Any other expectant Dads?
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Ambleton said:
Sickness for her started about wk6 (Christmas time). Now at wk 17.
Really pisses her/me off when people say: "Just enjoy the pregnancy"
.... What the f
k?
Enjoy it? Every second is a fking misery 
Does sound like you’re both having a hard time of it - would agree with the earlier poster that the second trimester was easy (my wife may disagree!), I remember it as a really happy time for us. Has your wife talked to a medical professional about how she’s doing?Really pisses her/me off when people say: "Just enjoy the pregnancy"
.... What the f
k? Enjoy it? Every second is a f
king misery Yeah she has.
I don't think it helps that in "the before times" she was taking Citalopram for anxiety and depression. It was only a small dosage, but regardless, it surely doesn't help matters. She weened herself off them over about 4-5wks.
I don't think my general mood is helping much. Sounds odd but I literally just don't care about stuff. Couldn't give a flying fk about anything right now.
I don't think it helps that in "the before times" she was taking Citalopram for anxiety and depression. It was only a small dosage, but regardless, it surely doesn't help matters. She weened herself off them over about 4-5wks.
I don't think my general mood is helping much. Sounds odd but I literally just don't care about stuff. Couldn't give a flying f
k about anything right now.the-norseman said:
After posting this we tried a new routine.
In the bath by 1915, in bed by 2000 it worked well for a few nights but then he got sick again and it went out of the window.
Last night he slept 2000-0330, we gave him a bottle and bum change and then he slept 0350-0930.
Hopefully were over the mountain now.
Great results really, I've never seen our guy slept more than 4 hours. (and he is 9 months old) I think it happened a few times, but I can't even remember now!. We got the sleep training/consultant finally and the actual work will start next week. She has done some assessments already about the room in sleeping and etc, TBH, some of it worked out so far, but the issue of "self-soothing" will require a lot of work.In the bath by 1915, in bed by 2000 it worked well for a few nights but then he got sick again and it went out of the window.
Last night he slept 2000-0330, we gave him a bottle and bum change and then he slept 0350-0930.
Hopefully were over the mountain now.
If you got a kid/baby that sleeps more than 5-6 hours, you do consider yourselves pretty lucky!
Ambleton said:
Enjoy it? Every second is a fking misery
Well, I know this will sound "ungrateful" I do not know, but personally I hated every minute of pregnancy period. It is an extremely stressful time for both. Again, I know some couples or mothers go through this period quite happy and jolly, and that's great but when "health" issues surface, that 9 months is quite long.king misery If you can, I would try to import some family help from your partner side (That's what I did), for longer stays to help for all sorts of things...
Hi All,
New to the thread. My wife and I had our first baby on 28th February at 23.39. Had it been a leap year I’d have suggested holding on a little longer - not sure how well that would have gone down though! Baby boy born at 6lbs 12oz.
What a wild ride the first (almost) week has been! Many ups, a few downs including a visit to the hospital as he wasn’t feeding and was very lethargic. Think we are over that now though.
Any other new dads in East Sussex?
New to the thread. My wife and I had our first baby on 28th February at 23.39. Had it been a leap year I’d have suggested holding on a little longer - not sure how well that would have gone down though! Baby boy born at 6lbs 12oz.
What a wild ride the first (almost) week has been! Many ups, a few downs including a visit to the hospital as he wasn’t feeding and was very lethargic. Think we are over that now though.
Any other new dads in East Sussex?
ooid said:
the-norseman said:
After posting this we tried a new routine.
In the bath by 1915, in bed by 2000 it worked well for a few nights but then he got sick again and it went out of the window.
Last night he slept 2000-0330, we gave him a bottle and bum change and then he slept 0350-0930.
Hopefully were over the mountain now.
Great results really, I've never seen our guy slept more than 4 hours. (and he is 9 months old) I think it happened a few times, but I can't even remember now!. We got the sleep training/consultant finally and the actual work will start next week. She has done some assessments already about the room in sleeping and etc, TBH, some of it worked out so far, but the issue of "self-soothing" will require a lot of work.In the bath by 1915, in bed by 2000 it worked well for a few nights but then he got sick again and it went out of the window.
Last night he slept 2000-0330, we gave him a bottle and bum change and then he slept 0350-0930.
Hopefully were over the mountain now.
If you got a kid/baby that sleeps more than 5-6 hours, you do consider yourselves pretty lucky!
wife and i exhausted and basically extremely demotivated and dread bedtimes - otherwise have a very happy little boy.
Another PHer shared some notes we might try in a bit when we've mentally recovered otherwise may just hope/accept that one day this might sort itself out
10 nights in and our twins are currently in SCBU. Spent the first 2 days in NICU then transferred upstairs. Boy is now 1.7kg, girl 1.56kg, both born at 1.62kg.
For 3 or 4 days we had a private room with both babies and a workbench and enough room to lay back on a seat and get some rest. Due to staffing issues we’re now in a ward with 4 other families, tiny cramped space for dealing with twins, no privacy for expressing, babies not latching on, beeping all day, other people being really loud. It’s frankly exhausting, we’re here for about 12 hours each day then home to eat, sleep and express. We could deal with the extended stay in hospital in the private room but this is grim.
On more positive notes both babies are no longer on breathing or temperature support and are taking feeds via either bottle or NG tube, up to 37ml 3 hourly now. We just need them both to continue putting on weight, maintain temps and feed for themselves.
For 3 or 4 days we had a private room with both babies and a workbench and enough room to lay back on a seat and get some rest. Due to staffing issues we’re now in a ward with 4 other families, tiny cramped space for dealing with twins, no privacy for expressing, babies not latching on, beeping all day, other people being really loud. It’s frankly exhausting, we’re here for about 12 hours each day then home to eat, sleep and express. We could deal with the extended stay in hospital in the private room but this is grim.
On more positive notes both babies are no longer on breathing or temperature support and are taking feeds via either bottle or NG tube, up to 37ml 3 hourly now. We just need them both to continue putting on weight, maintain temps and feed for themselves.
We just had our 2nd, a baby girl. Her older brother is 5 years old. She is a super chill baby, almost as if she knows her brother brings all the drama.
I saw her about three times in the first 6 weeks as her brother was in ICU with congestive heart failure and pancytopenia - he has basically been in hospital almost continuously with it since November. Unsurprisingly, 5 year olds don't like being in intensive care with IV lines, oxygen masks, constant pokes for blood draws etc, so I was living in the room with him on Peppa Pig reading duty.
Some very heavy lifting from grandparents and nannies got us through Jan and Feb, its a good thing the littlest one is a sleeper!
We got both kids home a week ago and my oldest is very excited to show his sister all his favorite things - driving through the car wash, visiting the toy store, playing with the dog and McDonalds.
I saw her about three times in the first 6 weeks as her brother was in ICU with congestive heart failure and pancytopenia - he has basically been in hospital almost continuously with it since November. Unsurprisingly, 5 year olds don't like being in intensive care with IV lines, oxygen masks, constant pokes for blood draws etc, so I was living in the room with him on Peppa Pig reading duty.
Some very heavy lifting from grandparents and nannies got us through Jan and Feb, its a good thing the littlest one is a sleeper!
We got both kids home a week ago and my oldest is very excited to show his sister all his favorite things - driving through the car wash, visiting the toy store, playing with the dog and McDonalds.
Comacchio said:
10 nights in and our twins are currently in SCBU. Spent the first 2 days in NICU then transferred upstairs. Boy is now 1.7kg, girl 1.56kg, both born at 1.62kg.
For 3 or 4 days we had a private room with both babies and a workbench and enough room to lay back on a seat and get some rest. Due to staffing issues we’re now in a ward with 4 other families, tiny cramped space for dealing with twins, no privacy for expressing, babies not latching on, beeping all day, other people being really loud. It’s frankly exhausting, we’re here for about 12 hours each day then home to eat, sleep and express. We could deal with the extended stay in hospital in the private room but this is grim.
On more positive notes both babies are no longer on breathing or temperature support and are taking feeds via either bottle or NG tube, up to 37ml 3 hourly now. We just need them both to continue putting on weight, maintain temps and feed for themselves.
It’s hard we were there for weeks with our eldest. You will soon have them back home and be enjoying the comforts of your own beds. For 3 or 4 days we had a private room with both babies and a workbench and enough room to lay back on a seat and get some rest. Due to staffing issues we’re now in a ward with 4 other families, tiny cramped space for dealing with twins, no privacy for expressing, babies not latching on, beeping all day, other people being really loud. It’s frankly exhausting, we’re here for about 12 hours each day then home to eat, sleep and express. We could deal with the extended stay in hospital in the private room but this is grim.
On more positive notes both babies are no longer on breathing or temperature support and are taking feeds via either bottle or NG tube, up to 37ml 3 hourly now. We just need them both to continue putting on weight, maintain temps and feed for themselves.
There should be privacy for expressing? My wife found a little used private room I seem to remember kick up a fuss.
Comacchio said:
On more positive notes both babies are no longer on breathing or temperature support and are taking feeds via either bottle or NG tube, up to 37ml 3 hourly now. We just need them both to continue putting on weight, maintain temps and feed for themselves.
It is stressful right now but just think, in 2 years from now they will fast, strong and be tearing up your apartment/house and drawing on the walls, floors, mirrors, and other high-end electrical items 
In terms of putting on weight, if SCBU prescribe the breast milk additive (you mix it 50/50) to take home with you the babies will fatten up real quick, it takes about 8 weeks to chub them up real good on that stuff.
Comacchio said:
For 3 or 4 days we had a private room with both babies and a workbench and enough room to lay back on a seat and get some rest. Due to staffing issues we’re now in a ward with 4 other families, tiny cramped space for dealing with twins, no privacy for expressing, babies not latching on, beeping all day, other people being really loud. It’s frankly exhausting, we’re here for about 12 hours each day then home to eat, sleep and express. We could deal with the extended stay in hospital in the private room but this is grim.
It's horrible really, nothing comparable but we have also had to stay in the ward a few days due to C-section complexities and etc.. The resources really limited, tiny, and etc.. Same also, we could not get a private room due to c19 policy, as they had to keep one free for a potential c19 mother. I feel for all workers at NHS really, they are literally running the operations on a shoe-string, and can't really fault their skills, we have got super-help for both breastfeeding and any other concerns whenever needed. Good luck and hopefully you get out soon!Carl_Manchester said:
keep an eyeball on the budget today dad's, there might be some good news coming our way.
I've been watching this closely over the last day or so, the proposals will definitely impact our decision on [timing of] a potential second. I do suspect it may drive a surge in demand for nursery places that are already thin on the ground, not sure how that will play out. But overall, if they deliver what's been suggested, it should be a welcome step forward. Fingers are crossed on a number of fronts (I'm personally hoping they lift the thresholds for the child benefit tax charge, as that's about to sting us).RenesisEvo said:
Carl_Manchester said:
keep an eyeball on the budget today dad's, there might be some good news coming our way.
I've been watching this closely over the last day or so, the proposals will definitely impact our decision on [timing of] a potential second. I do suspect it may drive a surge in demand for nursery places that are already thin on the ground, not sure how that will play out. But overall, if they deliver what's been suggested, it should be a welcome step forward. Fingers are crossed on a number of fronts (I'm personally hoping they lift the thresholds for the child benefit tax charge, as that's about to sting us).Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff