Living with a woman - good idea?
Discussion
Robbo 27 said:
Yup.
I know someone who took their lead froma film or a book and makes it very clear from the first date is going to have a life of a maximum of 2 months. If it is not okay with the girl then no second date.
Not one girl moves in full time.
He says it works well.
As long as you're happy with women who have very little self respect then I guess 'I'd just like to fI know someone who took their lead froma film or a book and makes it very clear from the first date is going to have a life of a maximum of 2 months. If it is not okay with the girl then no second date.
Not one girl moves in full time.
He says it works well.
k you for a few weeks and then ditch you' probably does work well! 
Wacky Racer said:
Jag_NE said:
I am happily married and old enough to have missed the online dating explosion, I presume it must be great to be middle aged and single these days. id be throwing myself into all the online platforms, they must be full of middle aged divorcees. date loads, keep at arms length until you are sure she is the one. in the old days being middle aged with all your mates coupled up must have been a nightmare meeting new women outside of work or the occasional pub visit.
This.It was a lot harder in the old days.....
More difficult to meet people too.
In the very late 70s, through to the early 80s, for me, walking into a pub, club, or party and walking out an hour later with a new girl, was like falling off a log.
Providing that you didn't look like Freddie Krueger, had bags of confidence, and more front than Brighton, you could hardly go wrong.
Ari said:
It's a genuine question. I lived with a woman when I was twenty for a few years, it didn't work out - she was very lazy. Once she'd 'got me' she gave up making any effort at all toward the relationship, or life in general.
Since then I've dated and I've had relationships, the longest for eight years, but we never quite got to living together in the same house, either I was at hers or she was at mine.
Now I'm starting to get on a bit I'm beginning to think, maybe it would be nice. Share life, share finances, share the good times and the bad. After all, more people do it than don't.
But then more people read the Daily Mail than The Times, doesn't make the Mail a better choice.
Just to be clear, I'm not talking about the no doubt extremely thin and very pretty young psychopaths that so many Pistonheaders seem to enjoy marrying, having children with and then expensively divorcing. I'm talking about reasonably attractive, reasonably normal, middle aged women. (Well, just the one...)
In fact I'm not necessarily talking about getting married at all, just living with someone rather than living alone.
Anyone done it later in life (say in the late forties or fifties) and had it work out well?
Or are we just too set in our ways once we're well into middle age?
I'm 52. I met my wife years ago in March 2015. We moved in together in September 2016 and got married in May 2017. We've just bought a house together. I couldn't be happier. I've had to smarten up a bit and I clean the house (and myself) more often than I did. I also drink less and I'm quite a bit healthier. The right woman is imperative, of course, and there are no guarantees. We had some long, frank conversations with full disclosure and realised we were looking for pretty much the same things, so it's worked out well.Since then I've dated and I've had relationships, the longest for eight years, but we never quite got to living together in the same house, either I was at hers or she was at mine.
Now I'm starting to get on a bit I'm beginning to think, maybe it would be nice. Share life, share finances, share the good times and the bad. After all, more people do it than don't.
But then more people read the Daily Mail than The Times, doesn't make the Mail a better choice.
Just to be clear, I'm not talking about the no doubt extremely thin and very pretty young psychopaths that so many Pistonheaders seem to enjoy marrying, having children with and then expensively divorcing. I'm talking about reasonably attractive, reasonably normal, middle aged women. (Well, just the one...)
In fact I'm not necessarily talking about getting married at all, just living with someone rather than living alone.
Anyone done it later in life (say in the late forties or fifties) and had it work out well?
Or are we just too set in our ways once we're well into middle age?
Frank7 said:
I've been happily married since 1994, but living together since 1984, I don't buy this "lot harder in the old days to meet people" cobblers.
In the very late 70s, through to the early 80s, for me, walking into a pub, club, or party and walking out an hour later with a new girl, was like falling off a log.
Providing that you didn't look like Freddie Krueger, had bags of confidence, and more front than Brighton, you could hardly go wrong.
Frank pre marriage. In the very late 70s, through to the early 80s, for me, walking into a pub, club, or party and walking out an hour later with a new girl, was like falling off a log.
Providing that you didn't look like Freddie Krueger, had bags of confidence, and more front than Brighton, you could hardly go wrong.
Ari said:
Bill said:
What would he have to compromise and give up?
(And IME a dog is a lot more hassle as they don't exercise and feed themselves, and I've never had to follow my wife around with a plastic bag in case she sts in the park*)
*Who knows, maybe you'd enjoy that...
Totally agree about the dog, can think of little worse than living with a hairy smelly animal in the house that consumes money, time and effort, forces you out in the cold and the rain and completely ties you with regards to travelling or being away from home for other reasons unless you take the thing with you.(And IME a dog is a lot more hassle as they don't exercise and feed themselves, and I've never had to follow my wife around with a plastic bag in case she s
ts in the park*)*Who knows, maybe you'd enjoy that...
And that's before you even consider having to bend over in the street to pick up warm faeces to then carry around with you until you find a way of disposing of them...
Horrible.
ts about.
PositronicRay said:
Frank7 said:
I've been happily married since 1994, but living together since 1984, I don't buy this "lot harder in the old days to meet people" cobblers.
In the very late 70s, through to the early 80s, for me, walking into a pub, club, or party and walking out an hour later with a new girl, was like falling off a log.
Providing that you didn't look like Freddie Krueger, had bags of confidence, and more front than Brighton, you could hardly go wrong.
Frank pre marriage. In the very late 70s, through to the early 80s, for me, walking into a pub, club, or party and walking out an hour later with a new girl, was like falling off a log.
Providing that you didn't look like Freddie Krueger, had bags of confidence, and more front than Brighton, you could hardly go wrong.
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