Married but separate beds/rooms?
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cat with a hat said:
In Nordic countries like Finland and Iceland I've noticed that quite a few hotels and apartments have either a double bed with 2 single covers or 2 single beds pushed together.
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We thought it was a bit odd at first, but actually quite liked it. We slept better and could roll over to the other side at any time.
You might find its the best of both worlds!
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We thought it was a bit odd at first, but actually quite liked it. We slept better and could roll over to the other side at any time.
You might find its the best of both worlds!
Edited by cat with a hat on Tuesday 16th January 23:11
Sleeping apart was something that we’d never considered, certainly not me anyway, then, subsequent to a mild heart attack in my mid fifties, I was diagnosed with arrhythmia at an annual check-up.
This is an irregular heart beat, or pulse, not dangerous in itself, but my GP prescribed a blood thinner, to assist the blood flow.
This thinning of the blood, I ascribed to the fact that I began to notice the cold much more than I had in the past.
Coincidentally, the onset of menopause in my wife, caused her to feel intermittently hot, so I’d be in bed in winter, wrapped around her shivering, while she was pushing for the windows to be opened, and the CH turned off.
Eventually this culminated in her getting up as soon as she felt hot, and transferring to either the living room couch with a sleeping bag, or one of the spare bedrooms.
While this initially pissed me off, eventually I looked forward to wrapping the duvet around me and sleeping like the proverbial bug in a rug, and warm too.
This is an irregular heart beat, or pulse, not dangerous in itself, but my GP prescribed a blood thinner, to assist the blood flow.
This thinning of the blood, I ascribed to the fact that I began to notice the cold much more than I had in the past.
Coincidentally, the onset of menopause in my wife, caused her to feel intermittently hot, so I’d be in bed in winter, wrapped around her shivering, while she was pushing for the windows to be opened, and the CH turned off.
Eventually this culminated in her getting up as soon as she felt hot, and transferring to either the living room couch with a sleeping bag, or one of the spare bedrooms.
While this initially pissed me off, eventually I looked forward to wrapping the duvet around me and sleeping like the proverbial bug in a rug, and warm too.
HarryFlatters said:
cat with a hat said:
In Nordic countries like Finland and Iceland I've noticed that quite a few hotels and apartments have either a double bed with 2 single covers or 2 single beds pushed together.
I thought this was done simply so that rooms could be set up as doubles or twins?Hotels everywhere do it. You need a double room? Push 'em together. You need a twin room? Push 'em apart.
Ari said:
So what happens to your sex life? Is she supposed to lie there alone night after night until you honour her with your presence for 10 mins of thrusting on top of her before making off to your mancave, or do you just give up on it?
To me it sounds more like living with a mate or a lodger. I understand the compromises, but aren't those just the things that you make to be together?
Get a bigger bed maybe?
He married, so that's once a month plus birthdays as a treat. To me it sounds more like living with a mate or a lodger. I understand the compromises, but aren't those just the things that you make to be together?
Get a bigger bed maybe?
Edited by 98elise on Wednesday 17th January 08:42
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not so sure myself!TooMany2cvs said:
HarryFlatters said:
cat with a hat said:
In Nordic countries like Finland and Iceland I've noticed that quite a few hotels and apartments have either a double bed with 2 single covers or 2 single beds pushed together.
I thought this was done simply so that rooms could be set up as doubles or twins?Hotels everywhere do it. You need a double room? Push 'em together. You need a twin room? Push 'em apart.
ooo000ooo said:
As soon as we moved out of home my parents moved to separate rooms although they were in their 60s and my dad snored something awful.
I regularly sleep on the sofa if I'm starting work early or if she's tossing and turning.
Last week she went to bed early most nights, I put on some relaxing music and fell asleep on the sofa in front of the fire, very relaxing.
On the occasions that Mrs DS and I have done so it's great. I get my cat in a better position for cuddling, I get the temperature that I like, I don't have to try and fall asleep with music or the TV on which drives me spare.I regularly sleep on the sofa if I'm starting work early or if she's tossing and turning.
Last week she went to bed early most nights, I put on some relaxing music and fell asleep on the sofa in front of the fire, very relaxing.
But the kicker is her snoring - hers is the worst I have ever encountered. It's very loud - I mean REALLY loud - and irregular. I have had to wear earplugs at night now for about 15 years. It's not comfortable, and her snoring is so thunderous that they don't cut it out. I wake up a lot of mornings having had no sleep.
A super king bed frame is big enough to take two single sized mattresses. We do this so I can have a firmer mattress than what the Mrs likes, it also removes a big chunk of the disturbance when one of us moves in the night as the mattresses aren't directly connected. No reason you couldn't apply this approach to the duvet cover as well.
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