Remember the 'escorts' thread? Confession time.
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We used to live next to an older couple who's two sons had both moved out, got divorced and moved back in. One of them took it badly and spent the whole time in his room playing X-Box whilst the other decided to take a new approach to women on the basis that his wife had cost him lots of money so he could see a hooker regularly, save money and have some variety.
This is in Western Australia where prostitution is legal, but much of it apparently a front for other less legal deals.
He claimed to spend about $500 a month for which he'd see a hooker for an hour every couple of weeks.
Seemed like a reasonable argument to me, although I'd still be a little concerned about the number of other blokes she'd been with. Whilst experience is a good thing in a way I think 100+ blokes is excessive and you'd have to wonder if any "enjoyment" she was getting was real or not.
I dont think he's still doing it as he appears to have a steady relationship going again (so it seems on Facebook). I think he did it for a year or so until he got it out of his system.
This is in Western Australia where prostitution is legal, but much of it apparently a front for other less legal deals.
He claimed to spend about $500 a month for which he'd see a hooker for an hour every couple of weeks.
Seemed like a reasonable argument to me, although I'd still be a little concerned about the number of other blokes she'd been with. Whilst experience is a good thing in a way I think 100+ blokes is excessive and you'd have to wonder if any "enjoyment" she was getting was real or not.
I dont think he's still doing it as he appears to have a steady relationship going again (so it seems on Facebook). I think he did it for a year or so until he got it out of his system.
I wasn't expecting such outrage on here compared to some threads i have read.To answer some of the points made,i am for real, i am not some kiddy mug playing games and it is my car,although i think i feel a change is coming, you know the mpg is becoming tiresome all of a sudden.I use escorts for the sex and if i'm honest a little bit of companionship also,it is like anything else you get to know someone and talk about things you have in common,the difference is you get to act your fantasies out with this individual.
My wife and children(older)have a very nice life and want for nothing,i spend a lot of time with them, rather than down the pub or gym and are generally a very good father i believe.We have grown a little distant over time but raising children can do that to a marriage,however we are still intimate although not like we used to be.I think i will come clean eventually and will except the outcome in due course.
My wife and children(older)have a very nice life and want for nothing,i spend a lot of time with them, rather than down the pub or gym and are generally a very good father i believe.We have grown a little distant over time but raising children can do that to a marriage,however we are still intimate although not like we used to be.I think i will come clean eventually and will except the outcome in due course.
Phil Dicky said:
DSGbangs said:
Phil Dicky said:
rsbmw said:
can't remember said:
limpsfield said:
Phil Dicky said:
Taita said:
rsbmw said:
- just for future reference
Good bloke...... 
(Whether it's his car or not other posters)
Superflow said:
My wife and children(older)have a very nice life and want for nothing,i spend a lot of time with them, rather than down the pub or gym and are generally a very good father i believe.We have grown a little distant over time but raising children can do that to a marriage,however we are still intimate although not like we used to be.I think i will come clean eventually and will except the outcome in due course.
Did you try Relate or other marriage counselling first, or just jump straight to the hookers? LaurasOtherHalf said:
Well they're hardly going to tell you they're getting knocked in by a dozen creeps a day whilst feeding their drug habit are they?
Honestly,you couldn't be more wrong.It is not a brothel,some of them only have 1/2 outings per week,why? because if you spend 5/6 hours at the local coke heads mansion at £150 an hour you don't need to work every day- a lot don't have sex with them they just want to 'party' with them to quote.
Vaud said:
Did you try Relate or other marriage counselling first, or just jump straight to the hookers?
I didn't ,at the time my father had just died and i had to take over running a business, in truth with all the stress i went a little nuts but have never knocked it on the head as i should have.Superflow said:
Vaud said:
Did you try Relate or other marriage counselling first, or just jump straight to the hookers?
I didn't ,at the time my father had just died and i had to take over running a business, in truth with all the stress i went a little nuts but have never knocked it on the head as i should have.Then you can at least can be honest with yourself (and maybe eventually your wife)... and I don't mean that as a dig at you. Stress and grief can drive all sorts of behaviours.
OP, are you sure you are dumb enough to want to leave this post up? Between the sad b
ds who like causing problems & the Mumsnet brigade it's quite possible someone will out you to your wife just for kicks.
Maybe you are thinking about ending your marriage but at least do it in a controlled way at a time of your choosing & don't end up finding your clothes in bin bags on the drive when you get home. If you think life is bad now, it's nothing compared to how it will be if that happens.
ds who like causing problems & the Mumsnet brigade it's quite possible someone will out you to your wife just for kicks.Maybe you are thinking about ending your marriage but at least do it in a controlled way at a time of your choosing & don't end up finding your clothes in bin bags on the drive when you get home. If you think life is bad now, it's nothing compared to how it will be if that happens.
Superflow said:
I think i will come clean eventually and will except the outcome in due course.
This is a secret you most definitely need to keep, from your wife at least.
My view is that what started as 'a bit of fun / let's see what this is about' has become an addiction which is in danger of getting out of control.
If I were you, I'd be talking all of this through with a psychologist who specialises in issues with sex and sexuality. Search the British Psychological Society directory for one near you.
http://www.bps.org.uk/bpslegacy/dcp
boxst said:
I would agree apart from the fact that he says '3-4 hours at at time'. If the original post isn't complete rubbish, that is a very long time and his 'normal' relationship is even more doomed as that means he wants companionship rather than just sex.
three quarters of an hour, that's about a years worth for me 
Mobile Chicane said:
Don't do that, whatever you do.
This is a secret you most definitely need to keep, from your wife at least.
My thoughts to an extent. What she doesn't know, can't hurt/torture her...sometimes telling people can do more harm than good.This is a secret you most definitely need to keep, from your wife at least.
At the same time though, if not telling her, you need to actively do something to solve the situation
Vaud said:
So why not take a pause now from them now, try marriage counselling and maybe some personal counselling as well?
Then you can at least can be honest with yourself (and maybe eventually your wife)... and I don't mean that as a dig at you. Stress and grief can drive all sorts of behaviours.
I think there is some truth in what you say no doubt.I don't think i'm cut out for counselling though. Then you can at least can be honest with yourself (and maybe eventually your wife)... and I don't mean that as a dig at you. Stress and grief can drive all sorts of behaviours.
Mobile chicane - thanks for the link.
Superflow said:
I think there is some truth in what you say no doubt.I don't think i'm cut out for counselling though.
Take this as a direct "man up" observation.You have enough courage to cheat on your wife - but not enough courage to try a couple of sessions of counselling? What are you afraid of?
You've been through a very high stress experience - death of a parent, taking on a business, your family depending on you, etc. That is bound to take it's toll. Our brains are very complex things.
A counsellor can be like a physio for the brain. If you tore something in your knee, you would see a physio? Or just battle on and do more damage?
I'm not seeking to help you justify your actions, but you are closing down options that might, if nothing else, make your break up with your wife easier.
What do you have to lose?
I have a friend who's dealing with the fallout from her husband's revellation 18 months ago (not an affair tho'). After 28 years of marriage and 2 kids, she was in pieces for about a year. They're getting through it now but I suspect if asked, she'd say she'd rather he'd never told her.
I've always thought honesty was the best policy but I can't help thinking that, in this case, the OP would do well to sort himself out with counselling and try and get his marriage to a happier place. Telling his wife now would surely be catastrophic for all concerned.
I've always thought honesty was the best policy but I can't help thinking that, in this case, the OP would do well to sort himself out with counselling and try and get his marriage to a happier place. Telling his wife now would surely be catastrophic for all concerned.
I used to manage the bar at a strip club and most of the strippers were either in well paying jobs or students. They didn't need the money for a normal lifestyle, they enjoyed the attention and the extra few hundred to a couple of grand a week helped them live extravagant lifestyles.
A few of them also worked as escorts. I did ask if it felt strange to have 'soulless sex' with multiple men but generally they just enjoyed random sex and the element of risk,getting paid was a bonus
what surprised me was that a lot of the men wouldn't want sex but would give them expensive gifts and take them to top hotels/restaurants both in the UK and abroad. One ended up beaten quite badly when her customer found out she wasn't a poor Latvian girl (worked as a bank nurse) but generally they were well treated.
In a way I can't blame them for making money early in life. Even the 'lower standard' women were earning in a week what I'd get in a month, and that didn't include all the freebies they were given and the trips to exotic locations.
A few of them also worked as escorts. I did ask if it felt strange to have 'soulless sex' with multiple men but generally they just enjoyed random sex and the element of risk,getting paid was a bonus
what surprised me was that a lot of the men wouldn't want sex but would give them expensive gifts and take them to top hotels/restaurants both in the UK and abroad. One ended up beaten quite badly when her customer found out she wasn't a poor Latvian girl (worked as a bank nurse) but generally they were well treated. In a way I can't blame them for making money early in life. Even the 'lower standard' women were earning in a week what I'd get in a month, and that didn't include all the freebies they were given and the trips to exotic locations.
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