:
Two is a whole different ballgame to one. Someone told me before we had our second and I didn't believe them. I certainly do now (Ours are 1 and a half and 4).
There's nothing guaranteeing that number 2 will be anything like the 1st either.
I suspect it changes once they start getting older and becomes a bit easier, hope so anyway.
But yeah have a good think about that one, before committing.
^^^This x100There's nothing guaranteeing that number 2 will be anything like the 1st either.
I suspect it changes once they start getting older and becomes a bit easier, hope so anyway.
But yeah have a good think about that one, before committing.
Ours are 5 and 9, both girls and radically different personalities.
The first was a terrible sleeper but relatively calm and chilled out (still is). No terrible 2s, etc.
The second was/is a terrible sleeper, screamed herself to sleep for the first 6 months. Colic, reflux, sick, etc. We have had terrible 2s, 3s, 4s and just turned 5... still terrible. She doesn't go around objects, or over them, she goes through them. A ball of energy a bit like the tasmanian devil.
They can be brilliant together. Just not very often. Either way 2 is more like 3 or 4 in terms of workload (at least ours are), it certainly isn't like having just 2.
seiben said:
RenesisEvo said:
Drew106 said:
It is useful in the trying times to remember the impermanence of life. Everything passes. Enjoy every moment, even the "bad" ones.
+1 My first is about to reach 1 year - of which the first 9 months felt like 3 years; by contrast the last 3 months have vanished. Looking back already, I partly wish I could have 'enjoyed' those early months more, but it really was a case of surviving at the time, especially for my wife with mastitis and lots of fun and games with the missed tongue-tie. I certainly am really grateful to have a really cheerful, happy person now and I really enjoy my time with them - whilst nursery does offer some peace and quiet its strange how fast you miss the chaos!I'm in the same position with #3 now at about 2-and-a-half months. The difference this time is that I was expecting it and I know from experience it will pass, but I still have a certain amount of residual guilt that I should be enjoying this time. I think we're so conditioned to think that you'll just automatically bond with your baby from day 1 whereas the reality is it doesn't work like that for everyone. Conversely, the twins are being properly awesome at the moment - I've got a week away with work coming up in September and I'm genuinely sad that I'm not going to see them for a full week!
They reckon her crying fits of 3/4 hours long traumatised me. Its funny looking back but the 2/4 month old period with her really came close to breaking me at the time.
I don't mean any of this in a horrible way but I think we are told to love our kids, it will almost be like a scene from the movies and all magical and lovely and the reality of it is you have a baby that just wants its mum, you are a bit of a spare part, your partner is worn out and snappy with you, you are absolutely worn out and knackered and the whole thing is just quite tiring. It starts to get rewarding once they can give a little bit back, now when I get in from working and the youngest is saying 'dada' and crawls rapidly across the floor its a great feeling.
Also the youngest 2 in my house are completely different personalities. The crying newest one is now just happy, smily and very content and goes with the flow. She can say a lot of words and is crawling around.the 14 month older sister still doesn't talk much the odd 2 words together but mainly just one word. Understands everything but doesn't speak much, but in contrast was walking at 9 months and running around at a year old quite steadily. Funny how they can be so different.
Edited by JimmyConwayNW on Monday 8th August 13:06
Merry said:
Two is a whole different ballgame to one. Someone told me before we had our second and I didn't believe them. I certainly do now (Ours are 1 and a half and 4).
It's interesting - I've found that 2 hasn't been that much of a change to just 1. My two are currently 3.5 and 2.Looking forward to finding how much our next one changes things early next year.
Found out we're having a girl
The Moose said:
It's interesting - I've found that 2 hasn't been that much of a change to just 1. My two are currently 3.5 and 2.
Looking forward to finding how much our next one changes things early next year.
Found out we're having a girl
It probably depends in the children and their characters. Unfortunately you dont get to choose that!Looking forward to finding how much our next one changes things early next year.
Found out we're having a girl
Our eldest can be a little ball of emotional rage if things don't go the way he wants and the youngest will climb/eat/escape/do chaos at any opportunity. Both of these things require attention most, if not all of the time. So it requires both of you. In the past one of the parents could have been having a minute while the other dealt with the child. Not so much now.
On the plus side they both sleep well. But honestly you don't get a spare second with them during the day, whereas we did with just the one.
As with anything your milage may vary.
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