Travelling vs long term relationship
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Don't travel to find something or yourself, it's my opinion you'll fail, if you want to travel to consume what's out there, fair enough that's great fun for some and there's nothing wrong with that, but the idea that spending a year blowing through £10k on the tourist track through Asia or south America is going to somehow going to be a spiritual experience or enrich your soul is frankly odd.
Don't travel to find something or yourself, it's my opinion you'll fail, if you want to travel to consume what's out there, fair enough that's great fun for some and there's nothing wrong with that, but the idea that spending a year blowing through £10k on the tourist track through Asia or south America is going to somehow going to be a spiritual experience or enrich your soul is frankly odd.
According to some recent statistics, there's around 7.5billion people on this planet with roughly 50% female. Excluding the ugly, fatty, social justice warrior beeatches, cling-ons, headcases, there's still a lot of nice ladies out there in the world for you to meet and bang.
Don't let your ex hold you back.
Get. Yourself. On. The. Plane. Pronto.
Your 75 year old self will thank you for it.
If you have over £10k in savings. Spend it wisely and it may aswell be on yourself. If you get back to your ex, she'll find ways to help you burn through that and call it a day anyway.
Don't let your ex hold you back.
Get. Yourself. On. The. Plane. Pronto.
Your 75 year old self will thank you for it.
If you have over £10k in savings. Spend it wisely and it may aswell be on yourself. If you get back to your ex, she'll find ways to help you burn through that and call it a day anyway.
FredClogs said:
Don't travel to find something or yourself, it's my opinion you'll fail, if you want to travel to consume what's out there, fair enough that's great fun for some and there's nothing wrong with that, but the idea that spending a year blowing through £10k on the tourist track through Asia or south America is going to somehow going to be a spiritual experience or enrich your soul is frankly odd.
Frankly odd to you. What with the experience of 2 weeks driving to Moscow and back in an old estate. I think exploring the world with £10k in your pocket and getting around Asia and/or S America would be hugely enlightening and enriching, especially as the OP sounds relatively young.
As you said earlier, your sister did it for a long while. Did she not find it an enriching experience that broadened her mind and soul substantially? I would find it very odd to not find that it had. Regardless of that, I refuse to believe you are more likely to enrich your soul or experience unique things in staying put in one's home town, getting a job, settling down and living in a 3 bed semi with a well-groomed hedge. You can always come back to that but I fail to see it as a viable alternative to expanding one's mind and enriching life.
Go
If you and her are meant to be then she'll jump on a plane at somepoint and meet you
^^ this is the fantasy
The reality is you will go, meet such a variety of people (men and woman) that missing her will be a dim and distant memory and you'll have a life experience you'll never forget
If you and her are meant to be then she'll jump on a plane at somepoint and meet you
^^ this is the fantasy
The reality is you will go, meet such a variety of people (men and woman) that missing her will be a dim and distant memory and you'll have a life experience you'll never forget
amare32 said:
According to some recent statistics, there's around 7.5billion people on this planet with roughly 50% female. Excluding the ugly, fatty, social justice warrior beeatches, cling-ons, headcases, there's still a lot of nice ladies out there in the world for you to meet and bang.
Not quite sure why PH all view it as a marathon shagfest? No doubt there will also be many opportunities for many ladies of many cultures, but I am sure there is a shed load more experiences that benefit a nomadic traveler than just dipping their bits around the globe.
Shnozz said:
FredClogs said:
Don't travel to find something or yourself, it's my opinion you'll fail, if you want to travel to consume what's out there, fair enough that's great fun for some and there's nothing wrong with that, but the idea that spending a year blowing through £10k on the tourist track through Asia or south America is going to somehow going to be a spiritual experience or enrich your soul is frankly odd.
Frankly odd to you. What with the experience of 2 weeks driving to Moscow and back in an old estate. I think exploring the world with £10k in your pocket and getting around Asia and/or S America would be hugely enlightening and enriching, especially as the OP sounds relatively young.
As you said earlier, your sister did it for a long while. Did she not find it an enriching experience that broadened her mind and soul substantially? I would find it very odd to not find that it had. Regardless of that, I refuse to believe you are more likely to enrich your soul or experience unique things in staying put in one's home town, getting a job, settling down and living in a 3 bed semi with a well-groomed hedge. You can always come back to that but I fail to see it as a viable alternative to expanding one's mind and enriching life.
I had an experience at a border crossing in Kaliningrad that will stay with me forever, and not in a good way. The world out there is not there for your consumption, it's not a romance novel and the protagonist is not infallible. Like is says in the song, paradise is not a place you can go, its a state of mind, and ive been to some paradises and cant help but notice the people who live there don't seem too happy all the time. I don't like being a tourist, that's just me... Other people may differ.
My sister did it the hard way, she rubbed along with the broken hearted, the run aways, the gap year kids, the early retirees from all over the west and it was the making of her and she's got much better social skills, has many more friends and is much more adaptable as a middle aged adult than I am, happiness is another question.
All I'm saying is running away, going on holiday and dedicating a decent chunk of your best years to educating yourself about humanity and the planet are 3 separate things with their own pros and cons, i just don't think the op should get carried away with the romance of it.
Two great books for anyone to read before the travel... Jupiters Travels and Silk Dreams Troubled Road.
And also remember the world isn't as friendly a place as it was a generation ago.
My daughter is just back from 6 months travelling - best thing she ever did.
Flight to Bangkok, up to Chiang Mai and across into Laos, Vietnam, Cambodia and then wherever you want to go. Loads of hostels, loads of other like minded people travelling in goups or solo.
My wife and I have just organised 3 months sabbaticals at work and we're going next February, all of that plus Singapore, NZ and Aus. We should have done it 35 year ago, still, better late than never.
Book the flights and your first night, and get on with it.
Flight to Bangkok, up to Chiang Mai and across into Laos, Vietnam, Cambodia and then wherever you want to go. Loads of hostels, loads of other like minded people travelling in goups or solo.
My wife and I have just organised 3 months sabbaticals at work and we're going next February, all of that plus Singapore, NZ and Aus. We should have done it 35 year ago, still, better late than never.
Book the flights and your first night, and get on with it.
110% Go!
I gave up a job and a girlfriend when I was 27 to travel for 6 months. It is by far the best thing I have ever done in my life.
One piece of very good advice given to me by a friend who had already travelled was that if you like a place stay longer and if you don't like somewhere then leave earlier. I'm still following that advice now and I'm going to leave my current job and travel for a couple of months next year.
You only regret the things you don't do.
I gave up a job and a girlfriend when I was 27 to travel for 6 months. It is by far the best thing I have ever done in my life.
One piece of very good advice given to me by a friend who had already travelled was that if you like a place stay longer and if you don't like somewhere then leave earlier. I'm still following that advice now and I'm going to leave my current job and travel for a couple of months next year.
You only regret the things you don't do.
Shnozz said:
Not quite sure why PH all view it as a marathon shagfest?
Are you new to Pistonheads? 
It's all about bangin da burdz mate, preferably up the bumhole (for some reason that I've never been able to fathom).
Blokes on here are 'smashing the back doors in' of 20 to 30 burdz a week, despite all looking like this.
Konrod said:
My daughter is just back from 6 months travelling - best thing she ever did.
Flight to Bangkok, up to Chiang Mai and across into Laos, Vietnam, Cambodia and then wherever you want to go. Loads of hostels, loads of other like minded people travelling in goups or solo.
My wife and I have just organised 3 months sabbaticals at work and we're going next February, all of that plus Singapore, NZ and Aus. We should have done it 35 year ago, still, better late than never.
Book the flights and your first night, and get on with it.
My son did this 2 years ago, started in Dubai,on to Abu Dhabi for the GP Flight to Bangkok, up to Chiang Mai and across into Laos, Vietnam, Cambodia and then wherever you want to go. Loads of hostels, loads of other like minded people travelling in goups or solo.
My wife and I have just organised 3 months sabbaticals at work and we're going next February, all of that plus Singapore, NZ and Aus. We should have done it 35 year ago, still, better late than never.
Book the flights and your first night, and get on with it.
Then Thailand, Chang Mai, Burma, Laos, Vietnam, Cambodia then all up the Gold coast in OZ.
Did it all on his own, he was determined to make friends as he went, stayed in some hostels, stayed with locals in Vietnam, and dotted in the odd 5 star hotel now and again.
He was 24 at the time, he was s
tting himself the night he flew, but he loved it, he made friends the first night, as there is a huge single traveler scene especially in Thailand.He has been back to Thailand, after telling his friends of his adventures, a few asked if he would ''take them by the hand'' and sort out a three week mini journey for them, as they didn't have the balls to do it on their own...
Ari said:
Shnozz said:
Not quite sure why PH all view it as a marathon shagfest?
Are you new to Pistonheads? It's all about bangin da burdz mate, preferably up the bumhole (for some reason that I've never been able to fathom).
Blokes on here are 'smashing the back doors in' of 20 to 30 burdz a week, despite all looking like this.
High propensity of balding overweight chaps in themed T-shirts and Puma Speedcats devoid of being able to chat outside of the internet.
Can imagine what women slayers most of them would make.
Shnozz said:
...balding overweight chaps in themed T-shirts and Puma Speedcats devoid of being able to chat outside of the internet.
No hair, check.Tummy, minor check.
Proud of my "Dab of oppo" t-shirt, check.
Puma Speedcats, check.
Devoid of being able to chat outside the internet, not quite.
I give myself a respectable 70%, or a First from the University of PH.
Also, OP - don't waste time reading the thread - TLDRT. For the third time... go.
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