Single forever
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I'm 51 next month and am resigned to spending the rest of my life single!!
Doesn't bother me too much....I have four wonderful children from two relationships and my daughter gave me a beautiful grandson a year ago last week. They are all doing well with their lives and come September, the youngest two will be going off to Uni for three years. Having brought those two up single-handedly for seven years, I'd made a commitment to myself not to bring constant women into their lives; this was a good move for the kids but it's left me now having gone ten years without a relationship and content with myself.
I am not the best catch in the world for various reasons (money, looks and body size to name but three) but once the youngest two have flown the nest, I might try to address those issues and see what happens.
Doesn't bother me too much....I have four wonderful children from two relationships and my daughter gave me a beautiful grandson a year ago last week. They are all doing well with their lives and come September, the youngest two will be going off to Uni for three years. Having brought those two up single-handedly for seven years, I'd made a commitment to myself not to bring constant women into their lives; this was a good move for the kids but it's left me now having gone ten years without a relationship and content with myself.
I am not the best catch in the world for various reasons (money, looks and body size to name but three) but once the youngest two have flown the nest, I might try to address those issues and see what happens.
Don't obsess over being single and I know it's a cliche but if you are looking for someone then the chances are you won't find them.
They do come along every now and again. I met my (now wife) 7 years ago the day after I returned to Poland from Australia and went to a house party with friends.
At the time I was happilly single and enjoying travelling around Europe. Going out 6 nights a week etc.
Never been particularly confident talking to members of the opposite sex and was pretty fat throughout my 20's so didn't get much interest. (Lost most of it now) My now wife seemed to just take a liking to me and that was it
Oh and do get a cat. I have a suspicion that sealed the deal when she met my cat.
(Something to do with proving you can be responsible for something else or some other b
ks)
Good luck and relax about the whole thing and enjoy life while you are still young. Live abroad for a while, experience different ways of living etc.
Once you are married and settled, Buy a house, get a dog, get more cats, children etc the days of carefree travelling, partying, drinking beer for breakfast are all over.
They do come along every now and again. I met my (now wife) 7 years ago the day after I returned to Poland from Australia and went to a house party with friends.
At the time I was happilly single and enjoying travelling around Europe. Going out 6 nights a week etc.
Never been particularly confident talking to members of the opposite sex and was pretty fat throughout my 20's so didn't get much interest. (Lost most of it now) My now wife seemed to just take a liking to me and that was it
Oh and do get a cat. I have a suspicion that sealed the deal when she met my cat.
(Something to do with proving you can be responsible for something else or some other b
ks) Good luck and relax about the whole thing and enjoy life while you are still young. Live abroad for a while, experience different ways of living etc.
Once you are married and settled, Buy a house, get a dog, get more cats, children etc the days of carefree travelling, partying, drinking beer for breakfast are all over.
Welshbeef said:
Ah sorry I’m married with kids not gay and pretty much average weight.
Hope you find that someone special be it straight or gay or neuter
Welsh here we go. You are not on your own - it’s a waste of a life to live a lie. Hope you find that someone special be it straight or gay or neuter
'I'm a gay man but married a woman' http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-33189628
From the beginning, there was unhappiness in the marriage, with doubts about whether they had made the right decision. He'd always felt uncertain about his sexual orientation and this troubled him more and more as he got older.
Like many men in his situation, Nick, a nurse, found himself living a double life. On the surface he was a happily married man, but he was also using gay pornography. He'd get drunk with a gay friend and, he says, "events took their course".
limpsfield said:
Welsh here we go. You are not on your own - it’s a waste of a life to live a lie.
'I'm a gay man but married a woman' http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-33189628
From the beginning, there was unhappiness in the marriage, with doubts about whether they had made the right decision. He'd always felt uncertain about his sexual orientation and this troubled him more and more as he got older.
Like many men in his situation, Nick, a nurse, found himself living a double life. On the surface he was a happily married man, but he was also using gay pornography. He'd get drunk with a gay friend and, he says, "events took their course, he would end up buying a 944s on eBay before taking his friends shaft".
Ftfy'I'm a gay man but married a woman' http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-33189628
From the beginning, there was unhappiness in the marriage, with doubts about whether they had made the right decision. He'd always felt uncertain about his sexual orientation and this troubled him more and more as he got older.
Like many men in his situation, Nick, a nurse, found himself living a double life. On the surface he was a happily married man, but he was also using gay pornography. He'd get drunk with a gay friend and, he says, "events took their course, he would end up buying a 944s on eBay before taking his friends shaft".
limpsfield said:
Welsh here we go. You are not on your own - it’s a waste of a life to live a lie.
My friends granddad came out in his 70s as a widower. Extraordinary way to live a life. I hope this is something that becomes less common, but I’m sure it still happens a lot currently. Shame.
Well I’m 42 and have been with my missus since 18. I can honestly say regardless of age no woman has ever really found me attractive. I’m in good shape, not broke, not a total social retard or the like, but just no. There’s just that certain type of light that’s never shone on me. Even my misses only went out with me as she was drunk at the time and thought I looked like one of the guys out of boyzone! Lol.
Then there’s my best mate who’s a top bloke but broke, not the smartest person, doesn’t have a super career or anything and he’s just a lady magnet. My 18 year old son is the same, since nursery he’s had them chasing him, I currently can’t even remember the names of all his girlie mates I’ve started just numbering them instead.
Then there’s my best mate who’s a top bloke but broke, not the smartest person, doesn’t have a super career or anything and he’s just a lady magnet. My 18 year old son is the same, since nursery he’s had them chasing him, I currently can’t even remember the names of all his girlie mates I’ve started just numbering them instead.
I`m nearly 52 and have been single for over nine years, only a handfull of dates in that time. Don`t see it changing anytime soon, hopefully get the mortgage paid of in the next couple of years then look at cutting back hours at work. Don`t want some gold digging cow getting her mits on my stash! ha ha
STO said:
I`m nearly 52 and have been single for over nine years, only a handfull of dates in that time. Don`t see it changing anytime soon, hopefully get the mortgage paid of in the next couple of years then look at cutting back hours at work. Don`t want some gold digging cow getting her mits on my stash! ha ha
Luckily you can take it all with you. gregs656 said:
STO said:
I`m nearly 52 and have been single for over nine years, only a handfull of dates in that time. Don`t see it changing anytime soon, hopefully get the mortgage paid of in the next couple of years then look at cutting back hours at work. Don`t want some gold digging cow getting her mits on my stash! ha ha
Luckily you can take it all with you. Welshbeef said:
oceanview said:
My thoughts!
I am 47 and just cannot be arsed anymore. I've had many relationships over the years ( most I ended because the negatives of relationships outweighed the positives for me), slept with lots of women as well but cant be bothered with that now.. Much happier as a result!
I guess I am just not a relationship person !
Have great friends and enjoy my fitness/strength training, my cars and being a free spirit!
Don’t you find it lonely? Or do you pal up with other men similar age similar situation? I am 47 and just cannot be arsed anymore. I've had many relationships over the years ( most I ended because the negatives of relationships outweighed the positives for me), slept with lots of women as well but cant be bothered with that now.. Much happier as a result!
I guess I am just not a relationship person !
Have great friends and enjoy my fitness/strength training, my cars and being a free spirit!
A mate I see more often is in a relationship but he's looking to end it and so he's never home! Another older friend is widowed and he doesn't like being on his own so we're always out as a group with other people as well.
I actually like ( well need!) time on my own as well- its just how I am, so I am never lonely as I am very happy in my own company as well.
oceanview said:
No, not at all.
A mate I see more often is in a relationship but he's looking to end it and so he's never home! Another older friend is widowed and he doesn't like being on his own so we're always out as a group with other people as well.
I actually like ( well need!) time on my own as well- its just how I am, so I am never lonely as I am very happy in my own company as well.
Do you go on overseas holidays solo or vacations in the U.K. solo?A mate I see more often is in a relationship but he's looking to end it and so he's never home! Another older friend is widowed and he doesn't like being on his own so we're always out as a group with other people as well.
I actually like ( well need!) time on my own as well- its just how I am, so I am never lonely as I am very happy in my own company as well.
Yes thats me. Late 40's. Never married, no kids. Quite a few girlfriends & 3 long term relationships. I simply cba anymore. I dont want to compromise my freetime doing some bullst visit to ikea or the like to buy me a pass to do something I actually want to do the day after.
Mortgage paid off, happy to holiday on my own, on a holiday I actually want to go on rather than a boring beach holiday.
I dont really like being around other people & being around someone 24/7 drives me mad, so it suits me very well.
The cats home will do very well out of me when I die.
t visit to ikea or the like to buy me a pass to do something I actually want to do the day after.Mortgage paid off, happy to holiday on my own, on a holiday I actually want to go on rather than a boring beach holiday.
I dont really like being around other people & being around someone 24/7 drives me mad, so it suits me very well.
The cats home will do very well out of me when I die.
Edited by m_cozzy on Saturday 13th April 19:12
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