Remember the 'escorts' thread? Confession time.
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It's a very binary world on PH sometimes isn't it? 
Wives are either hard done by victims or snakes with tits out to fleece innocent men for every penny. Meanwhile women who charge for sex are definitely all victims, trafficked against their will and having 90% of their money taken off them.
I'm sure all of these stereo-types exist of course.
But is there no room in the middle for mildly manipulative wives who marry the 'good prospect' and decide they don't need to carry on doing that anymore once they have the ring and the joint credit card? Should the bloke then suffer in silence or throw it all away when there's a discreet alternative? And if he takes that alternative, is it really all his fault whilst the wife who isn't really into that sort of thing any more remains totally blameless?
Is there no room for women with high sex drives who want to make a few quid out of meaningless sex? (Let's face it, there are plenty of men who seem to try and make careers out of meaningless sex without even being paid for it!).
Or simply women who are pragmatic enough about their bodies to feel it's worth using them to gain a better lifestyle (which, lets be honest, isn't too far removed from some wives...). And why shouldn't they? It's a free world. One chap reckoned they must all be victims because his wive is a counsellor and helps many of them. But presumably happy ones wouldn't need a counsellor.
Easy to sit in judgement with all the answers when we don't know all the facts about any of the 'players'.
Personally I think it's an interesting subject, thanks for posting OP.
Wives are either hard done by victims or snakes with tits out to fleece innocent men for every penny. Meanwhile women who charge for sex are definitely all victims, trafficked against their will and having 90% of their money taken off them.
I'm sure all of these stereo-types exist of course.
But is there no room in the middle for mildly manipulative wives who marry the 'good prospect' and decide they don't need to carry on doing that anymore once they have the ring and the joint credit card? Should the bloke then suffer in silence or throw it all away when there's a discreet alternative? And if he takes that alternative, is it really all his fault whilst the wife who isn't really into that sort of thing any more remains totally blameless?
Is there no room for women with high sex drives who want to make a few quid out of meaningless sex? (Let's face it, there are plenty of men who seem to try and make careers out of meaningless sex without even being paid for it!).
Or simply women who are pragmatic enough about their bodies to feel it's worth using them to gain a better lifestyle (which, lets be honest, isn't too far removed from some wives...). And why shouldn't they? It's a free world. One chap reckoned they must all be victims because his wive is a counsellor and helps many of them. But presumably happy ones wouldn't need a counsellor.
Easy to sit in judgement with all the answers when we don't know all the facts about any of the 'players'.
Personally I think it's an interesting subject, thanks for posting OP.
LocoCoco said:
Lots of girls work 9-5 jobs then "tour" the country on the weekends ie book a hotel/holiday apartment for the weekend and work from there.
And abroad. Came across a few girls in Hong Kong doing extra evening work (just to add £1000 upwards per evening so out of my budget .. :-O ) Not sure why everyone is being so moralistic on here about it. Plenty of girls shag around and don't get anything for it.fido said:
LocoCoco said:
Lots of girls work 9-5 jobs then "tour" the country on the weekends ie book a hotel/holiday apartment for the weekend and work from there.
And abroad. Came across a few girls in Hong Kong doing extra evening work (just to add £1000 upwards per evening so out of my budget .. :-O ) Not sure why everyone is being so moralistic on here about it. Plenty of girls shag around and don't get anything for it.
Superflow said:
Dave really? You can't be that naive.You describe a foreign run brothel, not £150 per hour self employed escorts with day jobs,different things.
No, they are the same thing and with either you're paying for sex. You've a wife and two kids...I feel really sorry for them.AndyTR said:
Superflow said:
Dave really? You can't be that naive.You describe a foreign run brothel, not £150 per hour self employed escorts with day jobs,different things.
No, they are the same thing and with either you're paying for sex. You've a wife and two kids...I feel really sorry for them.
AstonZagato said:
You know your marriage but that doesn't sound healthy.
I've been through that marriage dip. Kids, work, house, stress - all gets in the way of a healthy relationship with the wife (I'm talking both party's interest in the other partner).
If you don't talk about it, it will be terminal for the marriage. It is not an easy conversation but it needs to be had. What you want from the marriage. What she wants from the marriage.
Escorts are not the answer to sorting that out. Conversation might do that. It could save your marriage and mean that your kids grow up in a stable home. Your marriage might not be salvageable but you owe it to your wife and kids to give it a try. Escorts just sort out your sex drive and I'm sure are quite addictive - it is in their interests to make you feel loved/respected/sexy to get you to come back and give them another £500. It is an illusion - but I'm sure it is a pretty realistic illusion.
And, to be very clear, DO NOT confess. Confession is all about clearing your own conscience and has nothing positive for your wife. Perhaps she has strong suspicions already. But she wants "plausible deniability". She does not want certainty that you have cheated on her. That will not end well.
Thanks for your insight AZ here interesting reading,out of interest have you,you know?I've been through that marriage dip. Kids, work, house, stress - all gets in the way of a healthy relationship with the wife (I'm talking both party's interest in the other partner).
If you don't talk about it, it will be terminal for the marriage. It is not an easy conversation but it needs to be had. What you want from the marriage. What she wants from the marriage.
Escorts are not the answer to sorting that out. Conversation might do that. It could save your marriage and mean that your kids grow up in a stable home. Your marriage might not be salvageable but you owe it to your wife and kids to give it a try. Escorts just sort out your sex drive and I'm sure are quite addictive - it is in their interests to make you feel loved/respected/sexy to get you to come back and give them another £500. It is an illusion - but I'm sure it is a pretty realistic illusion.
And, to be very clear, DO NOT confess. Confession is all about clearing your own conscience and has nothing positive for your wife. Perhaps she has strong suspicions already. But she wants "plausible deniability". She does not want certainty that you have cheated on her. That will not end well.
LocoCoco said:
They are quite obviously not the same thing. Especially from the escort/prostitute's point of view.
How on earth would you know that? There are a whole host of reasons why women end up on the game, I would have thought that very few of those reasons are positive. Drug abuse, past or present physical and emotional abuse, lack of self respect or maybe they get off on screwing strangers and getting paid for it. I doubt very few fall into the latter category. Either way this is a married man with children playing it away with hookers...this is only going to end very very badly for the OP.AyBee said:
I have no issues with you using strippers, but you're essentially playing God with your wife's future with regard to if/when you bother to tell her the marriage is over. Does she not deserve better?
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AndyTR said:
LocoCoco said:
They are quite obviously not the same thing. Especially from the escort/prostitute's point of view.
How on earth would you know that? There are a whole host of reasons why women end up on the game, I would have thought that very few of those reasons are positive. Drug abuse, past or present physical and emotional abuse, lack of self respect or maybe they get off on screwing strangers and getting paid for it. I doubt very few fall into the latter category. Either way this is a married man with children playing it away with hookers...this is only going to end very very badly for the OP.Here's some differences for you to prove my point:
Brothel - Owners take a cut of the money
Escort - Escort keeps all the money
Brothel - Is illegal
Escort - Is legal
Brothel - Girls wait together in Brothel for work
Escort - Girls advertise/find work themselves
So how on earth can you claim that brothels and escorts are exactly the same?
As for your wife+kids point I agree 100%.
Boring_Chris said:
I can comprehend it just fine. But you seem disproportionately angry over some stuff you read on 'The Internet'.
Something on your mind?
If we are going to play retarded, as you clearly are, then obviously you condone this sort of behaviour. Something on your mind?
Some dick coming on to the internet to talk about shagging hookers while married is one of the following:
• A child on summer holiday.
• A massive bulls
tter.• A retard for putting it on an open forum.
• Or, as I may have mentioned before, a f
king weasel.But as you alluded to, yes, i must have been done over by hundreds of women before, hence the reason for my anger.
Back in the real world, i am happily married and have been for long enough, the reason for this, oh yes, i'm not a
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