Married but separate beds/rooms?
Discussion
jimPH said:
I sleep with the wife, but our 2yo occupies the middle, so if/when I wake for the toilet, I'll go to our spare bedroom.
Problem is I work away for long periods, so the wife ends up with the kids in bed, though we've been putting our second in her cot religiously.
I don't think it will be too bad once we get the little one off to her own bed, she seems to take up quite a bit of room for someone so small.
Problem is I work away for long periods, so the wife ends up with the kids in bed, though we've been putting our second in her cot religiously.
I don't think it will be too bad once we get the little one off to her own bed, she seems to take up quite a bit of room for someone so small.
Ye gods man, you need to sort that out! 2 years old?
Unless there’s some medical need, she should be in her own bed.
I'm at light sleeper and it takes me a long time to nod off. She falls asleep within 30 seconds of getting in bed.
What I've found really useful is a pillow speaker; I put on a podcast or the radio - I fall asleep easier and when I do wake up I start listening again and drift of tp sleep again.
What I've found really useful is a pillow speaker; I put on a podcast or the radio - I fall asleep easier and when I do wake up I start listening again and drift of tp sleep again.
I sleep like a log usually (though can be a frequent night toilet trekker), once I’m out I’m out. We sleep together, naked. Sometimes spoon, sometimes she uses me as a pillow, but we always wake up with me sleeping on my right and her on her left. So it works quite nicely.
Whether she is there or not I can sleep.
Sometimes though I’ll wake up way too hot, literally doused in sweat. Like get out of bed and go fetch some towels, bad. Usuallly happens after very hard training sessions where I’ll spend the rest of the evening acting like a little thermal generator only a few degrees from going critical. Sometimes she’ll keep me awake because she likes to make eating noises (mouth open eating noises as well) and making sounds like she’s literally eating her own teeth. That is genuinely horrid and normally I give her a shove to wake her up.
In general though it’s me, her and the Cat and we have no problems.
Personally I think people should just do what works. Sleep is important and everyone is better off for having a good night, so if it means sleeping in separate beds or even separate rooms, you should do it.
Whether she is there or not I can sleep.
Sometimes though I’ll wake up way too hot, literally doused in sweat. Like get out of bed and go fetch some towels, bad. Usuallly happens after very hard training sessions where I’ll spend the rest of the evening acting like a little thermal generator only a few degrees from going critical. Sometimes she’ll keep me awake because she likes to make eating noises (mouth open eating noises as well) and making sounds like she’s literally eating her own teeth. That is genuinely horrid and normally I give her a shove to wake her up.
In general though it’s me, her and the Cat and we have no problems.
Personally I think people should just do what works. Sleep is important and everyone is better off for having a good night, so if it means sleeping in separate beds or even separate rooms, you should do it.
Wife and I went to separate single beds pushed together around 18 months ago after we both started suffering sleep issues, single beds together have no effect on love life, intimacy etc, they just mean that when she's doing the fandango in the middle of the night as I snore like a hibernating bear we don't wake each other up!!!
it would be very practical. I'd be lying if I said there weren't some nights i wished me and Mrs 2CV were in different rooms!
One of her mates is a psycho perma-single woman and just seems to constantly on the dating circuit and moaning she can't find a good man despite having a very lengthy and unreasonable list of requirements for any suitor. Most recently she was dating this guy and things were going well (they always do at the start). He decides to surprise her with a weekend away in the Lakes, which he is paying for. Finds a great hotel and they only have one room left - a twin. He says to himself ah well, we can push the beds together, no big deal, might be quite funny. She dumped him on the spot when she found out, followed by a weekend of a torrent of abuse via text message. "How could he be so thoughtless?" was the message, apparently. f
king loon. So anyway it seems not everyone is as welcoming of the idea.
One of her mates is a psycho perma-single woman and just seems to constantly on the dating circuit and moaning she can't find a good man despite having a very lengthy and unreasonable list of requirements for any suitor. Most recently she was dating this guy and things were going well (they always do at the start). He decides to surprise her with a weekend away in the Lakes, which he is paying for. Finds a great hotel and they only have one room left - a twin. He says to himself ah well, we can push the beds together, no big deal, might be quite funny. She dumped him on the spot when she found out, followed by a weekend of a torrent of abuse via text message. "How could he be so thoughtless?" was the message, apparently. f
king loon. So anyway it seems not everyone is as welcoming of the idea. 
RicksAlfas said:
jimPH said:
I sleep with the wife, but our 2yo occupies the middle, so if/when I wake for the toilet, I'll go to our spare bedroom.
Problem is I work away for long periods, so the wife ends up with the kids in bed, though we've been putting our second in her cot religiously.
I don't think it will be too bad once we get the little one off to her own bed, she seems to take up quite a bit of room for someone so small.
Problem is I work away for long periods, so the wife ends up with the kids in bed, though we've been putting our second in her cot religiously.
I don't think it will be too bad once we get the little one off to her own bed, she seems to take up quite a bit of room for someone so small.
Ye gods man, you need to sort that out! 2 years old?
Unless there’s some medical need, she should be in her own bed.
Blown2CV said:
One of her mates is a psycho perma-single woman and just seems to constantly on the dating circuit and moaning she can't find a good man despite having a very lengthy and unreasonable list of requirements for any suitor. Most recently she was dating this guy and things were going well (they always do at the start). He decides to surprise her with a weekend away in the Lakes, which he is paying for. Finds a great hotel and they only have one room left - a twin. He says to himself ah well, we can push the beds together, no big deal, might be quite funny. She dumped him on the spot when she found out, followed by a weekend of a torrent of abuse via text message. "How could he be so thoughtless?" was the message, apparently. fking loon. So anyway it seems not everyone is as welcoming of the idea.
Can I have her phone number please? king loon. So anyway it seems not everyone is as welcoming of the idea. cat with a hat said:
In Nordic countries like Finland and Iceland I've noticed that quite a few hotels and apartments have either a double bed with 2 single covers or 2 single beds pushed together.
e.g.
My wife is Czech & we adopted this double arrangement, a brilliant solution. The Czech size "Standard" bed size is bloody enormous I'm 6ft plus & stretch in all directions in the bed and still not fall out!e.g.
One single duvet of any size is such a stupid idea! Think our duvet's are about 7ft by 5ft & we have one each.
FN2TypeR said:
Blown2CV said:
One of her mates is a psycho perma-single woman and just seems to constantly on the dating circuit and moaning she can't find a good man despite having a very lengthy and unreasonable list of requirements for any suitor. Most recently she was dating this guy and things were going well (they always do at the start). He decides to surprise her with a weekend away in the Lakes, which he is paying for. Finds a great hotel and they only have one room left - a twin. He says to himself ah well, we can push the beds together, no big deal, might be quite funny. She dumped him on the spot when she found out, followed by a weekend of a torrent of abuse via text message. "How could he be so thoughtless?" was the message, apparently. fking loon. So anyway it seems not everyone is as welcoming of the idea.
Can I have her phone number please? king loon. So anyway it seems not everyone is as welcoming of the idea. Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff