Life's Too Short......
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Life is to short. I am thinking about having 6/12 months off work (i am contracting at the minute so no problems there) and seeing some of the world.
It sounds daft but i have no idea of where to go, what to do. I don't want to waste the time and just end up mopsing around not really knowing what/ where to go.
It sounds daft but i have no idea of where to go, what to do. I don't want to waste the time and just end up mopsing around not really knowing what/ where to go.
keo said:
Life is to short. I am thinking about having 6/12 months off work (i am contracting at the minute so no problems there) and seeing some of the world.
It sounds daft but i have no idea of where to go, what to do. I don't want to waste the time and just end up mopsing around not really knowing what/ where to go.
Book a one way flight to the furthest destination away from your home that you can. And try and get home whilst visiting the most countries possible without flying? You'll see some amazing landscapes i'd wager...It sounds daft but i have no idea of where to go, what to do. I don't want to waste the time and just end up mopsing around not really knowing what/ where to go.
I always tell people 'You only get one life, this isn't a dress rehearsal'.
There's just so many people who are forever thinking that they can only get around to pursuing their dreams when they reach retirement age. They don't seem to even think about what else could be achieved, far sooner. There really is little point in planning to do something when you reach 60/65/67 or whatever if you die at 58.
Well end of the first week back on the hamster wheel.
The guys I'm working with are great and the atmosphere is also very friendly.
Time will tell how it pans out but I'm giving it my best shot but with a steep learning curve at no as lots has changed and these guys are very technical .
The city doesn't get anymore enjoyable as a place to travel to each day though.
Arriving at the station is like walking with the killer zombies and London is even more packed than I remembered it.
If the job works out and becomes second nature I can stomach it for the foreseeable but I've still a target age in mind to get out unless of course they call time first . I think in this day and age you have to be very pragmatic about it all.
And remembering life is too short what will be will be.
Bloody glad it's the weekend !
The guys I'm working with are great and the atmosphere is also very friendly.
Time will tell how it pans out but I'm giving it my best shot but with a steep learning curve at no as lots has changed and these guys are very technical .
The city doesn't get anymore enjoyable as a place to travel to each day though.
Arriving at the station is like walking with the killer zombies and London is even more packed than I remembered it.
If the job works out and becomes second nature I can stomach it for the foreseeable but I've still a target age in mind to get out unless of course they call time first . I think in this day and age you have to be very pragmatic about it all.
And remembering life is too short what will be will be.
Bloody glad it's the weekend !
Well nearly 4 months in and it’s gotten monotonous already . Proving very difficult as the business has become so electronic and lack of personal interaction means relationships can count for very little .
The guys there are nice except the boss who’s shirking his responsibilities. When it’s good he’s full of praise but when it’s s
t he gets all angry and has no idea what to do about it other than point the finger and make some frankly laughable suggestions .
Without doubt I’m thinking it was a mistake to return to the business so I’m going to see how it goes for the next month and take it from there .
I’m now at an age where the worry and stress isn’t worth it but I have a family to support .
Have told the wife to prepare for my departure and then I’ll take some time out and regroup .
It’s a miserable boring business now with little reward and I’m not paid enough to get unwell over it.
Can see a showdown with me and the boss within the next month as I’m not going to tolorate his burst of aggression .
Watch this space and life is definitely too short!
The guys there are nice except the boss who’s shirking his responsibilities. When it’s good he’s full of praise but when it’s s
t he gets all angry and has no idea what to do about it other than point the finger and make some frankly laughable suggestions . Without doubt I’m thinking it was a mistake to return to the business so I’m going to see how it goes for the next month and take it from there .
I’m now at an age where the worry and stress isn’t worth it but I have a family to support .
Have told the wife to prepare for my departure and then I’ll take some time out and regroup .
It’s a miserable boring business now with little reward and I’m not paid enough to get unwell over it.
Can see a showdown with me and the boss within the next month as I’m not going to tolorate his burst of aggression .
Watch this space and life is definitely too short!
FocusRS3 said:
Well nearly 4 months in and it’s gotten monotonous already . Proving very difficult as the business has become so electronic and lack of personal interaction means relationships can count for very little .
The guys there are nice except the boss who’s shirking his responsibilities. When it’s good he’s full of praise but when it’s st he gets all angry and has no idea what to do about it other than point the finger and make some frankly laughable suggestions .
Without doubt I’m thinking it was a mistake to return to the business so I’m going to see how it goes for the next month and take it from there .
I’m now at an age where the worry and stress isn’t worth it but I have a family to support .
Have told the wife to prepare for my departure and then I’ll take some time out and regroup .
It’s a miserable boring business now with little reward and I’m not paid enough to get unwell over it.
Can see a showdown with me and the boss within the next month as I’m not going to tolorate his burst of aggression .
Watch this space and life is definitely too short!
Life is too short my man, not to enjoy work. I am out of my current place next week and it feels like the burden on my shoulders is being lifted. I can see the light and a few more days of minding my own and i will be able to take a few weeks to recharge the batteries.The guys there are nice except the boss who’s shirking his responsibilities. When it’s good he’s full of praise but when it’s s
t he gets all angry and has no idea what to do about it other than point the finger and make some frankly laughable suggestions . Without doubt I’m thinking it was a mistake to return to the business so I’m going to see how it goes for the next month and take it from there .
I’m now at an age where the worry and stress isn’t worth it but I have a family to support .
Have told the wife to prepare for my departure and then I’ll take some time out and regroup .
It’s a miserable boring business now with little reward and I’m not paid enough to get unwell over it.
Can see a showdown with me and the boss within the next month as I’m not going to tolorate his burst of aggression .
Watch this space and life is definitely too short!
Life IS to short, but I'm buggered if I can work out how to chuck it all in and live a life of fulfillment, finding myself, whilst surrounded by adoring nymphets.
Anyone want to do my job for me for the fun of it and give me the cash they get ?
Apologies for that, I'm a bit sore after surgery, partly bought on by playing with old cars.
It's a nice sentiment and one I subscribe to but unless you are lucky/single/dependent free it is a bit difficult to achieve.
Having said that, I do keep getting emails from adoring nymphets who I have never met promising to love me long time......
Anyone want to do my job for me for the fun of it and give me the cash they get ?
Apologies for that, I'm a bit sore after surgery, partly bought on by playing with old cars.
It's a nice sentiment and one I subscribe to but unless you are lucky/single/dependent free it is a bit difficult to achieve.
Having said that, I do keep getting emails from adoring nymphets who I have never met promising to love me long time......
AndStilliRise said:
Life is too short my man, not to enjoy work. I am out of my current place next week and it feels like the burden on my shoulders is being lifted. I can see the light and a few more days of minding my own and i will be able to take a few weeks to recharge the batteries.
Tks mate . I’d like to know what you do as after this there is nowhere to turn in my industry . As previously mentioned we are trying to change lots of things in our life to allow for the enevitable .
No point looking back but I’d have stuck well out of the city if I knew how it was going to go . That said I’ve not had a bad run for a good number of years but I can’t say I’ve ever really had job satisfaction which is pretty sad .
I’m thinking ( hoping) by the end of the year many adjustments will have been made and I’ll very much take my time looking for a little retirement style part Time job that I actually enjoy
Tempest_5 said:
Life IS to short, but I'm buggered if I can work out how to chuck it all in and live a life of fulfillment, finding myself, whilst surrounded by adoring nymphets.
Anyone want to do my job for me for the fun of it and give me the cash they get ?
Apologies for that, I'm a bit sore after surgery, partly bought on by playing with old cars.
It's a nice sentiment and one I subscribe to but unless you are lucky/single/dependent free it is a bit difficult to achieve.
Having said that, I do keep getting emails from adoring nymphets who I have never met promising to love me long time......
Out of interest tempest what do you do for work ? Anyone want to do my job for me for the fun of it and give me the cash they get ?
Apologies for that, I'm a bit sore after surgery, partly bought on by playing with old cars.
It's a nice sentiment and one I subscribe to but unless you are lucky/single/dependent free it is a bit difficult to achieve.
Having said that, I do keep getting emails from adoring nymphets who I have never met promising to love me long time......
I’m thinkimh of looking into something that I’d consider a worth while job. Forgetting the money just something that I think actually makes a difference .
Been stuck inside an office for many years and I enjoy driving and meeting people .
Being a delivery driver for the nhs delivering blood and organs to critical patients I’d find rewarding but outside of London .
It’s not silly long hours, it’s likely to be an easy job to get and varied .
Dunno really , just an idea at this stage
A few years ago when my wife died of cancer at the age of 39 the phrase "life's too short" became a phrase with real substance. It had been too short for her, but given that the cancer had come on top of a life of increasingly debilitating and painful disability, perhaps it was about the right time.
For me, once the grief had gone, the relief at no longer being in that situation remained, and brought with it the clarity to recognise just what a stressful few years it had been. I had been working my arse off from 9-5 so that I could earn more money and support both of us after she had had to stop working. I'd done well in my career despite a few setbacks and had found myself in a well-paid position of responsibility in a large consulting organisation. I threw myself into work to escape the reality of life at home, but I'd leave on the dot of 5:30 to go home, where another full-time job of caring for my wife would then continue.
The problem for me was that once she died I no longer had any of this pressure. I went back to work not really wanting to be there, losing patience completely with the sheer amount of bullst that got in the way of actually doing a decent job, the HR processes, the insane client behaviour, the rank incompetence of some those I worked with and worked for. My own lack of progress climbing the greasy pole there, despite the excellent job I had been doing also annoyed me. Coupled to that my home and social life became something to be savoured, not to be dreaded.
I also started going out with someone new, and married her this year. With her I embarked on a life of new adventures, going on all the holidays I had never been able to go on before, doing things I never thought I would ever do, buying a house in a lovely part of London, buying my Aston Martin and touring round Europe, acting in a 5 star sell-out show in the West End(!) and making up for lost time.
"Life's too short" now has real meaning for me too. I still have the same job but I managed to get off the account I had been on and onto another in a different part of the business, which for the moment makes me happy. I don't care about the company. I've also reconciled myself with the fact that I will never have a career there. The company doesn't care about me or any other employee so I don't care about it. I don't actually need or want to climb the corporate ladder any more, as now there is a second income in the household once again I have reached the level that I want to remain at and it pays me enough to enjoy my lifestyle with no financial worries (and there are thankfully no kids to hoover up all the time and money). I now I treat work purely as a way of paying for the nice things in life. I still go home at 5:30 every day but now it is something I look forward to.
Life is too short to spend it all working, but that doesn't mean you have to jack it all in and buy a house in France. Just make sure you make time and effort to enjoy the fruits of your labour. Oh, and never have children :-D
Ironically I am actually considering buying a share of a house in France...
For me, once the grief had gone, the relief at no longer being in that situation remained, and brought with it the clarity to recognise just what a stressful few years it had been. I had been working my arse off from 9-5 so that I could earn more money and support both of us after she had had to stop working. I'd done well in my career despite a few setbacks and had found myself in a well-paid position of responsibility in a large consulting organisation. I threw myself into work to escape the reality of life at home, but I'd leave on the dot of 5:30 to go home, where another full-time job of caring for my wife would then continue.
The problem for me was that once she died I no longer had any of this pressure. I went back to work not really wanting to be there, losing patience completely with the sheer amount of bulls
t that got in the way of actually doing a decent job, the HR processes, the insane client behaviour, the rank incompetence of some those I worked with and worked for. My own lack of progress climbing the greasy pole there, despite the excellent job I had been doing also annoyed me. Coupled to that my home and social life became something to be savoured, not to be dreaded. I also started going out with someone new, and married her this year. With her I embarked on a life of new adventures, going on all the holidays I had never been able to go on before, doing things I never thought I would ever do, buying a house in a lovely part of London, buying my Aston Martin and touring round Europe, acting in a 5 star sell-out show in the West End(!) and making up for lost time.
"Life's too short" now has real meaning for me too. I still have the same job but I managed to get off the account I had been on and onto another in a different part of the business, which for the moment makes me happy. I don't care about the company. I've also reconciled myself with the fact that I will never have a career there. The company doesn't care about me or any other employee so I don't care about it. I don't actually need or want to climb the corporate ladder any more, as now there is a second income in the household once again I have reached the level that I want to remain at and it pays me enough to enjoy my lifestyle with no financial worries (and there are thankfully no kids to hoover up all the time and money). I now I treat work purely as a way of paying for the nice things in life. I still go home at 5:30 every day but now it is something I look forward to.
Life is too short to spend it all working, but that doesn't mean you have to jack it all in and buy a house in France. Just make sure you make time and effort to enjoy the fruits of your labour. Oh, and never have children :-D
Ironically I am actually considering buying a share of a house in France...
uuf361 said:
It is rather, and when things happen does make you re-evaluate - extended family for me but we've had our fill in the last 6 weeks:
Cousin passed (aged 45) - something heart related
Great Aunty No Marbles (as she was affectionately known) - passed aged 73, but had dementia for the last 6 years and decided to stop eating.....
Aunt (early 60's and hugely active) was on holiday on an excursion, tripped and hit head on a rock - now paralysed from the neck down with a not very positive prognosis.
I'd planned to retire and downsize at 55, but think that will be as early as I can as you simply don't know what's around the corner....
Timely this thread being resurrected.....2017 finished on 4 deaths in my extended family. I’m in Canada now sorting out my Grandmothers affairs and visiting the paralysed Aunt, who has made no progress since her accident.Cousin passed (aged 45) - something heart related
Great Aunty No Marbles (as she was affectionately known) - passed aged 73, but had dementia for the last 6 years and decided to stop eating.....
Aunt (early 60's and hugely active) was on holiday on an excursion, tripped and hit head on a rock - now paralysed from the neck down with a not very positive prognosis.
I'd planned to retire and downsize at 55, but think that will be as early as I can as you simply don't know what's around the corner....
Now looking at finishing work anytime from 50.....
AndStilliRise said:
Joining in boys.
One of my life's mantras is that life is too short. Waved my son goodbye to school this morning and repeated it to him.
My old man told me this when I was young. It meant nothing at the time. At 14/15 I had all the time in the world.One of my life's mantras is that life is too short. Waved my son goodbye to school this morning and repeated it to him.
My Dad died at 73 when I was 24, after battling lung cancer he got from cutting asbestos pipes. Worked every day since coming to the UK from Ireland at 17, gave up work because of his health made worst by his occupation (on the buildings).
Now life is far too short to be doing stuff you're unhappy doing. And never forget that youth is wasted on the young, so make of today what you can.
sgtBerbatov said:
My old man told me this when I was young. It meant nothing at the time. At 14/15 I had all the time in the world.
My Dad died at 73 when I was 24, after battling lung cancer he got from cutting asbestos pipes. Worked every day since coming to the UK from Ireland at 17, gave up work because of his health made worst by his occupation (on the buildings).
Now life is far too short to be doing stuff you're unhappy doing. And never forget that youth is wasted on the young, so make of today what you can.
Do agree with this . It suddenly becomes very real on the approach to 50 that 73 is no real distance off. As you say at 15 I had all the time in the world but hey , where did that suddenly vanish to ! My Dad died at 73 when I was 24, after battling lung cancer he got from cutting asbestos pipes. Worked every day since coming to the UK from Ireland at 17, gave up work because of his health made worst by his occupation (on the buildings).
Now life is far too short to be doing stuff you're unhappy doing. And never forget that youth is wasted on the young, so make of today what you can.
I never want to retire for health reasons . I want to retire to enjoy the rest of my life
FocusRS3 said:
sgtBerbatov said:
My old man told me this when I was young. It meant nothing at the time. At 14/15 I had all the time in the world.
My Dad died at 73 when I was 24, after battling lung cancer he got from cutting asbestos pipes. Worked every day since coming to the UK from Ireland at 17, gave up work because of his health made worst by his occupation (on the buildings).
Now life is far too short to be doing stuff you're unhappy doing. And never forget that youth is wasted on the young, so make of today what you can.
Do agree with this . It suddenly becomes very real on the approach to 50 that 73 is no real distance off. As you say at 15 I had all the time in the world but hey , where did that suddenly vanish to ! My Dad died at 73 when I was 24, after battling lung cancer he got from cutting asbestos pipes. Worked every day since coming to the UK from Ireland at 17, gave up work because of his health made worst by his occupation (on the buildings).
Now life is far too short to be doing stuff you're unhappy doing. And never forget that youth is wasted on the young, so make of today what you can.
I never want to retire for health reasons . I want to retire to enjoy the rest of my life
Obviously if you have the money to retire and do lots of things then that's great, but I'm pessimistic in the view that I don't think when I get to 65/70 that I'll have the funds, health or otherwise to enjoy a retirement. I would rather go to work, even if it's 3 days a week, than sit at home and watch Trisha.
The wife has other ideas though. But I'm only 30, I could be ran over by a bus tomorrow or win the lottery Saturday.
JPJPJP said:
If, at the end of the 4 years you might sign your life away for, you will be financially set up forever, then a work centric life for those 4 years might make sense
If the financial reward is not so big that you will still need to work, then a less work centric life is definitely the order of the day imo
I'm in this boat. I have a plan of cutting back in a couple of years. I'm far too young and far too poor to even think of retiring early (or at all looking at the way things are going!) If the financial reward is not so big that you will still need to work, then a less work centric life is definitely the order of the day imo
But it would be good to spend the next 2-3 years cutting down on outgoings, getting some big expenditures out of the way, maybe a little side business/investment, etc so I'm in a position where I could easily earn less for a less stressful job, or alternatively retrain on something else.
sgtBerbatov said:
I'm the opposite. I never want to retire. I've seen what happens to men in their 60's/70's who are suddenly out of work/retired and have nothing to do. They end up going to the pub a little earlier in the evening, then they come in for one in the morning and go out for the day and come back in the evening, until they spend their whole day in the pub. It's a sad end to a life really.
Obviously if you have the money to retire and do lots of things then that's great, but I'm pessimistic in the view that I don't think when I get to 65/70 that I'll have the funds, health or otherwise to enjoy a retirement. I would rather go to work, even if it's 3 days a week, than sit at home and watch Trisha.
The wife has other ideas though. But I'm only 30, I could be ran over by a bus tomorrow or win the lottery Saturday.
I'm glad I'm not the only one I cant think of anything worse than retirement. I certainly have an exit strategy from my current business which is brilliant but quite stressful so a bit of ad hoc or seasonal only working is on the cards but I would never say right thats it on Friday I'm not working any more. I would be the guy stood outside the pub at 3.55 every afternoon : DObviously if you have the money to retire and do lots of things then that's great, but I'm pessimistic in the view that I don't think when I get to 65/70 that I'll have the funds, health or otherwise to enjoy a retirement. I would rather go to work, even if it's 3 days a week, than sit at home and watch Trisha.
The wife has other ideas though. But I'm only 30, I could be ran over by a bus tomorrow or win the lottery Saturday.
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