Any other expectant Dads?
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Baby no.2 (girl) due in August for me (45) and wife (39) so finally a sibling for our 5 year old boy after a couple of years of trying and several miscarriages. Felt like our last chance given history and our age, so over the moon. Just had 20 week scan and everything is OK.
I’m under no illusion how hard the next year or so will be, but we’re both ready! Thankfully we kept all the baby stuff so at least costs aren’t going to be quite so crazy as last time.
I’m under no illusion how hard the next year or so will be, but we’re both ready! Thankfully we kept all the baby stuff so at least costs aren’t going to be quite so crazy as last time.
the-norseman said:
Really gone backwards with our 22 month old now.
having to get up 2/3/4/5 times a night with him, he wakes up and sits up and wont go back to sleep until you come in and lay him down again.
He has had a chest infection but that has gone now, luckily I'm on nights next few nights WFH but still annoying having to go up to him every hour or so.
I had similar to this a few months ago. Nursery crap, illness cold and etc... It really tires them out I think. We have not had any illness for the last 4 weeks (our last words probably), back to normal sleeping. I booked 3 weeks away for the mom and the baby in july really and considering to go more often whereever is warm May onwards. having to get up 2/3/4/5 times a night with him, he wakes up and sits up and wont go back to sleep until you come in and lay him down again.
He has had a chest infection but that has gone now, luckily I'm on nights next few nights WFH but still annoying having to go up to him every hour or so.
nammynake said:
Baby no.2 (girl) due in August for me (45) and wife (39) so finally a sibling for our 5 year old boy after a couple of years of trying and several miscarriages.
congratulations, keep us updated. If you feel you need extra interim scans on the baby just swallow the cost and do them. Especially for potential placenta detachment . It seems straightforward but you'll get the odd occasion where mum doesn't feel right and you'll need to nip that in the bud.ooid said:
I had similar to this a few months ago. Nursery crap, illness cold and etc... It really tires them out I think. We have not had any illness for the last 4 weeks (our last words probably), back to normal sleeping. I booked 3 weeks away for the mom and the baby in july really and considering to go more often whereever is warm May onwards.
Good to hear ooid, I think I recall some of your previous posts when you were in the thick of it.
Hard to believe we are nearly at 6 months old now.
He's at 94th percentile for head circumference, 93rd for length, and 85th for weight. So a chunker!
The amazing thing at the moment is how quick everything is coming. All of a sudden he is sitting up, starting on some actual food, and is so much more aware and interactive. It's amazing, even if teething is not pleasant!
His favourite thing is our dog at the moment - if he is grumpy I call her and when she comes 95% of the time he stops crying. Being a lab she loves the attention and is great sitting there while he strokes her.
He's at 94th percentile for head circumference, 93rd for length, and 85th for weight. So a chunker!
The amazing thing at the moment is how quick everything is coming. All of a sudden he is sitting up, starting on some actual food, and is so much more aware and interactive. It's amazing, even if teething is not pleasant!
His favourite thing is our dog at the moment - if he is grumpy I call her and when she comes 95% of the time he stops crying. Being a lab she loves the attention and is great sitting there while he strokes her.
It’s been 5 years since I was last in here.
Been trying as of the past 6 months.
Wife had a miscarriage last month. She wasn’t good after it mentally.
This week she has tested positive however she had Night Nurse Wednesday night. Tested positive Thursday morning and Friday morning.
She’s over the moon however me not jumping into it with my emotions I’ve came across that Promethazine in the Night Nurse can give positive results 48-72 after taking the medicine.
Not sure when to tell my wife. She is 2 days late on her period but her periods are erratic and never exact days each cycle.
Been trying as of the past 6 months.
Wife had a miscarriage last month. She wasn’t good after it mentally.
This week she has tested positive however she had Night Nurse Wednesday night. Tested positive Thursday morning and Friday morning.
She’s over the moon however me not jumping into it with my emotions I’ve came across that Promethazine in the Night Nurse can give positive results 48-72 after taking the medicine.
Not sure when to tell my wife. She is 2 days late on her period but her periods are erratic and never exact days each cycle.
CharlieH89 said:
It’s been 5 years since I was last in here.
Been trying as of the past 6 months.
Wife had a miscarriage last month. She wasn’t good after it mentally.
This week she has tested positive however she had Night Nurse Wednesday night. Tested positive Thursday morning and Friday morning.
She’s over the moon however me not jumping into it with my emotions I’ve came across that Promethazine in the Night Nurse can give positive results 48-72 after taking the medicine.
Not sure when to tell my wife. She is 2 days late on her period but her periods are erratic and never exact days each cycle.
Fingers crossed for you. I'm in a similar position but a few weeks ahead of you. Also 5 years since I was last in here and absolutely out the blue have number 2 on the way. We've just had the 12 week scan and starting to feel real. Been trying as of the past 6 months.
Wife had a miscarriage last month. She wasn’t good after it mentally.
This week she has tested positive however she had Night Nurse Wednesday night. Tested positive Thursday morning and Friday morning.
She’s over the moon however me not jumping into it with my emotions I’ve came across that Promethazine in the Night Nurse can give positive results 48-72 after taking the medicine.
Not sure when to tell my wife. She is 2 days late on her period but her periods are erratic and never exact days each cycle.
Thankfully we kep most of the baby paraphernalia from first time, although that's not stopping my wife eyeing up some of the latest trends.. some fancy moses basket, a running buggy and a Doona car seat? Anyone got one of them?
Not against the idea of a running buggy myself as I quite like the odd 5k but seems like a lot of expense. We already have two different buggies..
CharlieH89 said:
It’s been 5 years since I was last in here.
Been trying as of the past 6 months.
Wife had a miscarriage last month. She wasn’t good after it mentally.
This week she has tested positive however she had Night Nurse Wednesday night. Tested positive Thursday morning and Friday morning.
She’s over the moon however me not jumping into it with my emotions I’ve came across that Promethazine in the Night Nurse can give positive results 48-72 after taking the medicine.
Not sure when to tell my wife. She is 2 days late on her period but her periods are erratic and never exact days each cycle.
tough one. I would make sure her diet is good and the prenatals pills are flowing then retest in in a week ? I mean you'll want the retest to have clear water between the last test.Been trying as of the past 6 months.
Wife had a miscarriage last month. She wasn’t good after it mentally.
This week she has tested positive however she had Night Nurse Wednesday night. Tested positive Thursday morning and Friday morning.
She’s over the moon however me not jumping into it with my emotions I’ve came across that Promethazine in the Night Nurse can give positive results 48-72 after taking the medicine.
Not sure when to tell my wife. She is 2 days late on her period but her periods are erratic and never exact days each cycle.
the-norseman said:
Nearly 2 year old is still waking up several times at night almost like a new born, literally sits up and cries until we walk in, second we walk in he curls up and goes back sleep.
We usually have this if he is in pain or fever. Teething, sore throat and etc.. He can't comfort himself without support, so we'll do co-sleeping during those nights. What a nightmare weekend by the way again, raining continuously it is almost May, complete misery to have small kids with crap weather all year around.ooid said:
What a nightmare weekend by the way again, raining continuously it is almost May, complete misery to have small kids with crap weather all year around.
For days like today, my go to indoor activities are softplay, trampoline park, or climbing. Have booked a softplay session for 2.30pm to get them out the house. Meanwhile, my girl's are happily amusing themselves with role playing "friends" upstairs which give me some space! chip* said:
For days like today, my go to indoor activities are softplay, trampoline park, or climbing.
I have been to a local softplay area once and to be honest it was really the seventh circle of hell. 
never again...Nothing like a good spring or summer day, open up the garden and just chill while they play safely.
2 and a half years in on number one now and as everyone says I can't believe where the time has gone.
A few friends are onto number two now but we're very torn. Both of us found the first 18 months very tough mentally, and to be honest not that enjoyable as a whole. Our experience seemed very different to a lot of our friends, much more demanding, less settled, colicky, needed constant attention etc.
Without wishing time away, it's been nice getting past a lot of that newborn stuff and having options open back up for family days out, bike rides, even simple things like going out for a coffee and cake as a family is a pleasant experience. It would be tough "going back to square one" as it were.
The other thing is our daughter is so enjoyable to be around now, part of me would hate to not be able to give her the time and attention she deserves because I need to give so much time to her newborn sibling.
I know it's a relatively short space of time and when they are older it will be lovely for them to play together etc. Tough one.
A few friends are onto number two now but we're very torn. Both of us found the first 18 months very tough mentally, and to be honest not that enjoyable as a whole. Our experience seemed very different to a lot of our friends, much more demanding, less settled, colicky, needed constant attention etc.
Without wishing time away, it's been nice getting past a lot of that newborn stuff and having options open back up for family days out, bike rides, even simple things like going out for a coffee and cake as a family is a pleasant experience. It would be tough "going back to square one" as it were.
The other thing is our daughter is so enjoyable to be around now, part of me would hate to not be able to give her the time and attention she deserves because I need to give so much time to her newborn sibling.
I know it's a relatively short space of time and when they are older it will be lovely for them to play together etc. Tough one.
Edited by Tim Cognito on Sunday 28th April 18:00
Tim Cognito said:
2 and a half years in on number one now and as everyone says I can't believe where the time has gone.
A few friends are onto number two now but we're very torn. Both of us found the first 18 months very tough mentally, and to be honest not that enjoyable as a whole. Our experience seemed very different to a lot of our friends, much more demanding, less settled, colicky, needed constant attention etc.
Without wishing time away, it's been nice getting past a lot of that newborn stuff and having options open back up for family days out, bike rides, even simple things like going out for a coffee and cake as a family is a pleasant experience. It would be tough "going back to square one" as it were.
The other thing is our daughter is so enjoyable to be around now, part of me would hate to not be able to give her the time and attention she deserves because I need to give so much time to her newborn sibling.
I know it's a relatively short space of time and when they are older it will be lovely for them to play together etc. Tough one.
A very personal decision and hard to give any form of advice. We stuck with one for very similar reasons and absolutely no regrets. I hated the newborn phase, lack of sleep etc.A few friends are onto number two now but we're very torn. Both of us found the first 18 months very tough mentally, and to be honest not that enjoyable as a whole. Our experience seemed very different to a lot of our friends, much more demanding, less settled, colicky, needed constant attention etc.
Without wishing time away, it's been nice getting past a lot of that newborn stuff and having options open back up for family days out, bike rides, even simple things like going out for a coffee and cake as a family is a pleasant experience. It would be tough "going back to square one" as it were.
The other thing is our daughter is so enjoyable to be around now, part of me would hate to not be able to give her the time and attention she deserves because I need to give so much time to her newborn sibling.
I know it's a relatively short space of time and when they are older it will be lovely for them to play together etc. Tough one.
Edited by Tim Cognito on Sunday 28th April 18:00
A significant element for us was the fact that we have zero family help.
Lots of my friends and family have a significant amount of help from parents which makes a huge difference, especially when it comes to more than 1 child.
I also don't buy into the whole 'first child needs a sibling' theory, but that's my own prejudice.
Well our little lad was 3 months old a few days ago.
Not gonna' lie, its been a tough time.
Wife went back to work after 6 weeks, and I am 'full time stay at home dad'
I do the 24/7 feeds nappies, poo on the jeans etc.
But to be honest, I wouldnt change it for anything in the world.
Sure my age is against me, (67) but thank god I am super active, and mentally 100%.
We are off to Barcelona in a few weeks, to try out airports and airplanes with him.
Then later in September we have 3 weeks in China, direct flight from Manchester to Beijing.
China isn't new to me, I lived there for 4 years, and have been there umpteen times.
Cant wait!!!
Not gonna' lie, its been a tough time.
Wife went back to work after 6 weeks, and I am 'full time stay at home dad'
I do the 24/7 feeds nappies, poo on the jeans etc.
But to be honest, I wouldnt change it for anything in the world.
Sure my age is against me, (67) but thank god I am super active, and mentally 100%.
We are off to Barcelona in a few weeks, to try out airports and airplanes with him.
Then later in September we have 3 weeks in China, direct flight from Manchester to Beijing.
China isn't new to me, I lived there for 4 years, and have been there umpteen times.
Cant wait!!!
RayDonovan said:
A very personal decision and hard to give any form of advice. We stuck with one for very similar reasons and absolutely no regrets. I hated the newborn phase, lack of sleep etc.
A significant element for us was the fact that we have zero family help.
Lots of my friends and family have a significant amount of help from parents which makes a huge difference, especially when it comes to more than 1 child.
I also don't buy into the whole 'first child needs a sibling' theory, but that's my own prejudice.
Same ref zero family help. I agree, in the early days even one morning or evening off every couple of weeks would have made a big difference in terms of just being able to relax, spend some time as a couple and recharge the batteries so to speak.A significant element for us was the fact that we have zero family help.
Lots of my friends and family have a significant amount of help from parents which makes a huge difference, especially when it comes to more than 1 child.
I also don't buy into the whole 'first child needs a sibling' theory, but that's my own prejudice.
Tim Cognito said:
RayDonovan said:
A very personal decision and hard to give any form of advice. We stuck with one for very similar reasons and absolutely no regrets. I hated the newborn phase, lack of sleep etc.
A significant element for us was the fact that we have zero family help.
Lots of my friends and family have a significant amount of help from parents which makes a huge difference, especially when it comes to more than 1 child.
I also don't buy into the whole 'first child needs a sibling' theory, but that's my own prejudice.
Same ref zero family help. I agree, in the early days even one morning or evening off every couple of weeks would have made a big difference in terms of just being able to relax, spend some time as a couple and recharge the batteries so to speak.A significant element for us was the fact that we have zero family help.
Lots of my friends and family have a significant amount of help from parents which makes a huge difference, especially when it comes to more than 1 child.
I also don't buy into the whole 'first child needs a sibling' theory, but that's my own prejudice.
I think I'll check in here more regularly.
I already have a 3 year old girl and we're expecting our first boy any day now.
Not so nervous this time but still a bit jittery. More concerned about how our 3 year old will adjust, especially as she's still coming in to our room most nights / mornings. I'm hoping a couple of nights with a screaming newborn will put an end to that but we'll see.
I already have a 3 year old girl and we're expecting our first boy any day now.
Not so nervous this time but still a bit jittery. More concerned about how our 3 year old will adjust, especially as she's still coming in to our room most nights / mornings. I'm hoping a couple of nights with a screaming newborn will put an end to that but we'll see.
Tim Cognito said:
2 and a half years in on number one now and as everyone says I can't believe where the time has gone.
A few friends are onto number two now but we're very torn. Both of us found the first 18 months very tough mentally, and to be honest not that enjoyable as a whole. Our experience seemed very different to a lot of our friends, much more demanding, less settled, colicky, needed constant attention etc.
Without wishing time away, it's been nice getting past a lot of that newborn stuff and having options open back up for family days out, bike rides, even simple things like going out for a coffee and cake as a family is a pleasant experience. It would be tough "going back to square one" as it were.
The other thing is our daughter is so enjoyable to be around now, part of me would hate to not be able to give her the time and attention she deserves because I need to give so much time to her newborn sibling.
I know it's a relatively short space of time and when they are older it will be lovely for them to play together etc. Tough one.
Yep I could have written that. My son was hard work, though his sleeping has always been very good, there’s no way I could deal with kids coming into the room etc now. A few friends are onto number two now but we're very torn. Both of us found the first 18 months very tough mentally, and to be honest not that enjoyable as a whole. Our experience seemed very different to a lot of our friends, much more demanding, less settled, colicky, needed constant attention etc.
Without wishing time away, it's been nice getting past a lot of that newborn stuff and having options open back up for family days out, bike rides, even simple things like going out for a coffee and cake as a family is a pleasant experience. It would be tough "going back to square one" as it were.
The other thing is our daughter is so enjoyable to be around now, part of me would hate to not be able to give her the time and attention she deserves because I need to give so much time to her newborn sibling.
I know it's a relatively short space of time and when they are older it will be lovely for them to play together etc. Tough one.
Edited by Tim Cognito on Sunday 28th April 18:00
We were only ever having one, and it’s never changed. Also had no family help, can certainly see that with that life can be quite different.
Edited by okgo on Sunday 28th April 19:26
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